I would start charging the JA for room and board - sm
Posted By: on 2008-11-16
In Reply to: I am so fustrated I am in tears...sm - blondie_1147
If he is so lazy he won't take care of his dogs, then he has to pay for the privilege of you doing it. I would not rely on your DH doing squat about it, he doesn't want to upset his friend/friendship. But you will be the *itchy wife if you do it, but then again I wouldn't care and confront the "friend", and tell him the gravy train has stopped and he needs (1) to either take the dogs and take care of them himself, (2) start paying you $200 a week to feed and board the dogs (a bargin)--and if he fails to pay the dogs go to a no-kill shelter (and stick to it), (3) in the future if he does take the dogs back, that he has to find other arrangements for their room and board whenever he is away, unless he pays you in advance with cash and supplies the food.-- yeah he will think you are a shrew but who cares, I'd be so mad at both of them, DH for not understanding and being a wuss for not talking to his friend, and the friend for being the typical male and taking advantage of a good thing. Good luck, and stick it to them!
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So just quit charging when
you pay them off, but don't 'close' it?
First, avoid credit cards, charging....
Try not to use plastic if you possibly can because you'll never catch up. Don't buy anything you don't absolutely need. Make do with food you can prepare yourself. Don't go out to eat. Don't be afraid to ask for help, not money, but help with children, etc., so you won't get stressed out. Most of all, don't let the kids see you depressed, they feel it and get scared. Google for help, such as making your own Play Doh, recipes, help with just about anything, you would be surprised at what you can find out. Just be careful you don't get involved on the Net with wrong people. I watch CNN or CNBC because I want to know what's going on, you HAVE to know so you'll be aware of changes coming. I don't own stock but I want to know what's going on with the banks, etc., so I can avoid making mistakes. Suze Orman said on one show that you should live happily in a shack rather than over your head. On another program, she stated she was building a new home in South Africa. I used to follow her lead, but now I only listen to her when it comes to paying off credit cards, otherwise she doesn't walk in our proverbial shoes. You have to be informed, even if it hurts. Making lots of mac and cheese. I think a lot of this expensive organic stuff is totally overblown. Don't use Starbucks when McDonalds will do; better yet, don't go there at all, stay home! Just my humble opinion, less is more, family is all that counts, don't scare the kids! Leave your 401 alone, it WILL come back, don't despair, it will repair.
but if she is charging for her services, then she is not a charity and would not qualify -
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For those people with school aged children when do vacations start to dwindle and you start getting
ready for school. I usually take a vacation when things slow down at the end of Summer and I am just wondering when in August most people start getting into school things and less vacations are taken.
In MHO when they start asking its time to start explaining.
My daughter and I started discussing the basics in like second or third grade.
Good luck it was much harder for me with my son.
Could someone tell me if there is a Christianity board as well as a prayer board (sm)
or are they one in the same? I have some faith related questions, but don't want to post on the prayer board again if it is specifically for prayer requests. I do not see a Christianity board listed. Thanks so much.
Main board, gab board, company, etc, just like here,
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The room is about 12 x 16 (m)
and then there is a master bath off of it and a walkin closet. The floor has a light carpet kind of the color of oatmeal but it has different specks of neutral colors in it. I was thinking maybe darker colored furniture might look good with the light rug. It also has french doors with windows on either side and an arch window above that with a balcony overlooking a lake. The room gets a lot of light and the woodwork is white.
When I came out to the room they
were in, the 8-year-old was mouthing off the 11-year-old. I said "That's enough." He continued to mouth and my 11-year-old stopped. He then called his 11-year-old brother "A big fat wussy." I told him again to stop or he would be on timeout. My 11-year-old was walking away. My 8-year-old then started after him and pushed him as hard as he could. He's about the same size as my 11-year-old.
I don't tolerate the instigating on either end. But when I said to stop, it should have stopped. My 8-year-old refused to stop. He then escalated it to something physical, which is why he ended up on the chair. I've told my kids time-and-time again to tell me if someone's doing something to aggravate them and they won't stop after they've been told. They know that I will stop it and the one doing the picking will be punished.
I try very hard to dole out my punishments evenly, but in this case, he should have stopped when I told him to. I gave him 2 chances to stop and he still didn't. The pain he inflicted on my 11-year-old was enough punishment. He left a large red area on his thigh and up the side of his back from being pushed into the wall/table and landing on the floor.
my sin. here we go.. is there enough room?
I lie, I covet, I am jealous, I sometimes swear when I am alone, I have stolen when I was younger, I have anger and lash out, I am moody, I am materialistic, I feel hatred sometimes, I have used God's name in vein, I have had lustful thoughts.... the list goes on and on. I am a sinner.
But thankfully for me, what separates me from my sin is Jesus and his death. Since I took his gift of salvation, I am free of my sin. I can be forgiven, it doesnt all stay on top of me. I will be sinless when I stand before God. So everyone sins and telling someone they have sinned is not being judgmental because you are also a sinner. Being judgmental would be pointing out someone's sin and thinking you were better than they are. As Christians we are supposed to tell others about God and what he expects, his love, his rules and all of that. You dont just preach a message of love and tolerance or you are only giving half the story. There is no accountability in that.
I used to be school room Mom
There is a game where you put items in a paper bag like combs, hair things, rubberbands, paper clips, ect. The child is blindfolded or put the bag of goodies behind the back. Let the child reach into the bag and try to guess what he pulls out without looking. Decorating cupcakes is also fun. Take cupcakes or cookies to school and let the kids be creative. Around Xmas we did gingerbread type houses out of gram crackers and icing. Let them make valentine cards for a parent/friend out of paper and allow them to glue on glitter that sort of thing. Good luck!
Would there be room in your suitcase for me?
Because we have freezing rain/rain and it's gray, gloomy and depressing here. 
You might consider doing the living room
(or whatever the fanciest room is) in same color but with a special border tile worked in to set that room off.
Just a thought.
How big a room are we talking?
What color is the flooring?
You can add a second fan if there is room in your tower
That's what my husband did for both our computers, although I made him unhook one of mine because the two fans were so loud when the computer was on that I had a hard time transcribing.
Hopefully they have quieter fans now....
I am in the family room.
All I have is a desk and a filing cabinet, but I also use my desk to pay bills. The kids have their own computer on the other side of the room. I have all of my essentials. I cannot stand clutter though; so I'm constantly straightening things all day. I am the same with my computer desktop; I cannot stand a lot of windows open at once, so I only have open what I need. 
Just don't expect a luxurious room unless you are sm
willing to pay big bucks. Most hotel rooms in New York City are small. The assumption is that people don't spend much time in them, but are out and about. Plan on at least about $200 per night. Maybe a little less if you book far in advance.
I have watched enough court room TV
to know that if someone offers to store stuff for another person, they are obligated to make sure that it is properly taken care of. I remember one case where someone had taken the items that they offered to store and then put them in the hallway outside the unit when they got in an argument. Of course they were stolen! That is negligence. They offered to store them for her. They should have parked them with their own quads, as obviously they thought that was safer than near the street, geez.
I agree that it is sad to lose a relationship over $1700, but they were clearly negligent with her property. If her sister was any kind of a woman, she would have admitted it was her fault. I also think that if she would have just admitted it and said sorry that the OP would probably not have been as upset as she was. I have no doubt some of that resentment is due to the fact that they are taking no responsibility whatsoever.
Go to the emergency room. That's what I ended
up doing for the same reason. I talked to my insurance company and he made me promise that I would go to the ER and tell them that I was in a mentally critical condition. They did give me anti-depressants although it does take a while for the full affect. At least you'll have something on board in the meantime. You should also be able to go to your PCP and get the same results. Whatever you do, go see a doctor. Either your PCP or go to the ER. They do understand and will help.
You will continue to be in my prayers.
I would stop sleeping in the same bed/room as him
Tell him that you can't stand the stench because it can't be good. Not taking care of/repairing your teeth is as bad as not taking a shower/practicing basic good hygeine. It's pretty gross.
You may have to shut them in a room while at night.
The claws are meant for protection if they were to happen to escape from your home. If clawless, they have no defense. We have trouble too with our cat clawing doorjams. I have found though if we close the doors at night, she doesn't do it as much. She is so spoiled though... I do not even practice what I preach, but if you have a spare bedroom maybe you could put them there while you sleep. Cats also like cardboard to scratch. Good luck. I feel your pain.
Same her with regard to messy room
My daughter can be a super slob at times. I ask her if she has someone living under her bed as there's so much stuff under there. LOL. She has to keep it vacuumed and dusted once a week also. As long as it's semi picked up, I have no problem with it.
take dog home with you; put cat in separate room for now.
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Christian chat room
I would like to know if there are any Christian chat rooms for medical transcribers
over the internet, in a chat room
let's just say after we met he grew on me...
Internet Chat Room....
It was actually the screen name that initially caught my attention. It was the name of one of my favorite albums from a guitarist I admire. And the rest, as they say, is history 
no room for logic when you are brainwashed.
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Do you have a friend who has room in their freezer to help you out? nm
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I keep mine in the laundry room also
I also have a fat kitty who LOVES to get in there and pretend he's at the beach. I keep a tiny dustpan and broom in there and probably sweep 3 times a day. Sometimes there will be a huge pile of cat litter. Considering he's an indoor kitty and can't seem to find anything else to do, I just let him be and ask him if he had fun!
I need room under the rock, I didn't know either.
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Mine is in the front room
which is supposed to be I guess the "formal living room", but we never used it for that. I'm right next to two big windows so I can look out and see what's happening around me. My daugher's computer is right near mine so I can monitor her and my youngest daughter uses it for her playroom. I'm somewhat cluttered, but not overly so. Lot of pictures (my autograph collection), pens, scanner, steno book, dictionary. I've love to have doors put in, but I doubt that will ever happen.
Have you tried room-darkening blinds or curtains??
They work better than blankets.
I'm on quitnet for the support chat room.
I will check the others out. Thanks! :)
Poster said only 1 person in room knew who they were and
How do you know I am not?
Our pooch gets embarrassed and leaves the room, too! nm
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I use middle rack unless large cut that needs more room.
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You are saying imprisoned in a room without all their gadgets imprisonment?
Where in the world have you been? I put a grandchild (who lived with us for about 2-3 years) in a room completely by himself, no books, no television, no writing paper and it worked wonders for him. He was a very outdoorsy type person, it was summer, all the kids playing ball, riding bikes and it hurt him to the core. I did not resort to anything except just nothing. You gotta be outta your mind if you call that imprisonment. I call it an excellent way to solve a problem.
When I was about 22 I moved in with a couple who was renting a room (sm)
It was not free rent and not nearly as fancy as the picture in the ad you posted. But I started to notice that there were multiple things around the house with various names on them even though I was the only "roommate" they had at the time. I kept thinking they acted kind of strange but they never really said anything to me...then I started looking at the books on the shelves in the living room...porn type novels, a book on the life story of Linda Lovelace, with lots of details. A couple of weeks after I had moved in they said they were looking for another roommate to move into the room they still had left open. I saw them interviewing a man as I was on my way out. Later when I came back, I saw a balled up sticky note on the floor. I opened it and saw that they had written notes to each other while interviewing the guy. One wrote, "do you think he'll work out?" the other wrote, "maybe. Small guys are usually built big." I started to worry that they were some kind of porn ring and I got the heck out. the next day while they were gone I got my things and left. You just can't be too careful. My sister moved in with a couple once who acted very nice, and yes, they wanted her to have sex with them, so she moved out. If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is, unfortunately. If you want to find a place to live rent-free in exchange for cleaning and errands, you could probably find someone who has a parent who need someone to live with them, or a person with a physical disability who could use some help. I would go that route. Best wishes
naw - that was the old board that did that, aka the 'other' board!
why was it here and not on the Politics board anyway?
I've been in homes with intercoms wired into each room.
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Absolutely!!! Get a room already and stop boring the rest of us!
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You bet! Their poop is greasy and foul-smelling! Ugh..If the room can't
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Buying new living room furniture this weekend...
Can't wait!! :)
tougher? why? so we can leave less room for the real criminals
in jail? yes, let's put all the garden tools in jail and let the child molesters and rapists run free. Great idea.
The corner of the dining room is my office. Thought
about moving to my daughter's old bedroom when she got married, but just never got around to it. 
One time I was typing on a calm Sunday evening and my son came into the room...
said, "I told you we should buy me a new bike," and I looked up at him and his arm was all bloody and his left flank and hip were all bloody and grungy, I shot off an e-mail to whoever was there on Sunday night and took him to the ER with a broken arm. Bike was also unrepairable. By the way, I offered to buy him a new bike not too many days prior to this incident and he said he didn't need one.
We usually stay home but this year we are renting a room downtown (sm)
so we can dance and drink a little and not have to drive. We've never done that before so I'm excited!
I love what my kids say occasionally... "Get a room!' Cracks me up.
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Might try coconut oil from the health food store. It's solid at room temp., so you can rub it in
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Decorated a fake ficus tree in dining room for Xmas one year & never took
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