I wish I had a MIL like you...
Posted By: ILMT on 2007-08-31
In Reply to: Sad letter to granddaughter - Gave up
You sound great. I'm the one to call my MIL for my husband because he's honestly fed up with her. She likes to start trouble and interfere with his parenting (she does this with all 7 children). She makes up stories and loves to gossip about anyone. I know deep down she has love for him, but it's hard to see sometimes. She has no respect for his job, and he makes a great living in the medical field, but has a way of making him feel less significant. I call her only because she's 75 and getting on in her years. I listen to her aches and pains and give her compassion and love, forgetting everything else she says or does. I look at it like that is what I want my children to do for me when I'm that age. Just enjoy your life with your husband. It sounds like a lot of strange jealousy going on. Since my mother died 5 years ago, I thought maybe my MIL would go out of her way to be there a little more for me, to call me on my birthday since I have no parents to do that anymore, but no. I live my life without the bitterness and look at it like it's their loss. You need to be strong for yourself and pray they find their way. There are people who never change or grow up, and there's nothing you can do about it. You know what's in your heart. Robin McGraw's book (Dr. Phil's wife) is wonderful in talking about how there are people who have the right to their opinion, it's up to you how you react to it. I actually loaned this book to my MIL recently. I did have a long talk with her on the phone a couple of weeks ago about how she needs to lay off of son's parenting (in a loving way, of course), and she said she'll try. She thrives on the drama, which we hate. Good luck!
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