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it sounds like maybe he just wants to stay married so he can keep you under his thumb.  I'm sure it's better for him financially if you stay together and he has someone to do the household chores as well.  As for asking for sex via email, that is creepy.  But, I would still wonder whether he is getting somewhere else.  I think men would still continue to ask, just on the off-chance that you actually would say yes, but get it somewhere else, too.  I'd be afraid of what he could bring home.  As for the kids, I agree with the other posters.  The kids will pick up on this, but sadly enough, they will grow up believing it's a normal relationship when it's not, thus the generation-after-generation epic of divorce.  That's just my opinion, though, and I'm certainly not an expert.

Now, back to you, I'm sorry that you're not getting any with someone who loves and respects you.  So often, it is just assumed that the woman doesn't need/desire intimacy, when in all honesty women crave that intimacy even more than men.  It's not necessarily the physical aspect of the intimacy that women crave, but rather the emotional.  The fact that he asks for it so bluntly via email on a daily basis is his way of degrading you.  Don't let it go on any longer.  I would be headed straight to the divorce lawyer's office.  Many women have been through divorce and made it through okay.  You're children will support you once they see how much happier you are without him.  Good luck to you. 

I have been coughing and kind of achy, yesterday hurt all over, no fever, but in the middle of the night last night, woke up with horrible pain, to the point of making me cry all the way from my shoulder to the joints in my hands.  Both shoulder joints are sore, but the right arm hurts all the way down.  I have taken Advil, used muscle rub and am working with my arm propped on a pillow.  Anyone ever had this happen?  Wondering if it is just muscle pain from being sick or if I got something out of whack in my cervical spine from all the coughing!!  This stinks!!!

Anything good happen?  Did Nick reappear?  Please update me...

Little Tyne sure had a great time at her party today! I gave her a small piece of her doggie cake and mom, dad and I had one too! It actually was quite good, but dry, not sugary sweet, of course.  I gave her just a little vanilla ice cream with her cake. Later the big guns!  Her Dad went into the TV room and brought her brand new toy out on the porch!  She played with it all evening and even when I was leaving she was still under the end table between her mom and me while we were watching TV, playing with her new rope toy. She sure had a great day! I said to my mom tonight that it takes so little to bring joy to pets and make them feel loved. Making an animal feel loved and safe is everything to me. I am going to volunteer at our local S.P.C.A. this fall for sure. The orientation is the second Saturday of each month. I work every other Saturday, and the first one that is free is October 13. I will be there!

The only things she chose to complain about were nitpicky things -- what they serve for dinner.  Most kids don't have dinner with their parents.  Last time I checked PB&J and yogurt were pretty healthy.  Her GS has ADHD.  He isn't going to "behave" on command.  Any MT would know that.  First she complains because they don't correct them, then she complains because they are, just not to her standards.  Instead of criticizing her kids, she should be trying to help the situation. 

Did she hit a nerve with me?  Absolutely.  My parenting skills are always being critiqued.  From the time my oldest son was old enough to eat until about the age of 6, I had to pack PB&J everywhere we went.  He refused to eat anything else.  Was it because I didn't offer it to him, no.  It was because that's what he liked and that's what he could control.  My other child has ODD -- oppositional defiant disorder.  Is it because I didn't parent him correctly?  No, it's because that's how he's wired.  I have 2 other children who are not like this.  They were all raised in the same house under the same rules.  I am constantly berated by my father for not "cracking the whip" on him and by my mother for being "too strict."  It's so easy to sit back as GPs and offer criticism after criticism.  Then after upsetting DS or DD, you can go back home and not be the one who on top of your feelings of inadequacy now has to deal with a difficult child. 

I could see if it the OP said the children were malnourished or not cleaned and clothed properly, but she's complaining about yogurt and fishsticks.  She's complaining about an ADHD child who doesn't behave.