I understand your frustration-I also feel sorry for the little girl (sm)
Posted By: Anon on 2007-11-30
In Reply to: My daughter came home from school with yet another letter...sm - Angry and venting
This should be a sign that she is not being taken good care of. However, unless they are being really abused I think kids are always better off with their real parents. It's just so sad. I had them as a child...my mother tried to get rid of them but if your house is a big mess like ours was, it is hard to get rid of them all for good. I wore a coat with a hood on all day every day to school because I was so ashamed. I don't know the answer, I feel for you and for the poor child.
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i can understand your frustration sm
i have a 1st grader and a 4th grader. 4th grade is a little more strict than what i expected. they have homework every night except friday nights. monday he had homework in every single subject. i think it's rediculous to give them so much to do. i weighed his backpack and it was 15 pounds. it might not sound like much, but it is heavy.
it sounds like the teacher is being way too picky. if you have problems and they keep on, i would definitely talk with the teacher. we pay their paychecks.
good luck.
I understand your frustration
Your daughter is entitled to pain and suffering, should you pursue it. Your medical bills, however, should be covered by your medical insurance IMO. That's what it's there for. I don't see the dog owner as benefitting from this. If you weren't able to find the owner of the dog or it was your own dog that bit your child, you would use your medical insurance to cover it.
You didn't mention whether the owner of the dog is a friend or neighbor or just some random person. You also didn't mention how severe and/or the location where your child was bit. I also have to wonder if part of your anger isn't coming from the possibility that the dog owner never formally apologized or asked about the welfare of your child.
Just some things to think about. I know what it's like to feel anger over someone hurting your child, and that's part of the natural instincts as parents. I hope your daughter is doing well and will be able to overcome her fear of dogs eventually.
I understand your frustration, but I mean to let one's
anger out on innocent animals and babies, I do not think that women do this; there are always exceptions.
If one has to let off steam and get violent, then do it on material things, not on animals or humans. Women usually do this.
There are a lot of male serial killers, but a female serial killer is rare.
I understand your frustration too...sm
and as an MT who works on an account with someone similar to this, I know exactly what you are talking about. My coworker, so called MT, is so focused on being "fast" and trying to see how many people she can out do as far as lines go, that her quality just goes out the window. I see so many of her reports that are total cr*p. I don't know how she can even call herself an MT. Unfortunately, I have tried pointing out her errors, mistakes, and utter sheer disregard for client protocols to management and all that served to do was to bring more scrutiny to my own reports. I am not perfect either, but at least the client actually ASKED that I do all of their dictations. That has to say something. But management does not want to do anything about it. At least you still care about what your client wants. You sound like you are ready to do the right thing. Maybe this MT you have is the same coworker I have! oh, heaven forbid! I totally understand and support your decision!
I totally understand your frustration sm
but 900 parents in a timely fashion? I used to sub in a small elementary school (average #of students 200) and it was still a huge headache when there was a problem (schools closing early due to flooding). Most parents of course knew about the flooding because they lived in the area but it was still total chaos. In our area the TV runs a crawl across the bottom of the screen announcing when a school is closing early. I know that we as parents are not responsible for watching TV for "in case info", but I think in the case of a fire I am not sure I would want people staying in the building to look at paperwork.
I can completely understand your frustration ..sm
My husband has 2 sisters and 3 brothers, all now over the age of 38 and besides my husband and his oldest brother, none of the others work. It is just amazing to me. On top of that, his youngest sister (the baby in the family) and her husband smoke and deal meth. He was actually involved in a meth explosion 3 years ago, almost died but now he is able to collect social security, over $3000 a month to say the least. When he was involved in that, DFCS removed the children from the home and my husband and I ended up with their 5-year-old daughter for 1-1/2 years. Okay, that's off the point and a completely totally different vent for some other time, lol.
Anway, what I am getting at is this. Just like your ex, none of them work, they all live on land (with us) that has been in the family for over 100 years. Two of the brothers still live in the main house with their parents, none of them employed, and then the meth addict sister and her husband live in a small dump just in front of the main house. They all lay around all day and do absolutely nothing. It just amazes me. Come Friday and Saturday nights though they are out partying and having a big time. The one collecting social security disability for being blown up in a meth lab explosion, who supposedly will never be able to hold another job because of this, goes fishing, hunting (and yes he CARRIES a portable stand into the woods, plus his gun), works on the junk cars in the yard, which still don't run of course. It just really steams me that he is collecting social security disability for doing something illegally and he is DEFINITELY capable of obtaining employment (these deer stands that he carry into the woods are well over 100 pounds, plus a gun). I have reported him MANY, MANY, MANY times to the social security administration but it is hopeless.
This does not even begin to skim the surface with these people but my point is that I completely understand your frustration. My husband has been in law enforcement for almost 25 years (before you ask, yes he has arrested his own brother and sister, one for DUI twice and the little sister 3 times for meth) and I have been doing MT work for over 23 years, working our behinds off to provide for our kids and then we sit back and see these people who never work, who continuously have kids, do not provide for them, they are constantly breaking the law, in and out of jail and yet, while it is definitely not the life of luxury, they never seem to have a care in the world, do not work and even manage to go on vacation 3 or 4 times a year. Seriously, what is wrong with this picture!! 
I feel your frustration
I need to see a gynecologist for the first time. My GP has always taken care of the pelvic exams for me in the past, but now I need birth control and can't use hormones. We had snow this week, so offices were closed two days and then they all close early or never bother to open at all on Friday. I'd been waiting and waiting to get a call back about my new-patient appointment, and never got the call. Called again and was told she doesn't see new patients at that location anymore. So now I have to find somebody else, and it was Friday afternoon. The one place that could see me was booked until April. Do what?
I feel for you and the little girl - this sounds
like perhaps a case of abuse/neglect. I hope that authorities are investigating. I am amazed at how many times a child turns up dead and later on the school says "well, yes she was dirty all the time, yes, she wasn't dressed correctly for the weather, yes, she did have lice" but no one did anything. So sad for her that either they cannot do better or will not. For your family - what a pain!
I'm so sorry. I understand how you feel...I also
have suffered the devastation of miscarriage. I have a lot to say but would prefer a more private forum...so if you want please feel free to e-mail me. I would be happy to talk to you about how I got through such a dark time in my life. Maybe it would help....a little.
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{{{{{hugs}}}}}}
Really cannot understand why you feel like this
because all it means is you just don't make milk as you should. I had 2 children and never ever wanted to breast feed. I never thought I was no less a mother. A much better test of being a mother is how you raise a child more than can you breast feed 1. Just don't get these posts. Mothers all over the world have similar problems. I for 1 was never into reading cans in stores that I am not buying, be it formula or rubbing alcohol. I guess some people have more time on their hands than I do.
I can understand why you feel the way you do--sm
but not ALL women use this tactic as *flirting*. I used to use a *sob story* too, but it was not to seek potential partners, sympathy, yes, but not potential partners. I never thought of what I was doing as *flirting* or trying to make someone else feel that I was a *catch*. I never thought that way until my ex husband told me that is what it sounded like to him. That I was looking for someone else to *take me away from it all.* Trust me, when he brought that to my attention, I stopped doing it then and there. Perhaps this woman does not know that others see her sob stories this way. I surely didn't. You seem to have trust in your husband, but you obviously feel threatened by this woman, for some reason. Why don't you make an attempt to befriend this person. You may find a really good friend and maybe she needs that right now. I would suspect that all of these other men that are chasing her are out for her land, and not her, too. But that is just my jist of it.
This I can understand and I feel with you, but this is different.
I would also be scared to stay or move into a house in which somebody died, especially if one was not on good terms with the person.
Some say that the soul or ghost hides in the attic or basement, eeeewwwww!
Once we moved into a house where the owner had died, the agent showed us exactly the place and during the night there were strange cracking and knocking sounds in the attic, wow, really scary, we thought somebody was hiding there.....later we moved out.
BTW, I prefer apartments to houses, much safer.
I understand how you feel
I love my animals. They are part of my family, probably would look for the doggie until I could no longer. People sometimes dognap, could that possibly have happened you think? Two huskies came to my home and I took off from work that afternoon to find their parents. They were well taken care of, no tags but looked like they had a home somewhere. You do know why your stepmom said that about the doggie, right? My father's older dog woke him 1 morning, wanting to go outside, did and ran away never to be seen again and this was a dog who always stayed close to the home, never going off. You know about cleaning up and getting rid of, there is hope and I would be hanging on for dear life. My dear girlcat died over a year ago. I still have her tags, some medicine she had, just me, reminders of my lovie.
I totally understand how you feel...sm
I too felt that way until I came to know some pits. I realized they acted like any other dog. I won't lie. All pits can be dangerous because of their capabilities. But I know many owners who have never had problems with this breed including my dad and great grandfather. Mine is just a big hunk of love. Hes nothing like you would think when you think of a pitbull. He is so tenderhearted. To me, he is just CJ, my heart. I think you have a right to your feelings but I have a right to mine and I love this dog and in my heart I know he would not hurt me or my family. He has had so many opportunities to kill when attacked by smaller dogs and he never did. Many times he would just walk off and look pitiful.
I understand how you feel. My dad and exhusband
were/are like that. I am in my late 40s and I have been catching myself doing the same thing as they. So for a small amount of money, like 1 dollar, I got this band bracelet from A Complaint Free World website. I realized that I was crabbing all the time and being negative because I was getting like my dad and my ex. So, I tried to improve myself. Everytime I complained or said something negative I had to switch the bracelet to the other hand. I was supposed to say nothing if I could not say something nice. It took a while but I have been 30 days complaint free, and reading this book "Change Your thoughts Change your life. It is about the Tao and today's interpretation. Maybe to set an example for your DH, you can send away for the bracelet (you get 2 in a pack) and challenge him you can both go without complaining. Also you can get the book at the library and read 2 passages a day. In 6 months this has really helped me stop complaining. Maybe your husband grew up with someone negative and as he grows older has the same thing going on in his brain. Now this will bother you and rub off on you and make you unhappy. So, instead of telling him what to do or trying to fix yourself because you think you are going crazy, why not try to work on it together. I guess 2 things I learned: 1, don't blame yourself for anyone's negativity yet don't absorb it either. and 2. Always try to separate the person from their problem. See them without it, and forgive them for the problem. Of course, this is while they fix the problem. If they don't fix it you have to get away from it. I always suggest that if you love your DH that you try the bracelet and book or some form of project together for thinking positive. Good luck to you!
yes, i have to say it did, but my kids were ready too, so i do understand how u feel
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I completely understand. I dont feel stressed but there must be something bothering us I think.
I guess we always dont exactly know what stresses us because it could be just a lot of things together that arent really terrible but just little stressors of every day life.
That little girl
For those of us who lived through the "British Invasion", or even if you didn't but saw replays of some of the groups singing, you would remember that the teen girls would scream and cry. Cry. Yes. So when I saw that pitiful-looking little girl, I thought she was planted there sort of as a flashback to the British Invasion period. If that was the reason, it did not work out well. They should have had a group of them doing that. As it was, it just made her look like she desperately needs a psychiatrist.
but did you notice how enthralled she was with Sanjaya? that's why I think it is millions of little girls that age voting for him.
Just my thoughts. My other thought is that AI seems to have run its course.
Go girl!
Go get 'em!! You sound like you've got a good plan. I wish you the very best of luck!
Girl, let me tell you...sm
I know...what's up with her snotty attitude lately? And running for senator, puhleeze! She is so ugly to everyone, including Victor...she best watch it or he'll kick her off her high horse...
you go girl!
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You go girl...
Way to go! You are a force to be reckoned with...Congratulations on your victory! Here's to ya... !(I'm in the ATL area also...hey neighbor!)
I'm with you girl...
My DH loves camping...I told him when he buys a luxury RV, then I'll go~~~maybe~~~ I'm more along the lines of a resort in Key West, now that's a vacation....and ABSOLUTELY NO WORKING...
Me too!...This girl does not...
sleep in an RV, tin can trailer or a tent, let alone on the ground! Hotels all the way for me...don't mind hiking, backpacking, etc...just give me a good room at the end of the day!
I could have been that little girl.
My mom had mental health issues, but back in the 1960s, no one talked about such things. Our house was a horrible mess, and I knew it. I had dirty clothes which were usually old hand-me downs from a cousin. It was really awful growing up. Right up until I was about 13 or so, I used to beg my mother to do "normal" things, like let me have friends over. It was always a disaster. I just didn't understand that she wasn't capable of being like other moms. Eventually, I stopped having friends over, learned to do my own laundry, and worked like crazy in our house to clean and cook. It was a small town, and everyone knew that I had taken on the role of woman-of-the-house. My friends' mothers would invite me over to give me a break and let me be a kid. I eventually stopped even trying to have them at my house. It was torture to even try.
What I'm saying is, let your daughter go to the party. As someone mentioned, you can offer to help. It's very likely that the little girl is painfully aware that her home life is different from her friends. It's not her fault that she lives the way she does. If she's anything like I was, more than anything, she needs friends and to have some normalcy in her life.
that little girl...
I feel for you and what you went through. I have a friend (almost 39 years) who was that girl and my mother encouraged our friendship even though I had doubts - peer pressure. Her mother had mental problems as did her step-father but what a great family. I was in situations and at the age of around 9 I knew it was not "normal" - don't get things in the mind..nothing going on in the family that was perverted!! It was just how they lived but they were such a loving family and I am proud to call Neva my friend as she has been for almost 40 years. I thank my mother that she never judged and still does not (I can be a pain in the ass) and found such a wonderful friend that will be my friend until the day I die. So mom's out there..there may be great friendships that will last for life - don't worry so about things unless need be!!!
Thanks! I owe you, girl!
I'm so proud to show off my new boy.
You go girl!
Man do I hate that phrase but guess it says it in this case.
Why do people always assume we have to be indebted to our parents/children for the rest of our lives. As we get older this is the time we are suppose to take care of ourselves, and for once in our lives think about ourselves. We raised our children, watched them grow from children into adults, put them through school, rooted (sp?) for them at their sports games, supported their ups and downs, watched them proudly at their wedding, or supported them if they decided to be with another person and not marry. We did everything for them. Now when we are at the age of retirement and want to take time for ourselves and think about ourselves for a change we are called selfish and are supposed to feel guilty?????? Give me a break! So who is going to take care of us when we need it? Retirement is the age of "me". That's not a selfish wish, it's what happens in life. Yes we are here to support our kids (emotionally - who are no longer kids), and financially if we can if they need it or if we want to slip them a $20 in their pocket from time to time for no reason, but I'm with the above poster. It's my golden years its now time for me! Life is about growing, knowing who we are, learning about ourselves. Society forces us to follow the bandwagon meaning...your born, you go to school, you graduate and get a job, you get married, have kids, watch your kids grow, retire and take time for yourself. Not once have I ever seen anything talking about getting to know oneselves before going and getting married to another. I do not believe we are born in life just to always take care of other people. We've given enough of ourselves to others. It's now time for me.
You go girl!
I agree with you 100%. Sterotypal stuff doesn't fly well with me either. I am 58 and I also listen to loud rock music, dance when I am cleaning, and read Elle and other more youthful magazines (saying that because they don't usually address my age group!). I say if you want to do it, do it! Feel better yet??
Your little girl - sm
I can't blame you about the bill. That was unconscionable to be so petty about the money. They're lucky their dog wasn't put down and they should know it.
About your daughter - I wouldn't dismiss out of hand getting her a dog. Not right away, of course, but after some time has passed. Let me explain.
I saw my sister attacked by a dog when I was five, and although I wasn't hurt myself, I was terrified for years and years of dogs, to the point where I wouldn't take a walk or ride my bike in an unknown neighborhood. It wasn't until after I was an adult and married and my husband talked me into getting a puppy that I lost my fear of dogs. Taking care of a dog from puppyhood can be the "magic cure" for your daughter's fear as she finds out that most dogs are friendly and loveable.
This also worked for our son, who was nine when we got our first puppy. He was so scared that he actually spent the afternoon in the garage rather than come into the house with Sam (who incidentally was a three month old golden retriever!). Now he owns his own dog and is considering going into veterinary medicine.
Good luck to you and your family. And I pray the owners of the dog that attacked your daughter have an "attack" of conscience and do the right thing by your family.
LOL you go girl!
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Girl,
don't go away mad . . .
You GO Girl
Agree 100% with everything you say & stand for. Send me an e-mail & if you have PayPal I will send you some money for your rescue animals (I have 2 myself) right now.
Don't let ANYONE tell you animals are less important to the universe than children; NFW.
You GO, Girl!
I have been thinking about it a lot lately myself. It is very difficult. I've "quit" a couple of times myself, yet here I am, a smoker still.
I have been meaning to ask, are those of you on this board who were discussing group quitting following through? How's it going? Do you keep in touch/support each other through e-mails? Just curious because I haven't seen any discussion about it since the new year began and wishing you all good luck and success, and same for you XanaX!
(Kicking myself for not joining in with you guys!)
You go girl!!!!
Congrats and have fun!!!
WOOHOO...you go girl (OP)...
She was the white girl with the
kind of "punk" look. Dark hair, large red highlight in front.
lol, I definitely don't think the little girl was a *plant*....
but I do agree she may need a psychiatrist! Yikes.
boys or girl
I have 2 of each (yes 4 in all) and I would defitenly say boys right now. My kids are still young so may be my mind will change with age!
I'm no young girl...
I'm a lot older and I think Blake's adorable. To each is own. And by the way, he's as tall as my husband, who by the WA is no creep. LOL.
Way cool; you go girl! : )
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Amen girl!
 We are NOT all hillbillies, either!
Is that the one where the girl goes to the inner city...
to live with her dad after her mom dies and she gets involved with the black student and she auditions for Julliard?
amen, girl!
I'm in Fort Worth - where are you??
I think the 14-year-old girl from
Maryland is just wonderful. Such poise, beauty and a great voice. I also like the cowboy with the rope routine!
she's not a girl anymore though
She's 21 and sadly makes her own decisions. She's too addled to know enough to hire someone to watch over her. Coke gives you a feeling of invincibility. Mom's a mess and so is Dad. She was so darn cute in the Parent Trap too.
OMG, maybe you are that girl that punched me. LOL nm
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Well, this girl continued to
do drugs and never got any treatment. I'm sure that has something to do with it killing her! I'm sure she drank alcohol also and who knows what drugs, how often, etc.
You go girl on the laundry....sm
both of our kids know to not even breathe to us that they have dirty clothes as they know how to use the washing machine & dryer and how to use them. It's up to them to do their laundry and clean their bathroom, not me!
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Dog named Bo (Bo-Girl) nm
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