I wish to share with you my experience as a teenager.
Posted By: So on 2009-05-30
In Reply to: I had sex at 14 and I was kind of a tramp - T
Hi T: Your story sounds a little like what happened to me as a teenager. Well really I was a virgin until 17, but after that I went through a period when I declared my independence -- or at least I thought I was. You are so right though about girls waiting and they should not just go for sex with the 1st boy they meet. I really feel sorry for girls who get caught up in this lifestyle, thinking to be popular with the boys, they have to do this. Where are their mothers and dads who should guide them and give them enough confidence that they can just walk away and not worry if they are popular or not.
I find this behavior very sad and disappointing for the girls involved. Of course now that I am much older and I realize how foolish this was for me. But there is still a hypocritical element to our society and boys want to get as many of the girls they can, but in the end they do not respect them. What a vicious circle it is as a teenager. I am just glad that is all behind me, as I am up in age near retirement.
If I had a chance to talk to the young girls, I know what I would say. You must value yourself and avoid any young men who would degrade you in any way. I just wish I had a mother to be there for me at that very difficult time in my life. That would make all the difference in the world.
P.S. T do not be too harsh on yourself. I think I know where you were coming from (mind set). This is a painful part of my past, which I have always wished to cover up. It is healing to bring it out in the open.
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I wish to share with you my experience as a teenager.
Hi T: Your story sounds a little like what happened to me as a teenager. Well really I was a virgin until 17, but after that I went through a period when I declared my independence -- or at least I thought I was. You are so right though about girls waiting and they should not just go for sex with the 1st boy they meet. I really feel sorry for girls who get caught up in this lifestyle, thinking to be popular with the boys, they have to do this. Where are their mothers and dads who should guide them and give them enough confidence that they can just walk away and not worry if they are popular or not.
I find this behavior very sad and disappointing for the girls involved. Of course now that I am much older and I realize how foolish this was for me. But there is still a hypocritical element to our society and boys want to get as many of the girls they can, but in the end they do not respect them. What a vicious circle it is as a teenager. I am just glad that is all behind me, as I am up in age near retirement.
If I had a chance to talk to the young girls, I know what I would say. You must value yourself and avoid any young men who would degrade you in any way. I just wish I had a mother to be there for me at that very difficult time in my life. That would make all the difference in the world.
P.S. T do not be too harsh on yourself. I think I know where you were coming from (mind set). This is a painful part of my past, which I have always wished to cover up. It is healing to bring it out in the open.
No experience with the program but definitely experience with the symptoms! nm
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as a teenager those were the best sm
I just remembered that it really sucked waiting for the dough "to rise". Never really saw any difference but my BFF and I loved them. We also loves Pizza rolls, couldn't get enough of them.
this isn't about you, and your're not a teenager
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we used to do something similar when I was a teenager sm
(back when the earth was still cooling,LOL). We took a block of cream cheese and poured Tiger Sauce over it. Sure was good!! Don't know if Tiger Sauce is even still available but it would probably be along where the hot sauce is in the grocery store.
Yes. Make your teenager responsible for as much as she can pay for.
and maybe a little more. Don't make it easy. Make sure that she has to work a little (not so much that grades suffers), has to budget, and plan and take the responsibility of driving seriously. This is more than likely the most dangerous thing your child has done so far her life. Make sure she understands that. It's not a social thing, a drive-around-with-your-friends thing. Preparing a young person for driving responsibilities is life and death.
Unfortunately, in the last three yeas, I've been to three funerals for teenage drivers -- all of whom were out of control in every aspect of their lives. Our state does not allow children to become licensed drivers until age 16-1/2. Our house rule was age 17. We did pay for the driver's ed, because it was pricey, our sons truly could not afford it, and we wanted our boys to have ever chance to learn to drive safely. Even though we taught them ourselves, as well, sometimes kids hear better what total strangers say to them! Also, I had a rule during permit driving sessions with my boys. They were never allowed to argue with me while we drove together. I was the teacher. I knew more than them. No arguing over anything, or else I terminated the lesson, car was pulled over, I drove home and that was the end until I felt we were ready for another driving lesson. That rule drove home how serious a responsibility driving is. I only had to do it once to one of my sons.
My oldest was lucky enough to inherit is grandfather's pristine 1991 Toyota (38,000 original miles) when pop-pop no longer could drive. It's a decent, dependable car. My son pays for repairs and gas. We pay for the insurance at this point, simply because we live in a big eastern city, and insurance is sky high. But, our son is also paying his own college tuition, so I have no problem helping him out with the insurance on his car.
This is a big deal. Make sure your daughter grasps the gravity of the responsibility. Don't argue with her about anything. These decisions have to be made by the parents, because it's a health and safety issue for your daughter and everyone else on the road with her.
comparing yourself to a teenager makes you look...
and you don't know how to put "no message" on outside of your post, so we don't have to waste time clicking to open your message just to see there is no message!
I think she said in her post that it was a teenager in her neighborhood.
My daughter would do it for that amount just for spending money. I wish I could have someone come in just once a month to do major cleaning. My daughter and I with the help of my husband do cleaning every Saturday with of course spot cleaning during the week, but just once a month would be great to do the things I hate doing.
Need advice on teenager vehicles......sm
Okay, it is time to get my 16-yo her own vehicle. I intend to get her an older vehicle (less than 10 yrs old), pay cash for it as I don't want payments for she or myself. How does everyone handle with kids what percentage you make them pay for etc? I want her to learn responsibility and appreciate the vehicle, just by my preference would prefer to pay in cash (less than $5000, hopefully). Do I make her responsible to pay her own insurance or half of it? By her own gas? or should I make her buy the car from me? Not sure what everyone else does so I would like some ideas as I said, I don't want to just give her everything in life. I want to make her earn it, take care of it, appreciate it, and be responsible, but don't want to go overboard either. She is in 10th grade, A/B student (Currently 11th place in class and working towards bumping up to be in top ten by the time she graduates). She is very well behaved, never a troubled child. She does have a lot of activities that would prevent her from making much of any income with an after school job. She is varsity cheerleader (off season just now, but will practice all summer), plays tennis, basketball/baseball manager, takes tumbling classes 1 night a week. So she is very busy in a good way. She would also be driving siblings to school for me and running errands occasionally. Anyone care to share what you do/have done or have any ideas/suggestions?
When I was a teenager my mother had mono
My dad and the doctor (IMO) ingored the problem until she had such a high fever that she was halucinating. At that point I informed my dad that he had two choices, take her to the hospital or call 911. He took her in and they were all amazed at how bad she was. I know they gave her some kind of antibiotic.
I could have shot my dad. He is a total hypochondriac and yet he would let her go that far.
When I was a teenager I loved babysitting
There were a couple of incredible kids right across the street that I often babysat for. I had them one New Year's Eve and I had planned games and made cupcakes for them to decorate. We had a blast.
There was a family behind us that had a 4yr old daughter and 2yr old twin sons. I only babsat for them once. I took my purse with me when I went to their house and one of the kids tried to get into it so I put it on top of the fridge. Walked into the kitchen a couple of minutes later and found one of the kids standing on a chair trying to get to my purse. Found another kid in the upstairs kids bathroom with an entire bottle of shampoo poured out all over the throw rug. I finally got them calmed down and was reading to them while sitting on the floor in the den. I have no idea how this happened but within a matter of a couple of minutes I was "accidentally" poked in both eyes. I spent 3 hours with these "kids" and got $5.00. After that every time the mom called I was busy.
When I was a teenager, my Dalmatian chewed
both of the rear tail-lights off my dad's new Lincoln Continental. She also once ate an entire, 6-foot leather leash. Taking her for a walk was like going out with a vacuum-cleaner with legs!
You sound like a little teenager with your response
You were the one who was giving a free ticket to a man freaking out after a childbirth. There is not that much freaking in the world. Grow up! You should have listened more closely to the adults when you were smaller. Your post was ridiculous.
Bulemic teenager - advice needed...sm
I've suspected for a while that my soon to be 16 stepdaugher is bulemic but her dad doesn't believe it. Right after she eats a meal she goes to the bathroom and stays a long time. She has lost about 40 lbs over the past year. Today while doing laundry I found a note that she wrote and says:
Eat & Die. No eat for a week (in & out) Lose 10 lbs. Eat again.
I am going to share this with my hubby when he calls while on a lunch break from work. Perhaps now he'll believe me. I've called the pediatrician's office and left a message for them to call me with the name of a psychologist treating eating disorders to take her to.
Any ideas of how to handle him if he still is in denial? I'm sure the stepdaughter will deny the eating disorder... she did before when I asked her about it. Overall she & I do have a good relationship but this is an area I know she's not being honest about.
i would take this opportunity to educate your teenager and her friends sm
on cycles and ovulation. you can only get pregnant during ovulation, which is usually 10-14 days after they start that time of the month. educate them at least and give them info to research and educate themselves. of course abstinence or protection is best, but education is better compared to kids having kids too.
teenager vomiting each month without menses
Hey all. Need some advice. I have a neice who has started vomiting violently every month, but has yet to begin menstruating. We are thinking it may be related to her period/onset of her period. i have heard of this somewhere, but for the life of me cannot remember what I heard. Any information/advice?
Also, anyone here that can recommend a good ob/gyn in the Lexington, Kentucky area?
Thanks in advance.
HC
she absolutely can be judged harshly; any teenager should be for this reason
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My teenager has learned a text messaging lesson...sm
A couple of weeks ago while at drama practice one of her peers asked if she could use her cell phone both days of practice as she didn't have her cell phone with her. My daughter let this other kid use her phone and didn't pay attention to the fact she was staying on it the entire time of the practices (the other kid only had a couple of lines). When my daughter walked over to her her phone she saw the other kid texting - and we don't have text messaging as part of our plan.
The bill arrived yesterday and this other child ran up $63.40 in text charges because there's a 20 cent/kb/message fee. My daughter isn't happy that she has to pay this bill out of her babysitting money but I reminded her that her phone is her responsibility and I'm not paying her bill. She swears she'll never let anyone use her phone again. I do hope she's learned her lesson!
As a teenager, I worked as a waitress...it sure was a school of hard knocks. LOL.
Waitresses have one of the toughest jobs. A good waitress deserves all of her 20% tips. Not enought money, IMHO.
Our teenager learned a valuable lesson today about cell phones....
She got a new cell phone last month and downloaded a bunch of ringtones, even though I reminded her that each one costs money + the transfer fee, which the system prompts you for as we don't have the internet plan for the cell phone (don't do text messaging either). Well, she ignored the prompts about the 3 cents per kilibite fee and size of the files alert when she accepted the downloads she selected. To make a long story short..... her bill for her downloads is right at $60.
She is crying that she has to pay this bill but I'm not working overtime because she ignored my telling her about the costs and accepted the charges. This will teach her a lesson on responsibility. She was expecting the bill to be about $20. She'll be babysitting up a storm this next month to pay this bill!
can buy 4 items for teenager for same price buy 8 items for younger.
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Would like to share
I'm a Christian... by Maya Angelou
When I say... I am a Christian, I'm not shouting, I'm clean livin'. I'm whispering, I was lost, Now I'm found and forgiven.
When I say... I'm a Christian, I don't speak of this with pride. I'm confessing that I stumble, and need Christ to be my guide.
When I say...I'm a Christian, I'm not trying to be strong. I'm professing that I'm weak, and need His strength to carry on.
When I say... I'm a Christian, I'm not bragging of success. I'm admitting I have failed, and need God to clean up my mess.
When I say... I'm a Christian, I'm not claiming to be perfect. My flaws are far too visible, but God believes I am worth it.
When I say... I'm a Christian, I still feel the sting of pain. I have my share of heartaches, so I call upon His name.
When I say... I'm a Christian, I'm not holier than thou. I'm just a simple sinner who recieved God's good grace somehow.
Had to share
Okay, actual statement made by my doc tonight. Sometimes, the funniest are the most simple:
The patient could hardly stand up after I got through doing a rectal exam. 
No wonder I love this job!!!!
We share the same b-day. :) NM
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Just have to share.
I bought a bottle of the electrolyte enhanced water yesterday. I cannot even tell you how much better I feel. I will buy a case tomorrow.
Want to share a pic.
My sister passed away in Nov. She loved the beach so we waited until this summer to spread her ashes there. My sister and I dug a heart in the sand and filled that empty void with her ashes and covered it with green colored popouri, her favorite color and put down candles and then the waves came up and washed the ashes back out to sea. In this picture, hope it shows, (if it does not someone tell me how to get it to show) my sister was taking picture and I leaned down to pick up a trash tie that had washed up there and the shadow looked like the hand was reaching out of the ashes to touch my hand. Freaked my little sister out. Was like a sign but it brought some humor to the situation.
You are right about some PAs so I have to share this with you
My brother used to be a PA and just graduated from medical school this past May. The biggest complaint he got from the higher up was that he spent too much time with the patients. He worked in the ER and was told to treat and street. LOL
can you share
the name with us? Thanks!
Please share!
I figured David was definitely going. Victor will make sure of that. I agree on Skye - he had too much to lose with her. I just wonder if he found out about the connection between Skye and Adam which would mean Adam will be in trouble too. I noticed yesterday it looks like Heather might be getting mixed up in this whole thing with Walter. She's too curious. I have missed a lot the past month or so though.
No, what is this about? Please share!
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would you share how you do it?
we have some butternut we grew this summer and decided just tonight we'd use some as a side dish for our big dinner...would appreciate any suggestions. Doesn't need to be fancy!
Well -- I'd probably share it
Man A must be pretty decent to have understood the importance of being to work on time, so I'd probably share it. Of course, if he looked like trailer trash who would only blow it on booze and cigs, I might reconsider that.
Had to share this pic
Now who says all pitbulls are vicious?. Some might be, but this one certainly isn't. This is a my male pitbull, CJ, whose heart is full of nothing but love.
No. I share this earth with you unfortunately..sm
reality is what we make it. This is NOT MY reality..only yours.
share this with your people
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Take your share of the equity and go (sm)
Not trying to be harsh here, but if you want to lose weight and become better organized, that's for YOU to decide. I have struggled with my weight always, now am the highest weight I ever have been. I am not an organized person, never have been, never will be. Luckily, DH doesn't seem to mind any of this. If I had to struggle constantly to try to be something I wasn't, I'd be a basket case. It's not worth the effort. You decide how to want to be, NOT him. Good luck.
Take your share and go?? - Why doesnt he take his
I feel if someone makes you feel appreciated and loved, then you should want to be your best for them. If you are doing you best, then he has the problem and needs to lighten up or get gone.
If you really could try harder (being organized and being a healthy weight)and want to do that, then do it. (I am overweight, so this is not the advice of a person with a perfect body and I am also not organized!) You may be surprised how much better you feel about yourself and with all that new self-esteem, well just saying he better be on his toes and treat you good.
Just wanted to share...sm
I worked at a physical rehab center for 5 years. As another poster stated, the amount of improvement depends on a lot of things. However, I saw people leave or return for appts with no noticeable residual, others who still had deficits but were independent. Those who were permanently impaired learned to adapt. There are some really cool gadgets out there! One thing I learned from working at the rehab center was determination really *can* pay off. It was inspiring working there.
IF your dad needs extensive therapy, the hardest part for YOU may be keeping him motivated. So, best of luck to your dad, you and the family. Let us know how things are going.
Wanted to share
My friend who is the companion to Sophia who I pictured in lower thread just made this video, she is an amateur, it brought tears to my eyes. She rescued Sophia from the woods behind her apartment building. She and others just got through rescuing another backyard chow too, she will be beautiful one day like Sophia too. Enjoy!
I think he more than got his share of the money
How many grandchildren (other than the Hiltons maybe) get such a big amount from their gparents? I asked for a bowl and a crystal doorknob that belonged to my grandmother after her death, no money from any of my gparents. I was glad when they were given the money they got, did not work the other way around. As far as doing wrong by them, I think I had to work too much when they were growing up. I had a choice, working or being on the streets and I guess that was wrong but I always wanted more than to just be on welfare so I worked and worked a lot to see they had a home and not starve, guess I was wrong in working so much.
Yes, I will gladly pay my share of
taxes (as always) if you will quit throwing money down the toilet for your increased healthcare costs. You aren't doing us any favors. Quit lying to yourself - you lose even more than we do since you are throwing away your health for short-term comfort. Selfish, selfish, selfish.
My best way to save -- my mom and I share
the "club card" for our local grocery store (we only have 1 in our little town). We accumulate the points together and usually qualify for the higher percentage off when it's time to cash in (20% off 1 bill rather than 5%). Then we pick a day we can go together and ring our order up together. Of course we use our coupons, too. We just went 2 weeks ago and qualified for 15% off our total bill. Before coupons/discounts, our total grocery bill was $550 but after our discounts, it was only $283. We saved almost $200 ---- unbelievable but true.
Before dining out, I check the website of the restaurant we're going to for coupons. They usually offer a free appetizer and that helps to fill us up so we can order smaller meals. We have 3 kids and my 2 younger kids share a kids' meal since they can never eat a whole one themselves. I also like to order water -- that always cuts about $5 off the bill.
Remember -- if you donate clothes to Good Will/Salvation Army, it's a deductible dontation, so keep track.
Share a meal when you’re out to eat
Have you seen the portions that chain restaurants are serving up lately? There’s no secret why our society is so overweight. You’ll save your heart and your wallet by sharing a meal with your significant other. If you’re one of those people that feels bad doing it, make yourself feel better by tipping 25% to the server.
Share your recipe??
Funny - I've just recently gotten back into salsa (bad single days experience involving too much drinking and that was over 14 years ago!) Anyways, hubby loves salsa also and I would love to surprise him and make some homemade! TIA
Please share your proof
of life after death with us. I am very interested and quite sure everyone else will be also.
Yes I am sad to say I share the same experiences.
I am also 37 and post tubal x6 years. I am in the perimenopause state already. I don't know what is worse...
Anyway, I had a scare like that about 4 months ago. I really hate that. I have a friend here in town who is in about the same boat, only she discovered that she really is pregnant and fortunately she will carry a normal pregnancy. She is NOT too happy about it though. I must say I can understand. Her kids, like mine, are all teenagers now and almost out of high school. Now she gets to start all over again.
I did own a time share but
mine was bought down in Mexico. At the time I was told "nothing else owed on it" period end of sentence. Well, my debit card started getting debited X amount of dollars so often. I paid that off, closed out that card, opened up a new card and no more problems there. But, my aunt was getting calls from a collection agency because her last name matched up same name (not the first name, mind you) and trying to get her to pay a cell phone bill - my aunt in her 80s never had a cell phone- but they were endless in trying to collect someone else's debt- as long as they can get someone to pay, they don’t care. I agree with the above about challenging to prove you owe it. Also, if I am correct a place cannot call you at your business- you work from home- your business right?
Why do you feel the need to share this?
We all have our pasts as teenagers, but it is not our responsibility to tell our kids all about it. If you have good experiences not involving alcohol/drugs, then talk to them about that. I smoked as a teen and my kids would fall out if they knew that, but they are grown and I see absolutely no reason to share that with them. What I have always told them is don't take up smoking..... they have seen enough lives lost from lung cancer.
Just because you did things you would now do differently doesn't mean they need to know it but it also does not mean you still don't have the responsibility to always encourage them not to have sex before marriage and not to do drugs/alcohol/cigarettes. I've seen too many parents say they did those things so what business do they have telling their kids not to. They have EVERY responsibility to say not to.....that is their job as a parent; parents who use their past as an excuse not to properly parent are just looking for excuses anyway.
If you think you should have made better decisions, then maybe share just that remark with them but you don't have to get into details.
I did tell my kids I tried one of my grandfather's very strong brand cigarettes one day (which I did) and I got so sick I must have turned green (which I did), but I didn't bother to also tell them later on I smoked as a teen.
Your only responsibility to them is to encourage them to NOT make bad decisions and to keep their noses clean so to speak, not share your negative experiences with them where sex/alcohol/drugs are involved.
I believe she meant we could all share SM
our personal experiences or random thoughts.
I agree with comment about Angelina Jolie.
Some of us may not remember our "first time" or perhaps even care too. >)
I just had to share -- too cute!
Will let other share the present president...
…Now he is 1 that I will change the channels on, always something better to watch such as the cooking shows, animal shows. I knew the election outcome but after that and the flubbs, such as his war and Katrina, other folks can have him as their own. Being as I have never watched the "soaps" don’t have a clue as to what is preemptied there but I have choices here at home and I simply watch what I want to.
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