I would contact a hospice...
Posted By: kam on 2007-12-19
In Reply to: Grief counseling before the fact SM - Christine
My grandmother just passed away, and for her last week she was at a local hospice. They were so wonderful and caring there and really helped us all deal with her dying. Even if your mom doesn't go to hospice care (which I highly recommend when she is very close), I would call a hospice and ask them for recommendations for grief counseling. I can't say enough about how wonderful they were, and they really helped my mother deal with the loss of her mother. They also provided morphine so we could rest assured she was not in pain once she wasn't able to communicate any longer. I am sorry that you are losing your mother. I am sure it is difficult at any age.
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Hospice...sm
My youngest daughter & I moved to stay with my mom almost a year after my stepfather died - hospice was still in touch with my mom and even offered counseling to my 13-yo if needed.
I agree with others. Hospice is invaluable.
My FIL died last year after a 10-year illness. We thought we were all prepared for his death, even hoping for it in a way. But, even in that situation, it was hard. The hospice staff was so very wonderful! They helped clarify situations so that we could feel confident in decision-making, and they were there for all of us, especially for my father-in-law.
I'm so sorry.
I agree, hospice is the absolute best
When my mom had cancer back in the ྌs, dad was against hospice (basically 'cuz he didn't accept that she was going to die), so she died in a hospital. When he had cancer in ྜྷ, we talked to hospice because he was the worst patient ever in the hospital (I had to be there 24/7). Hospice was the best choice and the best support, as long as there is a family member there for the day-to-day care. They provided meds, a nurse to bathe him (being my dad, he wouldn't let me do it), and they were always a phone call away, even at 3 a.m. When he did die, they came right out and took care of things so I didn't have to, removing all the equipment the next day.
Hope this helped.
Yes--hospice or respite care (sm)
I'm sorry to hear about your mother. You sound very dedicated to her. Please take the advice to call the hospice. Even if you are not looking for their services, they will point you to where you need to go.
Respite care may be a good option as well where you can have a day or two (or more) off from caregiving to tend to yourself.
Take care.
Contact
the attorney general in your area. You should not be responsible for these charges. You are a victim - not the bad guy. Find a new phone company if this one will not work with you to resolve this. Good luck!
I would contact them...
and talk it over. Banks and finance companies will say that the worst thing to do (in most cases) is file bankrupcy right away without talking it over with them first because they do want thier money. The majority of places will try to work with you. Been in those shoes. I consolidated mine, took me a little longer to pay it off but it was easier to pay 1 amount than all 3 and not cringe each time the phone rang. Had one card that said. Okay pay this amount for 3 months with no late fees (virtually nothing)and then pick up from there. I will live to regret that I'm sure but it helped me out at the time. Sometimes you can call and ask to skip a payment. They tack it on the end and charge you but if it helps it helps. You will sometimes find that if you ask a loan company for a "consolidation loan" they will say they don't do those. Instead give the amount for payoff of total bills or darn near it and try to go from there. I think the best thing is to explain your situation to them and ask for options or ideas or at least try to.
Maybe you should contact your vet
and ask if anything unusual happened (not that they would tell you a horror story if it did), but maybe something small happened to trigger it that they would recall.
Aside from that they might have come across this type of thing and know of some ways to sooth the puppy.
Your son doesn't have anything on him that a dog might smell and freak out about, does he?
This will sound corny, but maybe your son could think of something really sad and lie on the floor crying. Maybe the puppy would see his vulnerablility and empathize with him and lose fear.
Probably not but maybe they'd contact them to be on the show! ; )
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I would say either try a contact person where the
contact may be someone in the Social Services for your state. Maybe even the Division of Child Welfare. I would look in the phonebook under government agencies. I bet a social worker may be able to help or guide you in the right direction. I knew someone who had a child with cerebral palsy that took the insurance offered from the employer, but was able to get Medicaid for the child as a supplement for things the primary did not cover. I am not sure if this is state-by-state though. Hope this helps. Good luck to you and your daughter as her children do need health insurance.
Maybe you should contact the company...
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I would contact you doctor.
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Definitely contact your doctor sm
You didn't mention where on your back the mole was, but particularly if it was on your upper back near your neck, I would be concerned about the swollen and tender lymph nodes.
Regardless, you need to talk to your doctor. The lymph nodes could even be a completely separate issue, but it is definitely a sign that there is a problem.
Good luck!
it's better for us not to have contact with people like that
stay away from her, don't comment much to family members about it, eventually they'll get used to the way things are now.
Contact your local ACO....
Call your local animal control officer, or if you don't know the contact info for them, the police should. It's their job to calmly address the situation. It's not fair to you to listen to this poor animal all day long. I would also mention that you fear for not only the animals safety, but also your own. I'm sure it is on record anyway from the prior incident but wouldn't hurt to bring it up again. I would definitely not approach the people one-on-one, especially given their past behavior.
I'm sorry you're going through this. 
I would contact everyone on the IEP team (sm)
and let them know you are not being informed as you should be. Also, if they cannot handle it at your school, then he could be transferred to another school (at his current school's expense; they would also have to provide transporation). You do have a lot of rights here, and this is federally mandated, not state. Good luck.
Maybe try limiting contact to
just phone calls. That will let her know that you are cooling off the visitation with her but not make you look ungrateful. If she brings up never seeing the children, I would let her know politely that you thought she didn't care to have them visit since they always seem to "act up" at her house. If DH wants to see her DH, then let him visit him alone. Is there a close neighbor or friend that could keep your girls while you visit your aunt once in a while? I take it she lives nearby if your boss has contact with her. If she asks why you didn't bring the children, again - say that you thought it would be better for her if you didn't bring them anymore since their behavior doesn't meet her standards. She should get the hint pretty quickly.
I definitely agree with you that she should not be pushing her discipline methods on you. You are the parent and only you and DH should have any say in how you choose to discipline your children and whether or not they even need it. I will say from experience that the previous generation seems to think we don't know how to handle our kids. I think a lot of that has to do with the state this country is in, but I don't believe it falls directly on our shoulders. Afterall, our kids weren't even born when things started to go downhill. Maybe it's all the hairbrushes and flyswatters that are causing some of these problems.
It is already from a safe contact
I can open all mail, but where pics should be (and were before hotmail changed the look) are just boxes. It isn't just from one contact, but from all my contacts that I used to receive pics from. Now what? I sent an email to the contact site, but they have not answered me yet.
Contact Ebay again.
It may just be delayed shipping with all the holiday rush. I haven't shipped anything this year but in the past the post office has told me they don't guarantee the same as normal.
sort of still keep in contact, but
They didn't go to HS with me. One I've known since probably 1978 when I was 8 and she was 6 and we were visiting here on vacation, then my family moved here and she and I have been BF since 1985...only keep in touch by email and occasional phone calls.
My other one I've known since 1995 and we're in touch by email too.
Our lives are just too complicated and too far apart by distance to really see eachother, but we can catch up instantly with eachother even if it has been a while
If you live in HOA, can you not contact
the president of the association. You do not have to give your name, just tell them the address or name of the offenders and the association should take care of this for you. I also am in association and the rules here are no animals are suppose to run loose in the neighborhood. If I see an animal loose, I figure probably is lost.
Can you contact someone for advice?...sm
It's a potato uprising, I tell you. Seriously, sorry you got hurt. Can you talk to a pharmacist? How about a nurse help line, maybe through a hospital or insurance company? I hope you heal soon.
You need to contact the supreme Court
Florida tried to make sacrificing animals illegal but were overturned by the Supreme Court in 1993 for interfering with religious practices.
Use of emergency contact info
You know how when you go to the dentist office, enroll your child in day care, fill out a job application, everyone wants contact information "in case of emergency." Maybe I'm different from everyone else, but I consider an emergency as defined by my falling to the floor clutching my chest while my lips turn blue and I can't talk, or falling down 5 flights of steps, or being hit by a car...you get the idea.
I no longer have a good relationship with my mother (75) because she is getting senile. I can't trust that anything she knows about me won't make the gossip curcuit as the truth or something totally different, plus she wants to die on her own property without anyone else another and be found days later by some unknown stranger who notices her body out in the yard...so I don't visit, either. Last time I visited, her whole face was black and blue because she had passed out and fallen face down on a concrete pad where she stayed until the next day when she was finally able to stand up and go inside, then hide from the world for almost a month...I happened to visit her within a week of it happening. I don't want to be the one who finds her dead on another visit.
The reason this is important is because of a legal situation that I am in totally unrelated to her and I have a gag order on me...and she can't talk to me without taking "no" for an answer when she quizzes me about it, which she will do every single time we talk. So, I've just had to say, have a nice life, love you, let instructions to my sister to call me if anyone needs me.
Now it comes back to those old applications I filled out. My phone number changed and my dentist used my mother's "emergency" contact information to try to reach me, going into great detail the nature of why they were calling. It was just my 6 months cleaning, but I didn't even schedule it because I was moving and changing jobs and couldn't predict if I could keep an appointment 6 months in the future. So my mother calls my ex-husband, my ex-mother-in-law, trying to reach me for this "emergency". My ex-hubby called me.
This is so embarrasing to me. If someone dies, let my sister call me. I don't know what to do or how else to get across to her that she doesn't have the right to interfere in my affairs. The dentist office made the first wrong, and her trying to "save" me was the next one. I'm almost 50 years old and I think I can take care of myself, thank you very much. I let the dentist office have it with both barrels. That was abuse of a reason to call my mother as an "emergency" and they have taken her info out of their system. I have even had to change physicians because my mother and I had the same primary care, and all my visits were relayed to her by the staff..."oh, your daughter looked so good when she was here last week!", which prompts a phone call to my ex-hubby. ARRRGH!! Violation of HIPAA!
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with this? I'm almost at the point of having a lawyer draft a letter to her. I'm past the point of feeling bad about hurting her feelings as she shows no consideration for mine.
If you are serious contact the seller/bank- sm
and make an offer. How low they will go depends on how long they have been trying to sell, what they have invested in it. IF the previous owners owed a lot on it, the bank will probably still want fair market value. Years ago I thought about buy the house next door to my parents (about 3500 sq ft with a huge 2 car garage and an old pool that either needed to be filled in or total destroyed and redone), I went through it with the relator. The house was about 30 years old then, the previous owners and their 6 kids had basically destroyed it, burned/scratched up hardwood floors, broken doors, windows, etc. the kitchen was original from 1964 as were the bathrooms, etc. It needed lots of work, a new roof, you name it, it needed it. The bank would not take less than $200K-- I was not willing to spend that kind of money on a house that needed at least $100K worth of work on it. They eventually got some sucker to pay it though; and boy did they spend some cash on it. Looks great now and work about $400K at least, but they probably spent that much to fix it and buy it. --- one note of caution when you buy a forecloser though, I believe previous owner has a year to reclaim the property-- if they show up with back payments in hand, etc. they can take the house back from you, improvements and all and you do not get a penny back. So be subtle in your home improvements or wait a year to do anything major.
contact Anderson Cooper at CNN...nm
Have had no contact with sister for 5 years
5 years free of hysterical calls at all hours that go on for hours, crazy accusations, death threats, trying to turn other relatives against me, her demanding praise for the tiniest things and putting me down every chance she gets, cops at my door if she gets a scratch on her car because "I must have done it because I'm stalking her".
Nope, don't miss her at all.
You contact first the seller on ebay
and then ebay directly if it is not resolved.
Do you wear contact lenses? sm
I had giant cell papilloma on the inside of my lid once from my lens. Not painful, occasionally itchy, but really not bothersome. Doc told me to stop wearing the lenses a few weeks, maybe gave me drops (happened a long time ago), and the condition resolved.
Hope you heal soon, whatever it is.
You should contact animal control
Leaving a dog tied up like that and barking incessantly is abuse for one thing. Surely there is some kind of animal control or even the police you could report to?
Did you have contact with your friend after her diagnosis?
I ask because if she was your friend and you knew she had pancreatic cancer, why wouldn't you know her husband left her? I would imagine if a friend of mine was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, I would visit her and call her up until she passed. I would probably know if her husband left her.
Just curious.
I still think you should contact your police dept...
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The Asian people I come in contact with are quite friendly with SM
good senses of humor.
I'm trying to be tactful, but you may be the one sending the wrong vibe.
one way to find out, don't contact him, see how long it takes
maybe he does not want to hurt your feelings by saying helikes to hear from you; however, he is not contacting you, so stop contacting him and you'll get your answer.
I am basing this on personal experience. They did not contact me
unless I was doing something wrong when I started, both as an MT and QA. I only recieved feedback when i was in error.
No outside contact & children and women taught
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I did contact the State Department. Sorry I asked....
I had no idea there was a website I could go to in order to get information, but I did find it after I posted my question. The travel advisory is largely for border towns. As far as Cancun, they just ask you use common sense in travel i.e. do not go alone after dark or to "bad" parts of the city, careful with money etc. The same advice you would give someone visiting L.A., Detroit, or New York for the first time.
Contact him and be thankful you found him alive and hopefully healthy. sm
If you pass this opportunity up, you may never get another chance. I think i would call him, but you also have to think about someone else answering the phone and be prepared just in case. i believe everyone deserves a second chance and a chance for explanations. my eldest brother recently had his 23yo son contact him. lots of issues and reasons, but at least his son got to meet his father. now i am trying to get the family together as i am trying to get to know my nephew via myspace. both were sitting around waiting on the other to make a move after their initial meeting and neither were doing it. just FYI though, my brother's wife also had a major problem with my brother meeting his long lost son as well. what's up with that??? i can't comprehend that. as adults, it isn't like they are only after money you know. just want to know their family is all. contact him before you regret it!
Contact your local battered women's shelter
Go out of the house to do it, call from a pay phone, not your cell phone or anywhere that it would leave a trace. They will be able to help you get out of there safely. It is dangerous to try to do this on your own, especially if your husband will come looking for you. You need the help of people who are experienced with this kind of situation and can offer you a safe haven while you are figuring out your next move.
Call them TODAY. Don't wait any longer. Just tell your husband you need to go to the grocery store (and be sure you come home with some groceries). Call them from a pay phone. If you don't know the name of your local battered women's shelter, call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) and they can guide you. There is a link below to the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
Good luck. Please keep us updated on your situation.
Would definitely contact these people. This one looks awesome and affordable. I love sm
the quilts on the bed.
For cats I have used contact paper sticky side up. (sm)
They do not like to get their feet all stuck to it. Took twice for the most persistent cat to catch on. Haven't tried it on dogs but seems like it should work as well with them.
hmmm...pretty quickly went from you ever heard of to contact me if interested
Contact a local realtor who buys homes. There are people in your area who will buy sm
buy your house if you are in foreclosure so that this doesn't happen to you. Look into it ASAP!
BTW make absolutely certain that correct contact info is on the request for IEP meeting....nm
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I wear gas permeable contact lenses and have been having trouble with itching eyes and whitish
exudate when I wear them lately and the eye doc says it is allergies. I have tried Allergan for contact lens problems but it doesnt really work. It may also be my eyes are dry. I dont want to try other lenses but just wondered if anyone else has this problem. I end up wearing my glasses and I actually see better with the lenses but they have become very uncomfortable. I am middle aged by the way. I never had this problem before and did you find anything that works.
If your loan is an FHA-backed loan, you can contact the
to help you. Each state has one assigned to it by the FHA. I'm talking the FHA loans that are 5% down, sometimes bond money is available, etc. Not the one where payments are based on your income, etc.
Whatever you do, contact your mortgagor TODAY. Do NOT delay. Be realistic about what you can do financially to recover -- do not agree to terms you cannot realistically carry out.
You should have several options available to you before foreclosure is started. You might even try to do a quick sale of your home. You have until the very moment they auction that title off.
Try looking for information here:
http://articles.moneycentral.msn.com/Banking/HomeFinancing/FacingForeclosure9Options.aspx
http://www.hud.gov/foreclosure/index.cfm
http://www.hud.gov/offices/hsg/sfh/nsc/reliefop.cfm
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