I would write an e-mail sm

• What makes some people forgive so easily and others not so easy? sm - anon
  • I wouldn't send it and this is why . . . - sm
    • Ya'll are just too kind and sweet. I am having a hard time thinking "I'm the better person& - me
      • PS: I didn't send the letter...Thanks! nm - me
  • forgiveness - MTqueenB
  • I would write an e-mail sm - Just me
  • Sounds to me like . . . - Mimi
  • Forgiveness is something - l
    • Agree wholehearedly. You have - been there too

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Something along the lines of 'they're in a better place' or 'at least they aren't suffering'.  Trust me, that isn't nice to hear when you lose a child because you really can't imagine a better place than in your loving arms. 

Give your friend a big hug and just let her know you are here for her.  Be there for her to talk about the baby to/with when she needs it.  So many people are uncomfortable listening to a grieving mother talk about her lost baby, but that is something that really helps to process it all, at least it was very helpful for me. 

So sorry another knows the pain. 

I am never late paying my bills, but ONE time BOA (bank of america) Visa didn't get my bill when they should have - and they charged me $39 late fee - I called them, because I pay the bill in full every month and it's HIGH......I told them, since I always pay it in full, that I insist they reverse that charge because I sent it 10 days prior, and if they wouldn't (because at first they were hemming and hawing) - I would take my business elsewhere -

don't you know THEY IMMEDIATELY REVERSED THE LATE FEE.....

Give them a call, the worst they'll say is no, and you'll argue, and perhaps they'll then say yes.....we'll reverse it..........

You can't control your ex.  Period.  You can only control what happens in your home.  Your ex felt it appropriate for the GF to call your son and wish him happy birthday.  Be thankful she didn't drop by or ask to come over for a visit.  Trust me, if you try to put the kids in the middle of a struggle of what you think is appropriate for the kids, the kids lose.  I don't know the age of your son, but you can certainly talk to him about how he felt about it.  He most likely felt nothing considering he has only met her twice.  Sort of like a peer who knows somebody who knows somebody who called to say happy birthday.

As far as the family not recognizing the kids' birthdays - either get used to it, or you call them and ask if they would like to speak with him.  The dissolution of marriages cause supposed love ones to vanish like flies around a vinegar trap.  It isn't your ex's job to have his family maintain a relationship with your kids.  That responsibility falls to the extended family.

I would certainly encourage the kids to send greeting cards or make phone calls to the other side of the family to acknowledge their important dates.  It might help them feel less awkward about how they should be behaving in the situation.  They may simply just not know what involvement is wanted or expected and need some guidance  -- but only if the child wants that contact.

I'm the grannie raising my granddaughter and I have watched every single person who claimed to love this child fall by the wayside if it weren't for my being proactive in trying to maintain the relationships she and I feel are important to her feeling connected to the family.  That means my going to my ex in-laws who talked badly about me for over a decade...looking them in the face and watching the joy my granddaughter has in surrounding herself with family.  They simply don't know how to handle the situation.  My daughter had a new guy move in with her 2 weeks after she brought the little one to me.  At 6 weeks, she wanted to introduce him to me and her.  I told her straight up he had to make it to the year anniversary mark before I would allow the new guy to meet my granddaughter.  I won't let her confuse her and play "who's your daddy" game.

I better stop now...like I said, I could write a book.  I hope you find that sort through the negotiating thing of this for the best of the kids and try to put your personal feelings secondary to that goal (not that I think you aren't doing that, just saying).

Good luck. 

Jerry Maguire..."show me the money" and "you had me at 'hello.'"

My friends just lost a baby to SIDS.  The funeral is tomorrow.  Unfortunately I can't make it, but I'm sending a sympathy plant/flowers.  I'm at a total loss for words.  What should I write on the card?  Appreciate any input.

Sorry....I didn't mean to ruffle your feathers or get on the soapbox.....It appears we've got a lot in common, namely patriotism....Tried to e-mail ya, but it kept coming back, ergo I thought your were incommunicado. 

I worked for the Veterans Service Agency (what would be called Veterans Affairs now) 30 years ago and still spend an inordinate amount of time at the VA with my husband, bless his heart. 

I'm glad you enjoyed the bit about the politician's kids.

Have a great Labor Day Wknd! 

Cat

How do eliminate mail that comes to previous residents of your home?  I know you can write "wrong address" on mail and have it returned, but what about junk mail?  Will the post office accept junk mail returned this way?  I do not know if the previous residents completed a change of address form or not.  They have not lived at this address for many years; however, mail still comes on a daily basis.  How do you get rid of all this? 

I sent an e-mail to you a coupla days ago and it bounced back.  Just e-mail me and I can update my address book.  What did you think about barforama! Poor Juliet Cat 

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Is there a problem with the Yahoo mail system anyone knows about.  The Yahoo web site pulls up fine, it is just the mail.

i cannot figure out  how in the world to get back the alert in yahoo toolbar that lets me know when i have new mail???!!!  would you please help me?  many thanks.