I wouldn't bother with another divorce if things go bad
Posted By: OldMT on 2009-02-02
In Reply to: I've married the same man 3 times. nm - wannie
Sounds like you're just going to marry him again, so deal with it!  I can relate to those love-hate relationships. In my case, it was a battle of wills, we both wanted to be in charge. Loved each other up until the day he died, but we both were pretty bull-headed.
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I wouldn't bother with another divorce if things go bad
Sounds like you're just going to marry him again, so deal with it! I can relate to those love-hate relationships. In my case, it was a battle of wills, we both wanted to be in charge. Loved each other up until the day he died a few months ago, but we both were pretty bull-headed.
Wouldn't bother me at all.
In fact, I know a single guy who will not date women with children. Don't blame him.
it wouldn't bother me. nm
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wouldn't bother me...maybe he is just suddenly==sm
into aromatherapy. maybe he just discovered that certain scents make him feel good, as we all do. If you are worried, just ASK him. Probably nothing. Don't make a mountain out of a molehill and keep suspicious mind to yourself. If he thinks you suspect something, he may give you something to be suspicious of. good luck to you.
I wouldn't even bother with a playlist for holiday music
Your iPod can sort your music by song title, album, artist, and genre, etc. Just click into "genre" and choose to play only "holiday" next year. That's how all of your Christmas music will be sorted.
If genres aren't listed in your music menu, you can go to the first menu, then settings, and then make sure that genre is selected. You can even select shuffle and then play just one genre, and all of your holiday music will be shuffled.
I like the genre settings. If I'm in the mood for jazz, I select just that genre, or I can select rock, country, or whatever. It's a nice feature.
Nah, I wouldn't. I notice those things too but...(sm)
I always just let it go.
That is very true! And most of these people wouldn't say these things
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I wouldn't tell people at a busstop these things, either! nm
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I've heard good things and about things about taking prednisone. My mom was on it for SM
for awhile and it made her look so swollen. I sympathize with you.
these don't really bother me
the KY ads drive me insane! I mean, they border on pornographic, especially these *Valentine's night* ones...We know what it's for, we don't need a demo!
It would not bother me at all.
I have no problem with anyone's religion as long as they do not attempt to make others conform to their religious beliefs.
would this bother you?
I googled the phone number for my son's daycare and found a profile of a worker there. In her pictures she is holding a rather large gun and her husband is smoking something that does not appear to be a cigarette. Her personal life should be her own but this bothers me somehow. Look for yourself and then give me your hones opinion:
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=57798033&albumID=0&imageID=4240965
Would it bother you?
for your child's teacher to call him/her Sweety or Honey?
Does it bother you and, if so, why?
Don't bother getting into this field
your not going to make any money working for a company. The only way to make money is to own a business, and just starting out can be very expensive.
There are many of us trying to get out of this field for various reasons - mainly the BS that companies give us.
but why do you bother to read them???
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They don't seem to bother my plants
at all. They do, however, ravage my birdfeeders this time of year and throughout the winter. I used to wage war against them but I've softened in my old age. Now I figure they need to eat and survive too so I just let them be.
Doesn't bother me
For some women it takes more than soap and water. Not a biggie.
Doesn't bother me at all either
Some people need it. It's really no big deal.
I am so curious to know does it bother you ..sm
like everyday? I mean do you think what your child you put up for adoption is like and does it get to you a lot? I have often wondered what parents must go through who have done that. I know it must be very hard. I can't imagine.
The bussing would bother me too...sm
The school district I live in is so cash-strapped that they make the 9-12 kids ride the city bus. They have 30 day passes with student pricing. The K-8 kids all ride the school busses unless you live within a mile of the school of course. My DH takes our son to school which starts at 9:15 and gets out at 4:00. He is home by 4:30.
The state of Michigan requires 180 days of school. He has the usual summer vacation days, but if they exceed the number of "snow days" then those get tacked on at the end of the year. But usually they get out the first week of June. We have one week for spring break and 2 weeks at Christmas. We also have the usual assortment of in-service meetings etc., but no 2 hour delays and definitely no every Friday in May off.
If I were you, I would start going to your school board meetings and start making your opinionknown. The more noise you make, the better. And you might just find other people in the same boat as you are. In my city, the school board term is 2 years then they have to run again. There have also been successful recall elections too. Also check to see if your school district has a citizen liason office. We do and they do an excellent job when they are needed. Work your way up the pecking order. If you don't get satisfaction at the city level, move up to the state superintendent of schools. There is always somebody higher up in the food chain that can help you. You just have to be persistent.
Good luck.
If you don't have a suggestion, don't bother replying.
As parents, we all have rights to name our child whatever we like. If we want to name them all starting with the same letter, that is their prerogative. When someone asks for something in particular, if you don't have any suggestions, don't respond at all. Why does there have to be someone like this for almost every post?
Don't bother with a cleaning service...
Save your money. We had a cleaning service twice a month for a year, and the day they cleaned the house, it looked wonderful, but the day after...yikes! Like it never happened. We have 3 kids and 2 dogs, and it's honestly like shoveling in a snow storm! So my husband and I took the job back and do our own cleaning. We teach the kids to clean their rooms, otherwise it won't get vacuumed. I clean the 3 bathrooms on my day off, which really doesn't take too much time if I spot clean in between. We just keep after the kids to pick up after themselves. I always have a to do list in my head for myself every weekend and feel good when I actually get them done! I know that's strange, but I do:-) Just take one day at a time, think about what you really want taken care of, and it'll get done. Don't sweat it, but I wouldn't throw money at a service to do it. Your husband has to work as a team with you. If he likes organization so much, then he can handle that part of the duties. I never grocery shop or really cook...so my husband took that over from the beginning. We chose the things we like to do and then get them done. Who cares who does them? Good luck!
But....these are good and harmless. Won't bother you a bit! Quite sm
friendly, actually. Heard they wouldn't hurt you - just keep away and let them do their jobs.
I've actually fainted from arachnophobia before, so believe me when I say this.
Don't let it bother yoyu Hayseed
I love reading your posts. They always make me laugh. These people have no sense of humor. They must work to hard and leave no time to joke and keep things light. P.S. By the way, I also have that fascination.
Anybody have stress bother them and then get sick?
Ever since I have been stressed over a certain situation in transcription, and my family's budget I have become extremely tired and it is really hard to get my line count. Every day as the pressure builds regarding this my line count gets lower, no matter how hard I try. Anybody in this situation or ever been, I'd appreciate advice. I am trying stress busters, exercising, reading books, taking time to go outside, but nothing is working.
Every time I sit down to type, I just get more and more worried and I can't produce! It is like my heart is going on strike against the position I have because there are problems with the situation and it makes my money situation even worse. My husband is very understanding but this has got to stop. I want to feel good about my job again and my production. If you say get another job, I understand about that, but what about until the other job starts, what do I do? Arrrggggg. I know life is no picnic but it could at least provide piece of mind so I can do my job! Thanks in advance for any and every suggestion or advice. It will be well appreciated
Worn off letters do not bother me at all, I
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If this is so boring - why bother? they need posters over there can't you tell
by this thread?
As I said if you cannot play nice don't bother - sm
to comment.....I know I did a lot of things wrong...don't need salt poured in my wounds.
Sorry to bother you again, what are tthe measurements?...nm
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Did you even bother to read the snopes.com information?
To wit:
The proposed regulations establish common standards for States to issue licenses. The Federal Government is not issuing the licenses, is not collecting information about license holders, and is not requiring States to transmit license holder information to the Federal Government that the Government does not already have (such as a Social Security Number).
My state requires a thumbprint for a driver's license. Is that invasion of privacy, too?
polygamy doesn't bother me but the compound does
I understand that people of like minds may want to live in a close community, but when it becomes isolative I think it's dangerous. I don't have a problem with free choice. Of course the under age marriages are deplorable. I feel sorry for the women being separated from their children and even more so for the children being taken away from their parents into a different world.
The women on Larry King bothered me though, they all talked in a very monotone way, they looked gaunt, kind of robotic. Maybe it's the immediate situation they are facing and being on TV. I guess I would have liked to see a bit of anger there, some emotion, too submissive, probably the way they are with their husbands. You get the feeling they are pretty bottled up.
Check-writing doesn't bother me
so much as the little old ladies with their frail eyesight and arthritic hands, bless their hearts, digging in their coin purses for the exact change. It's too bad I'm in such a hurry I can't just admire their independence.
You'd be smart not to bother getting newborn size.
The baby would be out of them in about 2 weeks from what I remember, so much better to get the next size up.
If OP didnt bother to make call to school about this,
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They didn't bother to ask their victim if they'd wanted to live...sm
and it irks me to no end that we have to spend cazillions of bucks to keep these murders alive while appeals are filed. If this country got tough on crime then we'd not have the crime problem we have today.
She is DENSE, don't bother any longer. Like talking to a wall...
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Fran is right..Tends to run in families. If you are, dont bother with Synthroid..I went to Armour
thyroid and never looked back. I tried Synthroid for over a year and they could never get my thyroid back in..I struggled with cold intolerance, fatigue, dry skin, and the worse..weight gain..like 30 pounds and then a doctor put me on a more "natural" thyroid which was Armour. I got my energy back, lost weight etc..I would never use Synthroid or any other synthetic again. Be aware that a huge number of doctors dont like prescribing Armour but I insist that it's the only thing that works for me and they do prescribe it..Good luck to you..
I used to get up and go straight to work - didn't even bother to brush my hair until after noon.
I had a holy faded T-shirt with Tweety bird (you could barely see him anymore!) and a pair of baggy sweat pants that I wore with big pink fuzzy house slippers! Until I got caught several times with a little old lady from my church stopping by to say high, salesman knocking on the door, and the final straw was my nice looking neighbor stopping buy to borrow my ladder. I finally decided perhaps I should brush my teeth and come my hair just in case!
Now, I get up every morning, take a shower, fix my hair, and put on my makeup. Then I get the kids off to school and I sit down and work. I have found that, believe it or not, I am way more productive than I used to be. I'm not distracted thinking about when am I going to make time for a shower. I still wear jeans and a T-shirt and my house slippers, but now no one can catch me looking like a worn out old hag anymore.  And now that I'm single, well ya never know when you might bump into Mr. Right.
I doubt I'll even bother to watch American Idol next week.
Kris is unimpressive and I'm sick of Adam's screaming. I'm so disappointed they sent Danny home! :(
I hope he at least gets a recording contract out of all this.
Did you see in Kris' homecoming, it was mostly little girls? That's what's tilting the results I think. They're more dedicated to two solid hours of voting....
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Been there. You hit the nail right on the head -- his drinking overpowers or affects every aspect of your life, and your childrens' lives. Every day, every minute. Most people can't comprehend the constant stress that puts on a family. He's absolutely miserable with his drinking, and wants everybody around him to be as miserable as he is. Tired of walking on the eggshells and sick of the promises that mean nothing? I know I was! Drunks tell you what they think you want to hear to buy them more time. You need peace in your lives for once. You need to be able to predict what your day is going to be like when you wake up in the morning, and so do your kids. I hope it is a 'friendly' divorce for you. You may hurt his ego more than anything else. Good luck to you. I'll be keeping good thoughts for you. I will tell you this -- when my ex left after 12 years, my children and I finally felt like we could BREATHE.
Just let me know about the divorce! nm
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Me, too, Freebie - I absolutely despised the man after 17-1/2 yrs., got divorced. He had the nerve to die 5 yrs. later. Had I stayed, I would be on easy street now instead of wondering whether to pay the phone bill, the electric bill or pay for Christmas or charge it. If I only knew then what I know now - haunting isn't it?
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My children were 14 and 11 at the time of my divorce, they are now 24 and 21 and are happy productive adults that any mother would be proud of. Not to say it wasn`t a very hard thing to go through, but all the fighting is very hard on the children to. I remember my daughter telling me that if I was to ever take her dad back she would be very mad at me, what does that tell you, if your children are old enough, talk to them about their feeling and fears.
Also, their dad got in their in there head and promised them all kinds of things that never came to past, to get them to stay with him so he didn`t have to pay child support,so be ready for that to, but as I said it didn`t take my daughter long to figure that all out, now she is grown and married and her and her dad hardly speak, which breaks my heart, it not fair that a child should have to do without either parent. Anyway I could go on about this subject all night cause it is a heartbreaking thing for all involved.
But you are the only one that know if it`s worth hanging on to.
my prayer`s go out to you in whatever you decide.
After my divorce
and my 45th birthday, it seems like everything changed for me. Things I thought were important, aren't anymore. I don't care about what I have, I'm more interested in what I've done, or more specifically, haven't done yet. Even my politics have changed some. Life changes you. Its like Character Remodeling as we mature.
I've always been suspect of anyone over 45 who tells me that they have no regrets in life. Have they lived life with eyes wide open? Nothing could have been made better?
In some ways, if you aren't evolving and changing, is it possible that you are not living? Great question.
divorce
It takes time. Be extra kind to yourself, seek support if you need to. It does get better, trust me. I am now in a place where I'm happiest I've ever been. I'm still alone but independent and free!
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I divorced my first husband when my children were 1 and 3. He was a crack addict. It wasn't easy but it was the right decision for me. I would definitely suggest going to Al-Anon. I didn't make it there until quite a few after my divorce, but it helped me a great deal. Best of luck with your decision.
Shelly
If you are going through with the divorce,
it will come out when you list assests, debts, etc.
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I always think it is funny when women think divorce is the best thing for everyone and will make everyone happy.
Kids need two parents whether you are divorced or not, not a counselor to straighten him out.
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My jerk of a husband told me I have less than 2 weeks to move out -- that he spoke with a lawyer -- personally I don't think he has, but is this legal? My name is not on our home, but I have my own car in my own name, which I pay for and he has a set of keys-- refuses to give them back to me. I have about $80.00 to my name these days until payday. You know how it is with MT work -- living paycheck to paycheck. What can I do? Is there free legal help for women?
Divorce
My jerk of a husband told me I have less than 2 weeks to move out -- that he spoke with a lawyer -- personally I don't think he has, but is this legal? My name is not on our home, but I have my own car in my own name, which I pay for and he has a set of keys-- refuses to give them back to me. I have about $80.00 to my name these days until payday. You know how it is with MT work -- living paycheck to paycheck. What can I do? Is there free legal help for women?
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