If 1 time but sorta ongoing
Posted By: Kimmie on 2007-05-27
In Reply to: Elderly Aunt - Lilly
I have noticed when around my hubby or her son, she tends to say little cutting remarks, about me, not just when she and I are 1 on 1. There are others who do things for her, like her birthday recently and I hear not 1 thing about how others overdo it and I have heard this, like I said, time and time again. I know she is elderly but I do not think being old excuses you at all unless you are completely senile, demented and the like. If you still have your faculities around you (and she does) she was not brought up to look a gift horse in the mouth so to speak. I did not expect the money for the hair solution I gave her- but if she did not want and could not use- she could have thrown away- I would have never known the difference. By the way, she really has taken the place of my mother who is deceased. We have been very close and will continue to be but my feelings count just as much as anyone else.
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I live in Florida and this is an ongoing topic on forums of local newspapers. We have a large Hispanic population here and while many of them speak English, many of them do not. If you go to Wal-Mart here, all of the signs are in English and Spanish. Many of the food products are in both languages. I actually know a couple through a family member who moved here from Cuba, must have been 35 years ago now, when Castro took their farm. The wife speaks virtually no English. She worked for Disney in housekeeping or something and retired from there. Even Disney didn't seem to care if their staff learns English.
I worked at a bank prior to becoming an MT. I had about 4 bilingual coworkers and we needed them. We had numerous customers who came in to cash checks or even had accounts there and didn't speak any English. I taught myself enough Spanish independently on the Internet and through books to be able to serve their needs. Now let me ask you, if I can manage that why can't they?
I don't think it's being racist or having a bad day. We all have to listen to ESL doctors who are practically incomprehensible. I wonder sometimes how in the world they passed the equivalency exams. I also know as doctors they can certainly afford a few diction classes but they don't bother. Meanwhile, we can't understand them, I don't know how their colleagues understand them, nurses probably have a hard time understanding them and many of these doctors are administering to elderly patients who don't hear as well. God only knows how they understand them.
English is the accepted universal language in the business world which is why people in other countries learn English. If you are going to do business in a predominantly English-speaking country then learn the language.
This is why we need MORE ongoing RESEARCH. nm
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Shock has been ongoing for several years
and if you have had, you know just how bad it is! I have never had any pain that travels up or down the leg, just that foot thing only when I happen to walk, oh joy!! This is really odd but I have awakened in the night with a really harsh pain over the top of my right foot, only on the top where I would have to take the other foot and bear weight down it because of how bad it hurt. I know I have a curvature of my spine but really don’t have back pain per se. I am so tired of trying to find out really what is going on, so many doctors, so much of my time, no many things I have tried. This current used to strike sometimes as much as 6-10x a day, completely throws you off balance.
Despite "HER" being gone, banning is still ongoing here.
my list is ongoing and never ending!
It seems I spend all my time working (and playing a bit around here on the internet) but I actually just cleaned out my closet and took my clothes to the Salvation army and felt very good about it.
Organizing has NEVER been my thing and i wish so much that it was.
I have loads and loads of paperwork to sort out, file, etc.
I try every day to go through my mail (you wouldn't believe the amounts of junk mail that accumulates, that i then "save" to shred)..
I need to send some baby gifts off to my baby sister -my niece is now 7 weeks old!! - i have attached a pic because she is the new love of my life and i like to show her off whenever possible :)
I would like to organize my desk, clean my kitchen, get my carpets cleaned.
Rearrange my room (maybe it's my life i want to rearrange?!)
Oh it goes on and on and on!!!
have a GREAT WEEKEND EVERYONE!!!
This is Allyson Ayn! (she is in North Carolina, I am in Nevada)... A lot of the things I want to get done revolve around me being able to go see her for the second time ever soooo wish me luck on my tasks ahead!
xoxo
You sorta told her what she really needs to know, that being
you said MTs getting out of the business by the hundreds. If I read this, then I would think,hmmmmm wonder why? There must be a reason for this, after all I can work and still stay home, must be a dream job. To say she can do MTing and be home with her family, sorta of an oxymoron now days, don't you think? I think she would do good to read over a lot of the posts and see exactly how the people are feeling today about their work, lack of, pay and again lack of and then find out if she wants to chance this. Lots of MTs not only on the fence about their jobs but lots questioning what other jobs they could get into. So much unrest in this business now. I would never tell a person to start here. Posts all the time about not thinking it is going to be around with outsourcing, VR and the like. Being a stay at home mother is 1 thing but trying to provide and stay home, this is a chancy risk at this time.
This is an ongoing thing there, I doubt in our lifetime
we will see any difference. No much tragedy, so much sorrow and like you said about Bill Gates, he and his wife really have their heart in the right spot with all they do with what they have and yet all that money and some good but probably not a dent into what is needed. I spent time in Santo Domingo next to Haiti, probably as poor a spot as you could ever find in this world so I have seen and like I said money taken in and then the money comes up short with miscalculations, etc. Yes, I am cynical and have reason to be because of what I see going on with all this funding the people send and then it goes missing. I hear of stories around my home or other places and I pick and choose and send to those I feel really need it (sob stories for animals, also).
That cracked me up! Sorta sounds like - sm
TV commercial where the family powers their entire house by static electricity. The kids all walk around with wool sox on, rubbing their feet on the floor. Later they're sitting in front of the TV, and all of their hair is sticking straight up from static electricity. At the end, the lights go out and they're saying good night, and then there is a kiss and an "ouch"! I sure hope that commercial won an award, 'cause just thinking about it makes me laugh.
Think you are sorta wrong about your post
the first time we even saw SP was when she was brought out by McCain and introduced. We did not know beforehand. Right from the start everyone got to know her reallyyyyyy well, especially with the introduction of the speech she gave at the RNC gathering. Loved her interviews, really bright lady!
homemade heath bar- sorta
Not a dinner idea- but a cheap way to make a bag-full of toffee:
1 cup butter, 3/4 cup brown sugar, 12 oz. bag chocolate chips, 3/4-1 cup chopped nuts (i use salted peanuts chopped up) saltine crackers:
Preheat oven to 400 degrees. Line a cookie sheet with aluminum foil. Fill pan side-by-side with crackers. Heat butter and brown sugar. Boil for 3 minutes. Pour on top of crackers. Put pan in oven for 5 minutes. Remove from oven, sprinkle the chocolate chips on top to melt- after a couple minutes, easy to spread around with a spatula. Sprinkle the nuts on top- kinda push them into the chocloate so they don't fall off when done. Chill in fridge and break into pieces.
Keeps well in a zip-lock baggie in fridge. Not the real deal, but sure it good and a lot cheaper than candy bars!
Thanks for the other ideas ladies, always looking for a new meal that is fast, easy and yummy!
Your last sentence sorta breaks my heart
I have grandchildren but they are so tied in with the maternal side, even though we live only perhaps 15 miles apart, never see or talk with them- I tried being close when they were younger but they were always, always at the other grandmoms home, never mine. I love them and wish them well.
I sorta laughed at the place where you said your husband
would never cheat, and you keep him happy as well. Lady, please, you do know don’t you a man can be pleased as punch but that does not stop all from having affairs. It happens all the time. My goodness!
Ah, that is sorta taking advantage of a restaurant
in fact might border on theft. I don’t think quirky, would be embarassing to me to have your family heist any and everything they could when going out. Do they go out other times or just on a special occasion? Rather than run the risk of someone in management asking me to pay for their "treats," think I probably might make them a dinner at home, then you could make sure to tie down anything valuable to you.
No! That sounds too desperate. TIME. Just give it TIME. If it is real, then sm
something will definitely evolve. If you like him, flirt back! Don't act desperate because if he DOES like you, then the suspense will just make him want to get to know you more. Trust me on this.
I worked in the medical records department of a hospital when I was single and dated a few co-workers in my early 30s. It was fun. Nothing serious came about any of the relationships.
This sounds like fun - the beginning of maybe something to come....Keep us informed.
Totally agree, get these from time to time since teens...sm
It's a neuro condition, it does not mean there is anything at all wrong with you, it is actually related to narcolepsy, hypnagogic (sp? I just got up!) hallucinations, etc. And I HATE when I get these, it is always freaky, my siblings get this too, at times. I can "go away" for years and years before you get another episodes, so don't worry! I heard that when you are under a lot of stress or are very busy with things that this happens more??? Take care!!
It's time to stop when you or the kid(s) feel it is time, and no sooner. sm
My grandmother (who passed away at the young age of 107 back in the mid 1990s) was STILL celebrating every little holiday for all of her many kids and grandkids, and she would STILL give me a chocolate bunny every Easter, as she had since I was a toddler and even though I was 40ish at the time (and I still delighted in biting its head off in front of her, as I had also done since I was a toddler, which always met with mock disapproval from her).
Don't let anyone dampen your joy in celebrating your traditions.
The very 1st time he talked about killing you, was the time
The guy sounds like a psycho.
Rachael Ray has a segment from time to time
on using the bottom of the bottle receipes (i.e. bar-be-q sauce, peanut butter, maple syrup) and I have used many of her ideas and been amazed at how far you can stretch a dollar that way. Go to her website, it will give you many ideas.
Oh Amy, surely there was a man who "kept" you from time to time..
or you were at least married and had access to money!
It was a great time - I just hate the time we are in now
I liked your post. Thanks for replying It's nice to know other people were raised like me. We seem to appreciate the things we have. Oh I should've also said we didn't have A/C growing up. My parents idea of A/C was having my sister and I wave a piece of cardboard in front of them. HA HA HA.
I just couldn't stand the 90s and 2000s are even worse. I hate all the politics going on today, the world events, the bleak future. The degenerates running around, listening to kids talk back to their parents, girls gone wild, etc, etc. I'm grateful my grandparents and mom are not alive anymore to have to go through this with us.
I love watching old movies and the music of the 40s/50s. If I was alive back then I would've been doing the jitterbug and all those other fun dances. Life seemed simpler and cleaner (even though I've got a mouth like a sailer - guess I got that from my Army days).
I wouldn't mind the turn of the century either. I love the clothing and the simple life. Those are the times when the husband took care of the wife. If I could be transported back to the 1800s I surely would in a second.
Time out and then spanking if time out
If we are out in public however, we do not go home. Spanking right there and then and the kids learn REAL QUICK mom means business. I do not mess around and I have a 17-year-old now that has enlisted in the military and THANKS me for his tough upgrowing. It helped him through basic training.
Well, I have questioned myself from time to time.
I figured this was typical. DD has lots of friends but two real close friends. I guess this is all part of building social skills. I am glad I did okay then.
Same thing happens to me from time to time - sm
if I roll over too quickly. I have positional vertigo. There is not too much you can do about it except try not to move or get up too quickly from a supine position. I have never had an earache in my life either so that has nothing to do with it. I don't ever feel sick from it though, just more of a nuisance for me every now and then. If it keeps happening obviously get checked out, you may have a more severe case, though again there really not much you can do about it, all it is is some particles in your ear breaking loose and that causes the dizziness, etc.
If I had not asked time and time again
for the daughter to ask me are you upset- are you angry- are you in a bad mood- People can think what they want- She is a very intelligent person and my asking to please should be enough. Gest of the posting. Selfish, OMG, that is really a laugh. I have and do take care of others well before my needs- I have given of myself, my time, my finances, the whole thing until, now this will sound selfish- it is my time now. I take care of me now- this is selfish but this is the truth. I raised my family, did all I could (still do for the daughter if she needs assistance which she never asks for but I offer)and now in golden years, me time.
Yes. Next time put a time limit on it., but is there any way you
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I keep it in the office part time and on the patio part time
I've got the self-cleaning electric litter box (and boy is it worth the $100), and have a huge throw rug under it with a smaller rug by the litter pan that has a bumpy mat on top of it to catch the excess. I keep it in the office from April to October but on the patio from October to March as it is too hot in FL to leave the patio door open for them during the summer months. I also put out a spare box when we go out of town for the weekend.
Try a box that has deeper sides maybe, or not as much litter in it?
time time time
when I divorced my husband, I felt the same way. some mornings I would wake up crying and missing him, but I really knew that if I was still with him, things would have been the same. chin up, chest out!!! and forward march. it's just hard. you should read the Sweet Potato Queens books. reading them in order is best, but the newest one is the Sweet Potato Queens Wedding Planner/Divorce Guide. I say read them in order because she refers back to things in the other books that you will be in the dark about, but your situation sounds critical so maybe just jump right into the Divorce Guide. go to sweetpotatoqueens.com. I have read them all over and over and they are fabulous!!!! need some humor at this time in your life. good luck to you!!
First time I saw it
I really like Jen. Didn't care too much for Sadie.
I think maybe for the first time or maybe just the first time
in a long time - your well is a little more dry - it needs replenishing.... you give and you give and you give and even the most charitable of people need to get something back... I think you just had a dry year and I hope this year people give back to you - if so little as a smile, a hug, a bit of encouragement in whatever way - to help to lift your spirit. You will get it back! :))
Yes. Happens all the time.
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99% of the time - none.
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My son would get them all the time - sm
get something to soak the foot in, fill it with water as warm as he can stand it and then mix in about 1 cup of Epsom salts, soak the foot until the water cools.
Will have to do it a few times over a few days but the skin starts to pull back.
tell him not to cut his toenails so short! :)
I look at it as the first time since she sm
was, what 14, that she will have to be in rahab. One problem, Michele Rodriguez from the show Lost went to that jail in 2006 to serve 60 days for a DUI and was let go after several hours due to overcrowding. I sure hope she doesn't get out becuase of something silly like that.
Just take it one day at a time.
I had a miscarriage back in 1993 and for years afterwards I would have a private memorial day on the day that I was due. Time really does help your heart heal, as have my living children.
TB and time
I don't agree because it can take years from the time of exposure. This is such a bad form of TB that anyone in contact with him for quite a while back needs to be watched at least and be followed up. That patient did not even realize he was infected and found out by accident from an x-ray. TB is an interesting disease process and we all need to be careful especially since there are so many people here illegally. I am not trying to start anything about that, but they have not even been medically screened if they came here illegally. They are sitting around in all our ERs, the same ones we go to. They sit next to us on public transportation and work in our restaurants. I have recently worked for physicians who treat a lot of foreign patients and you would be surprised at how many diseases they enter this country with. This is a very serious thing and I find what he did to be very wrong. His father-in-law knew too and works at the CDC. The reason he came back was the way he did was to get the best treatment available, which is here in the US, and I believe his father-in-law told him that. If anyone has been exposed to TB they need to be checked by their physician and followed.
No bra here, either, 90% of the time
If I didn't have these danged D-cups, it would be 100% of the time.
And I go Apache at home, which also means about 90% of the time since I started working at home. I don't think I could wear pants or shorts without underwear. Too much chafing of the delicate areas. But I wear housedresses in summer or in winter warm waffly nightgowns while I work so no need for underwear! 
i think its time to think about YOU
and of course the kids. If he loves them as you say, the distance won't stop him. My heart goes out to you. But do what is right for you this time.
How did I know when it was time?
When I started dreading the fact that he was home instead of worrying why he was't home. Being on my own was harder than I thought even though the relationship was long over. It's a mental thing of course. I felt very alone and vulnerable, but I did get over it. I still panic about the things you mention, although I have always been okay, yes even better. Having plenty of positive, understanding support would be most helpful. Hope you make the right decision.
AHA! Thanks! Most of the time I don't - sm
have a need for an online photo-sharing account, since I usually just email to friends, or print out for my mom, who has no PC. But I printed out your info. for the time when I get around to starting an account with flicker or photobucket.
THANKS for the info!
time
I used to love mornings now be a night person. I am up early but when it comes to feeling like typing rather do it at night.
First time!
Hey, it's my first time here.............
Well, any time you go anywhere ....
without your spouse you are in a compromising position then. Anything can happen, anytime, anywhere, people around or not. Geesh girls, lighten up on the morality aspect of it. Are your husbands even allowed to TALK to other women? Little girls worry about such things, women do not.
Well, let's see, what do I do with my time? (sm)
My husband is always gone travelling, I work full time, take almost 100% care of the kids, am a Girl Scout leader, Sunday School teacher, volunteer at the school, and help take are of my aging father. I NEVER have time to watch TV and I spend maybe 15 minutes a day on here posting a day. (pretyt much my only outlet) and I do keep my house relatively clean, cook, laundry, etc. If I want to have someone help me with my house so that I have a little more time, that's my business.
Of course, all the time
I question my DH's decisions all the time, especially when it comes to situations like you described. You have a right to your opinion and a right to state it, without being yelled at and without his anger. Men can be so defensive when questioned on a decision they have made, but hey, they just need to get over it. And I think you did the right thing by doing your questioning out of the presence of the children, as it's not good for them to see Mom second guessing Dad or vice versa, cause they will play on that eventually.
Good luck, I know it's hard living with a hard-headed man, trust me I know!
I think it is probably time but
When I had to go through this it helped me tremendously to have the vet come to my home to do it. If your vet won't look in the yellow pages for one who will. This is less stress on your baby as well as yourself, light candles play soft music and hold her in your arms and tell her you love her and will see her again and that is okay for her to go now, they hear you aand don't want to leave you so telling them it is okay will help their spirit fly. All my sympathy and tears for you right now.
This was the first time I saw all the way thru
and I thought it was tops! Before I thought maybe like other award shows, but this was pure entertainment. Glad I watched and will do again next year hopefully.
how did you have time to run around
wow
AND she had time for her
this woman is AMAZING!!!!
Take the time.
It's crazy to have something available and then not use it because you "don't have the time". It's not that hard to do so take about 5-10 minutes, fire up the program and walk through it. You may even be surprised by what you already DO know.
I don't take it all the time . . .
just when I get a blister. I always have it on hand. When I notice one coming on, I'll take a 500 mg tablet three times a day.
who knows where the time goes
I still feel about 10
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