If he is that controlling ...

Posted By: devil's advocate on 2007-09-26
In Reply to: Well, it does take TWO to compromise - can't do it by myself (sm) - OP

then I would go back to your original question and answer yes - that IS definitely grounds for divorce. It doesn't sound to me as though the moving/not moving is the bigger issue. If you have tried counseling and working on these issues then yes, move on to the next step. Is this controlling behavior just related to the house issues? Do not let yourself be mentally/emotionally abused by a controlling husband. It is so hard to get a complete picture from quick posts on a chat board, but I have watched someone I love spend 30 years of her life falling down that hole and wish someone would have told her to stand up to the controlling behavior before it grew into more. If that is your situation, I hope you are able to make a move for yourself and your kids and get out from under that pressure/strain before it gets worse.

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My husband refuses to move (sm) - Grounds for divorce??
- Since there are kids involved, I'd think long and hard (sm) - anon
- Simple solution - Me
- Truth is ... - Kristy
- Marriage counseling - Have you tried it?
  - Yep - Four different counsellors! (nm) - OP
    - Wake up and do yourself a favor.... - phillychick
- See inside RE: Divorce. - another MT
- He "hopes to find another woman?!!" How can you think of - staying after hearing that?!! Wow.. Leave & be hap
  - he'll find another because she said she wants to leave. - no need for exclamation; not a big deal -
    - I'm really shocked at what you said (sm) - Grounds for divorce??
    - How is it not a big deal when there are kids involved? (sm) - Grounds for divorce??
  - ...and be happy! Still lots of life left to live - WHERE you WANT to live. Good luck! NM
- he did say you can move and maybe he'll find a woman who likes his life. - he sounds like a decent man. N/M
  - Also, because he is married to me, not the house (nm) - OP
  - But why can't he compromise so we can all be happy - not just him?? (sm) - Grounds for divorce??
    - why can't HE compromise so WE can all be happy?? - devil's advocate
      - Well, it does take TWO to compromise - can't do it by myself (sm) - OP
        If he is that controlling ... - devil's advocate
    - He is selfish, that's why, and will not change! nm - phillychick
      - look, she wanted to move the first year they bought the house.. - who is the selfish one? n/m
        Because I realized it was a bad decision to move here (sm) - OP
        and while I'm on a roll I might add that he found time to build a barn but not fix the obvious (s - OP
    - Why is the lifestyle more important? - Kinnie

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