I would probably talk to the police...sm
Posted By: curious girl on 2009-05-19
In Reply to: How do you get your neighbor to keep the music down - frustrated beyond all recognition
Maybe they could go pay him and his parents a visit.
There is no telling what my husband would do. I don't want to think about it. He would probably go to jail for beating the kid. LOL
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Report him to the police, let the police...
help you solve the problem.
It is obvious that you and your mom alone cannot do it on your own.
You are much too lenient, if you let it go on, it will not end well.
Did ya ever just wanna talk about nuthin' just to talk?
As I said before in another post, I miss everyone so much...
So, I have absolutely NOTHING to talk about. Love my new job, love that spring is on the way, and I love that my belly is absolutely filled up with pancakes my husband kindly made for me just now...even though it's lunchtime and not breakfast. I'm one of those freaks that could eat breakfast-type foods at every meal.
...and that reminds me that it's almost that time of year to order some baby chicks for next month. Laying hens, not for meat or anything, just eggs and entertainment. I can't wait for warm weather--it's been a long HARSH winter this year. In fact, I think we're due for another ice storm at the end of the week.
I hope everyone who stops by to read my note about nothing finds themselves and their families in good health. Miss you all, even the ones that can't stand seeing that "Hayseed" name up there.
Go try it, talk, talk and listen sm
Counselors are trained to "listen" and direct you to talk (not them). I have transcribed many, many mental health reports. They do dig deep and keep it going for a very long time, very long, usually (perhaps not for you). But if you both don't tell the truth, you are wasting your money, so why not just get it all out on the table and get it over with and get on with your lives? Don't pussy foot around, get it all out and deal with it. Gosh, life is too short to put on a show, it's not a dress rehearsal, it's life. Go forward, forgive, forget and forge ahead. Don't need a degree for that!! But a little help can't hurt. Might help.
And what would the police have done? I'm sure the police sm
have a lot of things going on they have to attend to, like traffic accidents, etc. What could the police have done in this situation? Make the lady take the dog to the vet? Take the dog themself? I don't know of any policeman who would have been able to do anything except maybe give the dog's owners a ticket for allowing loose dogs to lie in the street. Yes, it's a sad situation. But it was not the driver's dog. I don't think she had any obligation whatsoever to this dog or its owners. Dogs do not belong in the street!
I'd still try the police
Chances are good the little varmint is on their radar for something else. If they do come out, and if they manage to come out often enough, maybe Mom will get po'd enough to do something about it. Or maybe he'll do something stupid enough with the cops there that they take further action.
The police have enough to take care of besides
a person calling them if they got a card from an unknown person?? That is not what the police are for, them out investigating a birthday card and someone else is being robbed, assulted or whatever.. My goodness, think about your answer before you do post. The person on the post seems to be a caring person. If you have emergency, then the police should be called!!
Have you tried calling the police?
I live in a quiet suburb of a larger city and the police are very strict about keeping the peace and keeping out the riff-raff. I've been here about 16 months and I've called the police about 8 times. Other neighbors also call. Nothing much gets done because the hoodlumbs are too smart to be caught red-handed. But there's a long list at the police station of how many times the cops have been called to that address.
The police should be told about this, & maybe someone in the
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You can get a police escort to go with you (sm)
If you have somewhere else you can go, you can get the police to escort you to get your things.
I would call the police for sure and
state to them you feel there is abuse going on. You can remain anonymous. I once went to look at a puppy for sale and the breeder brought him out into the living room. The puppy wouldn't even come out from under the table. It was so scared. I left there thinking I'd never seen a puppy act that way and it weighed on my mind. A few days later I read in the paper this man had been arrested for cruelty to animals. Trust your instinct and report this.
definitely would call police
and file a report. Then i would inform hospital that if the ring is returned within 24 hours, no charges will be filed, no questions. Otherwise it will be vigorously pursued.
And others can't help being the niceness police.
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Keep calling the police and s/m
You can get restraining orders for longer than 10 days. The initial one is always temporary. She needs to see an attorney on top of the cops. It sounds like the cops are sympathizing with him and not doing their jobs properly. The cops can verify how many times they have been called and have come out. This is what the judge needs to issue the restraining order. I would keep calling the cops and documenting EVERYTHING. This is about the only way to get him to stop. You need to do the same. It sounds like your dad has either a serious mental problem or is just a kid that never grew up and needs to get over himself. An attorney can get you more information on the restraining order, but the first time he violates it, you need to call the cops. Who cares if he takes off? The cops have an OBLIGATION to go and check it out. If he is a habitual offender of violating it, they can make him wear an ankle bracelet to track him. There are things that can be done, but only you and your mother can make it happen. You can't just sit back and take no for an answer. Be strong, otherwise you'll be dealing with this the rest of your life.
And if the police and school do not take it seriously s/m
as some small towns do, I would also call the local newspaper, television station, etc until you get the results that you want. Zero tolerance is zero tolerance no matter who it is.
Please report this to the police (sm)
This is threatening and dangerous behavior. he is not afraid to knock on your door or to leave a note. Please call the police and report this immediately.
Thought Police
Oh, heck. So she has the hots for a boy-toy. Big deal! Who cares!? She already said she's not going to do anything about it.
We all have thoughts, fantasies. I'm assuming you're human & have them too. I know I have. I just figure it's some primal response to height or face shape or jaw prominence or something else that the godhead specifically engineered in order to ensure survival of the fittest, & I just laugh & forget about it because regardless of biology, the social situation won't accommodate it. As it sounds like OP has done.
Relax, for heaven's sake. Thoughts do not abuse make.
The police can watch your car --sm
while you testify. This is not their first rodeo ride either, and probably get this all the time. Let his friends try it and get caught. Then you can testify against them too. ha ha. Glad to hear you are going!! thumbs up!
I would call the police now - he was scouting to see if you were alone and if there were any men
About 5 years ago an MT was murdered in Knoxville by someone selling magazines. She worked for a national and was alone, but in a nice neighborhood, upstairs working in a townhouse. That guy may seem weak enough but he may have partners. Didn't mean to scare you, but it really made me get cold chills.
Yes - I saw one here who helps with police cases
and she was very accurate. I do believe some people have this gift. If you think about it, shows like Medium and Heroes are becoming more and more popular and I think people are opening up to the fact that this is real. I love John Edward too but he's booked for the next trillion years!
I can't believe all of you are upset about the police comment...
but not that she will be sent to a "meaner mom and dad". lol Priceless and typical.
To me, no biggie. Plus I don't particularly like cops ;)
Poster was having a moment. There is far worse people say and do to kids. And that can be turned around, easily. Geez.
:)
Spelling police? Pleeeeeze no...
Unless you NEVER make mental errors (its versus it's, your versus you're), please don't correct our mistakes. Rest assured, I always kick myself when I see a typo or grammatical error that I've made without anyone having to point it out. However, this board being named 'gab' implies a casual come-as-you are atmosphere...i.e. no spelling police. We will return the favor. Thanks!!! 
It is better to call the police or the ambulance
if he is in such a miserable condition. Sleeping his stupor off in his truck.
He might die due to alcohol poisoning.
Do something, have him institutionalized and get rid of him. He is playing you! Don't let there be a next time, worse than this time.
yes, but I did apologize for being the spelling police.
I still think you should contact your police dept...
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Spelling police is not necessary on the MTStars forums.
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But why didn't you just call anonymously? The police could have sm
taken care of it had you called anonymously. You didn't have to be outside with him while the dog was barking. I don't understand.....
Call womans shelter/police and ask them where to
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Ask for first/last name and then call local police department
to see if they will do a check on these people to see if there are any reports of misconduct. This sounds too good to be true, actually. Light housing for free rent may lead to cleaning the pool and pressure washing the house.
I have been trying to find a room mate off Craig's List. There are many legitimate but why take a chance of ending up profiled on Nancy Grace, is my thought. Another woman I know who has done this successfully takes their name and birth date and calls the local police dept. She said when she tells them she is a single woman and about to interview a stranger for a roommate, they oblige.
I'd also say, take a gun if you have one.
Robbery is going to skyrocket in this economy. That is another concern.
You can get in trouble for being spelling police here but as far as living
where I live, these places can be rural as well as in the city- I don’t want to put up with undesirables. Take that anyway you would like.
Well, I called the police, told them the situation
and they came by and picked him up because he had a warrant for his arrest. Apparently, the last time he was in the ER, he had gotten combative and tried to escape and in the scuffle of the EMTs, nurses, doctors, and security guards trying to get him into the restraints, he kicked a security guard in the face who then decided to press charges because he had already been subjected to verbal abuse from him.
The police told me they are going to take him to the station, call the city where the warrant is and let them come and pick him up and decide what to do with him. I told the police officer that I would not be going to the ER if that is where he ended up. I would not be bailing him out of jail. And I didn't want him back. Tomorrow, I'm seeing an attorney about the legalities of keeping him out of the house and getting a court order to keep him away.
I still want him to take the airline ticket I bought him and go to his dad. I don't know if his father wants the responsibility but I don't care. Somebody other than me needs to take care of him.
Thanks everyone for listening and advising and encouraging.
Send the police to his house, this will teach him
a lesson, it is harassment.
Gift Ideas for a new police officer? sm
My nephew is graduating from the Police Acad. in a couple of weeks. Does anyone have any ideas what would be a good gift? I hate giving money. I did look on line and got some ideas but I thought I would ask to see if anyone has had experience with this. TIA
The local police department told me to call them so
I called the department back (not 911) and advised them to please not tell anyone else that. I also had the email address for this person at Paws and sent her an email telling her sorry I got her at a bad time, did not mean to interrupt her day and to have a nice day. I went back within the next week to check again on this doggie, no other reason. Hubby did not particularly like when I told him (later after the deal done) but fed her again and then followed her to see where she was going. She went to some homes close around and I figured maybe that was where she lived. No one that I called there seemed to have wanted to give assistance. I could not bring her home when I first saw her because noticed she had droppy boobies and need puppies close around, but ?? I never expected a reply like that from someone who supposedly helps animals. Makes you kinda cynical, doesn’t it?
Cut the snippy remarks back and forth. Spelling police are not
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I am wondering why you didn't immediately call the police
from your cell or if you don't have one go home and call and then stay there with the dog until they arrived? I'm shocked.
A few weeks back I posted about calling the police s/m
about dark barking next door to me. If you remember, I was feeling a lot of guilt and sadness in the beginning because I love dogs so much and did not want to do anything to make things worse for them.
Well, at first my very verbal neighbor was very compliant and I almost never heard a bark for the first two weeks. Now since Wednesday (my day off, thankfully) the large dog who sits at the back door wanting back in the house is being kept out almost the entire day again. Wednesday morning was terrible. I kept looking out the window seeing him sit by the door, and any noise that I make in my kitchen or the guy downstairs might make obviously gets him going again. If you remember, this young guy next to me got furious, was waving his arms and screaming at me in front of the police. I don't think I have to tell you that I don't want to do that again. Why would anyone buy a beautiful dog just to put it out and have it bark to get back in? He has been sitting there now since 7:30 a.m. and it is now after 10:30 am. He does not bark continously, but on and off for hours and hours, sometimes with a minute or so break. It is warm, nice sunny weather here, so the dog is not in extreme heat or cold. They take him in at night. I have been going through a depression that is impossible to describe. I can't afford to move, but I am so tired of seeing this poor thing sitting by the back door in an array of toys, debris, etc. This was a decent neighborhood before Mr. Inconsiderate moved next door. If I call the police again things will be terrible. I live here alone. Thank you just for listening. The dog is not the problem. He is a beautiful dog and just wants to go in. He deserves a better life. They also have two Daschunds and they are inside most of the time. The big dog is not tied and has a small yard to run in while he is out.
Her name is Kodiak. She is a retired police & search & rescue dog
She is 8-1/2 years old.
He was police officer...kinda makes ya think...verdict in..sm
He got life with the first chance at parole 57 years from now (he'll be 87yo by then), all counts running consecutively (one on top of another) as opposed to concurrently (roll them all together which woulda been 30 years). If he conducts himself well, he may be allowed parole in 52 years.
A lotta people in authority positions think they can do what the want and get away with it.
He's not gonna like it in a federal penitentiary with folks that he put in there when he was one of the "boys in blue".... all of them have moms, aunts, sisters, baby daughters....It ain't gonna be pretty.
I would have called the police right from the start, especially with underage drinking.
the mother could be brought up on charges of furnishing aldohol to minors for starters. Don't put up with it for another minute. The police will not tell who called, they just show up on the door step and take care of business.
Good luck.
Taking refuge as grammar- and speling-police
you are just jealous, living in the woods, confusing typos with spelling errors you cannot even prove.
I do not 'hate' Pugmon, I just dislike her stories.
I pity and pray for you.
What made you so bitter?
In what ambience do you live that you enjoy 'toilet' stories?
There is nothing funny in this story to be posted on the board.
And I know for sure that you just jump to read our posts, you comment on them.
I totally agree....sociopaths, for one, are not afraid of or intimidated by the police.
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spelling police beware the swift correction of the administrator! ha! nm
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Call Animal Control in stead of the police. Maybe they'll take the dog
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From what the police have uncovered so far, it doesn't seem to be heading to a good outcome
I agree it's very fishy that the grandmother didn't ever have the opportunity to drop off or pick up the little girl from the babysitter. Considering she and the mom lived with the grandparents, you'd think she'd have had one opportunity in these years to have met the babysitter. Well, it's all fishy. Seems to not be heading to a good outcome. Don't know what the mom is trying to prove by not saying anything and the grandma... she's a real piece of work.
Have a talk with your son
Any discussion or decisions about your son's feelings should be done with your son. This is an ideal situation to guide him in a positive direction. First of all, you are his mother and always will be. She may be doing the parenting tasks for now, and should be respected for giving of herself, but she should not interfere in your relationship with your son. Unfortunately that happens too often in families of divorce these days.
Ask how he feels about what is being said. Ask how he responds to it...or does not not respond at all. There may come a time where he listens to the garbage, then can stand up to her and say, "Aunt _____, I appreciate everything you are doing to help me with letting me stay here. There are some people who would not do what you are doing for me. But, my mom is my mom and I love her. She is always going to be my mom and you are always going to be my aunt. I feel I am lucky to have two different mom figures in my life that I can count on to help me learn how to deal with adult problems."
This sounds really dorky and I'm sorry others were as harsh towards you. I hope you put your own feelings in check and focus on your son's feelings as those being the ones that should be focused upon. He will be coming back to you one day, and everything that happens while he is away will stay with him. How you react is going to have more of an impact than what she says/does, especially when it is negative.
I know something of what you are going through. I am raising my grandchild. My ex's family did not speak to me for 10 years, but now that I have custody of my grandchild, for my ex's sake, they have been more genuinely caring and welcoming to me than my own family. There are a lot of words from the past being swallowed by my ex-SIL. I have proven that beyond myself, my decisions first reflect the best interest of the child. Everyone, even the child, feels it and knows it to be true. From that, respect is being rebuilt.
Good luck to you and your son.
I would talk to him/her
about the symptoms you are having and any family history of illnesses - more than likely they'll do some blood tests to rule out other things first. I had 11 of 18 trigger points on the day of my first visit - you can Google trigger points and it will tell you where some of them are and base it on that - but if your doctor suggests that it is all in your head and you continue to have problems please see another doctor - thankfully my doctor was very understanding and after I kept a log for 3 months of all my symptoms he then referred me on to a rheumatologist and this doctor has been wonderful - I see him every 3 months for routine blood work and medication adjustment if needed - they don't just dope you up on a bunch of narcotics - he also tries behavioral modification along with medicine - so I'm pleased .... Again best wishes.
Definitely talk to him
Sit down with him and tell him very calmly that you feel uncomfortable with this situation and ask him why he feels the need to do this. No matter what he says, keep your cool, and do your best not to say anything to make him feel defensive. Just be very clear about your feelings and your desire for him to stop this behavior.
To be honest, I doubt very much he will change, and I don't blame you for not wanting to live with this situation. The reason I am suggesting that you talk to him about it is to make it clear to him exactly what the problem is so that if/when you seek a divorce, he cannot claim that he didn't know there was a problem.
Internet addiction, particularly internet porn addiction, is a serious problem and is not easily "cured". I'm glad the two of you don't have any children. That will make things much easier, at least when it comes to legalities. Emotionally I know it is devastating, and I am very sorry you are going through this.
Not to talk about it
I have NO problem with the "poor" being treated medically or otherwise -- what I as an "American" have a problem with are ILLEGAL immigrants coming into this country and expecting things to be handed to them on a "silver platter." I have lived in Southern California, Nevada and NOW here in Miami and let me tell you if you DON'T speak Espanol in Miami, you are SOL!!!!!
I have also worked for state and federal agencies where I have seen minorities (excluding Caucasian women) getting preferential treatment.
Granted, this country was built on people immigrating to this country, however, it has now gotten to the point where our children and grandchildren have to learn to speak Spanish as THAT has become "the language of our country" and we as citizens are having all of our rights and laws taken from us -- for example, do a search at the state laws that "passed" as of July 1 -- Virginia's being the worst by far -- as AMERICAN citizens as well, we have by CONSTITUTIONAL law, the right to defend ourselves and our property, but those rights are slipping away as well.
Why? Because "All We Like Sheep" -- we need to learn that doctors and healthcare professionals are like we are -- I had one resident whom I kidded and joked that with his handwriting, he would never make it as a doctor because his writing was too clear -- stand up people for what you believe in -- look at the laws that have been passed and take it to your representatives, and forward -- THEN maybe when the voice gets strong enough, we can be heard as MTs and make a difference
Off DE soapbox for now
Talk
To the teacher, principal, someone at school.
Well of course I have tried to talk to him (sm)
For years...talked and talked, went to counselors, read books, prayed, begged, cried. It's not like I just pretended there wasn't a problem and started talking to other men.
talk a lot,
determine where your hearts and committments are. You can get past this and have a marriage better than ever, if it is what you both determine to do. Time and effort, not to mention prayer, can heal.
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