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Posted By: Just Me on 2009-05-28
In Reply to: extended family, boundaries, and etiquette...sm - flybye
flybye and fingers. Parents can sometimes be so presumptuous and tactless. Yes, to the poster below...of course they will be dead one day, but give me a break...they shouldn't have any boundaries at all? They should just feel as if they have the right to crowd into an already crowded hotel room and just chip in 100 bucks and call it good? That is overstepping boundaries if I've ever heard it, parents or otherwise. Everyone will be dead and gone one day. That certainly doesn't mean that we all shouldn't be held to normal etiquette standards while we are here.
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Totally, totally agree.
You feel inadequate and no matter what you do - you feel like it is not enough - and that is depression. Get on some medication, or get some therapy and start taking time for yourself and enjoy life. Been there and done that myself - STOP FEELING GUILTY - you deserve better!!
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Totally agree with you!
Santa Claus was a wonderful time for me and my children. I did not suffer any ill effects from knowing the truth. This is a magical time for children. They believe in goblins, ghosts, the Easter Bunny, play friends that only they can see and talk with, fairies among lots of others. Why in the world would anyone want to deny a child the pleasure of thinking they are that important that this man in the red suit is coming especially to give them presents. It really made me feel special but I guess other parents want to cut some of the fun time from the child's life.How sad....
I totally agree with you, well said.
I find that others think since I work at home, they can interrupt me any time they want, I am expected to cover things while they are at work, etc. I want to be left alone during my work hours to do my work. I have worked in offices where you were not allowed to have personal calls during work hours, which is fairly common. I think I am going to disconnect my phone during my work hours. Sometimes I feel by working at home I don't get the same respect for my job than others in my home that work outside the home.
Oh, I totally agree with you there...sm
these are the kids my daughter deals with every day, but she understands at their age, they didn't ask for their circumstances. No child at age 8 or 9 should know anything about sex, using the B word, MF word, and other stuff. They can't write a sentence but they can tell her how to get more food stamps, how their older sister had another baby so she could get more money in her check....the stories go on and on. But the point we started out with was GI upset...they can't help being made take meds that make them physically sick.
I totally agree with you...
Just a curious question. We are only as young (or old) as we feel, right! I am 37 and feel (most days) much, much younger...like I said before, it is a relative question...thanks for your reply! 
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I totally agree (sm),
in fact, I should have eloped since I had recently moved and hadn't accumulated many new friends yet. The reception was really lame with the weird mix of people, some of whom I couldn't stand, but mom assured me they wouldn't come, and we were just doing the right thing.
Put on a syrupy sweet voice and tell your mother it is tempting to make this a social event for us, but this is really THEIR event. Let's do it their way since it only happens once. Let's not ruin their big day by arguing about it.
I totally agree and nothing to look at either
I can't believe all these people think he's so great. Yuck.
I totally agree-
it does make the award seem insignificant. They say they don't want any kids to feel 'left out.' Isn't that one of the main motivators to work harder? What about the child who truly earned the award? How does that child feel when the same award is given out indiscriminately so as not to hurt anyone's self esteem?
IMO self esteem comes from doing your best and feeling pride in yourself because of it- and if you are doing your best and improving you will not need some phony award to feel good about yourself, because you already will.
When these kids grow up they are going to be in the real world where they will be expected to perform to certain standards because that is what is expected from everyone. It seems like it is getting harder to find people who find satisfaction in doing a good job just for the sake of doing it. I wonder if there is any correlation here.
Totally agree-
I don't know why the parents would not have told their kids by now, but it is for them to do. It would be even more traumatic for the kids to hear it from someone else.
I was adopted and thank God I always knew I was. When I was too young to really understand they simply told me that I was special because they chose me. For years I pictured this baby store and my parents walking up and down the aisles shopping, LOL.
I totally agree with you!
I have grown sons, 26 and 18. I would never snoop in their e-mail. We have a great relationship and I do trust them. I am not saying that I have not or would not read their e-mail, but if I did, it was because I was looking at something on their computer which they would be aware of (or at least not care) and if an e-mail looked interesting I would read it and tell them. I think they would do the same with me and I also would not care. I think if you have a good relationship with your kids, that you know them pretty well and would know if you should worry or not. I truly believe that most parents, if they would just open their eyes, already know when there are problems. I get angry when I hear of someone who says "I had no clue" because I think that they do and just do not want to believe it. I think you are doing the right thing by trusting your kids. Keep it up!
Totally agree
I first noticed him on "Roseanne" and thought he was strange-looking and not at all attractive. My opinion hasn't changed over the years.
Don't like Brad Pitt, either. I don't go for the "pretty boys." Give me some depth of character. Looks are definitely secondary.
Totally agree
This week in fact I was feeling down in the dumps, did some praying and went out to do something nice for someone else, it made a big difference!! Thanks for the post.
I totally agree!
There are way too many gray areas on this. I absolutely detest child molesters and would never want one knowingly around my children. But the 18yo with a 15yo is completely different and should not be lumped into the same group and treated the same way.
I once worked in the children's services field and talked extensively with a professional who worked with sex offenders, and he told me that pedophiles can never be rehabilitated, and that they will always repeat the offense. There's a good case for locking them up for good, don't you think?
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Totally agree
Yeah, that comment was not the smartest thing to say. Now she will probably fear the police for no good reason. Not a good move.
totally agree
Boy I couldn't have said it better myself. Good job. This is exactly what you need to do mom. It's hard to hear but this is the way to do it and then get counseling for yourself to help you deal with your feelings. Christian counseling if possible. Take care and God bless!
I totally agree
I would have definitely been at the school in person or at the superintendent's office, wherever that may be. E-mails can be ignored, forgotten about, and sometimes never even read. A much more proactive approach would be an in person meeting with the school administration to get this taken care of so that nothing like it happens again.
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Good luck with your situation too. Kids can't pick their parents and every kid deserves to be loved.
I agree with you totally
It is not fair to the little girl to not go to school, but it sounds like the mother is lazy or beyond. It is always going to be unfair to children who have lazy or ignorant parents, but all others should not have to pay for it. I feel sorry for the little girl because she obviously has no one to love her enough to take care of her. So sad. I don't blame you for going to the School Board. I would be right there with you.
I totally agree!
I could never even begin to imagine leaving any of my pets locked up in a garage all day and night. That is not a good life for any animal, nor is it at all fair. It's kind of like they are in jail. I always have all of my pets with me at all times IN the house and would never have it any other way!
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Monte Carlo. I have been to vegas many times and it is my favorite place to stay, love the convenience, love the price! Have fun!
totally agree
No one is happy when a loved one dies - but mostly we are sad for ourselves because we don't have the joy of having them with us any more. . . If they are elderly and lived a good life, it is good to celebrate all the wonderful aspects of their life - and be happy they are in a better place. . Of course, this is very difficult to do - we want to keep them with us. . Everybody does grieve differently - just be a good friend and just physically be there for the family - it means a lot. .
I agree totally
I am so glad other people see this. Dumbing us down is the perfect way to describe what the media on TV is doing to us. I used to tell my mom about things in the news and she would tell me I didn't know what I was talking about, she didn't hear that on "the news", and I'm totally whacked for believing anything on the internet. Then a couple weeks later something would come out on the news and I would say to her - Now do you believe me. She would then act as though our previous conversation didn't happen.
I totally agree.
at this point. I would also like to see a Christian with a more American name; sorry Obama, but sounds too much like Osama.....
I totally agree!
I just got a catalog in the mail from some clothing line I've never heard of. While I thought some of the clothes were cute when I looked at the models I was like okay well obviously these clothes aren't designed for a 30+-year-old! I mean honestly talk to me after you hit 25 and your metabolism changes THEN try to tell me someone my age will look good in that underwear :)
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Oh I totally agree. I think the laws that they are breaking are deplorable. Personally, I think people that abuse children, as they certainly have done by forcing minors to marry adults, should get a direct ticket to you know where. I was just trying to point out the ignorance of the statements the woman made in this article. It is so obvious she's been, well brainwashed isn't the right word, but you know what I mean. Heck there is one spot in the Bible where one of the disciples says women should not be heard in church for crying out loud!
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Totally agree!
Michigan is in the pits of a recession....highest foreclosure rate, highest unemployment rate, people are moving out of the state left and right....very scary times here!
I totally agree
This reminds me of my MIL, and how she was too. She felt she could do what she wanted because she was the children's grandmother. This is a good time to establish a few ground rules where your child is concerned, while trying not to hurt her feelings, but she should know that she has to ask you about anything that concerns activities with your children. Children depend on us for their safety, and you can't replace your child if anything happens, so you have every right to say no I don't want my child doing that. I don't mean to pry, but what does the child's father think about her doing this? If she had really thought about this she should have realized this idea about taking a 9 month old baby on a 4-wheeler is totally wrong.
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I thought of all this when I was younger & decided that for me there was a certain attraction to "having a baby" - i.e., going through the birth process -- but none whatsoever to "being a parent." So I decided not to have kids & stuck to it. I've never regretted that decision. The experience of mothering can come in forms other than the obvious.
oh i totally agree
I didn't post it cause i hate men, in fact it's quite the opposite (unfortunately) I just like to get a good laugh.
there are bad men just as there are bad women. Anything that puts either side down that is made a joke though is most of the time funny to me. :)
good for you having such a fabulous man... I know my prince charming will come :)
oh i totally agree
I didn't post it cause i hate men, in fact it's quite the opposite (unfortunately) I just like to get a good laugh.
there are bad men just as there are bad women. Anything that puts either side down that is made a joke though is most of the time funny to me. :)
good for you having such a fabulous man... I know my prince charming will come :)
I totally agree about...
having a secure job. However, my husband and I were not planning on moving until June and this job came up and I wanted to apply for it. We would be moving 4 months before we were planning to and I do have some time to look for more work. It would be very hard to pass up though. I'm torn. Its a very hard decision.
totally agree
I add to this (everyone else may not) that it is easier to give a harsh reply from the privacy and anonymity of one's computer. And occasionally the normal e-confusion of things that come out differently (worse) in print than they would have if spoken.
I totally agree
All I know is I couldn't handle being in another land, speaking another language and being a doctor at that. Heck, I couldn't even be an MT without it being in English. Wow, I admire that courage. I don't know what working that hard for something is like. We have it so easy and we don't even appreciate it.
I totally agree.
Your personal health care is your responsibility. If she couldn't understand her doctors, she should have switched doctors or taken someone with her (4 ears are better than 2). You certainly don't want any misunderstandings or misinterpret anything your doctor tells you.
I, too, wish your friend well.
Totally agree
I would go because if not it sounds like there is something else for them to yell about. You were generous enough to give those plots to him. If he is not happy with it (Iam assuming because he wants to be buried next to her) then he can move her somewhere else and give you the deeds back. You offered to move your mom before but he didn't accept, his loss. Your mom has rested this for how long now just let her be. What is with people today!!
Agree totally. That is what I have done
with my daughter, age 20.
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I do like Adam slightly better than Allison at this point. Something about him just touches my soul.
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In another place and time she may be able to get away with this, but COME ON! How about being an example of how of how to buy and outfit at Wal-Mart and still look good. There would be a lot of followers for that, but $500 for ugly sneakers? Let's use some common sense Michelle.
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totally agree with you.
I am sure this is the answer too. I come from a very dysfunctional family with Mom and Dad divorced when I was young. My father was very bitter towards my mother and made it well known even to us kids. So instead of Dad in household, I was raised by a series of step-fathers, none of whom was a good example of Dad material. My parents were both absent emotionally from the picture and Dad of course physically was absent. It is hard enough being a teenager with all the peer pressure, but coming from a home settinig like this, well it was a challenge. Still though I pretty much avoided boys all through high school, rather interestingly enough. I had some strong views about men and did not want one for a husband. So that is how I avoided dating until 17. Lo and behold, when I came out of my shell, one of the first boys I dated practically raped me on our second date. He did not succeed. Now this part is funny -- I got one of my mother's girdles next time plus 3 pairs of panties plus panty hose and 2 pairs of slacks. I was pretty clever as a young girl. Anyway no problem as he never asked to take me out again. But the kicker was he lied and told all his buddies that he had sex with me. What a jerk, huh???? SOMETIMES YOU JUST CANNOT WIN, NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO.
But getting back to Father and daughter relationship, I agree 100% that makes all the difference in the world. I am sure things would have been different for me if my Dad had not left our home.
I totally agree with you that going to
expensive restaurants is a waste of money. But order in food and going out once a week to reasonably priced restaurants is justified if the spouses both work and both do not like to cook.
It is not all about the food only, it is about making oneself pretty, time spent together, outside the house, an opportunity to communicate and talk, also for the mother who has not to run around between kitchen, pots and pans ancd dishes.
I totally agree and think that is why many kids
are the way they are today. I think since now most moms have to work outside of the home (not us of course!) they are so guilt-ridden from leaving them at daycares, etc. all day that they don't dare discipline them at all and act almost as if they are worshipped. I am also getting sick of people bringing their infant children and all the rest of them out to fancy restaurants for late evening dinners and thinking it's just adorable when a kid starts screaming or having a tantrum because he wants ice cream and not a gourmet meal. In the good old days there were things called non-working moms, babysitters and spankings! And the kids didn't have half the problems they have today. I don't remember ONE kid that appeared to have ADD or ADHD when I was in school. And I don't remember everyone wanting so much to be famous and a millionaire and have perfect Hollywood looks. We were all pretty much the same, normal! It is very sad what is happening to this world and the upcoming generations.
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