I totally understand how you feel...sm
Posted By: blondie_1147 on 2008-11-10
In Reply to: Here. - truffle
I too felt that way until I came to know some pits. I realized they acted like any other dog. I won't lie. All pits can be dangerous because of their capabilities. But I know many owners who have never had problems with this breed including my dad and great grandfather. Mine is just a big hunk of love. Hes nothing like you would think when you think of a pitbull. He is so tenderhearted. To me, he is just CJ, my heart. I think you have a right to your feelings but I have a right to mine and I love this dog and in my heart I know he would not hurt me or my family. He has had so many opportunities to kill when attacked by smaller dogs and he never did. Many times he would just walk off and look pitiful.
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Totally understand that one!
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Well I totally understand, LOL.
Naps are good.
I think you totally understand
I think my fiance is very stressed out about how we are going to make it - he doesn't really have an income right now - he does have a 200 acre farm - has always bought and sold real estate and farmed but neither are going well now. He would like to start his own business but that is scary right now too - he doesn't want to go back to working in a factory but may end up having to do that - and I work for the Q - so not a ton of money there.. lol. . We are also thinking about building a house - lumber prices are low right now and we should be buying that and getting started but, again, he is scared of how we will pay for it. Personally, I don't care if we build a house or stay in my tiny old house. . . I think he gets so stressed out and upset with himself that he takes it out on me - and then I don't handle it well. . I am going to try to do better - my way of handling it is to go off by myself - which is good for me but he sees it as rejection of him or something. . anyway - thank you for your words of wisdom. .
I can totally understand this idea..sm
My husband and I do not sleep in the same bed. He is one of these people that does not require a lot of sleep. He is up and down all night. He watches TV, does the work that he brings home, eats, et cetera. When we used to be in the same room I was up all night with him...and I was not a happy camper!! We spend out evenings with the kids and then when they go off to bed we have our alone time for a couple of hours and then I am off to bed. Because of his job he has a lot of work to do at home, but since he is up at night he does it then and it doesnt interfere with out time as a family. The arrangement is not bad for the right reasons. I dont agree with separate bedrooms if there is no love left in the marriage and two people are only staying together for the kids. Totally different in my opinion.
I totally understand your frustration sm
but 900 parents in a timely fashion? I used to sub in a small elementary school (average #of students 200) and it was still a huge headache when there was a problem (schools closing early due to flooding). Most parents of course knew about the flooding because they lived in the area but it was still total chaos. In our area the TV runs a crawl across the bottom of the screen announcing when a school is closing early. I know that we as parents are not responsible for watching TV for "in case info", but I think in the case of a fire I am not sure I would want people staying in the building to look at paperwork.
I totally understand the statement
of she was a stay at home mom. This profession never started out to be a stay at home job, in fact after all my years which are almost 40 now, I have only worked from home now for the past 7 and not sent home because I wanted to, but because the hospital decided they could use the room where the MT people were. Many, many postings I have seen have to deal with the fact of taking the job in order to stay home with the kids, common theme here and if that is what women hoped for, then that is the way they are looked at. I know just taking the time to feed my cats with them meowing underneath, I would hate to think of having to feed and tend to small children, babies or the like. Something will suffer, the kids or the job? I really do not believe anyone who says they can work around babies, kids to do this job, not and make a decent living.
I totally agree...no one can understand this job but us MT Moms...
no breaks from anything...but I love working at home and wouldn't change it for the world...even if my kids do drive me crazy on a daily basis---LOL...part of the job...
I totally understand your point but people saying itch when they mean scratch
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Oh my gosh...I totally understand about the no common sense part...
like his brain stopped working when he hit 9 or something...I am constantly telling him "use your brain." But honestly, it is nice to hear other parents going through the same thing, because my husband and I thought maybe it was just our son---LOL...
I'm so sorry. I understand how you feel...I also
have suffered the devastation of miscarriage. I have a lot to say but would prefer a more private forum...so if you want please feel free to e-mail me. I would be happy to talk to you about how I got through such a dark time in my life. Maybe it would help....a little.
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{{{{{hugs}}}}}}
Really cannot understand why you feel like this
because all it means is you just don't make milk as you should. I had 2 children and never ever wanted to breast feed. I never thought I was no less a mother. A much better test of being a mother is how you raise a child more than can you breast feed 1. Just don't get these posts. Mothers all over the world have similar problems. I for 1 was never into reading cans in stores that I am not buying, be it formula or rubbing alcohol. I guess some people have more time on their hands than I do.
I can understand why you feel the way you do--sm
but not ALL women use this tactic as *flirting*. I used to use a *sob story* too, but it was not to seek potential partners, sympathy, yes, but not potential partners. I never thought of what I was doing as *flirting* or trying to make someone else feel that I was a *catch*. I never thought that way until my ex husband told me that is what it sounded like to him. That I was looking for someone else to *take me away from it all.* Trust me, when he brought that to my attention, I stopped doing it then and there. Perhaps this woman does not know that others see her sob stories this way. I surely didn't. You seem to have trust in your husband, but you obviously feel threatened by this woman, for some reason. Why don't you make an attempt to befriend this person. You may find a really good friend and maybe she needs that right now. I would suspect that all of these other men that are chasing her are out for her land, and not her, too. But that is just my jist of it.
This I can understand and I feel with you, but this is different.
I would also be scared to stay or move into a house in which somebody died, especially if one was not on good terms with the person.
Some say that the soul or ghost hides in the attic or basement, eeeewwwww!
Once we moved into a house where the owner had died, the agent showed us exactly the place and during the night there were strange cracking and knocking sounds in the attic, wow, really scary, we thought somebody was hiding there.....later we moved out.
BTW, I prefer apartments to houses, much safer.
I understand how you feel
I love my animals. They are part of my family, probably would look for the doggie until I could no longer. People sometimes dognap, could that possibly have happened you think? Two huskies came to my home and I took off from work that afternoon to find their parents. They were well taken care of, no tags but looked like they had a home somewhere. You do know why your stepmom said that about the doggie, right? My father's older dog woke him 1 morning, wanting to go outside, did and ran away never to be seen again and this was a dog who always stayed close to the home, never going off. You know about cleaning up and getting rid of, there is hope and I would be hanging on for dear life. My dear girlcat died over a year ago. I still have her tags, some medicine she had, just me, reminders of my lovie.
Totally sucks, I really feel bad for them - sm
and have been upset by this all day for some reason, probably because my family went thru something very similar, my 18-m/o nephew died, aphixiated somehow at day-care....charges were never brought again the babysitter. He was brain dead by the time they resuscitated him. We pulled the plug on him the following day. This just brings it all back and makes me feel horribly sad for them.
I understand how you feel. My dad and exhusband
were/are like that. I am in my late 40s and I have been catching myself doing the same thing as they. So for a small amount of money, like 1 dollar, I got this band bracelet from A Complaint Free World website. I realized that I was crabbing all the time and being negative because I was getting like my dad and my ex. So, I tried to improve myself. Everytime I complained or said something negative I had to switch the bracelet to the other hand. I was supposed to say nothing if I could not say something nice. It took a while but I have been 30 days complaint free, and reading this book "Change Your thoughts Change your life. It is about the Tao and today's interpretation. Maybe to set an example for your DH, you can send away for the bracelet (you get 2 in a pack) and challenge him you can both go without complaining. Also you can get the book at the library and read 2 passages a day. In 6 months this has really helped me stop complaining. Maybe your husband grew up with someone negative and as he grows older has the same thing going on in his brain. Now this will bother you and rub off on you and make you unhappy. So, instead of telling him what to do or trying to fix yourself because you think you are going crazy, why not try to work on it together. I guess 2 things I learned: 1, don't blame yourself for anyone's negativity yet don't absorb it either. and 2. Always try to separate the person from their problem. See them without it, and forgive them for the problem. Of course, this is while they fix the problem. If they don't fix it you have to get away from it. I always suggest that if you love your DH that you try the bracelet and book or some form of project together for thinking positive. Good luck to you!
Thanks for the info! Ever feel like you just totally missed something? LOL
That's so funny to me that I am from Florida, have been to the Keys and never knew that! I thought they were from other exotic areas and that they had to be shipped to the US and bought from pet stores. Had no idea! That is too funny!
yes, i have to say it did, but my kids were ready too, so i do understand how u feel
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I understand your frustration-I also feel sorry for the little girl (sm)
This should be a sign that she is not being taken good care of. However, unless they are being really abused I think kids are always better off with their real parents. It's just so sad. I had them as a child...my mother tried to get rid of them but if your house is a big mess like ours was, it is hard to get rid of them all for good. I wore a coat with a hood on all day every day to school because I was so ashamed. I don't know the answer, I feel for you and for the poor child.
I completely understand. I dont feel stressed but there must be something bothering us I think.
I guess we always dont exactly know what stresses us because it could be just a lot of things together that arent really terrible but just little stressors of every day life.
I have relatives in fairly rural Maine who never lock, and I feel totally safe there. nm
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Amen Sister! She is totally unrealistic! Totally. Loved your post! sm
My grandparents (from VT), will tell you that my grandfather began farming at 6-7 under the supervision of his 10 year old brother. haha No major incidents - his mother tended the home and ran a nursery and she did have the siblings watch over each other. I didn't even think about all of this until you mentioned the farming post. I loved it!
I, for one, need plenty of sleep - so I must work during the day while they are here...Oops, I gottah go! My 2 year old just fell off the kitchen table.
just kidding
Totally, totally agree.
You feel inadequate and no matter what you do - you feel like it is not enough - and that is depression. Get on some medication, or get some therapy and start taking time for yourself and enjoy life. Been there and done that myself - STOP FEELING GUILTY - you deserve better!!
Totally against the war
said it right from the start, told my husband the war was of no use, more and more that is being proven true, hate that young guys are being killed there day after day, the middle east never had as many bombings as they do on a day to day basis now, blood being shed all over the place, the house not wanting to give more money for a no win war, I lived through Viet Nam, no difference here, just different land. Mark my word, different president, the war will be a thing of the past and yet all these fine lives lost.
I am totally
terrified of the draft. I posted earlier about my son wanting to go to Africa next summer and me not really wanting to let him go. I guess you know what my answer would be to the above question so I guess I shouldn't say anything at all.
I was totally going to say
me too!
Oh, but what I've gained ...
(I'll think of something).
Totally think it is really none of your
business that they are working. You don't have any authority and your supervisor is the one to tell them NOT to work. If they have been told not to work and they are, that is between them and the employer.
totally.
My imagination is way too fertile. When someone tells me they are "trying to get pregnant" or they remember the moment their kids were conceived, it's exactly like showing me photos of the deed. Photos I'd way rather not see. ick.
I totally get what you are saying sm
and feel 100% the same way. If I had the means financially, I would help whomever and whenever, my hubby feels the same. However, to not respond to someone who is reaching out to you, I feel, is unforgivable. I would also like to say, give it some more time - you don't know what the situation is and I feel someone who has as big a heart as you obviously have, should hold it open just a little longer.
i understand
I have just become single again and have 2 kids. What I believe is that obviously we have spent so many years doing "kid stuff", going to the grocery, errands, etc. that we have a hard time hooking up with single guys because we lose sight of who we are beyond mom, household manager, etc. Try to remember or imagine what you would be doing if you didn't have kids and resosibilities or had time to do it. Whether it is rafting, reading and discussing things, being at a college class, hiking or some particular sport or interest(chess club, rock climbing, etc) you HAVE to make an effort to do these things, even if it constrained by time and $$hook up with a free group and devote a few hours a week to it. THEN eventually you'll be in the place to meet the person you would hang out with even if you weren't a mom.
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I understand....
I worked away from home until just recently. The pressures to "donate" are horrible. My friend and I finally decided that we would allocate "X" amount of dollars for giving, once gone, the well was dry. Saying "NO" is not easy, and the repayment of debt falls in your lap.
You are probably more talented than you realize. Be creative if you work from home. Work hours while the children are asleep, or see if you can work split shifts to accomodate your children's schedule.
If you are unable to pay back on the taxes you owe right away, just attach a signed letter with your tax papers requesting a payment plan. You can set it up to reflect a reasonable monthly payment, include the first payment, and the IRS will work with you.
If you are incurring (sp?) debt, make sure that it is for something useful that is going to last for a while.
I understand what you are saying, but
I don't have a husband or significant other either, and when I did I still took out the trash, mowed the lawn, and what is snuggling? When the lump on the sofa was asked to leave, the only thing I missed was having to tell him to move to the other side.
I understand what you are saying, but did --sm
you read my post at all? How can one make *good food choices* when the govt. makes that impossible to do? I eat all organic these days, when ever possible. I eat lean red meat once a week. I eat a lot of veggies and fruits and try to find something that does not have HFCS in it...which is terribly difficult to do. It is a losing battle when all the cards are stacked against you. My vice is not food or overeating. My vice is what the govt inflicts on unsuspecting and disbelieving people who think that obesity is a choice...it isn't. and neither is diabetes or hypothyroidism. Good food choices do NOT override this condition. This condition was inflicted on me by money grubbing *professionals* who have their heads where the sun don't shine. If you think todays doctors and pharmaceuticals have our best interests at heart, you are an ostrich. Research it and do not *assume* that being overweight is a choice. it isn't. and simply making *good food choices* is not going to change that fact. JMO
He may not really understand what an IC is--sm
and he is concerned about future income, but really all he needs to be concerned with would be your income tax statement from last year. Personally I don't think he should need that type of letter, just proof of income, which would be tax statement. that is all. JMO
don't understand
If you bought a certain piece of furniture why is bidding involved and why does it have to be done on courthouse steps in the public and all that? By all means, do what the law says -- sure sounds like they're on your side. But getting a news station involved isn't a bad idea either. These people sound like crooks and the public needs to know. Even just a friend with a video camera to send a film of it all into a station with the hopes of a reporter followup to keep others from being tricked too. And I sure think you should get something for mental pain and aggravation and loss of interest on your money. 
From what I understand
nobody was "demanding" anything, they were making do just fine with the sinks. This was done because people complained about the sinks being used for this purpose. I guess I just don't get what the big deal is.
People are so afraid that immigrants are going to somehow take over the country, its like this big "us versus them" mentality- its just silly. What, are you worried that they will do what WE did when we "discovered" America to begin with? You know, we are all immigrants here when you think about it.
I understand about all that too
but they found no reason for my miscarriage and knowing all that still didn't help the pain or grief of losing the babies after trying for so long, and everybody doesn't just get pregnant again right after. I didn't. I was just blessed that God gave them to me in a diffent way
I do not understand what you mean?
A bite itself itches, you can scratch an itch but you cannot itch an itch. I would think that is a backwoodsy type statement if you said it.
I just don't understand this
First, my husband would not dare do this to me or my kids. This man obviously has no respect for anybody. And that is what I would tell your daughter's friend's parents, along with if it keeps up you'll divorce him! And I'd tell him the same exact thing. But if mine did this just once, I can assure you it would not happen again, after I got through with him.
What most of you do not understand
being as you are young and are able to work from home, years ago, well gosh as early as the early 90s, if I wanted a job and I had to have to raise children (not a single mother, a divorced woman) we had to work outside the house, did not have a choice. I am so very glad my kids are not in the toddler, preteen or teen years. The ones I see now are awful. Just in one of those box stores last night and I heard screaming, could tell not just 1 but several kids and finally here comes the mothers pushing and pulling several different ages of children along and the mothers, I guess, thought it was really cute that their kids could scream and act out like they were doing, the mothers actually smiling. Thank goodness, no more rug rats to raise.
You still don't understand. (sm)
A narcicist is not capable of being a friend. Divorcing him will be an insult to him and he will want to prove it is all your fault. Therefore you need a good lawyer to see if he can build a case to show that he is so bad for you and your children than he does not deserve visitation. You are going to need evidence, I'm sure.
Don't trust your own judgement the next time you are considering marriage - get a psychiatrist to evaluate any future husband for your own protection. You and your kids have been through enough, and I've read a lot of cases of women marrying the same type over and over again.
I understand
You have to feel that you've done everything possible to make your marriage work, so that if and when you decide to separate, it will be with the knowledge that there really isn't any other alternative for you.
The fact that your husband got excited about having a second chance is a good sign. Just don't let him slip back into his old ways. If he makes one demeaning remark to you, stop him cold in his tracks and tell him, "No more if you want this marriage to continue."
Be firm, be steady, and good luck!
I understand
But look what happened during Prohibition. And look at the availability of illegal drugs. It's a nice thought, but I don't think it would work. 
I don't really understand.............
I just know nothing would keep my mom from her grandchildren, even if she stopped speaking to her children and their spouses completely.
I think that is how I understand it, but
if someone else has them,(and how did they get them?) he (OJ) cannot just break-in to that person's room and take those items back. He should have notified the cops that this person had items belonging to him, stating the situation and go from there. I guess he thinks he is above the law after getting away with MURDER.
I'm not sure I understand what you
mean by associated, but it sounds like you did not pull the file from the disk into the transcription module. I did take a look under settings and then the files tab, where it shows the types of files ExpressScribe plays and where you check the box/es of the file types you will be transcribing. I did not see the one that you mentioned there, but just wanted to suggest that you could try converting the file using a program like GoldWave (free download) to something that is compatible. I usually convert to .wma files, which have always played fine on either of my modules (Olympus and ES).
Hope that helps, and good luck!
I understand....
I'm not telling everybody to not get it, just making sure they know all the side effects. I just tend to be overly cautious! :)
Hey, now I understand about no
respect by what you just wrote. You answered my question completely.
As I understand this...sm
these crosses were erected on PUBLIC land, not privately owned land. I can sure understand you being against roadside memorials though, in your situation, but this one is different, as it is public land and not hurting anybody..however, if it is violating some sort of state or city law, the laws should be adhered to, in my opinion.
I don't understand. Do you want to
leave him or stay with him. Sounds like you are miserable there. Maybe he was thinking the same thing and just afraid to be the first one to bring it up. If you are going to stay with him, then things have to change on BOTH sides.
I so understand, there too
 It is good to hear someone with the same problem as me. My daughter died 12 years ago and sometimes it just hits me real bad, a sound, a memory, a smell, and it all comes rushing back. No one can understand unless they too have lost a child. I feel for you. This time of year is always so hard.
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