I would really keep a close eye on her
Posted By: Ortho MT on 2007-07-25
In Reply to: This is the deal... - MSMT
if like you say the distance is making him more psycho. Sounds like a really dangerous character to me. And of course, we both know that "mother knows best" but then again, did we listen to our mothers? NOOO! We did exactly the opposite of what they wanted us to do! We all have to learn our lessons in life the hard way. Like you said, at least there are no children involved. Just count your blessings that she got out before she devoted too many years to this warped relationship!
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We are close in that we live about five miles from each other, but we aren't close like good frie
By husband and BIL WERE pretty good friends, though.
If you are set on closing, do not close the old ones, close a newer account first.
Your credit is based on a mix of things like history, types of accounts, mix of credit (revolving vs installment), usage/utilization of credit available, and payment history. Where closing could hurt your score is the part of the score that averages history of accounts/length of credit. If you decide to close, close out a newer account first.
The best way to protect from ID theft as far as credit is to freeze your credit reports. It's around $10 per agency to freeze them. Each credit reporting agency tries to sell your their own monitoring plan when you get to the how to freeze information, so make
sure you are freezing it.
You can't freeze it over the net they each require a letter by registered mail. It takes about 1 month to freeze it.
Right now you can place a fraud alert on your reports for free. The credit *should* not extend credit or do a credit line increase without calling the phone # on your credit report first. You only need to do it at one credit reporting agency and the other ones will be notfied. The number for equifax fraud alert 1-888-766-0008. It's automated.
If you are concerned about ID theft try one of the monitoring plans. I've tried a few of them and Equifax has the best one. Their Score Watch is great, you set the limits to be notified and any change they send an email literaly the next day. I used it after I discovered ID theft. It might be a waste of money for you. I would place the fraud alerts, then the freeze, and check your reports 2x per year.
I've had ID theft as far as my name/social but what concerns me more than credit ID theft is bank account theft. I don't know how we can fight that. It seems like consumers get the raw end of the deal as far rights when deposit accounts are stolen.
She is only 19 and we are so close sm
I told her this week that I will always love her as her mom, support her like her mom, be concerned for her like her mom, but that we have both allowed our relationship to flower into a friendship where one happens to be 28 years older than the other and that one gave birth to the other.
She has given me so much to be proud of, so much to be thankful for, and this is part of it.
Don't close out your IRA!
Cashing out the IRA has big consequences. Depending on how much is in there you could be getting some pretty big penalties. Not to mention that the value of it is down enough that you're taking a loss even without factoring the penalities into it. The car is still running, right? Granted, you said not for much longer, but it's at least still running now. I would wait. Dealerships are always having sales - even the used car guys. With the economy going the way it is, they're not going to be having much luck and I have a feeling that by the summer you'll be able to find something decent within the range that you've got without cashing in the IRA.
You must have been close to your dad...sm
I have never been close to my dad. Not that I wouldn't be hurt if something happened to him, but I am very close to my mom. You know sometimes you can tell when a parent doesn't want to be bothered with you and I always got that feeling from my dad but never from my mom. I knew he loved me but sometimes he didn't seem to want me around.
if it is close
I would not give one of those slimeballs one more penny, let alone $6,000. That party was a scam all the way. If you have equity in your home, just thank God that you did not get caught up in this stupid 1920's style disaster and pay that house off!
I was close, eh?
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Close to my home!
This happened pretty close to me, actually.
I haven't heard everything, but I guess they finally caught them!!
I have only caught a few pieces of it on the news here and there, running between one thing and the next.
The only thing I've gathered from it is that this lady has had previous problems dealing with social workers--problems as in on her end. This was her 5th child. 3 have been taken away and another had died of SIDS.
The social worker was killed by "several puncture wounds with a sharp object".
That's really about all I know....
Were you guys close before this? I just
cannot believe this has escalated into this now. Even if she couldn't pay for it, she should have just admitted that they were at least partly responsible. To physically attack you though...I mean, this is your sister!
Good luck with everything and keep us updated.
Anyone from Modesto, CA or very close by - sm
I am going to be going out to Modesto next week, and I don't know how long I'll be staying. I was wondering if anyone from that area knew of any "extended stay" hotels or hotels like Towneplace Suites or Hawthorne - that are great for long stays. Or perhaps someone from Modesto or nearby might suggest short stay furnished apartment complexes.
Any ideas would really help. I've been on the internet looking at hotels until I'm blue in the face and soooo frustrated. Please feel free to email me. Thanks again and any ideas are greatly appreciated.
maybe a close relative the pet knows?
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Close to Springfield IL
Wow, you are close to where I live. I live in Virginia, IL which is about 35 miles west of Springfield and my husband teaches and coaches in Springfield. I have always lived around this area and like it very much.
How close are you to Inwood, WV?
My friend Arlene called from there this evening and told me about the lockdown at Musselman HS last Friday...it was just a stone's throw from where she lives and her niece goes there. It appears you're neighbors there in the 4 corners. She's originally from WV....lived here in KY for a while and we sang together for a minute.
I re-read your original post and explained to her about your son having been at VA tech in April...double whammy. How'd that all work out?
Perhaps you'd like to say hello to her sometime....It's always good to find another friend. If so, e-mail me and I'll hook you guys up.  Cat
Just have him standing close would
tell me if he were smoking, it would be obvious. I don’t think I would probably buy the friend story. I probably would have spoke up and said well let me have his number and I will call him so he can come and get…
Very close, up a tad north of you....
My husband refuses to go further north than Tennessee. He believes he will "freeze". I, on the other hand, grew up in the south but have ALWAYS longed to live up north. I have a cousin who grew up here with me. She went to Vermont one year for some job or something, came back home, and said she was moving up there. She did and is now in her late 50's and dreads having to come back down here. She loves it too! She keeps wanting me to come visit but I would want to move even more. Now, I probably will say no to Alaska. I had a girlfriend who moved up there one week after getting married (her husband was from there). She is a southern girl and she was miserable. She would call crying, was thawing her walls out with a blow dryer. I was dying laughing and she was squawling. Twelve years later, she finally told her husband she wand the kids wer moving back south....he could come if he wanted. He did and they have been here ever since.
Close to retirement age (for me), if you could would you
take a reduction of 6% on your social security if you could - mine starts at age 66 and next year I will be 65 so that late would only mean 6% off instead of full social by the age of 66. If you had a chance, would you do that or would you wait until full and then draw plus being able to work?
Is not WellStar close to you
WellStar Cobb- I don’t know if they have nursing school or teaching there but the hospitals, Kennestone, Cobb General- I don’t know which have nursing schools- Atlanta Medical did years ago, but I think you would find out you would probably not have to spend much- if anything- on your schooling. I think it is a win-win situation for you. Good luck!
no longer close....
That is what I thought half would be fair. But I know she wouldn't pay it. Because I have learned how she is. I realize I should have gotten it back way before then but I just said you know I am sure she has it put up and I will get it back. I had no idea she shampooed her carpet that often. And no I will not be loaning her anything else. From now on IF I loan something out( she is an exception I won't be loaning her anything) saying you break it you replace it is a good idea. Let's them no if they can't or don't want to replace it then don't borrow it. I did say something to my husband's brother about it. My husband and her husband are twin brothers. He did not offer any money on it. And when I told him I needed to get half of what it cost he gave no answer. My husband says let it go and learn your lesson to never let them borrow again. But I still think it is only fair to have at least half my shampooer cost paid.
Even though my grandkids very close by
they both drive yet never come this way. Have not seen them now in 2 or 3 years I guess. Got letter from GD when she started college saying shame she saw her great aunt more than me- told her this had gone on since she was first born, nothing new- my DIL never wanted to share with me so I just finally said enough. Tried and tried but her family not only pushed me aside but I really lost my son also, like they engulfed him. Oh well... I have lived at my new home since 2004 and living 15 minutes away, he has never been here. Live and learn.
She didn't come close to us
And as the poster said below her concerts sold out in minutes. I doubt I'd be lucky enough to get tickets. On the upside, we had an amazing time. Didn't get home until 1:30 this morning, so thank God I've been on vacation for the last three days.
If I was close to retirement, then I'd
work in a flower or gift shop or even a coffee shop part-time. It's hard to make any money doing this anymore since everything is either going low-pay/high ESL, or voice recognition, which in my opinion does not save your wrists, and you get paid less to do more as far as I'm concerned. I'm in a bad mood today, can you tell? Sorry to take it out on you, but you asked. I'm no where near retirement age by the way.
Well, rats! So close and yet so far! - nm
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Don't close them if you are thinking about
a mortgage, etc.
I have been advised to leave them open as this raises your "available" credit, thus helping your score.
I have read several articles and the general concensus is to leave them open.
I have a couple the cards are just in the bill folder. Will not use them. However, if the temptation would be too great for you, perhaps you should close them.
How do you like to close your letters?
I use Cordially a lot. I have a new job where I'm writing to business people a lot and don't want to use Cordially all the time, nor do I want to copy what they use.
I've received Best Wishes the most. I guess there are the old standbys, like Sincerely or Sincerely yours (capital Y in yours) but those feel weird.
Can Thanks count?
you are close-minded...sm
What about these other dogs such as German shepards and Rotties, and even some of the little ones like my sister's boston terrier that tried to attack my son? I didn't get angry. I just said you know I know she is sweet with ya'll but she has to stay outside when I go over because she is aggressive towards other people. I have had a poodle try to bite me. I don't ever get mad at the owners cause I know these dogs are gentle and kind with them, but I am not familiar and it is doing what its instincts are, which is to protect its territory and owners. My beagle does not like other female dogs. She will try to bite. If you knew this sweet little beagle you would say no way would she try to bite but with another female dog yes she will. ANY dog can bite. ANY dog can be dog aggressive. ANY dog can be people aggressive. But lets face it, the pit is prejudiced becaues it is a pit. It is a big muscular scary looking dog. So therefore it has no right to share the instincts most dogs have? It isn't a pit thing, it's a dog thing. Banning dogs is unfair. If we are gonna ban dogs then lets be fair and ban ANY aggressive dog. If that was the case and we banned all breeds who showed any aggression we wouldn't have any breeds left because all dogs can be aggressive.
No where even close....100Kyes?? No 5 is avg. sm
But no I have to wait (Express line only - can understand regular line) for somenone to fill out a piece of paper to be handed back to them? Um, No! Sorry, don't care how cute checks are........ years ago had cute ones too then I grew up and done with that. Cute checks do not matter when it comes to "get me out of here ASAP."
1 VERY close friend, about 6 others and sm
my life is full. One of those *friends* is really one of my hangers on and I'd like to terminate that relationship. I terminated one a couple of months ago, and 2 others last spring because I really will not tolerate being asked for money.
I have a couple of local friends, not MTs. I have 2 or 3 long distance friends who are MTs. I have also recently reconnected with a childhood acquaintance whom I have not seen for 36 years.
It is not that I am unfeeling or unfriendly, but I find anymore that my new friends feel close to me long before I really feel much of anything towards them. I think I am slow to buddy up the way others do.
Not an oxymoron but close enough
that it is difficult to find jobs like that (especially in certain areas of the country).
Funny you mentioned Chuck E. Cheese Mouse ... I always thought it would be fun to be a sports team mascot.
I'd like to learn how to make pottery but never thought of working in a studio. Not bad!
I'm too wimpy for the circus, and I wrap like a two year old. Lol Oh well. : )
don't know how close a friend she was
and of course don't give her any more money, but she may be really desperate. With the economy the way it is I think we are going to see people get more and more desperate and do things they would never do otherwise. If it were a really close friend of mine I would probably sit her down and express my concern. She may feel awful about herself because she is so out of control.
I'm close to being in your shoes
Lots of sharp replies from people who probably don't know the whole story.
I've been fighting it for some months now and it is going to take months before I can recover. An MTSO I worked for lost a client in November, but that was okay because I had a doctor account and a second MTSO job to pick up the slack. In February the first MTSO lost another client and as I was low man on the totem pole, my account was given to those without work and I was let go. Still okay, I thought, because I would just make the second MTSO the primary MTSO...which worked for about a week when I got the notice that MTSO was cutting my pay by 70% by switching to VR editing. Okay, I had some notice and I found another company to make my primary MTSO but it has taken time to build up my lines - took a pay cut but grateful to have a job and still had the doctor account. Now I've heard this new MTSO will soon be switching to VR editing. 
I had just signed the lease on the apartment I am in. I am single with no family to help and have a 6 yo child to raise without CS. Everyone goes through a bad patch sometime in their life and I hope this is as bad as it gets. I have my health and the ability to look for another job. My LL has been very understanding and is working with me for a couple of months. Even though money will still be tight for a while, at least for another month there is a roof over our heads and a chance to work to turn things around.
I hope things turn around for you soon 
Having seen this whole thing go down up close and personal =
I have been divorced 13 years, had daughters 8 and 12 at the time, and his mother came first. She seemed to glory in coming between us - it became a game that I was not going to win. There's one thing that I don't think anyone else has brought up yet. Children learn what a relationship should be from watching how their parents treat each other. It became apparent to me that I did not want my daughters to chose a man who treated them the way their father treated me. It has been difficult and I have not had a life because my kids really had to come first and I had to work all the time to keep them comfortable - but I knew I had made a horrible choice and hoped that I could salvage their future relationships.
Look for close by package deals...sm
There are lots of places that you can get married without it costing a lot of money and have the pictures, minister, music, flowers, reception, etc. and keep it small in size.
What state do you live in so we can help you find places?
Well, your Realtor wants to close the deal.
Therefore she will have certain agreements with this guy, though I'm sure he would say he's independent.
Have been married to close to 10 years
and what in the world are you talking about that a relationship requires work? My hubby and I really mesh together wonderfully and I work at my job, but at my marriage?? We love each other, respect each other, care about each other and I am puzzled by the having to work at a marriage....What is hard about a marriage?
I just rec'd a call from a close friend who was just dx with sm
mitral valve regurgitation. From what it sounds like it is a severe case - sudden onset of shortness of breath, chest pain, etc. Does anyone have any info on this on a personal level, i.e., you have it or someone you know have it? She is so young - 38 - and her husband is serving in Iraq. She takes care of 2 small kids at home by herself. What kind of hope does she have? I know of 2 surgeries - repair, annuloplasty, etc., but what else is there to do? She left the hospital on no meds. They told her they would contact her Monday when the doctor was in. Of course, this is the military for you.
I am so concerned for some reason. Her kids are off staying the night at a friends tonight so she can sleep (this is unusual). Also, she told me she just can't get out of bed in the morning anymore (for the past week). From what I read this is the "late" stages, severe cases (extreme fatigue). Whereas some with MVR have no symptoms at all.
Any help would be appreciated here. Thank you so much.
snuggle him close every night :-)
I would just lay with him at night until he falls asleep for a while. Yeah, it's babying him and maybe even spoiling him a little - but they're only little for a little while. He just wants to feel close to you and feel secure. May be feeling like he is growing up and not sure if he is supposed to be a baby or a big boy. My kids are most susceptible to those kinds of feelings when they are tired. Just lay with him and snuggle him at night until he goes to sleep and hopefully he will forget about it soon.
How horrible. My family and I are so close.
I cannot imagine even using such terms about my family.
Death of someone you have a close relationship
even if they are not related by blood.
In 1990, my husband and I decided for the first time since we had been married to spend Thanksgiving with his family instead of with my family (we always did a Sunday Thanksgiving with his family before because my family was so large and his family was smaller).
My father died that Thanksgiving night. It took me 10 years to forgive myself for not being there that day. I have empathy for anyone who suffers a loss around a holiday, but hey, that's just me.
He is really close with his sister even with the distance between them...sm
They talk almost everyday on their cell phones since there are no roaming charges. He talks to her while he's driving home from work. She brings up the graduation a lot so I think the longer he waits to come up with a solution, the worse she'll take it.
And if he does end up going, I'll be so disappointed.
Being close does not make it okay that she walks
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Close down the cell phone
I bought a cell phone from Radio Shack. It's pay as you go. I'd play innocent to him and say...oh no, someone must have gotten a hold of our phone number because there is over $150 of charges to some phone sex place. Then tell him your going to the police to fill out a fraud report. If he then admits to it you should tell him that if he wants to do that (call sex places) fine, but he should respect you enough to tell you about it. Then I'd have a serious conversation about our future together and then tell him if he wants to continue to buy his own cell phone with pay as you go and he can work the extra hours to pay for the bill.
Hoppy is rather handsome, now that I seen him close up, not
the real one, he would be about 104 by now, but the Hoppy look a like at the Cowboy Festival.com. Also check out Stagecoach.com, a little more pricey but more popular persons...
We had an extremely close call...twice
One night our family went for a walk our neighborhood. DD had our Maltese on a leash and DS has our Jack Russel on a leash. It was just turning to dusk and a car was coming up behind us. Our neighborhood is a housing development so there are no sidewalks. We separated DH and DD went to one side of the road and DS and I went to the other side. Well our maltese is attached to me at all times and didn't like being separated from me. She pulled so hard she broke the little metal ring on the harness and ran right in front of the car. The car wasn't going that fast but some how Casey ended up running out the back of the vehicle and straight home he was so scared. I was screaming, we raced home and there he set on our front porch with a tiny little cut on top of his head. The people in the car did stop and then came to our house to check on him.
The next scare was even worse. Took both dogs to the vet and DD was taking them to the car while I was paying the bill. She ran back inside and said Lilly (the Jack Russell) got loose. I ran out the door as Casey was running back inside (looking for me). Well went spent 20 minutes running all over the neighborhood trying to find Lilly. Finally she had run in someones garage and when they realized what was happening shut the garage door and then let us in their front door so we could get her. Thanks heavens there are real animal lovers out there.
Not completely broke, but close
We live paycheck to paycheck for the most part. My paycuts really did our savings in. The bills are still all the same things and they get paid.
Hope for savings in the future is not too great. We rent and probably won't be able to buy a house till the kids are all off at college. Same for the cars. They are old and they run. I am grateful for that, as I have no car payments and they are too old for full coverage insurance.
We support 5 people on about $2500 a month for 8 months out of the year and about $3000 for the other months.
My mom lives close and it's nice
My mother and my siblings and I all live within about a 10 mile radius. The grandchildren can go to grandma's anytime they want. They are in and out sometimes every day. They like to spend the night at grandma's house and she likes to have them there. They keep toys and extra clothes there just in case and they have their own dresser drawers, spots in a closet, etc. She's a great mom and is the one person any of us will leave a sick child with when we "absolutely" have to. BUT my mom likes to have her own space. She likes the fact that she can "just say no" (which she rarely does) and that they go home when she's tired. Sometimes it's as casual as picking her up and all of us going out to lunch and then back home, but the kids see her at least 3-4 times a week.
None of us have ever taken advantage of her as a babysitter and "dumped" our kids on her. We respect her schedule and plans. She loves seeing the kids. My niece cut her first tooth at grandma's house. She got to see them grow and saw how much they remind her of their parents, her children. I think she would have missed out on a lot had we all not lived so close. Both sets of grandparents lived 350 miles away when I was growing up and I hated it, as we only got to see them a few times a year.
I mean:..'not a very close relationship....nm
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Well, any healthy relationship should be close to equal
My husband works FT and still helps out a lot around the house. I only work PT, so I usually do the cooking, helping our daughter with homework and most of the cleaning. My husband always cleans the kitchen after I cook (and vice versa) though and he cleans the bathrooms. We also alternate doing the laundry. So, I'd say everything evens out to be pretty close to 50/50 in our relationship. We are truly best friends and we treat each other as such, and I would never dream of "serving" my man - that's just a ridiculous statement! I even had that part taken out of our wedding vows! If it becomes a problem where you feel like you're being taken advantage of, then you need to sit down with your husband and let him know that he needs to pull his own weight or you won't be happy. Good luck!
I can't even watch...I'm gonna close my eyes.
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She's 64, so close to his age. She is a widow whose late husband... SM
left her well taken care of, but she pinches pennies like she's poor. My dad is footing the entire bill for this thing. I guess she add, that she strung my dad along for like four years. She couldn't decide if she wanted to marry him because he was divorced and she didn't think God would want her to marry a divorced man seeing how "God hates divorce." Yet, there was nothing wrong with dating a divorced man, letting him pay for cruises, dinners, doing maintenance on her house and car, mowing her lawn, etc.
Then after four years when he was getting ready to retire and move south, she up and decides she will marry him and now this obnoxious wedding! I'll be honest, I kind of hoped she would keep saying no and dad would just retire and that would be the end of it. Now, I'm faced with the reality that she is going to be, *gulp*, part of my family and it's killing me.
Ah well, thanks for listening to me. I just needed to tell somebody how I felt cause I keep all to myself most of the time.
Try to be close to schools and to things for kids to do, even once she's
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I am close to retirement age and got property taxes
just a few days ago, about $2,250.00- I called and asked if I got anything off when I reached another age, say 70 or so and was told in 2009 I will have reached the golden age of 65 and my taxes would be only about $800.00 per year! Good Golly Miss Molly, talk about good news! The school tax break comes through then for me. There are some good things that come with aging and this is one!
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