I would never sue my family. We are out the $$ and out my sister.
Posted By: SM - AzMT on 2006-11-16
In Reply to: I didn't say she should sue them. I said that - TM
Maybe I could've forgiven her for putting her hands on me, but now she is 100% lying and saying that didn't happen. This I don't think I can forgive.
I'm done with this and am going to move on. Unfortunately, my family dimensions are different now and that is sad.
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Can anyone tell Jan a sister-in-law is not family as far as blood relative, my goodness!
Her children, the children of my brother, would have been heirs BUT Jan, you need to understand TVA which is a huge place, never found them and took a year trying to do so. I never knew this money was there, never had anything to do with obtaining the money up front, nothing. TVA contacted me. I had to get death certificates which I was questioned about being as it was my stepmom and the dept wanted to know WHY I wanted that. I got her death certificate, the death certificate of my brother, the names- do you realize that I had to have this all notarized as to telling the truth. I do not now nor have I in the past years since 1973 had AN ADDRESS FOR THE SIL AND HER CHILDREN, MY NIECE AND NEPHEW. This has been 36 YEARS AND NO ADDRESSES. If the TVA (Tennessee Valley Authority) could not find, how was I supposed to find? You want me to hire a detective on my MT salary and go hunting is that right? You want me to take off from work and go to another state and look for someone when I have NO ADDRESSES in 36 YEARS and I might find? I probably would not have a job when I got back as even taking off long enough for a doctor's appt is frowned upon but you want me just to leave my home and look for persons I have no contact with. Do you understand how you sound? Why can you not get off this soap box and put more attention on your own affairs, that is the money your sister is getting off your mother. I understand where you are coming from but this has been settled now at least 3-4 years. I have stolen from no one. I did get 1 phone call after my father's funeral (remember those same kids you have said I stole from that did not show up at the funeral home nor funeral, they must have really cared about their g'father) and after about a week the SIL called to see what kind of money had been left to her son, my nephew. She was able to call because he wanted to see what he had coming to him. Don't give a flip about g'father, only the money he might have for you. None was there then. Take a rest, ok?
Okay, my sister and I are doing Thanksgiving this year and since my sister can't cook, that means
I'm doing the cooking. My sister gets equal billing cause we're doing it at her house. :) Soooo, I'm looking for some vegetable ideas. I am about sick of green bean casserole! Does anyone have any really tasty recipes for vegetables side? Any kind of vegetables. I'm looking for something different and fabulous.
I had a corn casserole at one potluck I went to, but never got the recipe. Anybody got a good corn recipe?
Thanks Ladies!
Family is great but I am never back in my hometown where family is... So I always have extended fami
You can always pick your friends your stuck with your family. An Xmas for me is where my husband and kids come home to. It is what you make it!
Summer. Friends or family? Family. Tired or Awake?
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Big difference between family values and family jewels, eh? lol
LOL. I love this show. I think Gene and Shannon and her sister are a riot! What characters. It really is amazing to me the kids seem so laid back and so normal. They seem like great kids.
Does your family still do the early Sunday dinner w/family?
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SIL family, us and another family snacked,played
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My sister did
My sister changed her OB in the last 2 weeks, but it was because she moved. She had an appointment to see an OB in her new town, went in and took her records, did some paperwork. Then, she went into labor the day before her appointment was scheduled. So, she met her new doctor in labor and delivery.
But, it was her 4th baby and the first 2 were born in military hospitals, so she was up for anything.
How are you supposed to contact your OB if you go into labor if they don't have an answering service? This is very strange.
My sister-in-law comes
About every 3 weeks and does a good cleaning. 2 bathrooms, 1 bedroom, kitchen and living room. I pay her $40/visit. Hubby's bathroom can get quite bad, so she gets a $5 or $10 tip if it's worse than reasonable. Then I just run a vacuum and keep the dishwasher and laundry caught up between.
I hate housecleaning and she needs the money, so it works out for us.
My sister is one
Had to break any ties with her 8 years ago. She recently contacted me and still does not understand while I will not speak to her. She is upset that she has missed my children growing up. But they are the reason I finally broke ties with her. She was bringing too much trouble and grief to my family and saying inappropriate things about our mother to them. She is 53 and still is fixated on all the wrongs done to her when she was 5. I finally said enough is enough. Have never been happier.
My sister and I both used it
I had good results initially, but then not so much. I didn't feel it was worth the money. My sister had fantastic results and it even faded a lot of her scarring on her chin and jawline.
My sister says it does (sm)
She lost about 40 pounds recently and says Hoodia helped her a lot. In fact her doctor told her to continue taking it. She has diabetes and is very overweight. I am trying to lose too! I have used hoodia before but didn't think it helped much. I just started taking Cordyceps mushroom capsules and am going to try Curvelle as soon as I can find it available somewhere. Good luck to you!
My sister . . .
made her hungry all the time, bloated and gained 10 pounds. Other than that she feels way better.
me ex-sister-in-law
totally different situation -but sounds the same in that maybe the child's mother is in denial????
I'm with ya sister....
unless you want predispose your child to becoming a ne'er do well, not to mention looking like a girl. Might as well get the mullet for the complete look!
My sister
has PMDD, and she takes Prozac with great success. I believe I just have PMS, but Prozac is not a good drug for me because of the side effect of apathy I get. If you take it and find yourself wading through dirty laundry, you'll know what I mean, LOL. I'm dealing with perimenopause, so I tried a soy-based estrogen-like product. It helped some, but then I changed to one that contained black cohosh. Wow, did I feel great. No PMS at all. Unfortunately, I lost my appetite and have stomach discomfort and dropped a significant amount of weight while taking it.
This site promotes it:
http://www.connecticutcenterforhealth.com/black-cohosh.html
However, I also read a site that said it could cause GI trouble and even a liver condition, so I quit the black cohosh a week or two ago. My appetite and weight are still not improving much. I'm 5ƌ and my weight is fluctuating between 118 and 120 now. I can do physical activity fine, but yet I'm having a feeling of low energy in my chest area and the stomach discomfort continues. I just had a bunch of lab work, which was all normal. Really weird.
Yes, my sister does it, and
it's quite fascinating (and addicting, apparently). She has traveled from AZ to VT and also WI to check headstones. If you go to her Facebook page, she actually has photos of family trees or something - I haven't clicked on them yet. I just saw them today.
My sister does.
I figure I have to go to the grocery store for fresh veg and fruts once a week or so anyway so I just buy what I need. My sister likes to buy in bulk and picks up extra when at a warehouse store and keeps it in the freezer. She says the milk is just fine after. I'm sure we have drank it too and had no idea. She goes through about 5 gallons a week with her family.
PS - about my sister sm
Diagnosed at Thanksgiving, chemo for Christmas, dead by Easter. No symptoms. Don't let it happen to you. I care about you. Give yourself the best holiday gift ever (not to mention the people you would leave behind who love you).
don't you think you sister would want you to
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Your Sister Would Want You To Have Them
I think she would be pleased that her husband gave them to you. What an incredible act of love. :-)
P.S. My condolences on the loss of your beloved sister. Mine passed away 2 years ago and I still miss her very much.
Right on sister
Well said
My sister....sm
is one of my best friends. Not to say we didn't have to work to get here, because we did, but it was worth it.
Actually it was me and my sister
who joked about writing the whole note (about what an awesome gift) and neither of us minded at all. We just like to try to get laughs.
Of course, I don't know what was going on in everyone's head, but I would think the only people who might have an issue with such a thing is if they didn't know the person (whom the shower was for) very well or something.
My opinion is that it is a silly thing to get hung up on, and I certainly didn't mind it at all!
my sister does hair
and one of her clients bought her a jogging suit that says "i run with scissors!" she thought that was too fun! of course, depends on the personality.
Best wishes for your sister's
speedy recovery. Not a nice diagnosis especially at this time of year, but hopefully prayer is the answer. I don't know you, but will think positive for you. I think it is great that you have come here for support, and I think you'll find that the people here will be very supportive. God bless!
I do have a half-sister out there somewhere?
My father was married before he married my Mom, but his ex-wife ran off with his daughter. We have never met her, and he never looked for her! 
AMEN SISTER!!!!
You would think that she cured AIDS by the way people are talking about her. I'm tired of it already. If she was not a celebrity, nobody would give a crap. I never wished bad upon her, but in my estimation, this is no great loss to humanity. I think we will all survive.
My sister and a friend of hers both did it.
After having 2 kids in her 20s, she had her 3rd at around 40. Then she got pregnant again, and miscarried. The miscarriage rate is higher than for younger women. Also, my sister wasn't exercising a lot, and has very loose ligaments anyway, and it was much more uncomfortable to carry a baby. Didn't help that it was a big baby, of course. But that child is 7 now, and she has a great life, just a tad spoiled by her parents who now have more money, and her now-retired grandparents, LOL.
UR right on. My sister got preggers while she was in (sm)
high school. We had a strict, authoritarian father who would NOT have understood, and would've pulled the rug out from under her, even tho she was just a teenager. If a legal preganancy termination (without parental knowledge) had not been available to her, just my father knowing she'd gotten knocked up wouldve ruined her life. He would have kicked her out, and NOT paid for her to go on to college, where she got a master's degree in education, and went on to become an innovative and caring educator. So many other children would've lost out on this wonderful teacher if she did not have the freedom of choice. Instead, she would most likely be working a low-paying job (heh-heh... like OURS!) and barely getting by. Not every personal, medical or moral decision is cut-and-dried & black-and-white, and each individual has to make those types of decisions for THEMSELVES, not be dictated to by an overly vocal, brainwashed, ignorant minority.
They have a sister and they are triplets
Sister! Except I tend to not even
start what I figure I won't finish, LOL. But sleep is one of my (only) 3 hobbies.
I just want to garden and walk my puppies and watch TV and sleep.
Is there any money in putting in gardens for other people when I don't even have a degree in horticulture? Sigh.
Are you my sister? LOL - thanks for the empathy (sm)
Sounds like you can definitely relate!!
My sister and niece
are really cat people, too. They are really funny. My sister used to have one, Luke, a big black cat wearing a texedo, who would every year without fail stalk a wooden Christmas elf we set out, glare at it for a minute or two, then take that giant paw and give a big swipe and knock it to the floor. Every year, same elf, same reaction. What a gem! We laughed til we cried! Thanks again. I am meeting a friend tonight for dinner, and her two cats are the love of her life!
My sister broke hers
when she was little when we were all in a car accident. It took a couple of hours before she started complaining about her arm feeling heavy. Mom was going to the ER to get her ankle x-rayed, which turned out not to be broken, and took my sister along for an x-ray just in case. Yup, it was broken. So yours could be too. All they will probably do is put you in a sling.
One time my sister was
stopped for speeding on the highway. She calmly explained that she only sped up to get away from a pack of cars so she could position herself in an open spot between 2 packs.
He didn't give her a ticket. :o>
my sister's kitty
had a stroke, he was a siamese and was 19 years old.. He unfortunately was not suffering; however, could not walk and had other multiple problems, thus she decided to mercifully put him to sleep. It was painful, but comes a time that you just know it is right... hope your kitty gets better....
I never have, but my sister did. She didn't - sm
have remorse about it because (a) the (ex)-boyfriend that got her pregnant was a creep and she didn't want to be tied to him in this way forever; and (b) in order to stay in school. She had just started college, which our dad, a very strict, authoritarian sort of person with old-fashioned values, was paying for 100%. She knew that without a doubt, if he had found out she'd gotten pregnant (and he was a Catholic - compounding the problem!), that he would have pulled the plug on her college-funding and kicked her out of the house. That would have ruined the rest of her life. As a result of being able to have an AB on-request, and without my parents' knowledge, she was able to finish her education and get a Master's Degree in Education. She went on to become a fine teacher who got all sorts of awards for her innovative teaching ideas. Later, she changed careers and now works in the healthcare industry in the area of aging well. Without her education, she would be working a low-paying job, and possibly even made the mistake of marrying the good-for-nothing boyfriend, just to keep a roof over her head.
Anyway, that's HER story. Everyone's situation, reasons for doing what they do, and feelings about it afterward are different.
Just going through with the birth of the child & putting it up for adoption doesn't necessarily guarantee it a good home, either. Especially if it doesn't happen to be a Caucasian child with no health problems, which is what not all, but most, people want.
Other people have ABs because the remorse they say they would feel for that is less than what they would feel if they actually delivered, and saw, the child, and then had to give it up. Anyway, everything in life has a price, there are always decisions to make. You made the decision you had to make at the time, so I hope that in time your sadness dissipates. If you had to do it over again NOW, then of course you probably wouldn't. But this is now and that was then, so please try not to feel too sad about the past. Now that you do have children, I'd be willing to bet that you're loving them even more, and taking care of them even better, than you might have if you hadn't had to part with your first pregnancy. So in a way, your first child's legacy lives on in the lives you're providing for your existing children now. And that's what matters most in the end.
I forwarded this to my sister.
She has done pottery before. I'll post any reply she sends me.
Does anyone else HATE their sister like I do? nm
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Full of Joy Sister Cat!!!
Thanks Dahling!!
Oops, that was my sister's elf! Let's try this again.
http://www.elfyourself.com/?id=1171111501
You'd think she'd learn from seeing all her sister is going through - NM
NM
My sister and I still laugh over it too - sm
Dad was a very smart man. Kind and always fair.
Should be her sister, not Britney
NM
It's her 16 y/o sister who is pregnant, not her.
Unbelievable.
I did not say this was my sister-in-law, did I? What a MESS!!!
NM
That guy is awesome. My sister got a new dog -
2 years ago, and after her previous dog was kind've a head-case, she got his book and followed his methods. (She also started off with pupply obedience group classes.) It's a huge dog - half Husky & half Golden Retriever - and she is now the best behaved and most wonderful dog imaginable. I attended a pet parade with her and her dog that she was photographing, and some people's dogs were behaving terribly, but her Dog-Whisperer-technique dog was a total lady. She can take that dog ANYWHERE. But of course the secret is she is dedicated to training, and works with her at least twice a day on their long walks through the neighborhood.
My question too...Have a sister who SM
is highly upset that our mom doesn't visit her and kids often enough (2 hours by plane). Her husband's mother lives 45 mins from our mom. Sister will visit her MIL and expect our mother to visit her over there. The two g'mom don't get along and never did (even when we were kids). I think my sis is off her rocker, but she got mad when I suggested she maybe sometimes visit OUR mom instead of expecting her to make the trip all the time. Also should mention, that even when visiting the kids, sis said my mom didn't g'parent correctly because she doesn't bake cookies and act like Aunt Bea from Andy Griffith.
Tell your sister she can come visit, and tell him to
You can always get another spouse, but you can't get another sister.
my sister did this to my mother
got her for over $40K before we siblings could put a stop to it. mom won't press charges, as she doesn't want any hard feelings (are you kidding me?), but guess who's out of the will?
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