I understand !!! - From a Work at Home Mom
Posted By: Kay on 2007-07-09
In Reply to: DILEMMAS IN THE HOME - nana
WOW! 3 sets of twins....
My 2 are years apart, however my 4 years old is a handful let me tell you. Of course she is also the joy of my life. However, trying to work at home with her can be interesting at times. I get a kick out of people that say they want to "Work at home" to be "home with kids". LOL Little do they realize at times they will need to call in help or work when they are in school, or asleep or nap times. :-)
It can be hard to hear a Dr. Dictation with a 3 or 4 year old throwing a fit because they did not get their way or pulling on your arm because they want you to STOP NOW and play.
Of course family time and personal time is very important when working at home and we all need to remember that one. (smile)
I know my biggest dilemma in working at home was getting others to realize I really AM working at home and not just at home. I would get calls from friends, family, etc. wanting me to run to the store, get chores done, go to eat brunch, etc. When I would say that I had to get my work done they would be like - "well you can set your own time right, work anytime". Yes, you can set your own schedule most times, however like any job I had a deadline and that meant working when I could get the quiet time to do so. lol.
Once they saw it was a REAL job then they did start to respect it more. Yet, it did take me brining in my first few checks for them to realize it. Now, I let phone calls go to voice mail unless it is important when working and let others know when I am working so they try to not call during those times.
I think all women and men that start working at home go through something like this at first.
BTW - A friend told me about a great site that is having a Christmas in July Sale if you want to visit it: www.gift-outlet-shopping.com
I found some great deals there. ;-) God Bless.
Kay
proudmommymd@aol.com
Here is another site that I found useful in getting a work at home job before I became a Medical Transcriptionist. It is called Work @ Home Affiliation at: www.workathomeaffiliation.com
Hope they become useful to you, and no I do not get anything for recommending them. I am just another work at home mom that likes to recommend sites that I find useful just like my friend did when she sent me the Christmas in July Store link.
Have a great week!
Kay
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I know- why don't I work at home instead??
My priorities are in line. Money is not my priority right now, my children are. Nobody must love you, do they? poor thing! Wonder why?
Try this too....tell them you work at home if you do
It saved me 50% on my premium just for that! Some companies do not do this but others do. Maybe try finding an insurance agency close by where they can shop for the best rate.
I work from home sm
and even without distractions there are a few days when I can't concentrate at all. I contribute it to burn-out, luckily after a good work out, a short call to a dear friend, or a wonderful piece of chocolate cake I can motivate myself to get the work done.
Do you work at home?
Maybe he is afraid of interrupting your work.
I just got home from work and
checked the board to find all these kind responses. It means so much to me that we have this love of our pets and can share the sorrow of their loss.
Here is another picture of CJ and Sasha and me at one of our favorite parks:
If you work at home -- how come so much gas
If you work at home, maybe these
feelings have nothing to do with your husband and marriage, but everything to do with your job. Being at home so many hours, every day being mostly the same can really make a person feel nutty.
Just a thought. 
just because you work at home
None of my daughter's friend's mothers work. Since I work at home it looks to them like I don't work either. I have to schedule my kids things to do when I work, just like people who work outside the home. This whole lazy days of summer thing does not really apply to me and my bored kids can really come after me while I am on the computer all day.
DH and his little gnome just got home from work...
and I was informed, with a big grin, that paybacks are heck! 
Do you fix a schedule and work to it at home?
Do you fix a schedule and work to it at home?
If you are working from home like me, housework always seems to interrupt work. The doorbells, the children, the cups of tea etc etc.
I have tried working to a schedule but never managed to do so.
Kids at home while you work? How do you (sm)
make sure they know you are "at work" even though you are right there? I have worked at home in the past but had issues with this. Mine are old enough now to be home while I work (10 & 7), but I would love any ideas of how to make sure they respect my work hours. Any ideas?
Reminds me of the work at my home
I was on the back and asked person inside to catch the front door as I was busy. They had just started building home next door, had not even poured the foundation and was asking for some water. I said no, the store just up the street and being as husband was in the contracting business, I knew he usually took his help big water containers with them. In a short while at front of house, blinds drawn but noticed movement outside the window and they had the water on outside and stealing my water- I called the police. Really ticked me off.
I was driving home from work..sm
got the tail end of the report, mostly just that he'd been taken to the hospital, but the somber tone of voice made me realize pretty quickly that he had died. VERY sad day for me, I've always been a fan.
Went out at 4:00 a.m., home by 6:30 a.m., started work at 8:00 a.m. (nm)
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A home, so I can settle down and work.
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nothing! I work at home and have no one to impress!!!
I have this stupid acne probelm and have been trying to fix it with everything and just gave up!!! Sometimes I wear night cream and eye cream. I never had acne as a teenager and now in my mid 20s it is horrible!!! I CANT BELIEVE YOU CAN AFFORD SMASHBOX or SEPHORA!!! On my little MT salary I can afford Wet and Wild or maybe buy one get one free Cover Girl or Maybelline!!! LOL!!!
Staying at home and sleeping it in. Have to be at work at
4:30 a.m. on New Year's Day.
LOL! My husband came home from work and put that one on immediately! sm
I have to admit, I don't remember too many of these. But, to refresh your memory, let me tell you what's on this 2-disc set:
Three is a magic number.
Conjunction Junction
Lolly, Lolly, Lolly get your adverbs here!
Interjections!
Electricity! Electricity!
The Preamble
Interplanet Janet
A Noun is a person, place, or thing
The Shout heard round the world
There is 283 minutes of this stuff! I'm excited my kids are into this.
For a work-at-home MT? I'd say a couple of days max.
I've always been one to work when I'm sick. When you're working at home, you can take frequent breaks and lie down if you need to. I had a staph infection in my ankle, had to have it debrided, was in the hospital for a week and worked on my laptop from the hospital bed. Came home from the hospital, and didn't miss a beat. Of course, I was doing strictly QA then, so not a lot of pedal work, just list4ening to blanks and stuff.
With lap procedures, the point is less recovery time. Plus you consider the sedentary nature of our work, really there's no reason why we can't go right back to work. It's not like we're doing any heavy lifting.
The only thing that would require we take time off from work would be some sort of hand or arm ailment.
Husband for sale - harder to work with him home than the grandkids. (sm)
He is cleaning our furnace and muttering, muttering, hollering where is this, I bet I have got up and went in there 4 times this morning to just have him mutter never mind I found it.
You gotta love them, but he of all people should know my money comes from my butt being in that chair.
Help! Pushy parents think I work from home and can drive their kids etc
I am constantly being asked to watch people's kids because I work from home. The latest is a friend of my son attending the same camp in another town. The friend I will call Scotty. Scotty has two parents. His father works from home as a computer consultant. My friends and I have called Scotty's dad to work on our computers and he never even returns the call or shows up. Scotty's mom recently asked me if I could drive her son home from them because the dad gets busy and doesn't like to leave clients. I told her that I too am working from home and have to minimize my time in the car. Scotty does not live close to us. I feel like a big meanie but they have pushed me before. Last year our kids were not even in the same camp but the mom called and asked if I would drive and pick up her son every day because i live in the same town as the camp. I was like ??? no way.
They used to drop Scotty off at my house on school holidays. They would drop him off at 7 AM and then once the mom called me at 5 PM and said she wanted to get an oil change and asked me if I could keep scotty until 7:30 PM. I said NO and then she came to pick him up earlier but stayed at my house uninvited until 9:30 when I just said I HAVE TO GO TAKE A SHOWER.
Anyone have clever ways to handle these situations?
Work at home, homeschooling a Kindergartner mom is feeling today like sm
the old sayin' goes: Raisin' kids is like being pecked to death by chickens.
Just having one of those days. My 3 year old received a Diego toy that he loves! Unfortunately, his 5 year old brother loves it too! I am off today, thank God. Thinking of taking them to see Mr. Bean's Holiday...Oh the joys of homeschooling...
I LOVE it! On most days..
Glad you work at home and not subjecting people to have to pretend they like working with you.
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Rainy, cool, dark. Home working with plenty of work. Hubby and kids are sm
picking up toys, taking them to Goodwill. LOVE days like this.
Buy a home of my own - not a palace, but more of a smallish home on a large piece of land. (nm)
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Anyone move from a single family home to mobile home? sm
I own and live in a house in a midwest city in a bad neighborhood (wasn't that bad 11 years ago). I spent the day waiting for the plumber to come and jackhammer the foundation (slab house, no basement) to find a leaky pipe that is flooding my DD's bedroom. Last week, it was the electrician with quotes for costly repairs.
In the meantime, I've really been thinking about selling out and moving into a mobile home. Has anyone done this before? Is a mobile home in a decent park less of a hassle than a regular house? I'm so tired of cutting the grass and spending $$ to fix things and tired of old flooring and cabinets, etc., that are just too costly to replace. I'm single with no man to do these things for me and I can't afford a mortgage on a newer house in a good neighborhood. Some of the pictures I've seen of the mobile homes look really nice and modern on the inside.
Any advice and comments appreciated. Thanks!
Well I figure I can make my own hours & be home when the kids are home (sm)
I worked PT in an office for a while but spent most of my money on childcare in the summer. Full-time in an office was just a nightmare and I felt like I missed a whole year of my children's lives. I want to be in control of my schedule so that's why I'm looking into the cleaning thing. Never thought I would want to do that but live and learn! Some of the most intelligent people alive work as carpenters and similar things because they have learned what's really important in life. Whew....off my soapbox now :-) Good luck to you!
Daniel had a home, a very good home...
with someone in my family at one point.
She met her late husband at a club down the freeway from me. It's not a fancy place, like you say.
She does have a real brother though. That was the connection on our part.
I agree, though. It is sad that all this is coming out the way it is. I believe she was a good person...she just had a lot of problems, mainly drugs. What is really sad is that all of this is going to be seen by her daughter one day when she grows up.
Yes - does not work! Hoax if you ask me. MetaboLife doesn't work either.
The only thing that works for me is exercise and eating correctly! No quick fix, unfortunately.
Home Alone 1, A Christmas Story, Home for the Holidays, Chevy Chase's Christmas, sm
There "The Gift of the Magi," He sells his gold watch to buy her a comb for her hair and she sells her beautiful long hair to buy him a chain for his gold watch. It used to be on "Short Stories by O'Henry" but that's long gone, long ago. Good moral to the story. I can't stand "It's a Wonderful Life" -- too depressing, especially with banks closing, too intimidating right now!!!
Home sweet home.
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Home, Home, On The Range SM
where the beer and the cantaloupe play . . . where seldom is heard . . . .
What happens at home stays at home. (nm)
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She is home, by that I mean she is 1 mile from her home.
I am the one that moved away. My brother lives there, but she requires 24-hour nursing care right now, and he is unable to provide that for her. My son is graduating high school this year and I plan to move back to take care of her, but I just can't until then. I did tell the adminstrator that they have 24 hours to figure this out, and then we will bring in the police. I have also threatened to go to the media, and this facility has a very excellent reputation and is run by the Brethren Church, so I would think they might not want bad publicity. It is a pretty small town and this is one of only a couple of care homes in the area.
You dont work for them, you work for YOU. If you
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I TRIED to work, WANTED to work, but
So now I have to scramble for the rest of the week, trying to catch up on what I didn't do today. And of course, working today was in hopes of catching up on whatI didn't do last week. This job is a never-ending hamster-wheel of lunacy.
i understand
I have just become single again and have 2 kids. What I believe is that obviously we have spent so many years doing "kid stuff", going to the grocery, errands, etc. that we have a hard time hooking up with single guys because we lose sight of who we are beyond mom, household manager, etc. Try to remember or imagine what you would be doing if you didn't have kids and resosibilities or had time to do it. Whether it is rafting, reading and discussing things, being at a college class, hiking or some particular sport or interest(chess club, rock climbing, etc) you HAVE to make an effort to do these things, even if it constrained by time and $$hook up with a free group and devote a few hours a week to it. THEN eventually you'll be in the place to meet the person you would hang out with even if you weren't a mom.
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I understand....
I worked away from home until just recently. The pressures to "donate" are horrible. My friend and I finally decided that we would allocate "X" amount of dollars for giving, once gone, the well was dry. Saying "NO" is not easy, and the repayment of debt falls in your lap.
You are probably more talented than you realize. Be creative if you work from home. Work hours while the children are asleep, or see if you can work split shifts to accomodate your children's schedule.
If you are unable to pay back on the taxes you owe right away, just attach a signed letter with your tax papers requesting a payment plan. You can set it up to reflect a reasonable monthly payment, include the first payment, and the IRS will work with you.
If you are incurring (sp?) debt, make sure that it is for something useful that is going to last for a while.
I understand what you are saying, but
I don't have a husband or significant other either, and when I did I still took out the trash, mowed the lawn, and what is snuggling? When the lump on the sofa was asked to leave, the only thing I missed was having to tell him to move to the other side.
I understand what you are saying, but did --sm
you read my post at all? How can one make *good food choices* when the govt. makes that impossible to do? I eat all organic these days, when ever possible. I eat lean red meat once a week. I eat a lot of veggies and fruits and try to find something that does not have HFCS in it...which is terribly difficult to do. It is a losing battle when all the cards are stacked against you. My vice is not food or overeating. My vice is what the govt inflicts on unsuspecting and disbelieving people who think that obesity is a choice...it isn't. and neither is diabetes or hypothyroidism. Good food choices do NOT override this condition. This condition was inflicted on me by money grubbing *professionals* who have their heads where the sun don't shine. If you think todays doctors and pharmaceuticals have our best interests at heart, you are an ostrich. Research it and do not *assume* that being overweight is a choice. it isn't. and simply making *good food choices* is not going to change that fact. JMO
He may not really understand what an IC is--sm
and he is concerned about future income, but really all he needs to be concerned with would be your income tax statement from last year. Personally I don't think he should need that type of letter, just proof of income, which would be tax statement. that is all. JMO
don't understand
If you bought a certain piece of furniture why is bidding involved and why does it have to be done on courthouse steps in the public and all that? By all means, do what the law says -- sure sounds like they're on your side. But getting a news station involved isn't a bad idea either. These people sound like crooks and the public needs to know. Even just a friend with a video camera to send a film of it all into a station with the hopes of a reporter followup to keep others from being tricked too. And I sure think you should get something for mental pain and aggravation and loss of interest on your money. 
From what I understand
nobody was "demanding" anything, they were making do just fine with the sinks. This was done because people complained about the sinks being used for this purpose. I guess I just don't get what the big deal is.
People are so afraid that immigrants are going to somehow take over the country, its like this big "us versus them" mentality- its just silly. What, are you worried that they will do what WE did when we "discovered" America to begin with? You know, we are all immigrants here when you think about it.
I understand about all that too
but they found no reason for my miscarriage and knowing all that still didn't help the pain or grief of losing the babies after trying for so long, and everybody doesn't just get pregnant again right after. I didn't. I was just blessed that God gave them to me in a diffent way
I do not understand what you mean?
A bite itself itches, you can scratch an itch but you cannot itch an itch. I would think that is a backwoodsy type statement if you said it.
I just don't understand this
First, my husband would not dare do this to me or my kids. This man obviously has no respect for anybody. And that is what I would tell your daughter's friend's parents, along with if it keeps up you'll divorce him! And I'd tell him the same exact thing. But if mine did this just once, I can assure you it would not happen again, after I got through with him.
What most of you do not understand
being as you are young and are able to work from home, years ago, well gosh as early as the early 90s, if I wanted a job and I had to have to raise children (not a single mother, a divorced woman) we had to work outside the house, did not have a choice. I am so very glad my kids are not in the toddler, preteen or teen years. The ones I see now are awful. Just in one of those box stores last night and I heard screaming, could tell not just 1 but several kids and finally here comes the mothers pushing and pulling several different ages of children along and the mothers, I guess, thought it was really cute that their kids could scream and act out like they were doing, the mothers actually smiling. Thank goodness, no more rug rats to raise.
You still don't understand. (sm)
A narcicist is not capable of being a friend. Divorcing him will be an insult to him and he will want to prove it is all your fault. Therefore you need a good lawyer to see if he can build a case to show that he is so bad for you and your children than he does not deserve visitation. You are going to need evidence, I'm sure.
Don't trust your own judgement the next time you are considering marriage - get a psychiatrist to evaluate any future husband for your own protection. You and your kids have been through enough, and I've read a lot of cases of women marrying the same type over and over again.
I understand
You have to feel that you've done everything possible to make your marriage work, so that if and when you decide to separate, it will be with the knowledge that there really isn't any other alternative for you.
The fact that your husband got excited about having a second chance is a good sign. Just don't let him slip back into his old ways. If he makes one demeaning remark to you, stop him cold in his tracks and tell him, "No more if you want this marriage to continue."
Be firm, be steady, and good luck!
I understand
But look what happened during Prohibition. And look at the availability of illegal drugs. It's a nice thought, but I don't think it would work. 
I don't really understand.............
I just know nothing would keep my mom from her grandchildren, even if she stopped speaking to her children and their spouses completely.
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