I would like to suggest one thing to you, OP...SM
Posted By: M on 2008-07-21
In Reply to: We have decided to seek professional help. - need advice desperately
Please talk with your husband and tell him that before he makes any more threats about military school or what the next step will be, that it is a decision that the 2 of you make TOGETHER. I have a DD with several psychological issues and what I find is that if DH and I disagree on anything, it's a weakness that she swoops in on. She is a product of your marriage, and your marriage should NOT be defined by her and if you two are not in agreement, that's exactly what will happen. I'll be thinking of you!
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For slow dancing - Best of my Love by the Eagles. Also for dancing, Marvin Gaye Live at the Palladium - I can't think of the name of that song; also Brick House, Play That Funky Music White Boy. I think Elton John would be good to listen to during dinner.
I suggest you get one!
This is even forcing people to keep company with a dog. Some people don't even know I have one at times; it is that inconspicuous. Look the other way if you don't like the idea. Some cities are very dog friendly just like some people. I feel sorry for people who can't enjoy their own life and have to bring others down with them. I have found that some dogs make better people than some people 
Would suggest Kne" :)
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May I suggest
You try a holistic brand cat food with all human grade ingredients and no byproducts. Table scraps are fine and healthy as long as they are whole foods and not processed. Also cats do not have molars to grind their food, so dry food is not really conducive to their method of chewing. I only give holistic brand wet food. If you ever noticed when your cat throws up its food it is barely chewed, that is why, they can't chew it and have to swallow it whole mostly.
By the way I like your quote too.
May I suggest?
My daughter is a hairdresser. I have short straight hair, but she recommend to me a shampoo called Catwalk-Curls Rock. It can be used for curly or straight hair I also have color on my hair. I got a large 25.36 oz. bottle of the shampoo and the same size in the conditioner. They both have a pump dispenser on them.
What would you suggest?
Would anyone have suggestions for MTs looking for a higher pay rate? If one has good references, background, experience, and skills - what more can they do to earn a starting pay greater than 7 cents?
I agree that it is not much financially but with all things considered this seems to be the going rate these days for an MT with less than 5 years experience.
all i can suggest
is a green-apple spray. check with your vet and/or pet store. good luck!
What I would suggest - sm
I would send out either via e-mail or regular mail a little dinner invite and state specifically "no presents" on it. If people want to show up with presents anyway that is up to them, but you have stated your preference. I actually LOVE this idea!! Best wishes...
What I suggest - sm
There really is no comparison in my mind. My hubby had the snip when he was 30. It took no time at all, was done in the doctor's office with 1 Valium, he spent 1 day off work with an icepack, and was probably completely back to normal in about 5 days and even playing golf. He said it was no big deal. Several of our friends have had it done with similar experiences. It really is the way to go!
i would suggest
talking to your doctor. That kind of swelling can be several things, maybe even kidney problems. I am a bit older than you and 40 lbs overweight, but don't have the swelling. Have some blood work; get things checked out. you may be able to nip a much bigger problem in the bud.
Ha! I might suggest that to the poor
folks who still work there. This woman would probably put them on KP duty, though.
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I would suggest she also speak with
the hospital administration about this issue. I would think it is a definite violation not to have him in an isolated room, which would be indicated outside the patient's room. Not only are they being exposed, but the patient may be being exposed to other viruses in an immune-compromised state.
You have a lot to deal with here. I suggest (SM)
you take 1 issue at a time. You have a good list started...prioritize based on safety and legal issues. Re the will, POA, etc., download some forms from the internet or buy some...they are widely available. Fill out one of them as a draft, leaving blanks where he needs to give input. Then take it to him, go over it with him, and ask what he wants in the blanks. Then compile a final for him to sign and take him to have it notarized, if needed. Then move on to the next thing on the list. I wouldn't make a big deal out of anything, just make dealing with one thing part of your regular routine when you visit him.
Re the house, spend some time making a safe, clean space in it for him to live his daily life...kitchen, one bathroom, to start. Get and install any grab bars or other equipment he might need. Get him a medical alert necklace for his birthday. I found one at WalMart that doesn't require a monitoring service...it dials 9-1-1 in an emergency.
This is just a start, but that is what you need to do, just start. I hope some of these suggestions are useful.
I was going to suggest the same things...sm
Next time he threatens suicide, call police and get him Baker Acted. Then mental health professionals can confirm what you suspect (true mental illness), or at least find him some outpatient resources.
If not, get restraining orders, at least your mom should.
I know it hurts because it's your dad, but it sounds like it's more than you can handle on your own.
Too funny, I was just going to suggest NOT doing that
Someone already has everyone's address or they wouldn't have gotten an invitation to the shower in the first place. I've heard rumblings at showers when this has been done and some guests just don't like it. Everyone has their opinion and not stepping on toes, but I think it's tacky.
Agree with everything else...the list of gifts for personal thank you notes is very important. And I had the paper plate with the ribbons. Games are always good, too.
Need gardening help. Can anyone suggest a flower sm
particularly one that will come back every year but doesn't have to, to plant in an old, antique bathtub? It's a standard size, sits in a lovely area under shaded trees. It's full of dirt already and I am looking to plant something resilient, yet pretty. The previous owners grew tulips, I believe, in them. I haven't done anything with this tub for 5 years and all of a sudden I developed this green thumb. I have planted gorgeous flowers all over my property and in really pretty containers. I've been spending almost all day outside these past few weeks. I live in AL if that helps you any. Do you have any suggestions? doesn't have to be all flowers - can be greenery with flowers. Like I said, lots of shade......Thank you!!!!!!!! 
Then I would suggest for clean water and
beaches you take them to Cancun. Florida has some bad water and beaches a lot of times. The water in Cancun crystal clear and the sand, no matter how hot it is, never burns your feet.
Want to buy DH IPOD. Can anyone suggest brands?
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You beat me to it! I was going to suggest Estelle Harris
and Renee Taylor (even though YEAH she was blonde). She has the nose but Estelle has the hair. LOL.
I was going to suggest taking a walk, but jumping around
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i suggest making an appointment with your doc ASAP sm
the health of you and the baby might be at risk...why take a chance? you already have enough to worry about and have 3 more months to go! i'm glad you came here for an opinion, but we're not practitioners...i think you need to get off your feet and talk to your doc stat!
Would suggest that Katrina be omitted, at least for a few years! :) nm
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Odo Ban - I highly suggest it. The smell is terrific. sm
especially if you have animals, etc. My friend gave me hers as she bought it from Sam's Club and I love it. You get a gallon jug and then a sprayer. It's an all-in-cleaning. She even puts it in her towels when washing. I just am very pleased with the smell. Just a little suggestion if you are having guests this holiday season!
when u decide on a city, suggest contacting....
I'd call the Chamber(s) of Commerce of whatever city you decide to stay in and ask them the condition(s) of the area(s) post-Katrina.....just my opinion.
Have fun on vacation!!! :)
If it were me, I would go to Dr. Phil Mcgraw web site and email him. See what he would suggest.
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Wanting to suggest a few movies this season. Right now the kids are watching sm
The Chronicles of Narnia and it is such a GOOD movie. Highly suggest this. Also, Elf with Will Ferrell is cute.
Polar Express is great also. With 3 little ones at home, anyone have any suggestions on good "holiday" type movies that won't bore a 4 year old? Thanks!
Can anyone suggest a nice name for a new male Maine Coon kitty?
He will actually be my 5th Maine Coon cat. I am getting him somewhat suddenly because someone else decided to wait for the exact color they wanted. I am fine with the way he looks - silver and white mackrel. What is a nice manly name for a cat? All ideas welcome. You all can always come up with something terrific!
Happiness is a heart thing; pleasure is a head thing.nm
Good advice was given here. Suggest vet check-up for kitty needs vet check. sm
I've had 2 females over the years who developed stones/crystals in urine or UTIs. Both of them started spraying inappropriately. Never had a female spray inappropriately other than in these instances. They go into spasm and can't help themselves. If it is a urinary problem, eventually you may see slight pink-tinged spray if it gets that far untreated due to the irritation from constantly trying to pee. One more thought is if the kitty is not sick, maybe the other cat won't let her use the litter box for some reason. Maybe set up another box for her.
I do the same thing
I like it when there is a web site that has pictures of the docs/PAs/nurses . . . so funny to see how they look, after already having an image in my mind from hearing their voice.
I once had a boss, with whom I had only corresponded by e-mail, IM, etc. When I finally did speak with her on the telephone, my image of her changed completely, although I still do not know what she really looks like. In this case, she went from a very professional-looking, large (as in big-boned, tall, etc.) red head, to a very large (as in fat), short, still red-headed (but in a messy bun, rather than professional shoulder-length style), barefoot, straw-hanging-out-of-her-mouth, country bumpkin. LOL :)
it cut off the first thing is said.
i said to say how you wish you could change it all for him but you cant...and also, the plot of this angle would be putting guilt onto him that what his father has done to him, he did to him...not to your children and that they shouldnt have to endure the same pain as he has to go thru. when i play this reverse psychology stuff with my husband, of course he gets angry..bla bla..says whatever, btu then i always see him using my advise later..it does soak into their hearts.
Only thing you can do is pay or it will
go on your credit. Sorry this happened but I would not cosign even if it were for my own child if I thought there was even a remote chance that they would default from lack of responsibility/funds. I would tell her that you will pay it but that she has to pay you back and set up a payment schedule for her to pay you back. If she will not go to the other girl, that is her problem, not yours. Tell her she will have to pay you back and be emphatic about it, even if it is at $10 a month to show her that is not the way to handle responsibility.
The only thing I know is what
my realtor told me. When we were signing contracts, there was a special on TV about this. He made some comments because apparently he does not think this is a good idea. From what I know, you cannot see inside the house before the auction or have an inspection or anything. It is as is. Unfortunately, you do not know what type of structural problems this could include. They showed one guy who bought this house he had his eye for a long time at a very cheap price. When he got in there to start renovations, he found a lot more problems with it than he anticipated. Luckily, he was a contractor though and had the means to fix it up cheaper than you or I would and was actually selling these homes once finishing them. He said that one he about broke even on. He said it was a hit and miss when buying like that.
I agree with the other poster though that you should find out the laws in your state first and see if it is occupied still which could present another headache in itself. Good luck!
It was the best thing I ever did. sm
Had abdominal hysterectomy due to endometriosis, ovarian cysts, adhesions, fibroids, etc.
I wish I did it sooner is all I can say. I was up and out of bed the following morning. I, like you, had previous c-section, so I anticipated the pain, etc.
Really, no big deal for me at the age of 37. I am completely without pain now. What a relief! Had problems since I was 13 - now none! I can honestly say I feel like a new person.
Good luck in whatever you decide.
My son does the same thing... sm
Who says we're not focused on our work in our home environment???? AAAYYY?
My doc said the same thing
live your life. I've not had a flare since 13 months ago. I've defintely found keeping my mind busy and my body active makes for a better attitude.
We do the same thing. nm
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Only thing I would add is that I would definitely not
allow my child to talk to this person on the telephone - that is what caller ID is for. Otherwise wonderful advice.
I was going to say the same thing, I am also
wondering why such a wonderful man would have two ex-wives.
One more thing -
Do give your MIL the number of the vet you use in case she needs to take kitty there for something. I have done this with the people who have watched my cats over the years. They have never needed to take them to the vet for anything, but it gave me peace of mind knowing it was in place should it be needed. It sounds like you have covered all the rest. Enjoy your trip!!
And another thing....
I didn't choose to work at home because I was too lazy to go find another job outside of the home. I chose to quit my job outside of the home (making more money than I do now!) so that I could do this instead.
Also, I am starting school this year to get another job outside of the home. I guess when I am balancing all this and going to school, I will still be lazy and unprofessional to you! Whatever....
Like I've said before, people chose professions for all kinds of reasons. Staying at home was my reason. So what?! That does not mean you do your job any better than me or the rest of us. That is all in your head, which is a very big one at that!
first thing I would do - sm
Pay off all bills and set up college funds and trusts for my kids and any grandkids I may get in the forthcoming years.
Then I would be a little more conservative and buy a fixer upper and turn it into my dream home. Who needs to build another house when there are so many beautiful old neglected homes out there?!
The next thing I would do is buy this old building in town that used to be a school and renovate it into a group home for unwed mothers/fathers, dormitory style so I could help them build futures for themselves and their children.
That would be my dream.
Maybe she needs to go out and do her thing? nm
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And another thing-
I would be willing to bet she does not show up on Dancing with the Stars. When I heard she was supposed to be on there, I thought nah, don’t think so.
I know that this is not the same thing..sm
but I had a kitty cat who had diabetes. with unchecked diabetes, the kidneys are at risk. my kitty started kidney failure and had alot of the same symptoms you described. She would not eat or drink, because she did not want to p because it hurt to p. She became so severely dehydrated, I had to put her down. she was 13 years old. Has your doggie been checked for diabetes?? It is just a thought and I am not trying to scare you, but I would have started forcing fluids before this, with your doggie. Good luck. I hate it when pets get sick and you don't know how to help them! Also, has she been checked for the parvoux (sp) virus??
One more thing......
I went back and re-read your message after posting. Your fruits are from your hard labor, but are also a blessing from God. I know that sounds confusing, but believers know that you have to work hard to produce fruits. It's what you do with those fruits that make the difference. God does bless you for your hard work.
To explain it better:
The bible says this: Proverbs 14:23 All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty.
I'm going through the same thing here!
One of my dogs (a gay little Lhasa-Poo) has the itchy horrors. The vet took skin scrapings looking for mites but found nothing and yet still prescribed Ivermectin (a wormer) in the hopes that the itching was caused by some creepy crawly that just couldn't be seen. I just squirted this stuff into his mouth every 2 weeks for 3 doses total and nothing. Everyone is on FrontLine for flea prevention and we did the prednisone along with something like benadryl and different foods...just like you have done! I even went so far as to shave him myself down to the skin.
After all that "experimentation" and retarded vet bills, he still has the friggin' itching! Vet thinks it is allergies as well and recommends we just live with it, as the testing is going to be a heck of a lot more $$$ and it carries no guarantee either of finding out the true cause.
I say my dog is allergic to himself...or us...or the other animals here. Can't do much about it. I figure if he's happy, eating, sleeping, and pretty much enjoying life, it's just going to be one of his annoying quirks...that along with leaving skidmarks on the rug!
Good luck and keep us updated on if you find anything out that works for you!
oh - and another thing -
the other poster that mentioned allergies - my mom has had two dogs now with severe allergies to grass and fleas. Even though she was using Revolution - even if a flea got on her and died immediately it caused problems. One was put on steroids and ended up losing all of her hair from the steroids.
One thing I can say...........sm
My mom used Oil of Olay her entire adult life. She did not spend a lot of time in the sun. She got up every morning and put on Oil of Olay before work, and then at night. She is 67 years old and her skin looks better than mine. She doesn't have the uneven tone and skin blotchiness that I do. So, I have been thinking about giving the line a try myself!!!!
I did the same thing, and my mom do any of the - sm
organizing or planning. I did ask her advise on my dress and the color flowers but that was it. I even picked out her dress! Yes I am a control freak, but it all came off the way I wanted it to and it all went very smoothly as I had it organized it from day 1. I had a vision of what I wanted and was able to get it. I had 9 months to plan it, but had it all ironed out and set up within 5 weeks of my engagement. My mom did go dress shopping with me of course and helped be pick out my dress but that was basically the extent of her involvement. I had a very small wedding which helped too (50). She was not the type of person though to stick her nose into other people's business which I think is a very good trait (especially in a MIL). My in-laws to be stayed out of it too, though I did ask them for input on the rehersal dinner in terms of menu/ordering as they did pay for that. I know how to be a good politician when necessary.
I said same thing down below and got
flamed for saying just let it go, glad to hear someone else say exactly the same.
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