I was one of the lucky ones...she's home now
Posted By: sm on 2007-10-27
In Reply to: Wow, that's awful! - 500 miles away
but most of the kids have to stay with their abusers. I've seen them on temporary orders that lasted for years (no appeal available because no final order), and others, and if you keep pushing the abuse in a court that plays with PAS, they eventually take away the protective parent's visitation. In Titleman, mom hasn't been allowed to see or talk to her kids for 7 years (5 years was on a temporary order supposed to last "at least 2 weeks). They are asking to Supreme Court to review the lack of/shoddy evaluations of abuse cases overall. The pendulum is slowly turning, though. The US Supreme Court agreeing to hear Titleman is a major step toward being able to protect kids from family members. These were also issues in the Winkler case in TN where she killed the dad. I can't see a good outcome in any scenario had I to do it over. BTW, mine came home concurrent with bankruptcy procedings, but she still has to visit overnight and unsupervised with him. I'd be more knowledgable and would make fewer mistakes if I had it to do over, but don't think it would have changed anything.
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You're lucky (or he's lucky) the parents care
I have 2 kids just down at the end of the block from me and their parents don't give a rat's behind what they're doing. They're real smart alecks - ages 10 and 12 (?), both in elementary school. Apparently, they're quite the bullies at school, too. They like to mouth to any adults when they whiz by on their bikes. Is it wrong that I'd love to take my kids' BB guns and shoot their tires out when they're doing this?
Their mom doesn't care. When we first moved into town this past fall (short-term thing while we're building in the country), I felt sorry for them. They put on a good act. After a few weeks of them coming to our house and pretending to want to play with the boys, we soon realized they were freeloaders -- wanted to eat everything in my fridge (without even asking first) and then wanted to play our computers or video games (without my kids). I put the klinks on that real fast. After that, they started treating my kids like crap. I told my boys as long as they didn't do anything physical to just ignore them because they didn't care if they got in trouble and neither did their parents. Their mom even had the balls to come looking for them 1 night after they didn't go home. It was 9 o'clock at night and it got dark then around 7. I couldn't believe it.
Just a few weeks ago, the 2 perps beat another kid with a baseball bat at the ballfield. The cops were at their house quite a bit, but I see they're back out on their bikes again wreaking havoc. I can't wait till we move back out to the country!
Buy a home of my own - not a palace, but more of a smallish home on a large piece of land. (nm)
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Anyone move from a single family home to mobile home? sm
I own and live in a house in a midwest city in a bad neighborhood (wasn't that bad 11 years ago). I spent the day waiting for the plumber to come and jackhammer the foundation (slab house, no basement) to find a leaky pipe that is flooding my DD's bedroom. Last week, it was the electrician with quotes for costly repairs.
In the meantime, I've really been thinking about selling out and moving into a mobile home. Has anyone done this before? Is a mobile home in a decent park less of a hassle than a regular house? I'm so tired of cutting the grass and spending $$ to fix things and tired of old flooring and cabinets, etc., that are just too costly to replace. I'm single with no man to do these things for me and I can't afford a mortgage on a newer house in a good neighborhood. Some of the pictures I've seen of the mobile homes look really nice and modern on the inside.
Any advice and comments appreciated. Thanks!
Well I figure I can make my own hours & be home when the kids are home (sm)
I worked PT in an office for a while but spent most of my money on childcare in the summer. Full-time in an office was just a nightmare and I felt like I missed a whole year of my children's lives. I want to be in control of my schedule so that's why I'm looking into the cleaning thing. Never thought I would want to do that but live and learn! Some of the most intelligent people alive work as carpenters and similar things because they have learned what's really important in life. Whew....off my soapbox now :-) Good luck to you!
Daniel had a home, a very good home...
with someone in my family at one point.
She met her late husband at a club down the freeway from me. It's not a fancy place, like you say.
She does have a real brother though. That was the connection on our part.
I agree, though. It is sad that all this is coming out the way it is. I believe she was a good person...she just had a lot of problems, mainly drugs. What is really sad is that all of this is going to be seen by her daughter one day when she grows up.
Home Alone 1, A Christmas Story, Home for the Holidays, Chevy Chase's Christmas, sm
There "The Gift of the Magi," He sells his gold watch to buy her a comb for her hair and she sells her beautiful long hair to buy him a chain for his gold watch. It used to be on "Short Stories by O'Henry" but that's long gone, long ago. Good moral to the story. I can't stand "It's a Wonderful Life" -- too depressing, especially with banks closing, too intimidating right now!!!
You are so very lucky!
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You are lucky! sm
I think you are so lucky to get these "signs" that your loved ones are still around you. I wish I could have similar experiences. I love Lisa Williams' show. Sylvia Browne can be a bit harsh but she's a real character. I live in Upstate NY and wish I could still get John Edwards' show.
How lucky!
That would be nice!! It would be nice just be able to take time off when you are behind on everything like housework, etc. Oh well, high ho high ho it is back to work I go
Yes, you were very lucky. sm
I tried match.com, put in a 30 mile radius ( small area here). I found I had already met all of these losers, about 10 of them, in one context another in real life, and would never have considered having even a cup of coffee with any of them. Lucky you!
LUCKY YOU!!! sm
Mine only cooks on the weekends about once or twice a year. We wound up having turkey breast but I wanted grilled salmon so I ate that instead. Yum.
Lucky you!!!!!!! nm
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Lucky for me...
I'm not a Harry Potter person, but those who reside here are...
My daughter is 20, son is 26, and son's GF is 22. One is asleep after reading all night and the other two are quietly reading... the house is so QUIET!!
So... Lucky for me, they are reading and that I don't feel jealous because I have to work!!
They preordered and got the books last night. Unfortunately, my son accidently ran into a spoiler on the internet w/o even trying... so he's a little bummed.
Well... happy reading when you get off!!!
Wow, lucky you!
Was he a real ladies man and as good looking as he is now?
You will be lucky if
the kids don’t come back and wreck the meeting place where you were. I agree with you about the parenting. It should start really, really early. Hubs and I out last night for dinner and couple next to us with child, about 3 I would say that was all over the place but mostly a danger to himself as he was climbing up on the chair up on the booster seat. There were 4 adults at the table but not one called this child down. I am glad my children grown. Call me overbearing or whatever, my kids were never out of control like what I see now. Oh, I did not spare the rod either.
How lucky you are to be there! Have a
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He's been a lucky cat (sm)
Look at all the years of love you have given him...that is so sweet. Most animals never get a forever home where they can stay and live for 15 years. It's sad but it's sweet too. You have given him a good life :-)
Lucky you!
Believe it or not, I sure wish I was there! I have lived in central Florida since 1994 and have not lived in snow since. So sad. I was so glad to throw the old ice scraper and mittens away, but I really miss it. I miss snow days (not horrifying like Hurricane days are here), I miss cozy in the house while the flakes drop outside and how pretty it is. I know you in snowy areas might think I am nuts, but it is still 80s here and the only snap in the air is something for about 10 seconds between 6 and 6:15 a.m. No sledding here, only A/C in the house. Oh yeah, there was snow at my downtown, fake snow made by the town council for a holiday fair. There was roasting chestnuts, hot chocolate and hot cider. Too bad my little boy wore flip flops, he could not go in the snow and it was too hot out to drink the cider. Oh well, at least it looked like Christmas LOL.
Yep, consider yourself one of the lucky ones!
I remember my one brother at that age...wouldn't be caught dead near his mom, especially not in the kitchen! My other two brothers though, they were/are good eggs like your son. You must be doin' something right!
He's definitely one of the lucky ones
I would be very happy if my husband received anything. Granted he gets a monthly bonus depending on profits at the shop (he works at a car dealership - sometime good, sometimes not), but it would be nice if he got an actual Christmas bonus any amount.
I wonder if maybe they have been lucky enough
not to have experienced as much death as some families.
I know when we lost my aunt, she was only 63, but still it was the first death in our family in many years. There wasn't a lot of loud grieving, but most of us were walking around in a state of numb shock.
Very sorry! She was very lucky to have you. nm
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You are very lucky.
I read the book and saw the movie and loved them both. It's one of my favorite movies.
You are very lucky sm
I live in CT where just this week there has been three home invasions and about six months ago there was the one from Cheshire CT which made national headlines. Two teenage girls and a mom were raped and shot. A total of four people are dead because of this. All the criminals in these cases have past records. No one is safe anymore. I am so glad you are okay.
Wow! Lucky you!
 What state do you live in?
Lucky you!
Man that sounds like a great time! I really don't think you will have a hard time. I bet your kids will just enjoy themselves. Be safe!
you are so lucky!
you see, i clean my desk off every couple of weeks, and every time i do, i SWEAR the next day it is a pigsty again!!!
Lucky!
I miss Pittsburgh. Especially Primanti Brothers!
Go Steelers!!
Lucky 13
There are 13 full moons in a year. The lunar/femaleness of this is what turned it into a negative superstition, but to me, Friday the 13th is like finding a dollar on the sidewalk.
I am very lucky to have a DH with -sm
with a good head on his shoulders, who started saving when he was 20, obviously picked good funds which have mucho mutiplied. I met him when he was 35 and had $200K at that point, and all he had then were 2 aggressive mutual funds. After we married we open up 2 more mutal funds and the bond (which only has $100K in it). So the majority is in the mutual funds, not the bond. So basically it boils down to $25K a mutual fund gone, which in the big picture really is not that bad. I swear by Fidelity, they are really a great 401K. We made out tons better than friends and my father (who lost about 50%). We pass on tips to my dad but he never listens which in hindsight is quite foolish. He lost over $250K and is scrambling now but his house is paid off so he will be okay, just may have to pare down some of his hobbies. I would never presume really risk a lot of our money on our own. We did have some stocks in a fund that I had opened years ago on etrade, those jerks sucked it dry with fees, etc. and lost $500. My DHs pension is a joke($50K total, worse than SS if that is possible--assuming you live a long time) so it is a good thing he started young, as have I too but my personal IRA is a joke compared to his 401K, much less than yours. I guess mine will be the play fund in the future and his we will use to live off of. Despite the losses we have reassurance that the money is there, and if by some freak chance he loses his job we will bit the bullet and take out enough to pay off the house and for the penalities we would ensue for doing so. I hope it does not ever come to that but as I don't make enough to pay all the bills it would become necessary unfortuntately, he makes four times what I do, and I don't make that much, not anywhere near the people on here that say they make $40-$60K a year.
lucky dog
My dog would probably try to eat the snake. I am lucky I havent seen one... the keyword is SEEN. One day I went to look for something under my bathroom cabinet and there were 3 piles of snake poop and a huge snake skin.... I about added a 4th pile of poop because that scared the crap out of me!!!
Lucky you!!
Where do you work? ;-)
you are one of the lucky ones, ---sm
perhaps you should read the post below about whose child was given chemo and died a horrible death. Chemo does work for some, but not all. Alternative treatments work for some, but not all. To be ignorant and say that child will ABSOLUTELY die without it is also wrong. You don't know that. Nobody knows that. Only God knows that, and if the mother and the child wish to seek alternatives to chemo, that should be their right, without the government interference and without other people who happen to feel differently interfering, as well, like by turning them in. Leave them alone, it is their lives, not yours.
maybe we should suggest chemo to people who want gorgeous hair now, too?? as your post seems more preoccupied with the looks of your daughter's hair than with whether this poor 13 year old boy should be forced to have something he does not want.
You must be very lucky
I've never had a relationship or a marriage that did not require work and some degree of self-sacrifice. It's a wonderful thing for you that yours at least doesn't feel like work; your husband must meet you halfway on everything. Every day life often requires a compromise on somebody's part, and frankly, even knowing it's beneficial, is still work. When you take 2 people and put them together, they each bring their own view of what and how things should be done; each brings their own priorities, morality, and baggage and finding the way to merge the two into a cohesive functioning one takes effort. Finding time for each other in the face of jobs, kids, friends, family, household responsibilities takes an effort.
Yes, marriages/relationships are work. It's a good one that doesn't make it feel like hard work or unappreciated work.
You may just be lucky
but all marriages have their ups and downs. If you find someone pretty compatible with yourself, you will have less of the downs. It will be 40 years for us in August this year. Its been a "bed of roses." A few thorns but a real sweet smell that you want to keep around." :-)
Wow! Lucky you!..........nm
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Home sweet home.
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Home, Home, On The Range SM
where the beer and the cantaloupe play . . . where seldom is heard . . . .
What happens at home stays at home. (nm)
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She is home, by that I mean she is 1 mile from her home.
I am the one that moved away. My brother lives there, but she requires 24-hour nursing care right now, and he is unable to provide that for her. My son is graduating high school this year and I plan to move back to take care of her, but I just can't until then. I did tell the adminstrator that they have 24 hours to figure this out, and then we will bring in the police. I have also threatened to go to the media, and this facility has a very excellent reputation and is run by the Brethren Church, so I would think they might not want bad publicity. It is a pretty small town and this is one of only a couple of care homes in the area.
lucky coat
Wish all I had to worry about was my kdis lost coat. I got bills - not trying to be disrespectful - your lucky - I'm a MT is USA
I'm lucky, I have great mom-in-law and dad-in-law.....
it's their son I can't stand. LOL! Seriously often it usually is my husband that is miserable around the holidays, he's kind of a perfectionist, neat-freak, hates to have deadlines, hates to have to drive somewhere far...etc.etc.etc. And usually when he gets there he enjoys himself, so I don't understand why he gets himself all worked up. Men! lol
Man....I guess I'm lucky
The only problem I've had with any of the neighbors is that the dog across the street attacked my dog - that dog is twice my dog's size (mine is a Pomeranian, 20 pounds) and my Pom was on his back in a totally submissive position but the other dog still grabbed onto his hindquarters before I could reach them. I had to keep beating the other dog off and I was screaming at him and meantime my poor Pom was scared to death. Fortunately there wasn't any serious damage but now he won't walk out to the mailbox with me any more (which is what we were doing at the time, and it is the ONLY time I ever let him out without a leash).
I realize there are much, much worse neighbors - but I feel almost like my baby was attacked.
In our old neighborhood, we had next-door neighbors we called "The Addams Family" - they were spooky and ooky, but they kept to themselves. 
yes, your a lucky one....although i wouldnt like the
rules...i want to live away from people so we can do family things outside, listen to some nice music, barbeque...things like that w/o having to worry about the nextdoor neighbor dragging his wife out by her hair and fighting, screaming...just crazy stuff...one morning i woke up and thier house was trashed...tv was broken adn outside, pinic table turned over...later i asked their kids what had happened and mom and dad had been up fighting all night...GOOD GREIF!!!
If that is the only activity you pay for you are lucky!!
My daughter plays school sports (which cost money), is in the performing choir (planning on going to California to perform $600 per student), plays competitive volleyball ($800 fee without travel, shoes, food and such), competitive softball (depending on the team is $400 to $700 to sign plus gear, protective clothing, travel, food etc...). She hopes to be able to get a job to help with some of the cost but she doesnt turn 16 for another few months. Sheesh homecoming cost about $200 prom is about the same if not more. Why not check into fundraising. My daughter and I work hockey games, football games and other activities to raise money (because truthfully without sponsors, donations and fundraising I dont think I could do it) Where there is a will there is a way is my motto.
P.S. - I was lucky, only out about 26 hours
and no trees down in my yard.
Your daughter is lucky to have you as
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How lucky you are but the antique (sm)
dealers aren't giving you a fair shake. I'm glad you're going to keep them for a while. The person we sold our Bakelite to, turned around and sold them on ebay for 1-1/2 times what he gave us; i.e., he gave us $500, he sold them for $750. They were the hand pins and the scotty dog pin.
One item did not sell. We were happy with the $500 as it came at a time when we were hurting a bit.
Other men say "you lucky dog" sm
but personally I find it creepy when a man marries a woman that much younger than him. Either she's a golddigger or she has "issues." And so does he.
I should know. After I left home, my father divorced my mother and a few years later he married a woman who was only a year older than I was at the time.
I'm talking ISSUES.
Count yourself among the lucky few . . .
I don't like to generalize and know that not all men are like that, but IMO she really hit the nail on the head here, and in quite a humorous way, I might add!! I really enjoyed reading her post, but should be on the comedy board . . . LOL!!
BTW, kudos to you and enjoy that man of yours. You really are a lucky one! :)
More to the point - she was lucky they had no gun!
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