I wanted more info as well on this topic (sm)
Posted By: Hayseed on 2007-07-27
In Reply to: Would I be a horrible person if - MT4eight
so I Googled "delawing pros and cons" and then also tried "declawing video". I must say, after looking at both sides and hearing about postop complications, if I were in your shoes I would find an alternative to it, especially if its an older cat. Apparently the practice has been banned in California. Very enlightening stuff out there on the net about it.
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I believe the Purina website has info on that topic. SM
Something about keeping them in separate rooms for a while, but rubbing each cat with a sock and putting that in same room, so other cat will get used to scent.
My husband wanted me to pick out what I wanted....sm
I narrowed it down to 2 choices and let him make the final decision on which style/carat size to get.
Okay, a bit off topic but here goes
So many women talk about the bonding that happens when you breast feed that does not happen if you don't. Now it seem to be okay to let someone else breastfeed your child if for some reason you can't. Where does the bonding come in? Who is the child bonding with? For me I breast fed the first child but did not the second. Who am I closer to? Couldn't tell you!
A little off topic, but
I was out to lunch one day with my DH and on my way home I came upon a crash that had just happened at an intersection...one of the drivers was a young girl (she happened to go to the same HS as my DD). The other driver was a 30-something mother of 2 or 3. The young girl had run a red light and T-boned the other car. The mother was instantly killed in the crash, with 2 of her children in the car with her. When the teen girl got out of her car...yep, she was on the phone...! And obviously she was not calling 911! So sad...my DD said this girl went off the wall after this accident.
Not a funny topic at all.
I agree, i hadn't been reading all the posts (although i did now) and i think that it isn't a funny topic at all. My son is 6 and by this age they have discovered what their private parts are and they get aroused and i just think it's sick. Have you ever heard of Oedipus complexes? It's where the children become attracted to their parent! This can happen and it's not healthy and i just think (VERY PERSONAL OPINION AND NOTHING MORE!) that you're putting your child at the risk of developing some sort of issues. I 100% agree with Breastfeeding, i did for a little over a year. But at some point you have to disattach yourself from your child and let them grow up on their own in some areas and by treating them like a baby does not help them mature and go out on their own any. This was my 2 cents as well and nothing more, i just found it disturbing.
This is very interesting on this topic
http://www.jugglezine.com/CDA/juggle/0,1516,30,00.html
ongoing topic
I live in Florida and this is an ongoing topic on forums of local newspapers. We have a large Hispanic population here and while many of them speak English, many of them do not. If you go to Wal-Mart here, all of the signs are in English and Spanish. Many of the food products are in both languages. I actually know a couple through a family member who moved here from Cuba, must have been 35 years ago now, when Castro took their farm. The wife speaks virtually no English. She worked for Disney in housekeeping or something and retired from there. Even Disney didn't seem to care if their staff learns English.
I worked at a bank prior to becoming an MT. I had about 4 bilingual coworkers and we needed them. We had numerous customers who came in to cash checks or even had accounts there and didn't speak any English. I taught myself enough Spanish independently on the Internet and through books to be able to serve their needs. Now let me ask you, if I can manage that why can't they?
I don't think it's being racist or having a bad day. We all have to listen to ESL doctors who are practically incomprehensible. I wonder sometimes how in the world they passed the equivalency exams. I also know as doctors they can certainly afford a few diction classes but they don't bother. Meanwhile, we can't understand them, I don't know how their colleagues understand them, nurses probably have a hard time understanding them and many of these doctors are administering to elderly patients who don't hear as well. God only knows how they understand them.
English is the accepted universal language in the business world which is why people in other countries learn English. If you are going to do business in a predominantly English-speaking country then learn the language.
Good topic...
I am making my shopping list around coupons, buying more store brand items, cooking at home a lot more, and just generally hanging out at the house on the weekends cause we can't afford to do anything else. I cringe when I have to go somewhere in my car cause I don't wanna burn my gas. Thank goodness I can work at home, my son rides the bus to school, and my daughter drives but it's only less than a mile away.
Good topic- sm
In my lifetime I have had a Pembroke Welsh Corgi (best cow dog EVER), purebred ChowChow (real sweetie) two giant mutts (brothers), they were some kind of lab/shepherd mix. Both of them were with us for almost 17 years.
Also had an Irish Setter and this dog was a nut.
When my son was very small and we lived out in the country, he would todder down our long driveway. The dog would follow him and keep a watchful eye.
If the dog thought my son was getting too far from the house, he would gently knock him over and bark at us.
Pretty soon, baby boy would get up and head further down the driveway. After a few feet, the dog would again knock him over and bark at us.
This would go on a few more times until finally the dog would knock him over and just lay on top of my son and start howling like crazy... "COME GET THE KID!"
We had it on video but I don't know what ever happened to it.
That is a topic to just get me going today.
Ex-Idiot#1:
He got remarried to Satan's daughter (actually she is 12 years older, she might be Satan's sister). She beat my children and he allowed it so they deserve eachother.
Ex-Idiot#2:
He used to beat me. He took my son from me at 5 months old to travel the country in an 18-wheeler so that I couldn't find him. I did find him and got him back. Now he remarried. Thing is, the woman grew a brain cell. She booted him with nothing. He deserved what he got for what he has done to so many women over the years. I haven't heard from him in years, which is probably a good thing.
I told Satan's daughter to say hello for me when she visits Idiot#2 at her "brother's house".
Let's get back on topic, please.
This isn't a discussion about statistics.
Ahh a tricky topic...let me tell you the one about.....
Hex nut in the urethra man. Yeppir, AND he was a repeat offender, having been brought in for numerous urethral extractions..... his hex nut being his best.
Then there was toothbrush swallowing guy. (really!) You would think the curve of the toothbrush would prohibit swallowing. This guy was also a repeat offender. Lightbulbs, toothbrushes, razor blades, whatever ya got!
I love these guys. 
Off topic - mac and cheese
I must be living under a rock, but I was watching the Food Network, and they were talking about restaurants that serve mac and cheese pizza. I might have to try it, it sounded pretty good, but I can't think of anything more fattening - unless you add bacon to it.
Topic of conversation here lately
I was talking about the wages being offered now for MTers and no raises, pay going down and the like just the other night. I said pretty soon looks like the MTSOs will be charging just to have the people working. I am so very glad that most of my working in years past because like the previous person said, I also did around 60,000 years ago and now more in the 20,000. My husband said this can only happen if MTers allowed it to happen. I am not caught up in this hot mess like I would have been years ago but I understand what it is like to try to raise a family and yet the money might not be there. I don’t know what it will take but the workers here 1 day will have to do something about how this profession is heading
On the topic of consumer reviews :)
I generally have had very little luck finding a really comfortable bra. I am big busted and use underwires (yuck). Anybody care to share what their favorite brand of bra is as far as comfort for us more well-endowed women?
coming in late on this topic
I'm the grandma who has custody of grandchild. My custody papers allow 2 visits a months with the parents and more "as agreed to by both parties," but all are supervised and no overnight visits. I will not allow either parent into my home, so we were meeting at a fast food place with an indoor playground.
Because of suspected (and now admitted) drug use, I suspended visits until a clean drug test could be produced. In a few weeks, it will be a year. I talked to my lawyer about this before I suspended visits. I could not withhold visits due to failure to pay CS. I could be held in contempt of court and go to jail. However, since no judge is going to say it's okay for a parent on drugs to visit with the child, that is a different matter. In only 6 months, the parents are behind by $6k...I'll never see any of it.
My attorney told me the only way to withhold visits is if there is a situation that would place the child at risk - child abuse, parental drug abuse, sexual abuse, etc., otherwise you have to follow the court order or go back to court and ask the judge to revise the order with documentation of the reason for the request.
The noncustodial party can always go to court and ask for a revision of vistation as well to get more liberal visits.
OK. This is weird and maybe should be under the Confessions topic.
But I love the Godfather. I mean, I really LOVE that movie and Godfather II. I've watched those two movies a zillion times, director's cut, saga, DVD extras, you name it. (Not so fond of part III.) I'm not sure why I love it so much. Maybe my upbringing? I wasn't raised by mobsters, but I was surely raised in an Italian household. (I don't need the subtitles to know what's being said in Sicilian/Italian.) I like the complex theme, seeing Michael Corleone go from a righteous good guy to a powerful mob boss, twisting the admirable quality of protecting family into the distorted mess that brings him to his ultimate realization of his own guilt.
When I have I have the time, I get out some nice primitivo, some good cheese, lovely chewy bread and roasted peppers and watch those movies.
This is a hard topic for me - I see both sides (sm)
I have had prayers answered, but I have seen such suffering too and I know those people have cried out for help. You can always ask, but you never know if it is going to be God's will to solve the problem for you or not. I don't see how you can have blind faith that your problem will be solved when not all problems that are prayed about are solved.
hey gourdpainter, i know this is off the topic of your post but
i think gourds and painting them are so cool. My husband has a big garden, and he usually plants some gourds. The only thing I've done with them is let them dry and keep them around for a while. It would be so cool to be able to paint them if I had the time and talent.
Discussion topic today
How on earth did you get custody of your deceased ex's cremated remains? Did you divorce him after he died? LOL
A twist off topic, but that's the opposite of my MIL
She wouldn't return anything, and expects no one else to, EVER. She cuts all the tags off and then claims to have forgotten where she bought things. She has even gone so far as to cut the size tags out of gifts. She once whispered to my husband, "I had to buy her an extra large, so I cut the tag out. I didn't want to embarrass her." That was for a robe she bought me when I was pregnant. Believe me, I knew what size I was! I hate to have her spend money that goes to waste on things that just don't fit, for example. Those could be simple returns, but she won't give gift receipts or even say which store she bought the gift at. I've given up. I appreciate the thought of the gift, but if something doesn't fit, I just donate it to the next clothing drive that passes by. Someone will use it.
Probably because it was a valid discussion topic below.nm
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Relationships - new type of topic
I'm reading through all the posts below (where did you meet your spouse, what was your first meal, etc). I'm wondering how many of you out there would be perfectly happy living by yourself. I absolutely hate those dating commercials (eharmony, etc). Why does society try to make us feel that we have to have that "someone special" in our lives or we are nothing. A lot of times that "someone special" turns out to be "nobody special" but you don't find that out until your married and its too late. HA HA
I have always believed that before planning your life with someone you should first be true to yourself. Get to know yourself. What is is you want out of life. Can you achieve that goal on your own. I always have felt I did not enter with world with a man attached to my side and I won't be leaving this world with one attached to my side either. I'm am me, I'm a whole person. I have interests, thoughts, and beliefs, that are not always the same as my "other halfs". I am married right now, but to tell the truth I would be perfectly happy living on my own also. I've got lots of family and friends to do activities with, so there is not an issue of ever being lonely. You can be alone without being lonely.
Just wonder how many people are so attached to their spouse they feel life would not be worth anything if they were without them and if so why.
it was about her shoes - not a political topic
I would just ignore it. Started off about fashion. You can't control what people are going to write about a certain topic. Sometimes the two can blend together. Since we're not talking bout the O I would just ignore it and write another post about something else.
Travel Agent... off original topic
Always looking for a new career away from MT...Since your DH is travel agent, would you recommend it? Can you make a good living at it? How to get started? Have thought of this in the past, but never really knew how to go about it. My DH and I love to travel and he will be retired in a few years, so a career change may do us both good. Thanks for any info. 
Dr. Phil DID cover this very topic a few months ago...
and there was a guy who supposedly went to Africa and needed all this money to eat, get out of prison, get home to see this woman he was chatting with and told he loved so much. She fell for the whole thing until Dr. Phil exposed the whole story on his show and had other women there who had also fallen for this guy and sent him money. I don't know if you can get a DVD of the show or not, but it might be worth it to try.
I didn't realize I started the same as the topic below - nm
haha
What a great topic! I just received an invitation that
stated "Regrets - and the phone number," so I assumed I did not have to call if I was coming. Thanks to all for putting me in my proper place and I will call tomorrow (because it is Easter today) and just confirm that I am attending. I had never received an invitation like that, so I am so happy I have you all to make sure my manners are in the right place!!!
Thanks and hugs!
Ok ladies..off work topic..need a recipe!
I have been looking all over the web this morning for a hashbrown casserole recipe and cannot find what I'm looking for. I can find 1001 recipes for a cheesy hashbrown casserole, but the one im looking for is not a cheese based sauce, it's one using cream of mushroom soup. It has no cheese sauce or shredded cheese in it. Im sure it's a simple enough combination of the crm mushroom soup and maybe some sour cream or something but I'd rather have a recipe to go by. Anybody got one? Thanks! :)
New Topic . . Casey Anthony, did she or didn't she?
I think most people to believe she killed her adorable little girl, Caylee. What do you think?
Kinda off topic here, but I hate it when a husband is suggested
I never babysitted by own child, I took care of her, by myself at that, but that is another story for another time. Just wanted to share that babysitting thing!!!
And also, most men are not nurturers (sp), we know this as mothers, but yes they can and should participate in child rearing as they helped created this human being.
This is a hot topic and I need some opinoins. I have asthma and the lady downstairs..sm
in the apartment below me must smoke 4 packs a day. She never leaves the house and she just closets herself inside smoking all day long until about 2 a.m. and then sleeps late. I can SMELL the minute she wakes up. I KNOW this is second hand smoke and I have been hospitalized three times in the last two years with bronchitis. I really cant afford to move. I have complained to the apartment manager about it and she basically said there is nothing she can do. I have canvassed the apartment and have blocked up every hole I can that this might be seeping through. Now that the colder weather is here, the windows are closed and it is even worse. I need bigger balls to deal with this and the DH is no help at all because "it doesn't bother him" but I feel that because my asthma is so bad and I am living with this in my home that he should step up with me on this issue. I have lived above this lady for 3 years and I am through. This lady knows my problem, I have THREE hepa filters running in my house and have given her a $500.00 ionic breeze quadra professional unit for her living room. Any good words?
No, Robin...You're the VOICE OF REASON on this topic and
And you're saving me the trouble of posting since you're beating me to it.
Keep posting and keep the reality checks coming, please!!!
Maybe I should have worded the topic differently, like Demand stricter laws for sex offenders...
I am sorry if the wording of the topic offended anyone. I was rushed but wanted to type up something to get the word out about what I had seen on the Oprah show, and that was the first thing I thought of. But the main goal of my post was to get people to demand harsher laws for sex offenders and to make the laws more uniform from state to state so they cannot "hide out" in states with more lenient laws.
My 15-yo son shops on line at Old Navy and Hot Topic, shoes.com. And he's cool. As for haircut.
No, it was me. I wanted to eat more and did so
I pushed and pushed until I was able to pretty well eat normal again.
This was my failure.
Thanks - I just wanted to be sure! (sm)
I suggested it and then kind of got worried about it! We use it too
My son never wanted one, but DD
got hers actually at WalMart. It was around $100 and very pretty with her birth stone and she wears it every day. Might not after she graduates, but that's up to her. Younger DS probably won't want one either, but we'll cross that bridge when we come to it.
I did get the brochures from the jewelry stores at the mall, but they were unbelievably expensive.
Thanks, that was exactly what he wanted!
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Is that all you wanted?
Just have someone agree with you? You said you will never post anything about yourself again. Well, you still did. I have a 17yr old and he will always have a key to my house unless he gives me reason to think otherwise. I still (at age 40) have a key to my parents house (why wouldn't I) what is the big secret? Really tired of this thread. Don't want to offend anyone but this seems to have really gotten out of hand. Just give him the key or don't!
You wanted to ask, but you did not?
For crying out loud, you should be MUCH more ready to forgive him his abusive language and "disrespect" if he was on drugs. Good grief. It sounds like you expect everybody to be perfect except you.
If he is clean now, he would probably be ashamed of how he acted. How many years have you let this rift go on, anyway?
That is exactly what my BF said, he wanted to know
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Just wanted to add one more (sm)
thing. If your daughter does leave home, you MUST report her as a runaway to protect yourself.
You didn't mention, but are there other children in the home? If so, this is definitely something to take into consideration. If they are and they are being exposed to the constant "turmoil" this can be perceived in the eyes of social services as a form of "abuse" so you'd need to tread carefully.
Right now, take the emotional part out of it, take back control and know that a couple of years from now you will (hopefully) look back at this time and you and your daughter will have a few laughs. I remember when we hit that point and I just smiled silently thinking "I remember someone told ME back then I'd make it through this." You CAN handle this!
I always wanted to use one of these
when I have my own place, check it out.
http://www.purrfectfence.com/
I just wanted to thank you!
To the person who posted to informed us of the free photo books at snapfish.com sponsored by Oprah, I just wanted to thank you! I ordered one and my mom ordered one for herself too! They turned out great. I did a wedding photo book as I got married a year ago and still hadn't done a wedding album yet. It turned out amazing!!!
Did anybody else take advantage of this amazing offer?
You have done what you wanted to do - sm
so I would leave it at that. It is never to late to say you are sorry about something. I did the same thing, broke up with this guy badly, he was so in love with me and I always felt guilty about it, especially since he stayed single and did not date for about 12 years. He knew I felt bad about it though as my BF told him years after our breakup that I have always felt guilty/bad about how I handled things. But I was a stupid 16-y/o so what do you expect. Sometimes have regreted it as he is now a successful architect, but then again something just did not click, hence the breakup. He finally met someone and is married now about 8 years. We exchange Christmas cards but that is it. I never formally apologized to him but I know he knows how I feel/felt.
No, he wanted them because he - sm
was/is tired of the withdrawal method to be blunt about it. As I said he's only used 2 in maybe six months though (with me). Believe me I questioned him about it....and am being aware. I check all the email as he hates dealing with it, and the bills, he has no secret accounts, etc. He is pretty much an open book. His phone is a company phone and they would fire him if he used the phone for anything other than work or calling me, same with the company car. He is a real germaphobe as well, my kids call him Mr. Monk as a joke, he is not that bad, but sometimes it is, and I don't think would put me in the position of possibly getting a STD. He is also one of those men who would confess if he cheated as the guilt would eat him up. His honesty and fairness can be a pain sometimes, he won't even haggle when it is possible to like buying our house, and some property we have, did not even try to get it cheaper, same with our cars. I have to tell him to be quiet and let me handle the negotiating when I can. He has always been straight with me. Supposedly he cheated the 2-3 x because his wife used sex as a weapon/reward, and just was one of those women who really did not enjoy it....whether this is true of course I will never know. But I am not blindly stupid about his past, but do have faith in him that he won't do it again as we do have a good marriage, two great kids, and a good life together (and still a great sex life after 14 years). He has seen friends divorce and knows what it is like and does not ever want to go through it again, and he knows I am serious about making his life a living *ell if he ever did that to me. ---But the OP up there as I said before just needs to keep her eyes peeled. I would not let the letter wreck my marriage but I certainly would not blindly think, no my husband would never do that, foolish to think that way but it is a fine line to walk and you need to protect yourself but not let it wreck the marriage in case it is just a nut job out to cause trouble, like kids mailing them out to one house on each street in their neighborhood, who knows.
thanks!! Just wanted to be sure sm
So many recipes look so good, but I just don't have the time. I've been wanting them lately too. Kids coming home from college this weekend, so I wanted to make something special for them... but I have to work for a while until they get here... so I could't get too involved.
Thanks again!
Well, if I'd known what he REALLY wanted
Snip, snip! 
Just wanted to say thanks
I had some nice responses when I posted last week about having a really nasty UTI and being in excruciating pain. I had a fever despite analgesics, pelvic pain and generalized agony. They did a KUB and 2 CAT scans, with and without contrast. I got the results yesterday. I have at least one kidney stone. They think I may have passed more. I will NEVER go back to that NP again. My PCP has a NP, PA and himself. The PA is fantastic and my doc is wonderful. I can't believe they made me wait all weekend for the results when I had a stone, and let me suffer in pain. A few Vicodin may have helped. Also, the NP had told me I'd be feeling better in a day. I got progressively worse over 3 days. Now, I am finally starting to feel back to normal but there is still a 2 mm (small) stone lodged in my kidney. I just wonder if it is going to cause problems if and when it goes on the move. I was afraid to go to the ER for 2 reasons: 1. I didn't want them to think I was there for a wimpy reason. 2. They have so many people who go in there seeking narcotics, even though I never have, I was afraid they'd treat me like I was one of those.
Again, thanks to all that cared!
I have always wanted more than just
to sit around and do nothing. I just wanted more in my life than to stay stoned or be an alky. My best mind is not the best so if I fool around with other substances I am in a world of trouble. I have always wanted to work and be able to buy what I wanted, take vacations where I wanted and I hate, hate, hate to count money to find out if I have enough to buy a candy bar. If I had to work more than one job to have what I need, then that is what I do. I want to keep on working until I just go kerplunk out of my chair with my fingers on the keyboard. I just hope that is no time soon. I probably love making money more than I love spending it although spending runs a close second.
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