I would give $100 cash and leave it at that- sm
Posted By: XXX on 2009-05-04
In Reply to: graduation gift for high school sm - tired
if you can afford a little more and think $100 is too cheap than do so--I certainly would not go over $300 though. If you don't want to do cash then give a gift card to a store you know they like. I think it is ridiculous for a kid (or parent) to expect a gift for graduation. I would just send a nice card. Kids (and some adults) are way too entitled these days and expect everything just given to them. If you do end up buying something engraved make sure is is something that will actually get used and not tossed out by the kid. They might use a keyring for that nice new car he/she has.
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Leave some open boxes of baking soda inside and maybe search for carbon filters to leave in there,
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A lot of people are so desperate for work that some will give you free bids and give you ideas while
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cash cab
Anyone out there enjoy The Cash Cab on the Discovery channel featuring Ben Bailey?....Just found this and I'm an avid armchair player...I'd probably freeze-up in the cab.
dsc.discovery.com/fansites/cashcab/quiz/quiz.html
cash cab
I caught that several months ago and liked it, but could never find when it came back on - when is it? thanks, I'll look forward to watching it, there's such junk on T.V.now I can't stand to watch!
I would not cash it out. If he wants it so -sm
bad let him cash out one of his, but you will have to pay penalties for early withdrawal as well as taxes on the money. Go get a car loan at one of those dinky used car lots, we have something called DriveTime here that says "everyone" gets approved. Plenty of people trying to sell cars and make a sale, just get a loan and keep your money in the bank. My husband insisted we get rid of my Suburban this April (of course then gas plummetted) though it still ran good at 230K miles, had some cosmetic issues inside and a few dinky problems but ran great (had no engine issues). His parents insisted on loaning us the money though we were just going to get a car loan. So we borrowed $14K, got a 2004 Trailblazer at Carmax with 42K miles, and had been paying them back at $650 or so a month when they "forgave" us the balance of the loan ($10K) as a Christmas gift (they gave my BIL $10K a few years ago for his house downpayment, guess they wanted to even things out). Granted not everyone's parents or in-laws can act as a bank, but if your's can you can always ask for a loan (and put it in writing if necessary--we did not as they knew it would not be an issue). My in-laws are very tight with their money so it was a complete surprise for us, and obviously greatly appreciated. We have had a lot of bad karma lately so I think they were just trying to be helpful, that and even things out between the brothers.
We used mostly cash
I think I may have used credit just once for something that was more expensive. We did try to spend less than usual this year.
I used cash.....nm
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cash only
We used cash only and spent a little more this year as we bought little gifts for everyone. Dh has a PT job making deliveries and he got tips at Christmas time that more than covered Christmas.
You should be able to cash the check at...
their bank as long as you have ID. They don't have to tell you if there is money there; if they can't cash it, you'll know. If not I'd go in tomorrow or Friday. Good luck
times for cash cab
6 pm and 6:30 pm EST and Cash Cab After Dark at 11 pm EST on Discovery Channel....Enjoy the game!
If there's ever a Cash Cab marathon...
I'm callin' in sick!!!
My daughter (21) and I play along and we complement each other's knowledge very well (baby boomer vs college-educated LOL) and we would SO be rich!! I think if we happened to get lucky enough to catch the Cash Cab, we'd say...Take us to Boston!!! haha!
... but I think Ben is a little scary ;-)
you can't go wrong with cash! nm
Try to catch a ride on the Cash Cab.
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Don't use them myself, but my MIL uses her Discover for the cash back. nm
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Try to catch a ride on the Cash Cab.
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Well, for one thing, Cash Cab in a mini-van, not a car.
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We, too used cash this year as we have for about the last 10 years . . .
glad, too, because the work load always crashes right after the holidays for a few weeks and at least I don't have that extra headache right now . . .
We paid cash, spent about
$1000 total for grandkids and gifts for each other. We are debt free except our house. There is nothing like being able to sleep well at night and not be afraid to answer the phone should it ring. We have lived this way for many years, have learned to save money, pay cash for what we want. This has been to our benefit as we haven't had our CC companies drop our limits or increase our percentage rates at all; in fact, our limits keep rising even though we only use them once or twice a year. The thought of having to pay for something many months and years later is baffling to me.
This is my way of making some cash on the side...sm
I can sew and I love making cute crafty things. So this is a purse I made. I put it on ebay. We'll see if it sells. Give me ya'lls opinion please.
I hope you have a receipt for the cash - sm
she may be nuts enough to take you to small claims court over the $300 saying you were quoted X dollars and did not pay her husband. Though he might have to be the one to actually bring the lawsuit since he did the work, though she might talk him into it. I also hope you had a written contract as well in place, always pays to cover your butt in these situations. She is obviously desperate for cash (is she not eligible for unemployement?) or having contractor remorse for hiring out her hubby and thinks he short-changed himself and that you took advantage. ----- When I first started reading this I thought it would be, oh I hired a friend's husband, he did a lousy job, we don't want to pay him....that sort of thing. Glad it was not that, seems like you we happy with the work, paid for it as agreed and that was it, then the wife/friend got involved. My DH is not one to haggle or overcharge for anything, gives away his help on big things, and it drives me nuts, so I normally handle that sort of stuff though it is rare for us. We do a lot of bartering on my road, you scratch my back, I will scratch yours sort of thing, from helping start cars to fixing TVs (my DH has saved our one neighbor mucho $ fixing their TV a couple of times). If we cannot repay the favor we either pay in cash or beer, though not so much in beer anymore as the one couple we do this the most, his wife wants cash though the husband is the one doing the work, so to not make waves we usually give him cash depending on what he did for us. He will do car work for me when I cannot get my DH to do it, I pay him for that. But little stuff like moving something we trade favors on. ----I hope she does not become a huge problem for you.
best cash-back credit card?
We've been using the GM card to get new cars for less, but i'm open to a different card that rewards general purchases, food, gas, apparel etc, with cash back. Any recommendations? thanks!
Do any of you do online surveys for cash or prizes?
I've done a few surveys over the last few days, and was wondering if this kind of thing is really worth my time.
You do not give them food, you give
the children food but if they did not have the food to eat, probably would call family and children services. I do NOT give away money to anyone.
Leave Them In
My mom uses hers a lot and she leaves them in. I use hers more than I use mine and I leave mine in, too. I just got it out yesterday after a year of not using it and it still worked.
What about when they just leave their
carts in line, taking their packages and leaving for you to move out of the way. I say Excuse me, is this your cart? How rude.
get him help or leave him
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No, but I tell her where I'm going and bye-bye when I leave
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I do want to leave, but (sm)
him being so agreeable scares me. I want to believe that he has been thinking the same thing and that me being the one to say it makes it easier for him not to be the "bad guy" but I am just scared that he is going to somehow try to cause me problems, I guess I just don't trust him.
Why leave is everything is okay? nm
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Take this from me. Leave her alone. Seriously. She will come to you sm
when she is good and ready. I was living in a snowed in town, my baby son was born in the middle of winter, my mom was 3,000 miles away, had my MIL with me, husband went back to work a week after son was born. I DIDN'T WANT ANY COMPANY. I didn't realize it at the time but I was suffering from severe PPD. And anything anyone said or did (sister in laws all acted like you did- confused, hurt, did not understand), all because they've never walked an inch in my shoes. I've been where you're friend now walks. Leave her alone. Let her mom know you are still there for her. Don't you dare give up on her, either, due to being offended. I lost a few so called friends because they couldn't handle the way I acted after my first son was born. My reaction: Good riddance. You were never my true friends anyway.
I could write a book on PPD. This is clearly what she is suffering from. And please don't tell me, "oh, just call me! I can help you! I just want to sit in the room with you!" Please. No. You don't understand. It is a severe mental condition. At this point you need meds, rest, and understanding.
Let me make a long story short. I had this one friend from college who INSISTED on seeing me. She came to the house 5 days after I got home. I LOCKED myself and the baby in the room, sat in the rocker and NEVER once left the room. I didn't want to see her. I, the social butterfly, couldn't understand it at the time, but I will tell you that I resented her "bugging" me like that. Of course, 6 months later, we were friends again. But that day was torture for me.
You don't know what she is going through, like I said. Just be there for her. Pray for her. She will come around. 8 days is too soon to bother with her if she is not ready. Having a baby is a truly precious and personal thing and all women have to deal with this event in their own way.
Women must understand this. Even friends.
Leave
Your last paragraph reveals a lot. You don't respect him and he doesn't respect you. You are not shallow. The two of you have grown apart and he is not the kind of man you want to spend your life with. Cut your losses and get out.
I leave it on
but no one eats it. It's kinda hard so I always thought it had a bone in it and probably would be difficult to take off. From now on I will probably remove it.
Leave now
It will be hard, but you can make it. I left after a nightmare of 10 years. I had 2 kids and not much money, but I got help from the state and survived by sheer will. The happiness of being free and the pride in becoming independent are well worth it. Good luck to you. Go get happy!
leave
You said you stayed with family out of state once before - can you take the kids and do that again? That might be the safest thing - then file for divorce, etc. You know him better than we do - so just trust your instincts and keep yourself and your kids safe - but you do need to get out of that marriage. . Take care and let us know how things are going.
She needs to leave well enough alone. He
might seem like her knight in shining army, but she has built a life with someone else. Obviously, she is not too unhappy to have stayed in her marriage for 25 years. Every once in a while I see my ex-fiance and my heart still gives a little extra thump. Then I stop and look at what I have. I have a wonderful husband of 30 years, 2 beautiful children, 1 adorable grandson. What more could I want. Yeah, the first guy was what some would call the love of my life. That doesn't lessen the love that I feel for my husband. The other man is now into his second marriage and, from all accounts, cheated his way through the first and they divorced after 20 years of marriage. As for my marriage, it's had its ups and downs just like any marriage, but, all in all, it has been very, very good and I wouldn't trade what I have for all the "thumps" in my heart. I could have married him and ended up being the one cheated on and divorced after 20 years. Thank God (quite literally) that I was spared that. 
You wish they would all leave?
because you have to transcribe ESLs and it is irritating, now you wish they would all leave? I didn't realize being an MT was so stressful for some. Glad I'm able to handle it. I must be a stronger person. Oh I love coming here! Makes me feel so much better about myself.
Why is it okay to leave this post up, but
delete all the other ones?
Well don't leave us hanging - let's have it!!! nm
Even a big man is not home 24/7. Leave while he is gone
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If she wanted to leave she would have done so
It sounds like it's drama she is posting.
She is a grown woman and could have easily left him during church, while he was sleeping, at work, ect if she *really* wanted to leave.
Please tell me she didn't leave the dog...sm
with him! I'd be afraid for the dog's safety, as well as the dog being used to manipulate your daughter...
i did leave, but came back
I read your post, and just wanted to add to my post below that I did leave and just came back within the last 3 weeks. Things were pretty good at first, but now, even last night, he comes home from work at 2 am. The kids and I have been in bed for hours, and he starts a rant at 3 am about the milk being all gone that he bought the day before, and about my daughter using his shaving cream up in the bathtub. I just don't know where to go at this point. School is getting ready to start and my kids love this area. The only place I could go at this point is my mother's, that is where I went before. I don't know, I'm just venting and praying while I work. Thanks.
I did leave him once for about nine days...sm
After only 7 months of marriage I left and sort of went into hiding from him. He didn't have any idea where I was. When I finally contacted him he was totally distraught. He begged me to come back and made all kinds of promises to get counseling and go to anger management classes. Of course, the same week that I returned the "old" husband came right back.
One reason I really can't leave now is b/c we have total custody of my step-daughter and I am the only mother she has ever truly had. I don't feel like I can leave and desert her. There is no way I could ever get custody of her in our state. Thus, I keep on dragging along taking whatever is dished out my way.
I leave the radio on for them
We go away about once a month for a few days to visit my husband's mother who lives out of state, about a 4 hour drive away, and I always leave the radio on for our 3 cats just to sort of keep them company.
All the more reason why you should leave.
Do you have any friends or family that you can stay with, so you aren't alone? Not sure if it's him you are afraid of or the legal/financial stuff but maybe you would feel better if you talked to someone close to you about the situation.
Leave some $ on dresser and see what happens.
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Fo Done: Is it right to leave a husband...
My answer to your question, in your case, is: No.
Maybe now you reject your husband so much because of this letter he wrote you, but I am sure that he regrets it and he wrote it in a state 'when he was out of his mind'. He apologized!
It is very seldom that men apologize.
Give him some t i m e to prove (oh my, I really think in this case it is prove, because it can be replaced by 'showing', but if the majority says it's proof, ok, then it's proof, I am confused now) that he wants to treat you better, give him another chance.
Don't forget, but forgive.
I am the only one who advises you to stay; I cannot believe this. All others give you their own 'horror stories', much worse than yours. Is this giving advice? Counseling?
Keep in mind, you can often give it a try, make it a little better, day by day, it takes only o n c e to leave and this is it, it's final.
Maybe if you stay, down the road, you will thank me for telling you to stay.
But......if he starts to physically abuse you, leave immediatley.
Now I am already expecting comments like....
'emotional abuse is even worse than physical abuse....etc....'
It depends on the grade of verbal abuse; some people regard even criticism as emotional and verbal abuse.
Can you not make it and just leave the
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I did leave the seeds in...
maybe that's it. Strange stuff.
I also read you have to have a pressure-cooker for green beans and corn. I decided to blanch and freeze mine because I don't have the money right now for a pressure-cooker but that's on my list to watch the upcoming sales so I have one for next year.
Good luck to you too! Its a great way to save money after the start up costs and a much healthier alternative to store bought.
if you ask if you should leave on this board
The answer will be yes. No one will ever suggest that you do otherwise. This is the "you go girl, we hate men, leave the dirt bags, the kids will get over it" board.
I probably would tell hubs he had to leave
Nah, just kidding. The mama is trying to hide the kittens. The kittens will nurse for about 4 weeks and then they should be able to eat at least soft kitty food. Mama will start refusing to nurse when she wants the kitties to let her go, but about 4 weeks. I just had a baby kitten at my home today- the girl who does rescuing with me brought it by. She got at animal control and it was just a baby, about 4 or 5 weeks old.
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