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Posted By: Just Me on 2007-06-19
In Reply to: Suggestions on memorail for my mom sm - trose
the memorial for my grandmother and uncle who died on the same day back in March. Ya'll may remember me. There was no funeral. My grandmother did not want a funeral but to be cremated, and my uncle was cremated, too, as he died unexpectedly that same night.
Anyways, my aunt set up this gorgeous memorial for the entire family to attend last Sunday. It is approximately 1,400 miles from where we live. She told me the week after they died that she was going to have 2 maple trees profesionally planted on the property - one for my grandmother and one for my uncle. When we all arrived there last week my aunt had spent the past 2 months building a "memorial garden" for the deceased relatives. She had a beautiful bench, the 2 trees planted (my grandmother's cost 350 and my uncle's was 250). They are about 20 yards apart. After the memorial and service, my aunt took some of the ashes and spread them around the base of the trees (my grandmother's ashes on her tree and my uncle's on his). It brought such closure for everyone who attended. It was beautiful and now we will always have a place to go and reflect and "visit" whenever we need to. I plan on going back next year and "visiting" my grandmother and uncle, and look forward to seeing how big their trees have grown. She also planted a few pines - she had about 10 new trees in total. It really was a spectacular little place. She also had 1 tombstone for my grandmother.
Anyways, it is not morbid. I would do a tree because a rose bush will not last that long. And who cares if anyone thinks this is crazy.
In September, some of the family will be traveling to Hawaii to spread the ashes of both my uncle and grandmother in the Pacific ocean since we are all originally from Oahu, Hawaii. My uncle was a deep sea fisherman. I would LOVE to make that trip, but I have a husband and small children and can't afford it right now!
Anyways, you must do what you feel led to do. If it is to plant a tree in her honor, do that. With must deal with death in the way that we need to. Memorials are for the living, not the dead anyway, if you ask me. Good luck. You are NOT alone in making a decision like this.
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I love this. Did it change your life when you returned?
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Just returned from FL - west end Panama City beach. email me with any sm
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or any way someone wants to greet me. As a basic rule, people use the greeting most comfortable to the speaker. What does burn my butt is when someone tries to tell me that my comfortable greeting of "Merry Christmas" is not appropriate. To those who are not concerned with my comfort, I have no concern for theirs.
Merry Christmas to all.
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU, HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU. Hope it is a good one. nm
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Happy Birthday to you, then you can wish me a happy birthday on Friday! sm
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Most men would be happy for a new toy.
My sister got me a toy many moons ago, I named it gumby. My son was 2 at the time and found it DURING a dinner party I was having. He ran into the room waving "gumby" over his head yelling that everyone should look at this sword. My mouth hit the floor and my friends just about peed in their pants laughing. :-)
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happy for you!
congratulations! I hope to be debt free myself one of these days, and once I get out of debt, to be smart enough to stay out!
Enjoy the good feeling that you are getting out of all your hard work! 
***** LOL, that should say I think you CAN be happy... ****
Sorry, didn't get enough sleep lastnight and it has been a long day already. My 2 month old is not feeling well.
Happy 62 B-Day to you! nm
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Happy. nm
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I'm so happy
What great news. I hope she stays on the right track. I'll continuing sending prayers.
They look so happy!
Are they all from the same litter? Brothers and sisters? Come on....tell us a little more about them! They must be quite the handful!
Looks like a happy pup to me!
You know your dog better than anyone, and you know if he's happy. My mom had a dog that would bark over every little thing and it made me not want to visit her. It hurt my ears so bad I almost couldn't stand it. She would put a bark collar on her when guests came over to spare them the assault on their ears, and we all appreciated it, let me tell you! She tried several other methods, but they just didn't work on her dog. Dogs are all different, just like kids.
I used to live in a duplex and the people next door had the most horrible barking dogs. It really made my time in that place miserable. I was pregnant and tired all the time but could not get a nap to save my life because of those darn dogs! The owners have a responsibilty to the neighbors to keep their dogs fairly quiet in my opinion. I am an animal lover (also a long-time vegetarian), but those dogs grated on my last animal-loving nerve! Keep taking good care of your dog - he looks quite content and loved to me!
I think you should be happy
because there is a clinical reason for your troubles and those can be managed with meds and behavioral strategies. Best of luck to you. Please don't let it get you down. Better days are ahead. BELIEVE ME!
Wow! I'd be happy with
half of that!
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Happy B-Day to me...Happy B-Day to me
Well, I just wanted to share that with all of you wonderful people.
Happy B-Day to you x66, and many, many more..
Wow,
Happy Birthday..and enjoy it to the fullest. Hope it is a very pleasant one...
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I did not ask you to stop "gaming," I simply said there may be a solution to allow 2 Gab Boards so everyone is happy.
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How do we know you are really happy? lol
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Happy M-day to me
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Happy B-day to you !
Be grateful you made it this far when so many others have not. Appreciate each day and live life to the fullest!
no, happy mt, they all come HERE and do that. (nm)
Is this not the dump board to them??
Thanks Happy MT...sm
The economy excuse would not be far from the truth either. Just was not sure if it would sound too cliche these days. It really is a good time to bring it up to her. You are so right about Christmas being much more relaxing without gift exchange. My friend is the only person I buy for; everyone else in my life is an adult, so they get stiffed!  But at least Christmas is mostly stress-free. Thanks for replying.
happy for you
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Happy B-day!
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Happy Children
You don't know me or my children so you can't have any idea if they are happy or not.
And they are, very happy. They don't complain, they do what is needed and they have their activities, work, school, etc. They have great social lives and live life very fully, but with the expectation that things are done a certain way and if they aren't,there are reperucussions.
See my post above in a new thread, if you expect little, you get litte. It's that simple.
Yes, happy birthday.
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That goes for me 2 !! Well done, and happy birthday. NM
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That is great, happy for you.
If I had the choice to keep my ovaries, I too would do it in a heartbeat.
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Hey, happy birthday!
 Doncha just love getting flowers?! Happy birthday and here's to many more!
Happy Birthday!
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make that 3...it's my Happy Day too!~ sm
May this year be filled with blessings for both of you!!
Happy birthday to all 3 of ya! nm
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Happy Feet
My daughters just got done watching it. They loved it. From what I saw in between working it was a cute movie. But you're right, isn't it great to not have to pay for a rental, especially if the movie ends up being a dud? Better than paying the $8.75 at the theaters too.
Happy - very light
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I am very happy for you and your husband
I wish all marriages were like yours. But the divorce rate says they aren't, unfortunately.
You two are very lucky to have found each other. It is very nice to hear about a happy marriage for a change .
Definitely go to where someone will be happy to have your business! nm
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Happy Birthday to both of you! nm
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Happy Independence Day!
Have a safe day
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