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I was actually responding to pc, the poster just below your original post.

Posted By: Administrator nm on 2007-03-18
In Reply to: Know anyone can send email... - Lacie

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No, did not mean original poster...
I was referring to the poster who stated she was certain she would be in Heaven. I don't know how she could tell someone that because try as I may, I don't know that I will pass the test. I understand saying things like that are to comfort the grieving person, but I also think we may be held accountable for giving false hope like that, but then again there are a lot of things we just won't know until it is time to know them. To the original poster, I do feel so badly for you and hope that you find the comfort you need in this trying time. I'm sure you are questioning God and that is fine too, just remember he has a plan for everything.

Original Poster
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I am the original poster -
I am working on the training - I took the puppy pads up because I have decided they are encouraging her to use the floor.

Also, she never has the run of the house or even a room if we are not home. She is being crate trained. I think that works best. We have only had her for 2 weeks, but she already considers that a safe place. When she is ready to lay down for a nap, she goes there and lays down. She will fight me a little still if I am putting her up and she does not "choose" it herself, but she no longer lays there and just whines. I am sure to get her out a lot during the day and evenings and play with her and socialize her, but that is her domain for life!

Original Poster - thanks for your replies. I have never (sm)
met anyone that I seem to get along with so well. I have never dated outside of my own race before, but when I am with him, it doesn't even cross my mind, and he says it doesn't his either. We both just see each other as individuals. There are so many good people and bad people of every race. When you find someone to care about who cares about you and you can get along well and you want to be together, it seems so petty and trivial to think about someone's race. In this case there are not a lot of cultural or religious differences. We have different colored skin but have had very similar lives.

I am the original poster on this subject. See message.

When this stuff first happened I was much younger and I did not find out anything about it until after the birth of my second daughter. That is when my sisters first tried to say something. At the time I had two little girls and not much reason to trust my sisters back then for reasons that I won't go into. I did what I thought was best for my little girls at that time, but throughout all these years there has always been an uneasy feeling about the whole situation. I just chose to bury it and I take full responsibility for that.

Now, I have finally gotten to a point in my life where I am confident enough to be able to handle the truth and because of some other problems, this subject resurfaced and I chose to ask my sisters to tell me the truth of what happened. They told me and now I am left with a big decision to make.

I have no reason to believe he has done anything like that since, but I don't know that for sure. He has been a controlling force in this marriage, but at the same time a hard worker who has taken care of our family with me.

I guess I'm trying to justify what I am feeling now and trying to make myself feel better about wanting to end the marriage.

Thank you everyone for all the good advice. I do appreciate it.

I am "juvenile post" poster. "Looney" poster is some
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That is not what you indicated in your original post and is why you
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sorry. I did not see your original post..sm
I never said it was impossible to find an honorable man and good relationship, and I do not believe any body else did either, that I recall. As I said, I wish her all the best, and if this person is the right one for her, that is wonderful! But it also seemed that a lot of others were pushing her to rush into a relationship simply to *feel the spark of a new love*. Although that *spark* is a wonderful thing sometimes, it can also blind one to some smaller signs of impending doom, and the six years down the road, they are back on the message board asking what happened and wondering why they did not see it coming. I know that bad things do not always happen, but you have to admit that in today's society, more bad has been happening recently than good. Just expressing caution, and nothing more. JMO. Oh, by the way, I am happy for your relationship too. You are very lucky and one of few, these days.

Like I said in the original post, to say anything
would not be believed by anyone in DIL's family, my son, the g-children, aunts, her mother so I should say? To say to my son, your wife stole $20.00 from me" would be met with denials, to say she helped to put a ding on my credit for 7 years would be what her mother told me - she wouldn't do something like that. You can say what you said about speaking out but you do not know how these people are. It is like a cult- when you would get together 1 child that belonged to 1 family belonged to all. An aunt might chastise or discipline her niece/nephew like she would her own. Most of us with children just see after our children, not all other children that might be in our family-we leave that to their parents. These are my only 2 g-children, doubt if I will have others but I kept quiet and do now because my word would never be believed, then nor now. I remember 1 time a cousin of DILs had gotten broken leg. I took the DIL to the hospital. Every member of the family was there- the great-gparents, the g-parents, aunts, uncles, parents, the immediate cousins and the 2nd cousins -the hospital had so many people they had to ask them to leave! Another time the great-gparent died- the children all wanted to spend the night at the funeral home. The home started running vacuum, switching light off and on and they did not get the idea to leave! They HAD to be asked to please leave for the night! They wanted to stay the night with the deceased....You just do not know the close-knit (cult) family these folks have.

according to the original post
They took in their son's best friend, not a stranger. I agree with the other posters, your house your rules. I think you are doing the right thing by doing whatever you can to keep them apart. If they really want to be together they will be together outside of your home.

All I did was replace the original post.
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I read my original post again and ---
I know I said I hate the dog, but that was a figure of speech - I hate the things he does to my house!

I brought him home at 10 ounces and have put up with his doings for 4-1/2 years - he's not going anywhere!

The original post seems to have gone missing
so the answer now is to another posting, BTW.

In her original post (page 3)
she says that they did try to tell her at the time and she "chose to believe him" so actually it sounds like she has questioned him about this before.

Did you read the original post at all?
She lives in an assocation. Anything to start flaming. Ridiculous. I am too old to be shock by dog poop or anything idio.. say on this board

did you not read my original post? sm
I said if they were in school I would not charge them. The other poster had a girl in school who did pay rent and that is fine if that is what they want.

You need to learn how to read posts before you jump down my throat. You got the wrong person.

Thanks for your input. I shoulda put in my original post .. sm

the components of chittlins and mauls.

Hey I know,

Thanks for clearing the way out there....Been down here so long that when my kids (grown men) and hubby ask for certain things, and a deer leg lands on my doorstep, I just can't waste anything. Cat

I didn't read anything in the original post
about expecting gushing or groveling. One of the things she did say was that she usually got gifts that the receiver picked out and then was just discarded or sold. I agree with the other posts, give gift cards.

I remember your original post and found the
Flylady. I have her marked for favorites but I really haven't had time to absorb her information and get into it. It sounds like it really worked for you so this week i'll see about really getting into it and signing up for her newsletters also!

Like I said before, Kendra, READ THE ORIGINAL POST.
Sheesh.....!

Your post did not change my original thoughts
I read it and understood very well. This person on a break ran into 2 strangers who said they had walked from some distance, asking about catching a ride somewhere, asking her about a ride and she responds with asking a bunch of people she does not basically know about whether she did the right thing, they might have been angels in disguise. What is there not to understand about this? Sounds like a young girl asking for acceptance. A grown woman, with common sense, would not even second guess and then to return and make out a report at a shopping mall about someone asking for a ride was just a laugh. As in my original, she needs a guardian if she knows no better than this.

Gosh, I went back to the original post
to see what she looked like previously. The woman looks like a crackhead and looks like she has been on the streets for a long time, rugged, drugged out, really bad looking for a woman only 55. My 89-year-old dad looks younger than that.

I left a couple of things off my original post...sm
1. I will wear this bracelet because of the thought of the time she took finding it and the parts for it. Usually she gets me things I do enjoy for gifts.

2. We do have a great relationship. Her mom died when she was small and we're close. I know I'm lucky that we have a good relationship.

For those who slammed me and thought I was ungrateful - I'm sure you've all over time received gifts that you weren't wild about (hence all of the returns/exchanges at stores after Christmas). As I said, my other gifts were great ones and things that are of the caliber I like.

Right now 120 people have read your original post in this thread
So that's 120 people that do not mind versus the few that complained. Keep writing. I get a kick out the stories of your little dog. It is better than the fighting and name calling that goes on other boards. Even my kids stopped doing that in middle school.

Excuse me? The original post said absolutely nothing about her mother being SM
ill. I knew nothing about anyone's mother suffering because of dog barking. Dogs and pets need to be owned by responsible people and there would be no such problem in any event.

Sorry, I was upset at the time I wrote the original post
Basically, I sent a voided Wal-Mart check to a creditor by mistake and they cashed it and the bank let it go through both times. I called them on it. I was thinking that someone must have found that check and cashed it again. At the time, I did not realize my mistake. They then cancelled the payment to Wal-Mart, don't know why, and now Wal-Mart is treating it like I wrote a hot check. They added $30 to the original amount.

This was simply an honest post/poll made by a regular poster.
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The original Halloween, the original Exorcist and the first Phantasm...
today's are too computer generated and phony. Not enough scare factor for me!

E-mail the poster for address - do not post address. NM
Goldbird

you are welcome; thanks for responding
nm

only responding to first
Memorials are for the people still alive, not for the dead. The dead don't give a hoot one way or another what somone else thinks. Personally, I would prefer to be cremated and just have one person take the urn and spread the ashes, then ask if the urn can be recycled. Not like anyone is going to write a best-selling biography about me once I'm gone :) Earth to earth, dust to dust, so to speak.

Why still responding? nm
nm

I think she's right in not responding....
if the woman thinks she won, it doesn't matter. If she gets a response, she may just keep going. I had a psycho person who wouldn't leave me alone either, completely different reason, but I tried to be nice because we were friends, and try to clarify, tried to be nice and stand my ground, stopped being nice, but still responding...eventually when I stopped responding, the person tried a few more times to get something out of me, and eventually just gave up.

OP, I'm so sorry you've had to go through this with someone who you trusted as a good friend. Maybe this person is feeling desperate financially with the loss of her job, but there are ways to ask to borrow money from people when you are in need, and demanding it and putting that person down is not the way to do it. Money causes some people to just become ugly, either they have too much and become ugly, or they don't have enough and become ugly. If some people are desperate enough, they will do what they think is right....as you can see for yourself, in her eyes/mind, she didn't do anything wrong and there is no way you can make her see any different. I have also lost a friend to them "losing their mind" on something and just losing it. A few years later this friend tried to re-kindle a friendship, but sadly at that point, after all the negativity that the person threw at me and telling me I was a terrible friend, even though I was there for them and never turned my back on them when others did, after my friendship was called into question for something they did wrong, I just decided I didn't need that kind of person in my life, and if it took that person 2 years to finally think they needed me in their life, I'm sorry, I was done. If that person would've just apologized back when it all started, then maybe. But, anyway, sorry, brought back a lot of memories for me, and I do hope you will be able to move forward. I hate you've lost a valued friendship in all this drama.

Be careful when responding!
I'm not saying that the OP is anything more than someone trying to make interesting conversation, but there are lots of little innocent looking surveys on the 'net that Phish for your passwords. Since our emails don't show up here, I'm not really concerned, but I've seen this on MySpace, and I know phishing happens a lot on MySpace. Lots of folks use pet names or former pet names as passwords. The same goes for name surveys that have you do "fun" things like surveys asking you to find your porn name by putting your street name with your mother's maiden name, etc.

By the way, my pet's name isn't on the list!

I guess you are too for responding to me!

By responding, you are confirming...

what they were looking for...ratings! That's all it boils down to. Do the right thing and turn off the TV. Pure evil it is I tell ya!

She was responding to her "fans"
Who gives a rat's a$$ about Simon. She knew she would be voted off, but she cared more about reaching out to her fans and thanking them for their support. Although she was the one targeted by votefortheworst.com, they actually really really liked her, because she let them know every week that she was aware of them "supporting" her. I see nothing wrong with her having fun and basically mocking herself.

Thank you for responding, sm and anon...
I didn't know about not having to pay those fees. This time I really did some homework as far as the dealer's list price versus MRSP, etc. The confidence thing needs work, though. My last 3 cars lasted 10 years, so I don't get a lot of practice with this.

responding to splitting the hair by
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kNSZ5OfpQbY&feature=related

Is Sprint the cellphone provider? Thanks for responding!
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not poster you responded to but that poster has

everyone with different opinions is allowed to post here and poster said they were making a contribution in the name of pro-peace....give that poster a break please....

can you be a little more original?
nm

Is it any better than the original?
The original was wonderful!

original

I was worried. H was afraid that someone was going to try to dx (diagnosis) my 23 MO with ADHD. I said well, they can try but I do think she is a little young for that kind of dx. I am glad to know that others have gone through this and it stopped.

As far as the police comment, I know that was not the best thing in the world. I was just tired of the whining and the clinging. I tried everything else. Wow, your teacher seems really cool. Man, you are going to have lots of friends in here. She knew over half the kids in her class. She just would not have anything to do with any of it and just kept clinging. She told me she thought pre-K was better than K and she was not going to K. Then came the police comment. It is true, or so I have been told that you can get your kids taken away if you don�t enroll them in some kind of education program.

I have been sneaking things in like, H and I have been looking for a new house. No seriously but we need something bigger. We passed by one that was way out of our budget but dd said �I want that house.� I say, �well if you go to school, work hard and do well you will be able to buy any house you want.� I am trying to think of ways to stress the importance of a good education.

I don�t think she is afraid of any cops. She is too fascinated by them. When she sees the Chief of Police she runs up and hugs him.

if the original had actually worked,
would not have had a problem with the scars. They are on the inner part of the arm, of course, as you probably know and unless I turn my arms upwards, sideways, would never know. I do not wear short sleeved blouses but it is not for that reason, for the fact my upper arms never changed any at all. Like Oprah, I have the bat wings.

Loved the original. sm
I haven't seen this one yet, but I will. A couple of columnists have said that it is not as good as the original. One said J. Travolta was fabulous but the rest were just okay and not as good as the musical. Someone else said it didn't seem to live up to it's hype. I guess to each his own.

Can't be as good as original. That had SM
better music, adorable Ricki Lake and Divine and no one, not John Travolta or anyone else, can replace Divine! Um, even though this was his/her sweetest role.

That was my original logic too (sm)
I figured since no one had touched it or breathed on it since it had been cooked and the lid had stayed on it in the oven all night that there really weren't all that many bacteria in there to grow and that if I reheated it really well it should be safe..but judging by the overwhelming advice contrary to this no way am I eating it or serving it LOL!

No one here knows me, I posted below under original
post and said all I want to say.

You can get the original applications...
from the CC company. My DH did that when he got divorced and found out the ex opened up a couple of cards w/o his knowledge, forged his name. She got the debt in the divorce to the tune of 15,000 and the CC companies apologized profusely to my DH. He could have pressed charges against her but did not.