I would suggest she also speak with
Posted By: s/m on 2008-05-20
In Reply to: A friend called me today on my break SM - Concerned
the hospital administration about this issue. I would think it is a definite violation not to have him in an isolated room, which would be indicated outside the patient's room. Not only are they being exposed, but the patient may be being exposed to other viruses in an immune-compromised state.
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why can people immigrate to the US if they don't yet speak the language? Canada you have to speak
We briefly looked at emigrating to Canada. They have a point system for admission. You must know at least one and preferably two of their national languages to be admitted (English and French). You also must be young, healthy, and either independently wealthy, or educated and highly skilled in high-income professions. You cannot have a family member with a chronic illness, even if they are not coming with you, because you might send your income home to help them rather than spending it in the Canadian economy. Every child or dependent you have is measured against your wage earning power and if it looks like your family might tax the social system too much, you are turned down. This all makes perfect sense even though it may seem unfair (we looked at it before and decided not to go due to their arms laws. Now they wouldn't take us anyway because I have been diagnosed with MS since then).
This is very, very different from the US who it seems will take anyone and everyone.
I heard about a US chicken processing factory that was working with Welfare to put people to work because their supply of immigrant labor had run short. So, why don't we limit immigration until every American is working who can? And pay them a living wage with healthcare (illegal immigrants are too afraid to ask for these things and so the wage drops and benefits are not provided).
Suggest
For slow dancing - Best of my Love by the Eagles. Also for dancing, Marvin Gaye Live at the Palladium - I can't think of the name of that song; also Brick House, Play That Funky Music White Boy. I think Elton John would be good to listen to during dinner.
I suggest you get one!
This is even forcing people to keep company with a dog. Some people don't even know I have one at times; it is that inconspicuous. Look the other way if you don't like the idea. Some cities are very dog friendly just like some people. I feel sorry for people who can't enjoy their own life and have to bring others down with them. I have found that some dogs make better people than some people 
Would suggest Kne" :)
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May I suggest
You try a holistic brand cat food with all human grade ingredients and no byproducts. Table scraps are fine and healthy as long as they are whole foods and not processed. Also cats do not have molars to grind their food, so dry food is not really conducive to their method of chewing. I only give holistic brand wet food. If you ever noticed when your cat throws up its food it is barely chewed, that is why, they can't chew it and have to swallow it whole mostly.
By the way I like your quote too.
May I suggest?
My daughter is a hairdresser. I have short straight hair, but she recommend to me a shampoo called Catwalk-Curls Rock. It can be used for curly or straight hair I also have color on my hair. I got a large 25.36 oz. bottle of the shampoo and the same size in the conditioner. They both have a pump dispenser on them.
What would you suggest?
Would anyone have suggestions for MTs looking for a higher pay rate? If one has good references, background, experience, and skills - what more can they do to earn a starting pay greater than 7 cents?
I agree that it is not much financially but with all things considered this seems to be the going rate these days for an MT with less than 5 years experience.
all i can suggest
is a green-apple spray. check with your vet and/or pet store. good luck!
What I would suggest - sm
I would send out either via e-mail or regular mail a little dinner invite and state specifically "no presents" on it. If people want to show up with presents anyway that is up to them, but you have stated your preference. I actually LOVE this idea!! Best wishes...
What I suggest - sm
There really is no comparison in my mind. My hubby had the snip when he was 30. It took no time at all, was done in the doctor's office with 1 Valium, he spent 1 day off work with an icepack, and was probably completely back to normal in about 5 days and even playing golf. He said it was no big deal. Several of our friends have had it done with similar experiences. It really is the way to go!
i would suggest
talking to your doctor. That kind of swelling can be several things, maybe even kidney problems. I am a bit older than you and 40 lbs overweight, but don't have the swelling. Have some blood work; get things checked out. you may be able to nip a much bigger problem in the bud.
Ha! I might suggest that to the poor
folks who still work there. This woman would probably put them on KP duty, though.
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I would like to suggest one thing to you, OP...SM
Please talk with your husband and tell him that before he makes any more threats about military school or what the next step will be, that it is a decision that the 2 of you make TOGETHER. I have a DD with several psychological issues and what I find is that if DH and I disagree on anything, it's a weakness that she swoops in on. She is a product of your marriage, and your marriage should NOT be defined by her and if you two are not in agreement, that's exactly what will happen. I'll be thinking of you!
You have a lot to deal with here. I suggest (SM)
you take 1 issue at a time. You have a good list started...prioritize based on safety and legal issues. Re the will, POA, etc., download some forms from the internet or buy some...they are widely available. Fill out one of them as a draft, leaving blanks where he needs to give input. Then take it to him, go over it with him, and ask what he wants in the blanks. Then compile a final for him to sign and take him to have it notarized, if needed. Then move on to the next thing on the list. I wouldn't make a big deal out of anything, just make dealing with one thing part of your regular routine when you visit him.
Re the house, spend some time making a safe, clean space in it for him to live his daily life...kitchen, one bathroom, to start. Get and install any grab bars or other equipment he might need. Get him a medical alert necklace for his birthday. I found one at WalMart that doesn't require a monitoring service...it dials 9-1-1 in an emergency.
This is just a start, but that is what you need to do, just start. I hope some of these suggestions are useful.
I was going to suggest the same things...sm
Next time he threatens suicide, call police and get him Baker Acted. Then mental health professionals can confirm what you suspect (true mental illness), or at least find him some outpatient resources.
If not, get restraining orders, at least your mom should.
I know it hurts because it's your dad, but it sounds like it's more than you can handle on your own.
Too funny, I was just going to suggest NOT doing that
Someone already has everyone's address or they wouldn't have gotten an invitation to the shower in the first place. I've heard rumblings at showers when this has been done and some guests just don't like it. Everyone has their opinion and not stepping on toes, but I think it's tacky.
Agree with everything else...the list of gifts for personal thank you notes is very important. And I had the paper plate with the ribbons. Games are always good, too.
Need gardening help. Can anyone suggest a flower sm
particularly one that will come back every year but doesn't have to, to plant in an old, antique bathtub? It's a standard size, sits in a lovely area under shaded trees. It's full of dirt already and I am looking to plant something resilient, yet pretty. The previous owners grew tulips, I believe, in them. I haven't done anything with this tub for 5 years and all of a sudden I developed this green thumb. I have planted gorgeous flowers all over my property and in really pretty containers. I've been spending almost all day outside these past few weeks. I live in AL if that helps you any. Do you have any suggestions? doesn't have to be all flowers - can be greenery with flowers. Like I said, lots of shade......Thank you!!!!!!!! 
Then I would suggest for clean water and
beaches you take them to Cancun. Florida has some bad water and beaches a lot of times. The water in Cancun crystal clear and the sand, no matter how hot it is, never burns your feet.
Want to buy DH IPOD. Can anyone suggest brands?
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You beat me to it! I was going to suggest Estelle Harris
and Renee Taylor (even though YEAH she was blonde). She has the nose but Estelle has the hair. LOL.
I was going to suggest taking a walk, but jumping around
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i suggest making an appointment with your doc ASAP sm
the health of you and the baby might be at risk...why take a chance? you already have enough to worry about and have 3 more months to go! i'm glad you came here for an opinion, but we're not practitioners...i think you need to get off your feet and talk to your doc stat!
Would suggest that Katrina be omitted, at least for a few years! :) nm
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Odo Ban - I highly suggest it. The smell is terrific. sm
especially if you have animals, etc. My friend gave me hers as she bought it from Sam's Club and I love it. You get a gallon jug and then a sprayer. It's an all-in-cleaning. She even puts it in her towels when washing. I just am very pleased with the smell. Just a little suggestion if you are having guests this holiday season!
when u decide on a city, suggest contacting....
I'd call the Chamber(s) of Commerce of whatever city you decide to stay in and ask them the condition(s) of the area(s) post-Katrina.....just my opinion.
Have fun on vacation!!! :)
If it were me, I would go to Dr. Phil Mcgraw web site and email him. See what he would suggest.
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I would say no, I speak though as one of the few who cannot -sm
breastfeed though (apparently something is missing or does not work right anyways ), so both my kids were formula fed. It is dangerous to have it drilled into you that you should breast-feed. I tried and tried not knowing any better and my poor daughter basically starved her first week of life, once the doctor's realized I was not making any milk they/we got her on formula right away. I had been giving her about 4 ounces a day of formula anyway once we suspected something was wrong, but they basically yelled at me for doing that. Luckily my child made it through okay and boy could she suck it down once she had something to drink. Too much emphasis is put on breastfeeding, etc. Most of us were probably formula fed and I am sure we all turned out okay.
Please, you cannot speak for all of us...
because I happen to be a Jewish person who believes ALL PEOPLE are the sons and daughters of G_d......and let us not forget that Jesus was Jewish!
We are all the sons and daughters of The Lord......we all need to open our minds.
Have a GREAT Saturday and Shabbot Shalom!!
Me too, but only if I could speak
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Wanting to suggest a few movies this season. Right now the kids are watching sm
The Chronicles of Narnia and it is such a GOOD movie. Highly suggest this. Also, Elf with Will Ferrell is cute.
Polar Express is great also. With 3 little ones at home, anyone have any suggestions on good "holiday" type movies that won't bore a 4 year old? Thanks!
Can anyone suggest a nice name for a new male Maine Coon kitty?
He will actually be my 5th Maine Coon cat. I am getting him somewhat suddenly because someone else decided to wait for the exact color they wanted. I am fine with the way he looks - silver and white mackrel. What is a nice manly name for a cat? All ideas welcome. You all can always come up with something terrific!
I can't speak from experience, but (sm)
by what you describe, it sounds as if it was caught early. This makes all the difference, from what I have read with all cancers, but especially with ovarian cancer - very hard to detect. So that cyst was probably a good thing for you!! I will keep you in my prayers. Let us know how things go.
Ask to speak with his supervisor and also
write a letter to the bank (and headquarters) telling them what happened and make sure you get the man's name and refer to him often in your letter.
speak for yourself SWEETHEART--sm
but not this person. Just stay away from me...I don't want to get hit by any lightening bolts aimed at you. lol. and please stop trying to shove your atheist beliefs down my throat, too. It is all BS as far as I am concerned.
Excuse, did not speak about yours
you must have been trying to read between the lines and never said anything about your dear one. You imaged.
consider yourself blessed - not many speak same
It's your husband who should speak up for you, but
know that the situation may never change to a warm, loving relationship with your in-laws. I'm in something of the same situation, but nowhere near as bad as yours. I haven't really had to have my husband speak up for me, because in my case, I don't really care to socialize with my siblings-in-law. My MIL was always nice about sitting for the kids, but now that my kids are grown, that's not a factor anymore. The last time we all gathered together was at my FIL's funeral last year.
It is harder when you have little children, and your own supportive family is 3000 miles away. But where you need to place your focus is on your husband and yourself. Talk with him about it, calmly. What does he say? Is he willing to keep his relationship with his family to the courtesy sort of functions where ALL of you are invited? If so, HE should tell them why he is keeping his family (you and the children are his family now) from this toxic situation. And if they agree to have you all at their functions but still treat you badly, then it's your husband who should address the situation with his sisters and mother. If you are the person at the front of this, you will never win. Your husband has to realize that you and his children are his first responsibility, and that he should defend that relationship at all cost.
I do not see how any siblings could ever speak to him again
Maybe they have forgiven but I have heard (not from my friend) but other members of the family he is a gambler, womanizer and really not someone you would want to be around. This, though the friend says, had absolutely nothing to do with wanting the name change but parents are not always someone you can look up to and honor. I respected my father until I found out about the molestation, then no more.
What is the "pop" of which you speak?
Not trying to cause trouble, just don't understand what you are saying.
To the OP - hang in there! It will work out.
It does speak to his character.........
Others can try to sugar coat it or find excuses, but it does speak to his character and what he deems important. Did your daughter speak up and say anything to him about this or did she just sit idly by? I have had the same situation and it does speak volumes for both.
do you speak with your hands - and I don't mean
My husband does not listen to me either. He looks like he's paying attention but he misses half of what I say. Couple thought I have is. Awhile ago we were watching a TV special it said that people listen and remember what you say when you talk with your hands (the study was done on school children). Well I don't talk with my hands. Never have and don't know how and when it do it just looks odd. I told him maybe I should start talking with my hands because then he would remember what I tell him.
I'm not sure if this is a normal thing for guys or not. We've been married 26 years and he hardly ever listens to me. I have to repeat things 2 and 3 times. Once we were getting ready to do 3 errands. As we were driving I asked where he was going and he said to this place and I said no, we have to hit these other 2 places first and he claims I never told him. I said I told him twice and then he became irate as though I was pointing out a mistake (he does not take kindly to me pointing out that he made a mistake even if I say it nicely, but he has no qualms in telling me whenever I made a mistake). Anyway...I don't know when my husband stopped listening to me either. Maybe about 10 or so years ago. He'll listen, but I think a lot of it is if I don't say what he want's to hear he just tunes me out. Our things are not major life threatening issues, but a lot have to do with "what he's going to do when he grows up". He's been out of work for about 5 years now and he doesn't know what he wants to do with his life (he's 50 years old). We will talk and talk and talk and then the next day it's back to square one like I never said anything.
Sometimes what I will do that helps is I take scratch pieces of paper and I write notes on them and them leave them all over the place. Like I keep a running list of errands we have to do and keep it on the corner of the table and a couple times through the week I will say we need to to this or we need to do that, and then I ask him when he would like to go do them (usually it's just the grocery store, or the place to pay our bills), but at least that gives him the option of feeling like he's in control of when its going to be done, when actually I am the one in control because the bill will need to be paid in the week. He too can be disrespectful of me and look at me funny if I'm telling him something, so what I've done is if I get the look from him I immediately stop talking. Then I will say the same exact thing he does to me "your not interested in what I'm saying?"
Maybe the note thing will help, it does with me. I wish you luck.
I guess I can't speak for everyone..
but I did not have that difficult a time stopping. I had tried before, but I could always come up with excuses for myself to keep smoking. For you,it could be different. And, of course, I had the meds. I do hope you will quit, for your health's sake, and I wish you luck. I never meant to sound offensive.
Funny you should speak of this
My now deceased MIL raised some piggies and she named them. I could not go and eat a friend I had named and raised, would be like eating one of my kitties. You know the older I get the more vegetables get to looking better to me just because more appealing to me. Have you ever had any problems like anemia for not having meat in your diet?
Can't speak for Pugmom - but when I see () or J**B
I would much rather read Pugmom's posts than her hater's posts. The poster above needs to learn how to spell. No wonder she is so angry. She is an MT that cannot spell or make a proper sentence. 
Speak to the director of financial aid
Ditto the advice on Voc Rehab.
You should be able to get food stamps *if* you qualify for work-study OR work at least 20 hours/week. I would appeal their denial ASAP. Ask for the caseworker's supervisor and say you want to appeal their decision. They should send you a letter with a "hearing" date on it.
Call and ask to speak with the Director of Financial Aid. Be persistent and keep asking for him. If you can't get through go to the Provost office or some higher up at the college. I've done it with a 18 month old in a stroller at my side! :)
One more thing - every single school I have ever attended had some sort of emergency loan for students. It's usually called a short-term loan or something like that. Also see if you can get $ on your ID card for the cafeteria. That can put that on the loan too.
The writing is on the wall, so to speak
You make a difference in the g'parents- your children are picking up on this. I had a similar thing going on with my son- my mother did all the loving, fun things he wanted- my father (they were divorced, each remarried) was strict, no fun to be around, hardworking but I believed in their being able to share and I did. Both are deceased now and I do not regret having him spend as much time with 1 as the other. Oh, BTW, one of my most enjoyable things as a child was when I spent time with my father and his wife- they had a small garden and I absolutely loved to dig up the potatoes- used to beg to get to do it. You should have a good talk with everyone and insist spending time with all- don’t let your feelings play into their hesitancy on going. Grandparents are not always right but she wants to have some time with them. Not all g'parents want to be bothered with kids, believe it or not.
Excuse me, I speak Jive.
I would love to see a clip of that part again!
Not judging honey, believe me, I speak...
my mind and you could tell if I was judging others. This place is teeming with unhappy, whining, complaining women (just look at some of the posts all over this site) and that is not a judgement, it is fact. As far as being in the same situation as others one day, if you read any of my posts you would see that I have been there, done that and changed my ways. Should something happen, we have learned to save money, have enough put away to last a year and not have to touch any retirement, etc. That took a lot of determination and hard work on our part and we are proud of it.
I am get a good chuckle out of some women who accuse other women of "living off their husbands" and "where would you be without his money". I can make my own money, but my husband doesn't tell me that i need to work and doesn't tell me how much I need to make. He is the provider in this family and has never once asked me to work harder, earn more or get a different job. Remember when men used to do that and our mother's stayed home and raised the family and didn't work? Are you jealous of your girl friends or family members that don't have to work or who live debt free or do you hold that judgement for those you do not know?
Enough of this for now. I'm sure someone will have something to bash me about later on...go ahead, it just shows how very immature some women can be.
You are so true when you speak of the furkids
I lost my older girl last January and she was born and died at my home- she was 18. My grown daughter still can hardly speak of her, gets all misty. I have 3 more but they never take the place of the one who is gone. Each is their own little separate kitty. I told my hubby never could run around, not enough time- got to see about the pets, feeding, watering, treats, it goes on and on all day.
you should speak to your spiritual advisor
Do you attend a church or other religious program? If so, you really should speak to someone there about your situation. I know several of my local churches offer to put together Christmas dinners for those who can't afford to and they've also given cash to them to buy for their families or help with their bills. People are more generous than you might realize.
Do you have children and/or a significant other? Depending on who you need to "shop" for, we may be able to offer nonmonetary suggestions that will make you feel good and the person you're giving the "gift" to.
Things are always worse than they seem. Hope your spirits are lifted soon. Good will.
Take it easy! How many languages do you speak? ..sm
Give some respect to people who are bilingual and even trilingual.
MTing is probabaly the only thing you can do!
The OP complained only about the position of the month and day in the date, geez!
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