I understand, it's a part of you. You're normal!
Posted By: gemini on 2008-11-23
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They're supposed to be a normal part of aging...yuck! Dunno if a derm doc can zap them or not. nm
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What part of illegal don't you understand? (sm)
You are talking about ancestors who came thru Ellis Island. They were screened for disease and such. Those healthy enough were let in the country legally. Those not were turned away. They weren't sneaking over the borders.
I don't believe anyone objects to legal immigration. Too bad too many Americans are too dense to distinguish the difference.
What part don't you understand. I was working. I was
doing the best I could to take care of my kids who have since grown into loving, caring adults. I lived in a small town, jobs were hard to come by and I was grateful that I had a job at all. Welfare and food stamps are 2 totally different things. I didnt' receive welfare. I worked. When I had my kids I was married. I never thought my marriage would end. It did. I did what I could to take care of my kids with very, very little help from their father (who eventually realized his mistake and we remarried and are still married some 20+ years later). I have never again needed food stamps and hope I never do. Food stamps and welfare are abused every single day, but I was not one of those abusing the system, so get off my back and leave me alone. 
Oh my gosh...I totally understand about the no common sense part...
like his brain stopped working when he hit 9 or something...I am constantly telling him "use your brain." But honestly, it is nice to hear other parents going through the same thing, because my husband and I thought maybe it was just our son---LOL...
You're totally right-on with that, especially the part
about the religious right-wingers getting hissy about a fetus, but stepping over the body of the same child if it dies of starvation or child abuse after it's been brought into the world.
How do you spell ----
H-Y-P-O-C-R-I-T-E ??
I understand what you're saying!
I have to admit though your post gave me a chuckle! What a world we live in...!! My children would never, ever say anything like that in public! Consider the source! Too bad you didn't have a comeback for that "sass"!
I understand what you're saying, and...sm
...I hope you take great joy in the fact that he is obviously so "into you" (boy, did that come out the wrong way...er, I mean...:)...).
It seems from your reply that your expectations probably aren't unrealistic as I had wondered, so aside from the "spiritual" side of things that I mentioned earlier, it might be worth doing as another poster suggested and making sure that all the little hormones are splashing around like they should be, etc. A frank discussion with your OB/GYN would tell them what to look for, and then once you're satisfied that everything's hunky-dory on the physical side you could have a chat with a counselor about the other possibilities.
Bottom line is that yes, you should be able to experience the turn-on, orgasm, etc., so there's nothing unrealistic about such expectations at all.
I understand where you're coming from...
for people to be helpful in a positive way and not judgmental, after all it does and can affect anybody. But, I still think the best approach is through the school system, school nurse, other services, etc. I know at our school they were reluctant even admitting to me that there was a problem and had never sent out notes alerting parents before I talked to them because of privacy, and as I said, I don't need to know who, just an alert to the fact. In fact, the teacher probably should not have told me who, specifically, had the recurrent problem. I think it might be okay to contact a parent if you know them personally as a friend, but just to contact someone that you are not close to, no matter how good the intentions and tactfully presented, that you understand there's a problem and offer your help, they may want to know how do you know?? and who told you that? and could open door to all other kind of issues. Coming from a family with a dad as a school administrator, you wouldn't believe the trouble people can cause over things, but I do think a generic note is appropriate, and as I said, there was a school that closed its doors for I think a week or two, it was so rampant, so people could try and get control of it. I think it would be okay for the school nurse or administration to offer avenues for assistance and ask if the family would like help from others. It really can be a pesistant bugger to control if the parents don't have the ability to keep on it for whatever reason. I am an MT, but wasn't always, was a nurse aide in college and lab technologist, so have seen most everything out there. I think we're just letting off a little steam here because of the frustration, not trying to be pains or uncaring. Good luck in nursing school! From what I saw (almost switched to nursing when I was in college) it's a tough, tough job and hard, often very emotionally and physically draining work, but can be one of the most rewarding careers out there I think...I was a nurse aide in ICU/CCU on the graveyard shift in college and there were plenty of tears shed behind the scenes and also some great happy endings!
yo trose? What is *normal*? Normal means
*normal*? that only means one has a preconceived idea of what sanity is....
which I don't - so I have no answer......*lol*
Anyone with a printer deskjet know why it prints a page with part of it dark and part of it light.
It is not printing uniformly.
what's *normal*?? Normal only means one has a
It's not the dancing part, it's the people part that I don't like. K? We clear now?
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I keep it in the office part time and on the patio part time
I've got the self-cleaning electric litter box (and boy is it worth the $100), and have a huge throw rug under it with a smaller rug by the litter pan that has a bumpy mat on top of it to catch the excess. I keep it in the office from April to October but on the patio from October to March as it is too hot in FL to leave the patio door open for them during the summer months. I also put out a spare box when we go out of town for the weekend.
Try a box that has deeper sides maybe, or not as much litter in it?
maybe it's normal and I'm the odd one?
DS#1, age 17, likes a girl who is a junior, so she's probably 16 or 17. I'll call her J. DS has sort of liked her for a while, but she had a boyfriend. That boyfriend dumped her recently because he wanted to date someone else.
J was distraught over it for a couple of weeks and ended up going out with DS so now they're a "couple" and DS is very happy.
She's a bright girl, attractive, on the honor roll, very active in sports, tutors kids in the evening, is in the high school band, etc.
Anyway, J told my son that she needs to have a guy in her life and doesn't really feel complete without one.
Isn't it odd to feel that way, especially at that young of an age? Or maybe it's normal and I'm the odd one?
no it is not normal but is
very sad that she would think that. he needs to watch out or he will be paying child support the rest of his life!
Normal???
Definitely Normal
This is definitely normal behavior. I have a 13 year old and when she saw the Backstreet Boys back when she was older, she had a similar reaction. I remember feeling the same when I saw my "idols" years ago.
This is normal!
I was this way when I started too. I had my first period in December, just after my 12th birthday, and didn't have another one until March. Very common during the first year. And yes, her physical activity can be part of the reason...often athletes and the like have irregular menses.
TO: What is...normal
What is your problem? This woman is scared for her life and the lives of her children and you have the unmitigated gall to try to insinuate that she be subservient to this walking horror she is married to and make nice with him? Apparently your nerve is overwhelmed by any common sense you may have been born with. I wonder if you would feel the same if it were your sister, aunt or god forbid - your mother..ignorant..
To me, this is a normal job. I am up at 4 a.m. and
start work, take a break about 7 to shower and at least put on my work out clothes, including bra, some make up, etc, then backto work. Nothing worse to me than working in jammies...can't take the ob seriously, JMHO. I also like to look presentable should anyone visit (live very rurally, so doesn't usually happen) and especially when DH comes home from work. Who wants to see a wife still in jammies looking a wreck?
No. It is not normal.
My husband is my high school sweetheart. We have been together since we were 16 (39 now) and married for 17 years. We have had some heated arguments but never once has he laid a hand on me nor would he. Never once has either of us called names or disrespected one another. It is just not acceptable to treat someone you love with any less respect than you expect for yourself. It sounds like you do love him but he violated your trust and security in him. If he hasn't been abusive since that one incident, you could consider marriage counseling to help work through trust and forgiveness. If he is emotionally abusive, then it could just be a matter of time before it gets physical again. Your safety is the most important thing. Good luck.
Yes, it's normal. You do need help from DH, mom, in-law. You SM
need time to yourself. Even an hour a day. Believe me, it isn't easy and you should not feel you are the only one who feels the way you do.
Books, commercials, et. al, show endless scenes of serene mothers and babies. Most times are NOT serene, but, trust me, they get better. The more sure of yourself you become, the better things get and the second child will be easier. Wait a minute, I didn't have a second child, but my only child did!
Yes, it's normal. You do need help from DH, mom, in-law. You SM
need time to yourself. Even an hour a day. Believe me, it isn't easy and you should not feel you are the only one who feels the way you do.
Books, commercials, et. al, show endless scenes of serene mothers and babies. Most times are NOT serene, but, trust me, they get better. The more sure of yourself you become, the better things get and the second child will be easier. Wait a minute, I didn't have a second child, but my only child did!
very normal
My hubby is an OB/GYN and that is very common. Just a much better view. Annoying and uncomfortable, yes, but just a better view.
Normal anxiety???
I have a lot going on in my life right now - mother-in-law diagnosed with advanced metastatic ovarian cancer a week and a half ago, requested husband and I go to a marriage counsellor (which I started even though I don't want to), and starting a new full-time job at a hospital (not at home) on Monday. I have not worked FT outside of my home since my children were born and am worried about having them in early and after care, holidays, etc.
Anyway, I have been waking up and night with my heart pounding, cannot get back to sleep for hours, and having a "panicky" feeling in my chest off and on throughout the day. I feel like crying. Do you think this is situational anxiety or do I need medication? I can't stand this feeling!! Thanks for any advice!
Very normal feelings.......sm
I went through the same feelings with both my children, my daughter being the oldest. She had to take a drivers course at our local high school during the summer, then she got her permit. She drove with that for a few months before getting her license. But that first time she went with a girlfriend just down the street to a local burger joint made me crazy. I knew she would go slow and be very cautious, but that feeilng was still there, bordering on panic. She's 23 now. My son came next....he had to take the same course. He's was a little more pushy about the license, but didn't make a big deal out of it. But, unfortunately, within the month after getting them his dad said he could go to his girlfriend's.. it was rainy and I was not happy. She lives on a dead end street which is good, cause a dog ran out in front of him, he dodged it, and ran over the neighbor's utility box and tore up their beautiful grass. He was scared to death. Well, that got fixed and I guarantee he went slower after that. He's 20 now and as I notice a lot of guys do, he drives faster than his sister, but not as fast as his girlfriend, thank goodness!! He drives her car cause he tells her she goes too fast, won't use blinkers, no signals, makes me nuts. But they are grown and made it through those early testing times, and so will yours. By the time my son got his license, my state had graduated license, so he could only drive between certain daytime hours, and not past 7 at night for a few months. Check your state laws...a lot of them have these now.
Very normal. Let her get her license, but
give her rules. No passengers other than you or her dad. No phone use while car is in gear. Drive during daylight only for first 3 months. Make sure she knows ahead of time how she is getting somewhere. Stress following rules of the road, using blinkers, once you are in a lane to turn, go through with it and correct her course later when safe. Calmly explain that driving is a privilege. If she doesn't seem safe enough, make her take a defensive driving course also. It can't hurt.
It seems normal to me. I had a friend
who went to a therapist for years, and I truly got the impression he had her continue to come because she was so entertaining with her stories.
What is more important than style is whether she is helping you. Is your concern that you don't feel you are making progress? Is she having you try new things or otherwise work on your issues? Or is she just having you talk and nothing else?
The only therapy I've had was biofeedback training, which was very helpful for me because it taught me a skill, plus I could talk to the tech like a therapist. She definitely made me feel better about things.
It's not your normal kind of tea..sm
and one cup, I don't think, will make one P three to four times during the night, but whatever works for you.
TOTALLY normal! (sm)
My kids are younger than yours, but I am the youngest of three. I have an older sister and older brother. My brother is the oldest and he is three years older than me. I can remember growing up and being picked on by my brother (and sister) and there were times when I felt like I truly hated him. I'm sure he felt the same about me at times. Now I love him dearly and I think he is one of the greatest men in my life. I'm sure it sounded horrible to you, but don't worry. It's perfectly normal.
Absolutely ~ it is normal.....nm
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I actually have, and it was completely normal - SM
I'm in my mid-20s and have always been very healthy and active. I could never even catch the chickenpox from my friends as a child! LOL! Oh well, I'll have to see if stopping this antihistamine makes a difference. I feel completely fine otherwise.
should say "are" normal....
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sounds like a normal
reaction/depression to situation. I'm sorry for your loss. I dread going through what you are, and i know my time is near, with elderly parents and elderly husband. I guess a lawyer that specializes in estates could help with those aspects. Might also inquire of a friend, neighbor or church member that has been through similar. To get out of a funk, i'd recommend trying to do something for someone else -- volunteer, donate, help someone who has needs (babysitting, taking elderly to store, etc) That has a way of revitalizing a person. Hope your new year gets better soon.
Perverting the normal
You can rant all day about how happy you are to live alone without a plant, or a pet, or anyone else, but you are the exception, not the rule...and quit dissing the bible.
you asked what was normal
Your parents showed you how to have a peaceful divorce, so I am absolutely sure that you know how to have a peaceful divorce.
normal for this profession sm
Typing in dark, just got up,but we have to have quiet and solitude to pay attention to what we're doing. I rented an office because my husband talks so much, never near my work but used to sit on the stairs and talk to me and kept interrupting. Even with an office I would get upset if someone walked in while I was working. It's part of the problem and I do like people but find them very irritating when I try to concentrate. Now I feel I am a "victim" of having no one to really "talk" to when I need to "talk" because I was so short with everyone. It's hard, I'm lonely too, that's why I come in here. SAD, people don't understand. It's a lonely profession. But then again, I hate "small talk" after all the true in-depth stories I heard from my work, all the rest seems boring and not important. So you have "company" after all!
You're not 'low-class', you're FUNNY, & a good writer!
Which is often the case then someone is the first to cast stones!
Not normal but happened in my family
My neice, then a high school senior, was told by her long-time boyfriend of about 3 years that he wanted to break up with her. She went nuts and even tried to commit suicide by swallowing a bunch of Tylenol. She was convinced they were going to be married in a year or two, have kids, and she would be a stay-at-home mom...had it all planned out. Apparently she shared those thoughts with him and that's what sent him packing.
It took her a LONG time to realize he wasn't coming back and I think she still has dependency issues (dependent on people I mean).
I don't agree with how she was raised though. She was put on birth control strictly for contraception at age 16 because her parents knew they were having sex and basically gave her the okay to do so, even in their house. She was treated like an adult, even though she was not, and not ready to act like one, and that really messed the poor kid up, probaby permanently.
Therapy is indeed a good place to start for your son's girlfriend.
Don't know, never lasted for me....am told that it's normal.
Unfortunately the sparks begin to fizzle and eventually burn out when it comes to that department for most couples and you have to really work at trying to spice things back up.
I have to say mine is pretty normal....
He will look at a gorgeous thin woman and it doesn't bother me in the least. I think I would be more concerned if he didn't. :)
definitely normal kid culture reaction
Remembering standing outside waiting at the Brooklyn Fox for the following groups at one time or another way back when:
Little Anthony and the Imperials
Martha and the Vandellas
The Shirelles
Otis Redding
Little Stevie Wonder (he was 13)
Smokey Robinson and the Miracles
The Ruffin Brothers (David and.....cannot remember the other one's name at the moment)
The Thymes (later on)
before the British Invasion music which them some of us started appreciating......and going ape waiting for the Beatles at 54th Street at the Warwick Hotel, 500-1000 young girls on the 4 corners of that intersection mobbing taxicabs....*LOL* - those were the days....
Not normal if something deadly that could happen-
you know he has sleep apnea and can be deadly and you call that normal? I probably would take him myself to the doctor but then I really am in love with my husband.
But you know how long a normal period
should last, so therefore you take matters into your own hands and be more assertive before you drop over.
Normal or not? Son saying he hates h is sister (sm)
He is 10, she is 3 years younger. She is usually nice to him and loves him. I could understand if he blurted out "I hate you" when they were arguing, but tonight I told him that she won't be home tomorrow afternoon and he and I could go see a movie or something together and he said "she won't be here - good - I hate her." And he said it so mean. I told him he is not allowed to talk about her like that, that she wouldn't talk that way about him and if she did, she would be in trouble. He said, "I don't know why, she's just so annoying and I hate her." I asked him what he thought "hate" meant and he said that it was wishing someone would just "poof, disappear." She tends to be more outgonig than him. She learned to waterski this weekend, while he refused to even try. So I don't know if he is just jealous or what, but it scares me that something so mean can come out of my own child's mouth.
Yep. Normal. Just take a deep breath and
They'll probably make peace in a few short years (when you're old and grey-headed and senile, lol)!
:)
Doesn't sound normal to me
If my kid said that, I'd tell him to forget the movie.
Why do so many parents tolerate hate and abuse among their own children? If the kid next door said that about your daughter, would you let it pass? And the fact that you asked him what it meant - as if a 10 yo wouldn't understand hate - and he told you he wants her to disappear, spells troubled kid to me. I'd take him to a therapist.
That is so normal, completely child like
saw post below where said would take to a therapist. That, my dear, is what is really wrong with most of these kids now. A therapist?? Not just mother speaking but grandmother as well and I have heard lots of kids say that to their siblings- mine for example and they love each other now since they're grown.
Sounds to crazy to be normal. sm
Thanks for the advice. I am trying to convince my macho husband to sit while peeing. Ha.
under normal circumstances, absolutely sm
not! The government has no business telling folks how to raise their kids, etc. etc. Government has too much control as it is.
ON THE OTHER HAND-I read where this 13-year-old boy cannot read! This all came out when they were saying he agreed with his mother and all this kind of stuff. If the boy can't read, what is this mother doing with this kid? Has he not been in school, etc. etc? I am wondering what else is really going on in that household.
Yes it is normal, your hormones are readjusting -sm
from being pregnant, your body is in overdrive to make milk, etc. I never really had any of those issues luckily as I could not breast-feed (body would just not make milk with either of my pregnancies) so I had to make formula every day, sterilize bottles, nipples, etc. Fun process to have to do every darn day. You may have returned to work too soon, give yourself a chance to be with the baby, the first six weeks is an adjustment on everyone's part. With my first child though my DH would take one night a week of feedings so I could have a night off, you need to make a similar arrangement, lack of sleep will definitely make you loopy. Many times he would come home from work and I would lay down on the couch with my daughter (when she was just a month or two old or so) and zonk out with her while he made dinner (he'd cook, I'd clean up). ---go talk to your doctor about your mood swings and find out if they are extreme enough for meds, while breast feeding you may not be able to take anything possibly or if they have any suggestions that may make your life easier that maybe you have not thought of. Find a healthy way to relieve some stress, whether it is going outside and screaming your lungs out (my favorite) or cleaning, do what makes you feel better and burns off some stress.
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