If I were the G-mother, I'd run away - very far
Posted By: and very fast. That Octomom chick is - on 2009-03-01
In Reply to: Love when Octomom told her mother she would just have to learn to let go? - This is funny!
certifiably rubber-room material.
The obstetrician who delivered the letter should've done the world a favor, and surreptitiously tied her tubes.
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Whatever my mother-in-law and mother are cooking--lol
we go to my in-laws for Christmas Eve and usually have ham and kielbasa (we are Polish) and then my mom usually has turkey or roasted chicken on Christmas Day
I agree - a mother is a mother and a daughter is a daughter for life sm
despite the problems they had, which i truly believe stem for anna's drug problems. obviously her mom wasn't too bad or she would not have raised daniel for a while. i think the mother wants her buried in Texas so the grave will be close enough that she can go visit it without having to come up with expenses of going to the bahamas to get there. although i contradict that too in poor anna needs to be buried with her son.
mother in-law help sm
Ok, so here is what is going on. My mother in-law fell down some stairs and broke her leg. She did not have insurance. She had not been to a doctor in 27 years. She has been in the hospital for about 4 days. They had to do surgery and things are looking good. She will have to have rehab for a few months, use a walker and so on. Well, guess who they ask to take care of her for the next few months? The "stay-at-home" mom who has all the free time in the world haha (not to mention I have a 3 year old who stays at home with me and a busy 6 year old in school). This would consist of me taking her to the restroom, bathing, changing dressings, helping with rehab exercises, not to mention working 8 hours a day and making sure my 3 year old doesn't climb on her. I feel bad for saying no, but I think that they should feel bad for asking me. She has 5 children. I feel that it is way too much responsibility for me to take on and that it absurd that they asked me. Aren't there facilities where she can go at least for the 1st month? Please help, just need advise.
And for anyone who wants to say "if it was your mother..." Believe it or not, in June MY mother fell down some stairs and broke her ankle. I was at her house every afternoon and we had people come in multiple times daily to check on her. However, the mother in-law is about 25 years older and the extent of the injury is greater. I would have never asked my husband to take care of her and help her do these things.
My mother-in-law
My mother-in-law keeps giving my Longaberger baskets for b-days and Christmas. She loves these baskets and has over 100. She visits the factory several times a year, (about a 4 1/2 hour drive) and often takes the female family members with her. These baskets are beautiful but I am just not a basket person. I don't mean to sound ungrateful, but these baskets are expensive and I have over 20. When I tried to mention to her as politely as possible that I just don't need any more baskets, she told me that she often changes hers out so she can enjoy them all. I would much rather have sheets, bath towels, cookware, or even a gift certificate for dinner. My hubby and I have been married 19 years, have to children, and have a very good relationship with my mother-in-law. She is a fabulous grandmother, but I am really tired of the baskets. Any suggestions?
I also have MVP and so does my mother...
so I don't know if there is a correlation or not between the two...
My mother's cat
looked like it had mange and when I asked the vet about it he said he had never seen a cat with mange. A friend told my mom that cats are extremely allergic to poinsettas and my mother had one sitting in the cat's favorite window. After she threw out the flower the cat got better very quickly. 
It's up to your mother-in-law to keep them in the
them. Your sister-in-law should not even bring them over there anymore in my opinion. If your mother-in-law's gate cannot hold them in for sure, then she absolutely should not watch them.
Your sister-in-law sounds selfish to me, so point out to her that it is unsafe for her OWN animals to be out running free, as anyone would have the right to shoot them if they were on their property threatening them. Maybe then she will care! Plus she (or you mom-in-law) could be sued if the dogs injure or kill someone or someone's animals. Not to mention they would have to live with that for the rest of their lives.
Having seen my own mother do a 180
since the death of my own dad 3-1/2 years ago and learning the hard way from things that have happened - I would just keep my mouth shut and say nothing and do nothing.
mother . ..
This may not be comforting to you, but I wish my mom (also 80) would do something like that. I think she would enjoy the company, and the activities. We have an awesome ALF here in our town; it's like a mini city!!!! Be glad she is making this decision for you and that you don't have to push her. She may benefit tremendously from this!!!!
My mother once said and she was right...sm
tis better to raise children in a happy divorced home than a miserable married one.
I divorced my kids father and within 3 years, all of us were in a much better place and now, 16 years later, this still holds true!!! This, I swear!!
I really have to believe that my Mother is up there
watching over her grandchildren. She lived for those kids and that truely was one of the things that hurt me the most when she died so suddenly. My niece is leaving for college in Aug. My son got his license and did very well in the state Forensics competition. Little things like that are the things that she would have been so proud of. I know my mother was a christian but I just hope that she is able to see us here on earth. Thank you for your response.
what was his mother like?
?
My mother does this to me!
She does it all the time and it's infuriating!!! She interrupts my sentence by finishing it herself and it drives me absolutely crazy. I've asked her nicely, I've asked her rudely, it still continues and I have just given up. She's not going to change, especially at her age. Sometimes when she interrupts me, I'll just stop talking altogether and that's the end of the conversation. Try turning the tables and doing it to your boyfriend incessantly and see if he gets the point.
I feel your pain!!
For Mother's Day...sm
my wonderful DIL made me a CD from pictures of my two sons from tiny baby up to my older son's wedding (my younger son was Best Man). Her choice of music and pictures were all just perfect. I LOVE IT!
I wish my mother would be
I don't think I'd be so hip on her folding my panties, lol, but seriously it sounds like she has very good intentions. My MIL lives out-of-state and I wish she lived closer so I could spend more time with her. We all have our quirks. I would love it if my MIL or my own mother took the initiative to check my children's homework, etc. It would be different I suppose if she lived across the street from you but since she is that far away, I'd let her enjoy herself. Had she gone through YOUR MAIL or something private like that, I would be concerned.
My own mother does this
I have told her especially when H is here especially to knock first. She never seems to get the message through her head. 
mother
Do we have the same mother? You have to be my sister - I have a very wonderful mother. The only problem is, I cannot seem to please her - EVER. She is a person who is constantly doing and giving, so people think she is a saint. Only with me is bitter, hates the Holidays, hates the whole gift thing, decorating, etc. I absolutely love to decorate, but gifts, fancy wrapping, etc. I keep telling myself she won't be here forever, and try to "play nice" but sometimes could just scream "Okay, I get it - I will never be pious enough or frugal enough (unless the Q gets any worse) for you." Anyway, don't feel alone. I feel your pain. Have a wonderful holiday season and if you get any more frustrated, email me - we can trade frustrations.
My mother used this when I was a kid
and I saw some in the store just the other day, smiled to myself, brings back memories.
Of course, he does. But what would your mother
x
Mother's Day!
 I met my daughter for lunch Saturday and it was great! Unfortunately she live about 35 miles away and traffic was horrendous. But all worth it of course. Sunday at church and hanging out with some friends - great weekend!
my mother-in-law and I SM
we actually do look alot alike, and people often assume I am her daughter. On the other hand, we are total opposites in personality.
If her mother was like this...sm
Then I guess she just inherited this disposition unfortunately. God knows why they bred this dog if it was this bad that they had to put it down 6 months after having pups. I hate you had that experience. I wish you could have had a good experience with your pit. But I understand.
what my mother always did sm
she sent us outside with disposable tshirts, to suck the goodies out of the pomegranetes. very staining and nasty for kids clothing, but delicious. it was a ritual.
I'm with the other mother...
If you don't like your grandkids, don't baby sit. I have a child, whom I think is wonderful. I resent anyone telling me that I am not parenting the way they would. You raised your kids and it is time to let your daughter do the same. I am sure that she is not trying to ruin her children. How would you have felt if this criticism were coming to you instead of from you?
when I became a mother
I put up with every single drop of crap until I became a mother. I could not stand up for myself, but I could stand up for my child.
But, it is something her mother is against and that is
having sex prior to being married. Her mother also was against teaching forms of birth control in the Alaska schools. Her mother would condone if others- I guess her daughter is an exception. There is no good reason now for a girl to get pregnant- too much birth control out there. Besides, what a way to start- neither kid has finished their education, no one has a job, shotgun wedding- if there is one, won't last. I guess Levi and Bristol could work with the guy's mother in her meth lab.
Our Mother
My mother has 4 daughters, 22 years between the first daughter and the last. Each time a daughter marries, the mother tries to come between the couple by getting the daughter to say bad things about the husband and leave him. She unfortunately has had two bad marriages herself, but is still married to the second husband despite his infidelities. With each marriage, the pressure is applied earlier to the daughter.
We are now on the marriage of the third daughter. She had been married for 90 days and the pressure is being applied pretty severely for her to leave her new husband and move back home with mother.
The first daughter has not spoken to mother for 14 years due to this compulsive behavior. The second daughter fell for it once and doesn't want to be divorced again, and is actually relieved there is another target.
Loyalty to mother is the only acceptable behavior. Daughter number two is not convinced daughter number three will be able to take the heat.
Anybody know about these things?
This had to do with my mother but will just say
her nephew, her sister's son, was dyslexic when he was young. My mother from what I have been told, made fun of him, calling him retarded, etc. This cousin grew up to own his own company, build and invent things, had a brillant mind. He might not have been able to spell and/or learn his ABCs but the end result was someone of superior intelligence.
your mother
I have said it before and I will say it again. Your mother needs to handle your dad. She should feel guilty/responsible/etc. Not you. He isn't trying to get is milk for free. (pun intended), he wants your mom to take him back. This isn't even about you!
Son and mother's day
My son is nearly 40, has a very good IT computer job. He's never been good about remembering my birthday, mother's day or christmas. Usually his wife would cover for him, not always, but enough that I didn't usually say anything or complain if one of these occasions were missed. However, he and his wife have split up and now I realize that I don't even get a card or a phone call on any of these occasions! Nothing. In the past I had thought about "forgetting" his birthday once in a while, but now I am so mad that I feel like never sending him another card with money, etc. But then I think that he is still my son and just because he can't be bothered to call or send a card on my birthday, or on mother's day or at christmas that I should just let it go and not be a petty person and go ahead and continue with my remembrances.
Thoughts?
Son and Mother's Day
I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. I have a son (my youngest) who is the same way. He did not come over today. He called me this morning and talked 2 minutes. A couple of weeks ago, I fell and hurt my wrist (thought I broke it). My daughter called him and asked him if he could take me to the hospital. He said he and his girlfriend were out shopping and stuff, and he didn't have time to do it. I was so hurt. Thank goodness I only badly sprained my wrist, but that is beside the point. Once when I was younger, and I was helping a lady who had bone cancer, her husband told me about children "when they are young, they break your heart, and when they are grown, they step on it." I told myself "not my children. They would never forget about me." I understand what he was saying now.
As far as presents and cards on birthdays and such for children who don't remember you, I will not remember them. My daughter did not have much money to spend, but she bought me a humming bird feeder and some flip-flops, and she and her husband and children came over and spent the day with me. My oldest son bought me a hanging basket and spent the day with me. Them I will remember.
Mother's Day
You teach people how to treat you.
When I first got married, my husband would act like my birthday, mother's day, anything that had to do with me was a big problem for him. His excuse was that I was hard to buy for. So I told him what's good for me is good for him. I did not do anything for his birthday, Father's Day, etc for 1 year and he was really upset. We haven't had a problem since. Yesterday I received cards, candy, he made dinner for me and the kids cleaned up. It was a good day.
If things like this are important to you, you have to make it clear to your kids/husband. Otherwise, go on strike and quit doing for them for a while. They will get the message loud and clear.
Mother's day.
Mother's day has been a tough day for me for a long time, especially the last two. After 14 out of our 18 years of marriage, we tried for a baby. We had "unexplained infertility". 2 years ago, my uterus proapsed (nothing like wiping after peeing and feeling something at the vaginal opening, grabbing a mirror and going "darned, that looks like my cervix), most likely from lifting too many heavy objects from our many military moves. Silly as it may sound, I do consider myself Mommy to my 2 black and 1 fawn pug. Unfortunately, the gifts I get from them are piles of poo.  Pugs aren't cheap dogs but they have paid at least 100 fold with their antics, love, cuddling and sweetness.
BTW, adoption and in vitro were both out of the question. Hubby was in the military, and military pay is no way to get rich. I worked for a doctor and we all know how well they pay - ha ha. American adoption is around 50 grand. AFAIC, that is BUYING a baby with mainly the lawyer getting rich. I would have found the money for this had there not been the chance of the mother changing my mind (that happened to my cousins. I was way too emotionally fragile by this point). IVF is now up to about $20-25K for an 18% chance of conceiving. It just wasn't meant to be.
I got very depressed over this and started drinking a lot. I became an alcoholic. As many times as I should have died from alcohol poisoning or whatever (I didn't drink and drive - Hubby was at sea 77% of the time so there was no need to hide it), I'm still alive. I ended up in the hospital twice with alcoholic hepatitis and pancreatitis, also destroying my gallbladder. Thankfully, all of my liver enzymes are back to normal and my pancreas is okay. People often talk about how morphine and Demerol make you high. Well, I'm here to tell you that if you're in enough pain, it does not make you high, it just takes the edge off. If you think you may have a drinking problem, I am here, just E-mail me. We always say in A.A., if you're not sure you have a drinking problem, try controlled drinking for a few weeks. If you can stop at a couple of drinks, well, you're probably okay. If not, you probably need to seek help. There's nothing more powerful than 2 people trying to talk each other out of trying to take a drink. I do give out my phone number too for folks who think they have a drinking problem.
So, anyway, I want to wish all of the mothers out there, mothers of bio children, mothers of foster children, mothers of adopted children and mothers of pets a belated happy mother's day. I hope all of your dreams came true. My pain is lessening with time. My only true pain is my own mother. She put me thru a lot of pain. I got a nasty E-mail from her Sunday, apologizing for not getting back to her soon but that I had been working 7 days a week, 10-14 hour days because of OT. She vindictively commented that since I had been working so much, perhaps I should just staty home and rest. This was not a caring mother concerned for her daughter. This was a mother getting even. Trust me - I've dealt with it for 42 years now. My response? "Fine with me." I deleted any subsequent E-mails from her yesterday. My only sadness is my dad. He gets put in the middle of this. Thankfully, I do see a wonderful counselor. He told me I live with a lot of guilt, which I do. But after 42 years of verbal and emotional abuse, I have had enough. I chose to deal with it my drinking (I have been sober for many years), my sister chose to deal with it by overeating - she has now lost a significant amount of weight and I am so pround of her. I have nothing against overweight people, I just don't want to see her die young of heart disease or other ailments that plague people with excessive weight. She has 2 beautiful kids, one who got a full scholarschip to Ohio State and is majoring in engineering, taking all honors classes. My niece is 10. Once she is off to school, my sister said she is leaving Ohio. She has had enough of my mom too.
Anyway, seeing as how I was so destructive toward my body with the alcohol (I was brought down at age 33 with the alc. hepatitis and pancreatitis,, I know God has a purpose for me. At first, I cursed God. How dare he turn me into an alcoholic at the tender age of 33. I have met so many people at AA meetings who wish they had recovered earlier in life. Alcohol is a great time killer and I now bless God for sobering me up early. If there is one person I can help, I'm more than willing to do so.
Take care of yourselves and God bless you all! :-)
P.S. Sorry for the (as Stephen King puts it) diarrhea of the word processor.
Mother's Day
Does this happen to anyone else?
First let me say happy belated mother's day to all the moms! I have to get this off my chest so I can move on.
I have a 12 year-old-son who is my world. Like every mother's child is to them. I do not EXPECT ANYTHING on any occasion except Happy whatever day. However last Sunday took the cake. The first person to wish me a Happy Mother's day last weekend was my EX-husband. He called from Arizona. Thinking that he wanted to speak to our son I explained to him he was not here at the moment. He said no he just called to wish me happy mom's day. I was so touched. My husband and my son NEVER did wish me a happy mothers day, however, I did get my big butt chewed on Monday when I was asked by my husband why I did not remind him to call his mother and why hadn't I picked up a card for her, he continues to go on about how selfish I am. I was to hurt and upset. Yes, I did call my mother, my ex-mother-in-law, my sister and my best friends. I never did hear HMD from them . We had a similar situation some time back where they never wished me a happy birthday until 2 days after!
Do I have a right to be upset or am I really selfish?
I am that way with my mother, I am
50, she is 71. There are definitely things she does not want to know about and if I should say something, she basically ignores it. I have made sure that both my daughters know they can talk to be about anything, without being judged. I may not like everything I hear, but I will discuss it with them in a calm and noncondescending manner.
No, I would not. The mother is looking into another
option for treatment: holistic. She is not neglecting the care, she is looking for an alternative. The mother is the legal guardian of this 13-year-old boy. Nobody can force her to any treatment. Even in case of a surgery the patient has to agree to the procedure, otherwise it can not be performed.
My Mother!!
It is definitely my mom. She was abused terribly by my dad when I was little, left him when he tried to shoot her, went back to college at 35 with 3 daughters, and now has a Bachelor's Degree in Science and is doing great! She has always been there for us no matter what. Love my mamma!! 
don't know about that, but Mother
had gained a lot of weight which started "falling off" when she was put on insulin, however, your stress level and worry could do that as well as your thyroid and who only knows what else. Excessive thirst is a sign, hard to judge that here in TX with the heat wave we are having, everything is more thirsty right now.
You are so right...my mother was a perfectionist
and we kids had to be perfect. Well it continued for me into adulthood with me trying to be perfect about everything, my looks, my hair, my weight, my teeth, my overall appearance and what others thought of me, my work, my house, I mean everything! I eventually had to go to therapy because as you get older, um, first your looks start to go, right? I could not have that! I even began seriously thinking about plastic surgery in my late 30s. I was told it was due to my upbringing and how that is a terrible thing to have to go through as a child! So there. I am finally learning to accept that perfect is not possible but it's tough when this has been your whole way of life. These people are doing their children a HUGE disservice and making for one very tough road ahead for them, I can tell you that! Hopefully they will read this post and learn from it.
Here is what we put on my mother-in-law's last year
I will be forever near for I live within your heart.
God I miss her!
My mother's doesn't either...
Made with Pepperidge farm stuffing mix, white wine, mushrooms, celery, onions, chopped walnuts, seasoning. Not sure what else but it's different and delicious, still the best I've ever had!
My mother fed us homemade
formula made from Karo syrup and canned milk. I'm only 36. She also made the nipple holes bigger to get serial in those bottles once we started waking her up too often. Plus, let my husband get up once in a while, darn...., and no I'm not milking myself like a cow so he can feed the baby through a bottle. Another thing, these mothers wind up feeding these babies from their breast until they start school. Ooohhhh ahhhh... duh! Oh the stories!
Are you judging her mother by what
she told you or personal experience?
Her mother was not perfect and she
did not "raise" Daniel either. Her mother was not a saint and all of their problems did not just stem from Anna's problems.
You are yelling more than my own mother did,
calm down!! It happens and so?? At least I am not like 1 of the women I read about on here, a single mom, unable to make a living having to raise kids by myself. Whatever mistakes I made, I took responsibility and never had to rely on others for the things I did....
Well, according to Wikipedia her mother
did take care of Daniel for the first 6 years of his life. I am sure I have heard that elsewhere before also.
mother of 2, grandmother of 1
My hubby and I chose to have only 2. We got a boy and girl. I am now raising my granddaughter. I am hopeful that I can adopt her soon, and that her mom is serious about not having any more kids . I think one is what you said...plenty of work and love!
Happy Mother's Day
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Happy Mother's Day everyone! sm
I hope you have a WONDERFUL day!
HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY TO ALL
   
He is 10 years old, you as their mother
has a lot to learn apparently. I would not worry 1 second about this kind of action or nonaction on his part. You think it is bad now? Wait until they are both teenagers- you really can look forward to really great times! If you are concerned now about him at his age, you will be forever posting on this board in a very few years. Kids go through stages of hating folks, their parents too. Some are moody and want to just be left alone and hunker down in their rooms, others outgoing like the sister. Just difference in kids. I would worry if- he acted out with setting fires, abusing animals and the like, not the ordinary things that go with kids his age.
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