If you're asking and the love is long gone, it's time. Make copies of all important papers,
Posted By: get all acct numbers/contact info, and use your su on 2007-07-06
In Reply to: Divorced Moms - How did you know it was time? (sm) - Anonamomma
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Make sure you have copies of all important papers, addresses for mortgage, insurance, etc.
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Time and love is more important than things.
I'm sure she would rather you welcome her phone calls than buy her a washer and dryer.
Make copies! sm
Be sure to make copies of everything, keep a journal as well of everything he says. I wouldn't put up with it but sometimes you have to put up with a lot, depending on your situation. There's no excuse for it in my estimation. I would be very professional and treat it like a legal case from Day No. 1. You may need evidence. If he's doing it behind your back, he sounds like a liar, but that's just IMHO.
2 years is a long time to be doing what you're doing.
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I love meatloaf but every time I make
it just tastes like hamburger meat. Gosh, wish I could make a decent one. Do you have room for 1 more at your table??
Eyes are important. Why not make
an appointment? If the cause is just allergies and rubbing, maybe they will give you an Rx for allergy drops if eye itchiness is your main problem. Or you could try using an oral antihistamine and avoid rubbing your eyes and see if they improve. Get some Refresh Liquigel lubricant eye drops by Allergan.
Our families are important to all of us, but we make it work sm
We fit it all in. Family, food, fun, and a litte work. It is not a really big hardship for most MTs.
and another thing...I wasn't trying to make myself seem more important sm
I was just saying reliable because I knew this stuff could very well be true - nothing to do with me personally. Get a grip - and I know who you are from your name. Shame on you.
I had it during my pregnancy a long, long time ago. Husband
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Collection agency guy told me as long as make any
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For a long time
when I had a "real job" as my husband would say, I skipped breakfast every morning. I am just NOT a morning person and could not get up early enough for it no matter how hard I tried. it was coffee and out the door! I think coffee is an appetite suppressant because once I stopped it I had to have breakfast every morning.
My husband is still in the coffee only work routine without breakfast. Then he wonders why he is hungry before bed and wants another meal.
a very long time ago
When Dr. Green died, I was done.
A long time ago, when
they apparently had a man come in with a misplaced mustard bottle. You have to understand her twisted humor, because she tells the story and says he was just "spreading a little sunshine," (a reference to an old ad campaign).
My prescription ran out a long time SM
ago (for ADD), but I may go back to the doctor after the New Year for a refill. My life's been utter chaos since I ran out of medication a year ago. It helps me focus/stay on task--i.e., make my lines--,stay better organized, etc. (a nice side effect is the help it gives me in staying awake during the day). I was diagnosed a couple of years ago and although I've felt a little awkward about the whole situation (with doc and with pharmacist), it really does help me. I only jokingly suggested Ritalin to the OP. I know that's a medication that should not be taken lightly.
It's almost 2 a.m.! I better get to sleep as I start work in a few hours! (See? That's more than likely a major contributing factor to my symptoms...poor sleep hygiene!)
Goodnight and sweet dreams!
Chickadee
3 years is a long time. Don't you think
What if the carpet store does not have the same carpet after 3 years. Also, carpet repairs are not cheap. You have to pay labor and the cost of materials. It would probably be easier just to get the whole room replaced or simple as it sounds, put a throw rug over it and call it a day.
As a long-time cat servant...
and LOTS of training supplied by furs over the last 24 years....I would have to say you have it covered!! Mine have done well with these measures although I have 2 who do 'punish' me when we return by either ignoring my requests for kitty love or not letting me close a door (but then cat servants usually learn that going to the bathroom alone is a thing of the past). Have fun and don't worry!
I gave up a long time ago........sm
I gave up a long time ago trying to enlighten those not in the teaching profession what goes into this career. Most people who "poo poo", saying the pay is more than adequate, do not have a clue what goes into this profession. True, some teachers in much better communities have it pretty good and they will tell you they are perfectly content with their pay and time off; however, every teacher does not have that wonderful classroom, full of kids that learn and parents that support. Instead, they get the bottom of the barrel so to speak and it's darn hard, the frustration level is much higher, and they feel like they are fighting a losing battle some days, but they push on. They could find another job paying better, but most teachers that stick with it truly care for the kids and want to try to get that lightbulb to go off, somehow.
LOL! Blake should have gone a long time ago.
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It should be on there a long time. It takes
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Six years is a long time; I'd probably go with 100.00
gift certificate to a nice restaurant or a spa/massage.
First traditional 4th in a long time
My son is 20 now so we haven't gone and watched fireworks or anything like that in a while. But a couple of months ago, one of my half-brothers got in touch with me (we had lost touch for about 5 years). Turns out he lives less than a hundred miles from me, he is now married and has three children (ages 7, 5 and 2). He has a house on 10 acres way out in the country. So we are going there for a good old-fashioned barbecue (just hot dogs and hamburgers, with guests bringing some of the trimmings - my recipe below). And since it's not within city limits, we get to pop firecrackers! Hooray!
I am taking fruit with dip. And before you start groaning about "healthy" dishes - let me tell you how I make the dip. Take two containers of smooth cream cheese with pineapple and mix it with an 8 oz container of Cool Whip. Chill, then let it set at room temperature for 30 minutes to an hour to soften it before serving. Believe me, it is absolutely addicting!!
Old, old story - been around a long time -
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I've had it a long time
I've had IBS since I was little and I'm now 30. I have many different symptoms including diarrhea, gas, bloating, heartburn, and upper and lower abdominal pain. I used to have constipation alternating with diarrhea, but I haven't had a problem with constipation in a few years. Anyway, stress is the major triggering factor for me and I also have panic attacks/anxiety so it's a vicious cycle. When I get anxious I get an IBS attack and when I get an IBS attack, I panic. So, my doc placed me on Bentyl for the IBS and I take something for the anxiety as well. Hope you find what works for you. It's not fun living with IBS but at least there are ways to manage it and make life more peaceful.
a long time ago I had a cat who pulled out fur
clear down to leaving an oozing sore that had to be surgically sewn up - vet then said it was an allergy.
I would have divorced a long time ago....sm
when my husband had a drug problem. I didn't because my son told me he would not come with me but that he would choose to stay with his dad. He was around 7 years old at the time. I couldn't leave my son. So I didn't leave. He is so close to his daddy. He would pick his dad drugs and all over me any day of the week and that hurt me very bad because I have always been a good mom. So I stayed. I guess God helped me though because my husband quit using drugs miraculously later and we are doing pretty good now.
I think there's been specultation for a long time, but
who cares! Gay or not I've been a fan forever and always will be. I could care less.
I agree with Daiseymae, let them grieve in peace. I cannot even imagine what they are going through.
It took a long time and was a neuro that dxd her sm
It also took a couple of months to find a surgeon who had heard of it and was willing to do the surgery. As far as being picked up on x-ray, I don't think it was. She had gone to orthopedists, GYN (thinking endometriosis), and I don't know who else before being seen by this neurologist, and it wasn't even a neurologic problem. He just happened to have known about it and made the diagnosis based on clinical observation. First they put her on strict bedrest for 2 weeks to see if it helped, and while it did some good, it was not enough. That is when they went forward with the surgery. The surgery was done outpatient, and she had a resting period of a few days but felt immediate results. There are risks with the surgery as there are with any surgery that have to be weighed also. I don't know if this is how yours is, but they explained the pain as like having cracked ribs constantly. I hope you are able to get a diagnosis quickly, whatever it ends up being. Not knowing can be awful.
I did do that a long time ago for GI upset.
She liked it and I can't remember now what her poops were like so I guess they were probably more normal as I didn't notice it.
I'll try it again, I think. Thanks.
He did not add that part, it has been going around a long time (sm)
I got an email recently that was worded exactly like this. And have a sense of humor, Mr.Tech Support does, sheez louise!
It has been a long time since I had school age children--sm
but I just want to make a comment here that so far nobody else has suggested. Two of my children had been born with cleft palates and thus had many surgeries and speech difficulties. I had so many discussions with the school system, it still boggles my mind some 20 years later, but I did learn one thing during this time. Some school systems have special education classes that are funded from outside sources. In order to maintain those classes and the *funding*, they had to have a certain quota of children enrolled in them. If they were not going to meet their quota for any given school semester/year, the *teachers* would start to *recruit* somewhat borderline children, i.e. the ones that were slightly *slower* than the *norm*. Those were the children that they told the parents they did not have the *resources* to spend extra time with, etc. basically *forcing* them into the special education classes, and hence meeting their quotas, and retaining their funding. My children had very high IQs, but only had speech problems until all of their surgeries were done to correct their problems. Their teachers also attempted to keep my children in special education classes and even special schools, when they were just as *normal* as any other child. I can't tell you how difficult it is to argue with a *multidisciplinary team* to keep a child out of special education classes when you know in your heart it is not necessary, and all they want is their *funding*. I have very little use for the school systems of today and feel that all children would be better off being taught at home. If social interaction is the only draw back, children really do get enough of that through their neighborhoods, family, and friends. This is just my opinion and experiences, so I don't want to start any arguments here. Just keep in mind about the *funding* as they will never tell you this straight out. good luck to you.
Anyone with an LCD monitor that can tell me how long they last when used for working all the time.
Mine seems to be having problems after about 2 years but used hard every day.
Please talk! Been divorced for a long time
now and I think ignoring things and lack of communication led him to other women and the rest of the story is not important. So many people I have talked to feel that just letting things go without talking let to terminal demise of their marriage. Do something before it escalates. This may have been a perfect opportunity to begin dialog.
Been cooking hams for a long time
Never took the rind off prior to it being almost cooked, then say for the last 35 minutes or so would take the rind off with a knife and fork, never tried removing prior to baking. I scored the ham (cut in zig-zag effect), stuck whole cloves in and put brown sugar on top of that (oh, remove the cloves prior to eating- my son told me years later he ate the cloves, thought he was supposed to.)
I have wanted a bengal for a long time
I want the snow leopard - pricey!
I had a patient's name a long time ago, Ima Piggee..nm
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I saw a demo of the software on TV long time ago. sm
there was a slate-like appendage that you could draw on with a pencil-like tool. and then the software did remarkable things, but this was some time ago.
goodle it, research. you're bound to find a site with a demo.
They've been radical for a long time!...
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e.r. jumped the shark a long time ago.
I was a HUGE fan for years and years. My eyebrows went up when Romano was killed by the helicopter. I thought they went into the deep water at that point. But about 3 years ago I was sure that they had jumped the shark, and I stopped watching. I watched a few of the last episodes on hulu.com last week and decided to watch the finale last night, but it was a snooze to me. It's a shame when good shows stay on the air too long.
my father was "written out" of the will a long time sm
ago due to issues between him and grandmother. My sister and I are the only grandchildren and the nephew and great-nephew are the only heirs. My grandmother had a will but I am afraid the nephew and attorney (who is the power of attorney) conspired to get her to change her will towards the end of things.
Married long time ago in church. SM
They don't care if you convert. You just have to sign paper stating the children will be brought up Catholic.
The bride and groom must also attend classes before the wedding.
I never heard of any of the other things mentioned. That must be some conservative church.
Make sure you're getting all your water in and
up your fat a bit. You are in benign ketosis which is what you want to be in if your goal is to lose weight on low carb. Just make sure you're getting enough water and a good multivitamin. Sometimes your electrolytes can get out of balance, but should be easy enough to correct.
My mother and her sisters all had copies
of my grandparent's along with the doctor's office and there was a copy in their hospital charts.
love my long hair
I'm approaching 50 and my hair is waist length. Like Patti, I don't look or act my age and people are surprised when they learn my age.
I will, however, never forget being in New Orleans and sitting at a bar next to a man who was a hair stylist who told me I was too old to wear my hair that long. He thought I should cut it to just at my shoulders, and honestly, it probably looks better that way...BUT, I love my long hair, and he was an admitted "tri-sexual" (when I asked what that was, he said he would try anything!!!) lol!
No, I've watched this gal for a long time on the boards &
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I just hugged my Golden for an extra long time
I'm so sad for this poor dog. I know it is at Rainbow Bridge and at peace but what a horrible way for it to die, and it sounds as if it's life wasn't too hot either.  I hope it's owners get the book thrown at them.
To poster below, I have seen on TV for heatstroke they put alcohol on the pads/paws which supposedly helps cool them, also cold water on the body, etc. (I watch Emergenc Vets on TV sometimes - love those docs).
Was having a great time (Beware, long rambling:-)
while I was scooping the back so thought I'd try to get a couple of pics for DH, who is gone for the next 10 days for work. He's a labradoodle that we got last summer at 4 months old and before anyone jumps in here and says they're overpriced mutts (which they are  ) we got him from a shelter in another city. All of the dogs I have had have been from shelters and would never pay hundreds or thousands when there are so many dogs that need homes. We saw a brown one last summer that DH fell in love with, so I did some searching and this shelter had several. The others had been picked up as strays, a couple of older dogs and several puppies, which I guess all but a couple died from parvo. Jake was turned in by a family who thought he was too energetic for their 2-year-old. He had kennel cough, we discovered, when we got him home and was sick for a few weeks, but not too bad a case, had some snotty nose and coughing, was really worried about pneumonia, but the vet said to go ahead and give him the vaccine and sometimes that helps them get over it a little easier. He's got a nice combination of lab and poodle coat, needs to be raked once a week or so, but he doesn't shed. He's a little pill for sure but I think is going to be a great dog with a little more work. He's still pretty ~boisterous~ you might say on walks. I'm a Dog Whisperer fan, just love that show and Cesar Millan, so we ordered the collar that he uses on that show, and it really is making a huge difference. Also, I was really impressed when we got it. How many things do you find these days that are made in the US? His packaging on the collar had ~~we proudly support our country, made in the USA~~!! Even more of a fan now!
I have been checking out boxer rescues and if we can afford a home of our own, hopefully next year sometime, I'd like to get a pal for him. I'm actually a big boxer fan from way back, have a pic mom took of me as a baby in diapers sitting in the middle of a litter of boxer puppies with them crawling all over me! a wonder any of us grew up, huh  , with all the things we came in contact with like that, she'd probalby get hauled away for child abuse these days. Dad found the mamma boxer wandering the country roads one hot summer day when he was hail adjusting. She was struggling, pregnant, really hot and thirsty, so he brought her home, no one ever claimed her, so Duchess became a part of our family. I had a boxer some years ago that I adopted from a puppy mill raid, where I helped take care of some of the dogs that were rescued, 200 and some of all varieties and ages, mostly all sick, filthy, malnourished, etc. in the the middle of January, below zero, snow, and a lot of them kept outside with no shelter, was a horrible mess, but people in that town really stepped up to the plate, donated all kinds of food, leashes, collars, bedding, vets donated their services, and all but a few of the dogs (too sick and had to be put down) were adopted. Duke was a very sick pup at first and didn't know if he'd make it, but he was a wonderful dog with my kids when they were young!
Anyway, just sitting here browsing the board and rambling on...By the way Hayseed, I visited your website the other day because I wanted to see your web cam (really cool!) and saw you had an RIP pic for Arf, sorry for your loss. I remember you said awhile back you thought it wouldn't be long but must have missed when he passed and crossed the bridge.
Cool. So glad for them. Long time coming(nm)
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What's funny is that for a long time I did not realize it was all abuse (sm)
I knew the physical part was abuse. Other than that I thought he was a jerk, quirky ideas about things, a hard-nose, hard-headed, rude...but I never realized it was all abuse until I finally started reading up on it. Apparently in these situations we start to accept things little by little as being normal. Like slowly boiling before you realize you're done.
Who covers for him/her/them when they're off or can't make an appointment? nm
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Here in Northern Calif, they're going to make us
So if due to the COST of water, (especially when heated by expensive gas!), I already treat it like gold, and use as little of it as possible, I wonder what now? Bathe only once every OTHER week? Let all the plants die, and become kindling for the next wildfire here in the hills? Use the gray water from the washing machine to wash my dishes? (Oh wait - I already do that).
So yea, I feel the same way about the frugality thing. Everyone's so scared of a depression - yet we MT's have been living in one for at least the past 10 years. I've cut back so far that there's not much left to give up, other than eating at ALL, sleeping in an apartment building instead of my car, or finding a way to generate my own power source and get off the grid.
Yea, my little black heart just BLEEDS NOTHING BUT STONES for all those rich CEOs whining about having to give back their million-dollar bonuses.
How did you make it? How do you know now is the time? sm
I am so deeply depressed because of this marriage and can hardly stand it anymore. Yet I am afraid to go. I feel like I am a good person and a good mom, but no matter what I do it is never good enough. Now he is making terrible threats about wanting 50% custody. How do you get to the point that you feel safe that he can't do that? I am so worried about my children.
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