I would have a family meeting with kids and husband.
Posted By: mttoo on 2009-03-17
In Reply to: can people say goodbye without a funeral? - sm
Your husband should be able to have what he wants and he needs to voice this to his children. It will make it a lot easier for you when the time comes if everyone is on the same page.
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The meeting had not started - was at a meeting due to start
there was no one around. I know the moderator on this board takes offense to others pointing out spelling errors to others as well as calling other people names here and you will be banned for doing what others are doing with what I posted. The meeting had not started. You do understand now, right?
In my husband's family...
everyone has the first initial J, parents and kids. I always thought it was kind of cute.
Wish we had family to do that with. Have kids, but DH and I
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I was totally accepted by my 1st husband's family but
when I married my second husband, I was never accepted by his mother. Of course, she didn't even like my husband. The rest of his family accepted me and that was all that mattered.
The funny thing is...when she was dying, she asked me to forgive her for all the nasty things she did to me and of course, I did. It wasn't her fault she was like that. Life made her that way.
Between the 2 MIL's, I'd take the first hubby's mother any time. We spoke and visited even after the divorce, even invited them to parties we (2nd husband and I) because he liked them too. . . and they always came. I miss them.
You know sometimes my husband doesn't want to go to my family things either...
and I have learned that if he doesn't want to go, don't be mad, just go without him...It is better to go alone then have to sit there with him while he is moping about being there. I understand your frustration and maybe your husband knows something will set him off and start a fight and he doesn't want to do that to you. Maybe he is really thinking of your feelings.
See posts on here describing how kids better with their family but....
in this case does not seem to be the case. A baby running around with a dirty diaper until when changed had a red bottom. This is neglect on not only the father's part but the mother's as well. If the father not changing after a reminder, then the mother should to not have the red bottom. Yes, I will say again and again these are posts I see because a lot of mothers take this as a way to stay home with their children supposedly to bond and take good care of them, not wanting outside help and yet her post makes a case for neglect on the mother's side. I have worked and raised children and never had this ole woe is me type what will I do with a man who does not help and children at my knee. Two children or even more does not mean you have to stay in a meaninless relationship. I would work 4 jobs if I had to and have in the past in order to support my children, but then again oh my goodness, I worked away from the home and I had daycare. OMG!! My kids are grown, able to take care of themselves, contributing adults. Others should have it so good.
Our blended family was 6 kids-3 from 1 side, 2 from
We were all quite young when my parents married and then my sister was born, and never have we referred to each other as "step". My one brother and I are only 8 months apart and were in the same grade in school. People just thought we were friends and then got really confused when we had different last names LOL!
I guess it helped our situation some as there as not a biological parent on either side in the picture, one chose not to be involved (my real dad) and the other unfortunately had passed away.
We have a great family and my mom has 19 grandchildren and makes absolutely no differences in them.
My family (no kids) all voted to skip the gift-thing - sm
from now on. Most of us have tiny places where we can't squeeze one more object in without something else having to be thrown out. Most of us are on tight budgets (especially me!), and it gets harder every year to find a gift that is even worth mailing. So, without all the money-angst, and the horror of having to set foot in a Wal-Mart or Target during the Holidays or endure the the long lines at the Post Office, this year I'm actually looking forward to the Holidays for the first time in decades, instead of DREADING them. It can be a time of friendship & relaxation and enjoying the season, and not of shopping, credit card debt, and coming down with the flu.
Why when I am watching the kids is it a given and when my husband watches them he is (sm)
babysitting?
Amazing husband, incredible kids, fabulous life!
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Thanks I believe she's meeting
with the teacher today and we told her also to speak with her counselor.
No, they will support you in meeting your needs
Some kids just need to nurse longer than others. Sheesh.
meeting the neighbor
One thing I don't see that really will matter especially with these more agressive breeds...are they fixed? If one or both of these are intact males, all bets are off. You do not want to attempt to bring them together if they are intact males because that will change everything.
IMO, you and your neighbor may want your dogs to friends but in all likehood they don't. They are each used to their own territory and if they have not been socialized up to this point, then bringing a strange adult dog into their home will only set them up to fail. In all honesty, your dog is probably going to be happier staying at home without you then going with you to the neighbors.
I was in a meeting that had not started
Not in front of others, she was across from me, 1:1, not on a stage, no others around.
From my notes at the meeting.
in America. Category 6 is 4% or 4 million people dead. We have a stock pile of Tamiflu/Relenza which is about 50 million. I may seem like a lot, but, how many people live in the United States? By the way, the people who are sick get Tamiflu first and then government people and all their families, then second group are doctors, pharmacists, health care workers and their families and so on.
From my notes at the meeting.
in America. Category 6 is 4% or 4 million people dead. I do not think the numbers will be high, especially like in H1N1 flu in 1918. We have a stock pile of Tamiflu/Relenza which is about 50 million. I may seem like a lot, but, how many people live in the United States? By the way, the people who are sick get Tamiflu first and then government people and all their families, then second group are doctors, pharmacists, health care workers and their families and so on.
I have seen people get married from meeting..nm
Have seen it both ways, have seen marriages bust up over people meeting OTHERS online and I have seen people meet and marry from meeting online but I must say the former (marriages busting up from meeting OTHERS online) far outweighs the latter......been online nearly 13 years now.
I would have a meeting with principal or teacher.
Wow, how inappropriate of that teacher! I would definitely talk to the teacher's higher ups or to the teacher personally. That is unacceptable. Your poor daughter! Could she possibly be switched to another class instead of swimming for now? That gym teacher seriously crossed the line into territory that was none of his/her(?) business and will probably continue to do it to her and others if no one stops him/her(?). I would be very upset if I were you too!
whichever one is lying will be the one to resist the meeting nm
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You were correcting her in a meeting in front of other people?
You said this was in the course of a meeting, which leads me to believe you were not only correcting her, but doing it in front of other people. OUCH.
People using terms like "learn-ed," "ex-cape" and "axt" make me break out in a nervous rash if I have to listen to them for too long, but I would never correct someone for it.
ESPECIALLY NOT IN FRONT OF OTHER PEOPLE.
Anyone have any suggestions for meeting nice fellows more middle aged. I have tried
the dating sites and am not too impressed with those people. It seems like most of them have serious cash flow problems from so many divorces, etc. Not looking to support someone for sure.
BTW make absolutely certain that correct contact info is on the request for IEP meeting....nm
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he didn't bring back Nelli cuz he knew he was wrong for just sending those 2 in the meeting.
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Family is great but I am never back in my hometown where family is... So I always have extended fami
You can always pick your friends your stuck with your family. An Xmas for me is where my husband and kids come home to. It is what you make it!
Summer. Friends or family? Family. Tired or Awake?
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Big difference between family values and family jewels, eh? lol
LOL. I love this show. I think Gene and Shannon and her sister are a riot! What characters. It really is amazing to me the kids seem so laid back and so normal. They seem like great kids.
Does your family still do the early Sunday dinner w/family?
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SIL family, us and another family snacked,played
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It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
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Does your husband or significant other do this? Just now, at 7:30, my husband came home from sm
playing sports with a friend. After showering he comes downstairs naked and tries to start a conversation with me. My "office" is in the living room and he is standing in back of the couch so I can't see any private parts, just him without his shirt, but I can see enough to know he clearly is naked! I think he wants me to be amused or get turned on or something, but I'm not amused one bit. In fact, I keep working and basically ignore him.
Poor guy. I swear he thinks he's Vince Vaughn or something. I should at least smile at him but all I want to tell him is to put some clothes on! ugh!
Nope, no kids with him, all of our kids are 20 and over.
I would think that some of the $12,000 A YEAR he paid in support for over 9 years should have been enough to save some for college. He paid his dues so to speak, always paid the support on time, had insurance for them, etc. He told them straight up to pay for their own college. Is there something wrong with that?
ESL kids have a label =$$$. When the illiterate kids get a label slapped on them - they will get a
Most public schools do not teach children to read with intensive phonics. It has nothing to do with class size IMHO. The method of reading instruction is what determines if the kids will learn to read or not.
Consider homeschooling her.
Each child represents a $ amount to public school administration. As long as the child attends they get their $. They still get X amount of $ for each year they teach or do not teach a kid to read.
Their compensation is not reduced when they produce illiterate adults.
family
No she did not have Daniel throughout his whole life but there were times when he shouldn't have been with her but her mother would not take him without money. She was living in a motel with a bfriend and Daniel. She was broke and it was not pretty she had some really rough times and she was not always the "playboy" girl she worked in some really raunchy clubs.
I dont know about a brother but it has been a long long time age I do remember meeting a "sister" once and lots of different "boyfriends". There was always someone with their hand out.
I give her mother the benefit of the doubt but look at how things are going and what her mother is doing. There have been lots of back and forths in Vergie and Nicki's relationship and none of it has EVER appeared loving. Nicki was not innocent but I think she grew up and moved on with her life and her mother still wants to talk about her little Vicki.
No one is perfect not me, not you neither was Nicki, but her past was her past and she needs to be laid to rest, she went to extremes to establish her wishes let her be. Nicki is gone but the baby is here and needs to be sheltered from all this hoopla!!!
when it is a family, the family tends to think
since an addition is being made to a family during pregnancy, a lot of families see themselves as pregnant - as one - as a whole unit...nothing wrong with it - actually makes the entire family participate in it, which is a GREAT thing............not like the men of the 1950s who went to work and the moms did absolutely everything else....I like men/families who WANT to take part and be involved.
Old fashioned or not - I prefer the way the men participate today in all of it..........makes for better communication and all know what's going on in the family....
FYI to all, keep your old fashioned minds open because a closed mind will make you old WAY before your time.
There are 4 in our family and we each sm
get to pick one definite thing to do. My hubby says that is his pick. LOL
All the best for you and your family and keep..sm
 Keep us posted here - I will remember your *handle* countrymt and will be on the lookout for your posts!!!
I have family down there
My husband is originally from Boston, and we go down about once a month or so for a few days to visit his parents, brother, etc. It's kind of like a second home for me!
Family
My heart goes out to you, as I too understand that kind of pain from family. Just know that it is not you that is causing this rift. It is your brother, not his wife even though it is obvious that she is doing the manipulating. Your brother should not be able to be manipulated so easily by his wife's insecurities and jealousy of your relationship. Unfortunately in life, and in families perceptions get screwed up with time, and distance, and if one does not hold true to their fondness of one another, or respect or what I call the family gene that holds a family together through thick or thin, then there is nothing you can do about this situation. He obviously cannot hold true to his feelings for you because of his wife's insecurities. Just let things be and don't become bitter or begin to cut yourself off. Sometimes things change down the road for the better.
re: family
Yes it is sad that the family unit is being seen less and less. Yes self control is a responsibility....but that comes from the Lord...that is a fruit of the Spirit...so what I'm saying is it is our sin nature to stray and we will be held accountable for that sin...the only way to be forgiven for it is to ask Jesus for forgiveness and accept Him as our Saviour...don't know if I'm wording this correctly....
I pray that you get what I'm trying to say that we all need Jesus...I pray that I worded correctly...
Yes, my family sm
DH and my mom didn't get along well (although she was quite controlling and wanting to run our lives after we got married, and I do understand where he was coming from). Eleven years ago we moved 300 miles away. Now I see my mom and other relatives only very occasionally. Luckily she can come see us once in a while. I have to beg DH to go there, and my vision is so bad I can't drive it myself.
I haven't been "home" in 2-1/2 years this time. And yeah, I regret it.
I miss my mom, my family and my friends. But DH is never gonna change, and I have 3 kids, and I'm stuck. :(
My family went to while once and after just
10 seconds inside my DD backed out. My DH valiantly stayed with her while I went through with DS. I asked before hand to make sure they could not touch me...that is my biggest fear also. They told me there was defintely a "No Touch Rule". My DH and DD told the guy at the front my name so I heard all through house my name being repeated in a very spooky voice. One "monster" did come right up to me and I just kept saying "no touch rule, no touch rule, no touch rule". He stuck to the rules and I did feel better after that. Needless to say DS loved every minute of it.
To you and your family
My heart goes out to you and all the people in CA dealing with this horrendous threat. In the national news this a.m. (Wednesday) they stated conditions are improving in order for the firefighters to try to get in and attack these monstrous fires. Best of luck to you all. Keep us posted, if at all possible.
I have family there and know quite a bit about it. sm
Anything specific, such as area? Jobs?
family
Hey, Hayseed - You can adopt our family. We have enough of this kind of stuff going on, we can keep you feeling "loved" for the rest of your life! Seriously, have great nieces and nephew who desparately need to be loved. Your're welcome any time.
Here's what we do in our family....
I work 2 jobs, my husband and son scrap for extra money. They go out the night before garbage day, or the morning of. We have a flat trailer that has different buckets on it and they sort everything they find. They have break down the big stuff into its components and smaller pieces. You would be amazed at what the scrap yards will take and how much they pay.
For my family
It has had an effect on some with job loss and problems finding a new job. Luckily for me and my hubs we have been able to hold ours. Gas prices are outrageous as well as groceries, I have noticed the same as you. We live in an area where you have to drive quite a distance for any work - hence my decision to work at home in transcription and take a paycut. Had I known nearly 10 years ago that it would cost so much in gas we wouldn't be living where we do...but that's hindsight and nothing I can do about that now. We have talked about selling our house and moving but that seems like a lost cause. Working at home has definitely payed
off as every time gas prices go up, in a roundabout way I feel like I have gotten a raise.
I am buying generic more often and we have cut back on junk food. No chips, ice cream, soda, anything. We just can't afford it. If I'm going to spend the money I want to spend it knowing we are getting nutrition packed in.
we also grew a garden this summer to help cut back on produce costs.
Very much like my family - 2 each + 1 together sm
My biological mom moved out of state when I was in 3rd grade, and my stepmom's first husband had died in a car accident. Plus my sister and stepbrother are less than 2 months' apart in age, which mostly didn't get noticed because she moved out of state with my mom while I stayed with my dad. The only thing that caused confusion was that my stepsister and I have almost identical names (similar first name, same middle name, last name with same first initial), and the oldest 4 of us all have names starting with M. When my brother was born, they gave him name starting with J 
my family has quite a few ...
some others below posted a couple we do - peanut butter and banana ( which I have decided to save for when I'm toothless :D ) and peanut butter and dill pickles, but I prefer it on toast, lotsa crunch!
My grandfather liked peanut butter with thick slices of walla walla sweet onions and put enough garlic powder on the peanut butter you couldn't see it's color. When I was little he told me one time it's why he never got sick, I said sure, nobody will get close enough to give you their germs!
My mom loves to put ketchup on just about anything, especially scrambled eggs. She also used to buy the cans of Campbell's bean with bacon condensed soup and make a sandwich with it, with ketchup, of course!
My brother was/is addicted to salt. We used to find the salt shaker hidden in his room where the top was all crusted over from licking it to eat the salt. :P
gotta admit my family is weird to say the least! lol
I'm so sorry for you and your family
Losing a pet is always so hard. Sending your whole family love and hugs.
family
I find it interesting that when a young woman posted that her mother and grandmother were abusing her, no one felt sorry for her. Everyone one told her to forgive and forget. I also find it interesting how judgemental everyone was about who was the victim. That the grandmother and the mother were the victim and not the daughter. It seems ironic given the long, long, long, posts on domestic violence this morning.
Our family pet
has eye problems as well. She can barely see any more and we help her get around. We make sure she is fed at the same time every day, in the same place. The vet wants her to lose weight but she is fat and happy and at 13 years old we feel that is the most important for her. She is a small dog and still gets around well but we take her outside and watch her closely. I understand how difficult it is to watch and see a pet deteriorate.
We lost this dog's Aunt 2 years ago. She had many more health problems but was still perky and able to get around well. She died while we were at work and the vet said it was most likely heart failure. She never suffered though.
I feel for your loss. It is never something easy and will be with you forever. But I think it is important to remember the good times and the positive impact that the pet had in your life. It's too bad there is not more options for comfort care for our pets like there is for humans. Our family would have been so empty without any of these pets. My pets are truely my babies.
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