I would have hit that panic button if she said pregnant!
Posted By: Bea on 2007-06-01
In Reply to: Smart how? This was Oct of last year. I highly doubt SIL sm - me
This is exactly what is happening all over the states, people in a panic, not me - I told her just to check with her physician next week. If it is not a mysterious box or package being found and a panic about that, it is this or something else, all the time. I was actually relieved to hear what she said!
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Before you push the panic button sm
This is a recession, quite possibly the mother of all recessions. It may turn into a depression, but it will run a very distant second to the Great Depression, IF it does.
Pre the GP (Great Depression) you several things going on that are NOT true today. We had come out of WWI not that long before. It had been a very bloody war, the first war with mechanized destruction. What the Doughboys witnessed was for them what we saw on 09/11...unimaginable death and destruction. It changed how they viewed America.
When these boys came home from the war, they came back to the farm, by and large. We were an agrarian country and with the exception of east coast, there were hardly any factory jobs and most people worked the land. Plenty of places all over the country people worked on "shares" and they were not all in the deep south and they were not all black. There was not nearly the land/home ownership that there is today. Most of these dirt farmers lived in poverty and barely scraped by enough to eat twice a day. When the great Dust Bowl came through Oklahoma, it took the enormous clouds of dust eastward and dumped it into the Atlantic Ocean. This was a man-made disaster and the story of the Joads in the Grapes of Wrath centers on the Dust Bowl and the farming habits of families, like the Joads caused them problems. It was their fault that the top soil blew across FDR's desk in the Oval Office.
There was no infrastructure to speak of, in those days. There were roadways, but not the spider web of paved roads there are today. Goods were carried on the rails, not over the roads. You didn't have Walmart or Kroger. You had the store "in town" and the Sears-Roebuck catalog. If you couldn't find it there or could not afford it you either cobbled something together or did without. You can look the Coal Miner's Daughter about being so low-down dirt poor it is unbelievable. That movie is quite cleaned up and Hollywood presentable. You could look at the sparse surroundings of the ranch house in Broke Back Mountain where Ennis goes after Jack dies, and while the time frame is more modern, the very plain, only the very basics of life appear in that ranch house. They are both a bit sanitized, but reasonably realistic.
Today, Americans live extraordinarily different lives than we did 80 years ago. Most people have a vehicle. Most people have more than a dirt floor shack to live in. We, have thanks to the Great Depression and FDR's recovery plan, electricity, roads, water, sewage and other sanitation. We take these things for granted, but we should not. The GP did bring some food shortages, not because of the depression, but because of the lack of infrastructure combined with people on the move to find work to subsist. The food shortages you are thinking of came with WWII and rationing...another problem secondary to lack of infrastructure and subsistence farming where there was not enough food produced to meet the need.
If you are going to stock up on food, let be for more common sense reasons. If you put your money in the bank, you will make 2% or 3% return on $500. If you put that same amount into nonperishable food (think canned goods), you make a better return on an investment. You don't earn 2% or 3%, but you can end up leveraging against future price increases that will meet and exceed what interest you make from a bank, which is nothing right now. You will need food whether you buy it now or buy it later. Squirreling away extra under the bed or whatever place you can find room, is a wise investment...financially and in peace of mind.
easy button sm
I gave a gift to a home for troubled kids, attached a gift card to an easy button. Still getting thank you's. Just added a simple touch to money card which I don't like to give, but in this case it worked well, as kids are older, teenage troubled kids.
Try going to the Help button on a Word document (sm)
for Microsoft Word Help, then type in "mail merge" and it should walk you through what you need to know.
Alternatively, type "Word, mail merge, envelopes" in google, and you should get lots of hits on help for it, especially directly from Microsoft.
I haven't had to mail merge in so long, I've forgotten too! Hope thisi helps
Sadly no edit button.
lol
I get a kick out of the "Easy button" ones (sm)
just saw one where electronic stuff is landing everywhere, a laptop on the holiday table, a GPS hitting a guy in the head while he's hanging lights outside, etc. and it turns out to be a baby just playing, smacking the Easy button over and over. Makes you stop and watch, and funny the first time, anyway!
There is usually a little button that doesnt look important that turns the LCD on and off
I know my Sony does as does my brothers that is a different brand
Good Luck !!!!
Don't panic.
How is it invested? All 401K's have various investment options. Is some or all of it in stocks? In guaranteed income funds? In a money market? You should NOT take it out of the 401K. The 401K is just a basket that holds investments, and you are penalized heavily if you take it out of the 401K before retirement age. You can move around your investments within the 401K, though, which may or may not be a good idea. I would tend to hang tight for now.
Panic Attacks
I have had panic attacks since I was 38 and am now going to be 55. It started with a lot of stress in my life.. work, my sister committed suicide. I went like this for about 8 months before anyone would listen to me. I bought self-help books and i KNEW i had a panic disorder. Went to several therapists, psychiatrists. They wouldn't listen to me.. They asked me a million questions. Finally a friend at work suggested her Internal Medicine physician. I walked in to his office, told him I have a panic disorder. He said you don't look nervous. I said I am having a panic attack as we are3 speaking. I would have 4-5 panic attacks a day every day. I told him I had seen therapists, psychiatrists, etc. He said are you going to keep seeing the psychiatrist. I said NO.. because the first one i went to said " So tell me about your crazy family". That was it for me. I was shocked. So the Internal Medicine doctor put me on medication and my whole life changed.. I felt so much better, was able to cope, etc. Medicine is not for everyone but my panic attacks had blown so out of proportion that I finally became depressed because I could not function even though I went to work every day and many days having to leave work. I am still on medicine and feel great. The Internal Medicien doctor helped me more than the others. He listened to me and said " okay we are going to get you the right medicine and he told me that I needed to be patient. I have changed medicines now with the new one of Paxil and I am sooo much better. I am thankful for the day I walked into his office.
How about the feeling of panic as you
are about to turn left across traffic and get on an on ramp? I always suddenly panic and wonder if I'm about to meet traffic coming off because I'm trying to go up an off ramp.
A panic attack
can present as a heart attack, with the same initial symptoms of shortness of breath, chest pain, clammy and sweaty, irregular or rapid heart rate, etc. The first thing done at the hospital would be stat blood work and an EKG. Depending upon what these showed, then an MRI with or without contrast would be done. A mandatory 24 hour stay is required for all chest pain admissions. I've been working in a cardiopulmonary dept. as a respiratory care practitioner for 6 years and have seen this many many times. So if it makes you feel any better, he could be telling the truth about this.
And Kim has a panic disorder and is agoraphobic.
It's no secret she has a bunch of mental disoders. As I said, the poor kid. Can't win.
Right, but dont panic. Thousands die from flu every
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Daughter called, said don’t panic but you know that TB case?
Daughter and husband divorved last year and the guy from Atlanta being treated was the SIL divorce lawyer in October of last year. As she met this guy she was telling me this morning no really close contact (being in a room is close enough for me though), no outward signs of illness on his part. I did not freak, rather told her to call her doctor. My former SIL has sickle cell disease and he is in the hospital with a flare as we speak. SIL recognized the guy on television, told the personnel at the hospital and now, you guessed it, he is in quarantine. It is really a small world, isnt it?
Remember Me? Caught Between Pride and Panic?
Well, my daughter has been accepted at her #1 college choice, and we're going to the Accepted Students day this weekend.
In her Creative Writing class in school, they were assigned the task of summing up their Senior year in six words and then to illustrate it. What she came up with blew her father and me away! I hope those of you who have had children leave home will get an inkling of the emotional impact this had on us. Suffice it to say, there was not a dry eye in the house! See below.
Good question - ding! (that's the "correct" button you hear on game shows.
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I would say that you have every reason to have panic attacks what with all the stress you've SM
been under. I take Effexor XR for my painic attacks and atenolol to help control my BP and it keeps my heart rate down. The combination works wonderfully, although I wonder if I've become a little too dependent on it as I sometimes get a little anxious at the thought of being without my Effexor.
I would have periodic episodes of anxiousness going all the way back to my teenage years, but I would always work through it myself. Then a year ago, in the midst of marital trouble and feeling alone as I lived two states away from friends and family, I started having what I now know to be gallbladder pain while I was at work. In my mind, I knew I wasn't having a heart attack, the pain was in my right rib cage and radiated around to my right scapula. But I couldn't seem to convince my body. My heart started racing, my mind was racing. I felt dizzy and short of breath. I went to the employee health nurse who took my BP and it was sky high. She immediately rushed me to the ER which freaked me out even further.
Long story short, I was having a full blown panic attack and I hope that I never experience anything like that again. I ended up crying for three weeks straight, was afraid be left alone, was afraid to leave my house, couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, would pace the house with my heart racing, not able to calm myself down.
I saw three different doctors before I found a female doctor who listened to me and told me she knew exactly what I was talking about because her daughter had panick attacks too. She started me on Effexor and set me up with a therapist who taught me breathing techniques and meditation techniques to help calm myself when I feel anxious. One technique, as simple as it sounds, is something I practice almost daily which is deep breathing: in through your nose and out through your mouth and as you exhale allow your body to relax starting from the shoulders down. It seems silly, but it really works. I noticed that I clenched my jaw a lot and so that is were I focus my mind when I'm trying to relax. I focus on the tension in my jaw and start relaxing from there down.
Exercise is another great technique for relieving anxiety and stress. All the experts say that, and it's true. Just getting outside and walking can clear the mind.
Well, I've rambled on and on. Sorry about that. Let me just add one more thing, if you decide to try medication, my advice would be to be patient. Sometimes it takes a few different trials of medication before you find the one that fits. My doctor explained to me that panick attacks are caused by an overactive fight or flight response in the brain and so SSRI antidepressants like Zoloft or Celexa won't do the trick. You have to have a NRI (norepinephrine reuptake inhibitor) to calm the response.
I'm not saying you need medicine, but I am saying that you may want to get a handle on it now so you don't have to go through what I did. I can't even explain how horrible it feels to have your mind spinning of control. I felt like I was genuinely losing my mind.
Well, anyway I feel for you and I wish you well.
Be careful if you have a tendency to anxiety/panic. Wellbutrin
people who suffer with anxiety/panic.
RE: PREGNANT MT
1) Yes with my daughter.
2) the entire 9 months....
1) not with my sons at all.
Good luck, but try keeping soda crackers with you and eat those and 7-up or bottled water....that does help somewhat. Be sure and let your doc know about it. good luck with your pregnancy!!
You said we got pregnant, you and your
sister, aunt, who was the other female you are speaking about when you said we got pregnant again?
pregnant WE...
I too referred to US being pregnant, not just me...If you're blessed enough to have a supportive and loving partner who takes an active role in the pregnancy, then you both indeed are pregnant...You were blessed twice after your miscarriage...congratulations! 
She is pregnant again.
A savvy female lead my son to believe he could come live with her, and everthing would be paradise. This was when he was 17-years-old. She was pregnant at that time with someone's elses kid. He did not care. He loved her as much as a 17-year old can love. OK fast forward. Now he is just 22. He has had 2 beautiful daughters in the meantime. I think that is enough. Neither one of them are working. I go ever there today on my day off, and he says, "mom there is no easy way to tell you this". She is PREGNANT again. Supposedly she had an IUD, I don't believe that. Either they are both lying or my son is gullible. They both claim she had a 10-year IUD in so it is "mean to be". If they had the finances to support 4 kids, great news. But they don't. I am spending at least 250 a month keeping their utilities on, that does not count food.
How did you first know you were pregnant?
Did you notice certain symptoms before taking a test or going to the doctor? I am just wondering because my period is 2 months late and my breasts are so swollen and ridiculously sore. I am hesitating to take a pregnancy test because we have been trying for almost 2 years and every time I never turn out pregnant. Looking forward to reading your replies. Thanks!
yes and no, I got it when I was pregnant and had hypothyroidism
but it does NOT have to be underlying sign of malignancy, they are just being careful. Sometimes it's just rotten luck.
When I was 7-1/2 mos. pregnant, my hubby and I went as a sm
pregnant nun and a priest.
Has anyone ever been pregnant and had a CT angiogram done? sm
I have a previous history of PE and thought I had another blood clot to my lung. So after a night stay in the hospital, several doctors telling me that I really needed this done, that it could be possibly life-threatening for me and the baby, that I went against my better judgment and had one done with the contrast dye. I am almost 10 weeks pregnant and I know this is a very critical time for the development of my little one. Good news, no blood clot, but I am wishing I would have listened to my own heart and not what everyone else was telling me. They did shield me extremely well. I laid on one lead shield while two huge, thick lead shields were placed directly below my lungs on top of each other. Any input would be helpful and any prayers would greatly be appreciated also. The day before I saw my beautiful baby kicking and acting fiesty on ultrasound. It would kill me knowing that I did something wrong to it.
Ever wonder why pregnant women don't
WASHINGTON (AP) -- Scientists think they have figured out why pregnant women don't lose their balance and topple over despite ever-growing weight up front.
Slight differences in the spine allow women to carry the growing load of pregnancy without toppling over.
Evolution provided slight differences from men in women's lower backs and hip joints, allowing them to adjust their center of gravity, new research shows.
This elegant engineering is seen only in female humans and our immediate ancestors who walked on two feet, but not in chimps and apes, according to a study published in Thursday's journal Nature.
"That's a big load that's pulling you forward," said Liza Shapiro, an anthropology professor at the University of Texas and the only one of the study's three authors who has actually been pregnant. "You experience discomfort. Maybe it would be a lot worse if (the design changes) were not there."
Harvard anthropology researcher Katherine Whitcomb found two physical differences in male and female backs that until now had gone unnoticed: One lower lumbar vertebra is wedged-shaped in women and more square in men; and a key hip joint is 14 percent larger in women than men when body size is taken into account.
The researchers did engineering tests that show how those slight changes allow women to carry the additional and growing load without toppling over -- and typically without disabling back pain.
"When you think about it, women make it look so very easy," Whitcomb said. "They are experiencing a pretty impressive challenge. Evolution has tinkered ... to the point where they can deal with the challenge.
"It's absolutely beautiful," she said. "A little bit of tinkering can have a profound effect."
Walking on two feet separates humans from most other animals. And while anthropologists still debate the evolutionary benefit of walking on two feet, there are notable costs, such as pain for pregnant females. Animals on all fours can better handle the extra belly weight.
The back changes appear to have evolved to overcome the cost of walking on two feet, said Harvard anthropology professor Daniel Lieberman.
When the researchers looked back at fossil records of human ancestors, including the oldest spines that go back 2 million years to our predecessor, Australopithecus, they found a male without the lower-back changes and a female with them.
But what about men with stomachs the size of babies or bigger? What keeps them from toppling over?
Their back muscles are used to compensate, but that probably means more back pain, theorized Shapiro, who added: "It would be a fun study to do to look at men with beer bellies to see if they shift their loads."
It's her 16 y/o sister who is pregnant, not her.
Unbelievable.
Oregon man says he's pregnant
Thomas Beatie, who used to be a woman, appeared in the most recent issue of The Advocate, a magazine for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender readers, Portland, Ore., television station KPTV reported.
Beatie wrote the article, which includes a picture of him while he was 22 weeks pregnant. According to the story, he went through a sex change, but decided only to have chest reconstruction and testosterone therapy.
Beatie was able to keep the reproductive organs he was born with. The article said he stopped getting the injections and was able to get pregnant.
Beatie, who lives in Bend, wrote he was once pregnant with triplets, but the pregnancy was life-threatening and he lost the fetuses. Now, Beatie said he and his wife, Nancy, are expecting a little girl in July.
In the article, Beatie described some of the challenges he and his wife have faced -- they said doctors won't treat them. The couple met 10 years ago and Nancy is not able to have children.
He wrote in The Advocate that their situation "sparks legal, political and social unknowns."
The couple were out of town Monday and unable to speak with the station.
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I would like it that they don't get pregnant to begin with.
n,m,
Ohhhhh....Pregnant!
When I was pregnant that was the only time I experienced Charlie Horses! I would get leg cramps so bad at night it would literally jolt me out of a sound sleep! I wonder if it also has something to do with the pressure the baby is putting on the pelvic area and somehow affecting the blood flow to the legs, in which case, supplements aren't going to help?
Have you heard about the pregnant man?
I was just watching The View. The man (woman) who was pregnant last year, is pregnant again?
First off, you're pregnant
that in itself will make this situation feel 10 times worse than it is. Having said that, I do agree that I would be a little miffed, myself. It's not like you're intruding on her wedding day/weekend. She's already married and this is simply a celebration party for her on Friday night.
I would also agree with the poster below that you have grown apart. Being that you've been married for 10 years and are expecting, I would venture to guess that you're probably a little more mature (for lack of a better word) than she is as well. I'm not busting on single women, here, it's just that I remember the "fun years" before I got married and then before I had children. You're just at different places in your life.
The best way to handle the situation is to go to her party as planned. I would not splurge for the $50 gift card. I'd go with something a little more subtle. If you'd like to rekindle the friendship, you might include a photo of the 2 of you back in your "wild days." You don't need to stay for the entire party, either. Anyone would understand a pregnant woman would be tired from such a long travel and then the party. When you leave, be sure to seek her out and let her know that you'd still like for her to come to your celebration the following day. If not, let it go.
If you haven't done so yet, be sure to send her a thank you card for the gift. Believe it or not, some people would think they didn't need to get you anything if they weren't coming to your party (not that that makes it right). You have so much to look forward to and baby showers are way better than bridal showers/receptions anyday. You can eat as much as you want and all your guests will say is how "cute you look". Don't let this dampen your day.
I did not get bloating when I was pregnant....sm
Congrats on being pregnant.
But....since I did not want to go out and buy lots of maternity clothes (at least at first) as we knew we would only have one child... I used rubber bands on my pants and jeans. You loop one end through the buttonhole and hook the other end over the button. You have to wear a tunic length top of course, but it was worth it. Instant ease and comfort.
Congrats again!!
I was another statistic - pregnant at 18 - sm
After years of growth and raising children, first in my first, forced, bad marriage and now in my second marriage, which so far has lasted 23 years, I came to a couple of conclusions.
First, I can't speak for all girls, but I know I reached out for sex as a substitue for the loving and caring I was supposed to get at home, not just from my father, but from my mother, too. I vowed to make sure my children would get the love they needed and not feel it necessary to look elsewhere while they were still "children."
Second, living a virtuous life generally means living a simpler life. Yeah, you have to put up with peer pressure, but then you don't have to worry about sneaking around, getting caught, getting pregnant, getting STDs. You don't have complicated decisions to make about adoption, abortion, how to tell your partner you have herpes, etc, etc, etc.
As my kids were growing, what we would watch on TV was the launch pad for conversations about morality and common sense. No lectures - they wouldn't have listened - just "see how complicated her life just got?" or "my, he just had to heap lie on top of lie!" etc.
My daughter is 17 and graduating this month, my son is 20. They are both still virgins (yes, they communicate with me and I do know!). My daughter is very goal-oriented and set on college and not letting anything get in the way.
How we raise our children CAN make a difference!
I'm not pregnant - but my sister is and only her husband ....sm
knows besides me. She's only about a month along. This is their 2rd child. Her son is fine and he'll be excited to find out that he'll get a brother or sister in the future when they tell him, grandparents, etc.
I'm pregnant - 5 weeks along, 1st pregnancy....sm
My husband & I are thrilled that we conceived so quickly, especially with my being 43 and him being 50. We got married in June and started trying then. His 15-year-old daughter and our 6-year-old foster daughter are excited. Next year will be fabulous as we'll be finalizing the adoption of our foster daughter in January and having a baby in June!
At least in the inner cities, this is when the kids are getting pregnant. Age 11 and up.
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After suffering a miscarriage, I'm pregnant again!....sm
I had a miscarriage in November at 8 weeks after having abnormal test results and got pregnant after my first period in December. I'm now 7-1/2 weeks and the baby looks great on the ultrasound and blood work they drew. I'm due on September 14th and my husband & I are tickled pink (or is that blue?) 
For those of you who responded to my post in November about having the miscarriage thanks for the support and encouraging us to try again. I've had a lot of women tell me that they had a successful pregnancy after a miscarriage and while the emotional pain of the miscarriage is still there, it was comforting to know I wasn't alone.
Oh, my, did not know you included a male as being a pregnant
person, thought surely a we were pregnant meant another female, just call me old fashioned but when I grew up only females got pregnant, carried the babies, had the babies. Just have never heard of a male being pregnant but will take your word for it. I guess times have changed.
To be honest, when I was pregnant with my 3rd child, ,sm
I developed, around the 7th month, a nesting instinct where I could NOT sit still. I went from a couch potato to cleaning freak. I also began to drink tons of water for the first time and cut my cola consumption in half and then went completely to diet drinks, which I will have 3-4 per week now (no more colas). I found that just moving, piddling around, bending and stooping over picking up toys and clothes A LOT during the day has helped greatly to tighten up my stomach muscles. We live on a hill and I like to walk it 5 or 6 times a day.
The key to my weight loss was not sitting in front of the t.v. for long periods of time. I know that 99% of the people on this website work many hours a week and spend a lot of time sitting down in front of the computer. To you I say, get up, get moving all throughout the day, even if it is just 5 minute intervals at a time. It took me years (4 or 5), to keep my weight down like this, but I'm not a size 6 anymore. I am very comfortable with my weight, but it is the daily disciplines that will help you. Start now. Drink plenty of water, walk, take care of yourself and know that you are worth it!
Oh, one more thing! As soon as I get up in the morning I put my socks and tennis shoes on. Always. This helps me to move around a lot quicker and motivates me to do so much around the house. Good luck. Baby steps.
milkman and pregnant woman
When I was young some friends did the milkman and pregnant woman thing. Actually, he was in the milk industry, so it was pretty funny. All he needs is a white shirt and pants and a milk bottle rack with milk bottles. If you are pregnant, there you are! Instant costume! I tried to get my husband to be a horses a$$ and I would be the front, but it was a no go, because he was insulted that I thought he was perfect for the part. Later on, he admitted he was one sometimes, but didn't want to call attention to it in case there was anyone left who had not noticed yet. Adam and Eve would be good, except you would get arrested for going without clothes unless the party is at a nudist colony or you could go as Adam and Eve after he ate the apple and they both promptly found leaves. Get some leaves and an apple and there you are! It would be cheaper and easier though if you went to the colony because all you would need then would be an apple! I wonder if nudist colonies have Halloween Parties?
People can get pregnant on an IUD. I have two relatives who did.
You have to wonder why she hasn't had her tubes tied, and why he hasn't had a vasectomy and gotten a full-time job since he's perfectly able-bodied. At least if they're living off the dole, one or both should be going to college on grants to eventually be able to support four kids.
I celebrate being single and when I'm pregnant.
I'm not 16, however. Her sister is young and made a mistake. I'm not going to judge her ability to parent based on what Britney has done.
hey i heard that brittany was pregnant? what gives... is she or not?
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LOL - I used to dream of Kramer when I was pregnant LOL (nm)
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Pregnant unmarried Teenagers!
I know and have known of several it is as old as time itself and will continue to be ~I know when I was a teen My mother would threaten us to be sent to a home for unwed mothers fear of God she put in us girls- now It is an everyday thing even to put daycare centers in for them lotsa free stuff so where is the sting? Is there one? or is it no big thing anymore!
I got pregnant while vacationing in London
DS likes to say he has been to London!
19-weeks pregnant, short femur
Thanks for the thoughts.. I will update on Tuesday
Anyone have problems with thirstiness through the night while pregnant? sm
I wake up 2-3 times a night to get a drink. I don't have this problem during the day. Blood sugars are fine. Pregnancy going well. Anyone else endure this and how did you cope? I am keeping an insulated cup of ice water by the bed so I don't have to crawl out of the bed now for the sips of water.
My OB didn't give me any info when I was pregnant
so I went to the library and relied on asking family and friends questions. Like when I had break through bleeding I was terrified I was miscarrying. My SIL really helped keep me calm until I got to the doc the next day for a sonogram.
Now after the baby was born my fav. book was by Johnson&Johnson and the first chapter was about what to expect in the first month (for an average baby), second chapter about about second month, etc. I absolutely loved that book. I gave it away and I know it has been passed around to many. Wish I could remember the exact name cause I found it to be an incredible help.
There are many websites now that help you track right along with your pregnancy month by month and most have lots of question and answer forums. I would check out ivillage.com.
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