I told my kids the same thing
Posted By: Backwards typist on 2009-03-24
In Reply to: Would you ever kick your kids out of your home? - ArlingtonMT
One left at 18 because I charged him $10 a week to stay here. I figured they had to learn life wasn't a free ride. I had taught them how to cook, do laundry, etc. The other left at 25 after spending 4 years in the military. Both came back for a while after that at 20 and 27, but if they balked at paying any "boarding fees" told them if they didn't like the rules "there was the door". They did leave after they got their feet on the ground and had decent jobs. Never felt guilty about it.
If it was today, I'd let them stay here forever if they had to, but one is doing okay. The eldest has been laid off since last May and going through bankruptcy and divorce, but hasn't asked to move back home yet. He could if he would ask, but I doubt he will after living on his own for over 10 years.
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I have told him every thing I can tell him...sm
I have told him this is BS. I have said get out and never come back ever. I have neglected his phone calls. I have had my house phone turned off. Just use my cell now which he does not have #. I don't answer the door when he comes. I have done everything I know to do. You can go off on him and it doesn't matter the next day he is knocking on your door to which I do not answer unless it is to go off. He is on his land so I can't call cops unless he actually does something. All I can do is move. It is the only alternative. Believe me I have a backbone and have told him off. It does not work. I came on here for a venting source. Actually I was wanting reassurance that by not associating with him anymore, i.e. not answering phone calls, turning phone off, not giving him my cell #, Not answering door that I am not wrong for doing this as a daughter. I take it since you no longer associate with your dad that you dont't think I am wrong either.
I was told the same thing...was it a TransHealth SM
QA person who told you this? I've been doing it since she dinged me on it, but I never used to include "include" in the past. I no longer work there, but it just sort of stuck with me.
Chickadee
LOL - my mother told me the same thing!
I'm almost afraid to go see a doc now. 
First thing my husband asked when I told him was...sm
Did she get married before it happened?
That is either the sweetest or saddest thing I have ever heard.
It's true. My kids' dentist told me this yeas ago. sm
If the enamel is brushed away, it exposes the tooth first and they the root is invaded by the decay.
Gums should also be brushed as well as the tongue.
Used to do the seatbelt thing, too, till 4 yr old granddaughter told me "Nana, we don't take o
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I think you are doing the best thing for your kids
My youngest is now 21, but I was much the same kind of mother you are. I hated video games from the first time they came out and my boys NEVER had any of them. We played lots of board games, they had a few little computer games, but none of the Nintendos or any of that stuff. They built stuff with Legos, played with each other, played outside in the yard and probably their favorite things were large cardboard boxes and their imaginations.
My kids have grown up to be happy, healthy and well-adjusted, much more so than their couch-potato, gamer peers.
So hang in there!
My family (no kids) all voted to skip the gift-thing - sm
from now on. Most of us have tiny places where we can't squeeze one more object in without something else having to be thrown out. Most of us are on tight budgets (especially me!), and it gets harder every year to find a gift that is even worth mailing. So, without all the money-angst, and the horror of having to set foot in a Wal-Mart or Target during the Holidays or endure the the long lines at the Post Office, this year I'm actually looking forward to the Holidays for the first time in decades, instead of DREADING them. It can be a time of friendship & relaxation and enjoying the season, and not of shopping, credit card debt, and coming down with the flu.
It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
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Happiness is a heart thing; pleasure is a head thing.nm
Nope, no kids with him, all of our kids are 20 and over.
I would think that some of the $12,000 A YEAR he paid in support for over 9 years should have been enough to save some for college. He paid his dues so to speak, always paid the support on time, had insurance for them, etc. He told them straight up to pay for their own college. Is there something wrong with that?
Dh just told me a something
before it got back home. He took my oldest daughter to an out of town football game. Me and the baby stayed home as it is really too cold for her to be out. Well, he told me that this gal (recently divorced and hot to trot) came and sat by him and they were enjoying the game together.  He said people were staring. All I said was "okay." Okay, I need to keep my head. I should just trust Dh but we are having marital problems and the subject of divorce has come up but I thought we were going to put it behind us and work it out. Help me not blow up and blow it out of proportion. I can sometimes loose my head.
That's what they were told - sm
That the repair would be so obvious, it would be like night and day. I don't know, I guess if it were me, I would definitely want to know just exactly how much my premium would be going up before I made a decision. They do have the option of just havig their LR done for 200-300 dollars though, versus having the entire carpeting replaced and paying a higher premium. So, in reality, they will be paying for the carpeting anyway, like a poster above said.
He just told her (sm)
that he was about to compliment her, and that she could ditch the surprised act and just say thank you. He said something like that a couple of times, in other words to not act so surprised she's getting a compliment and like, really? really? me? and just say thank you, and that's what she did.
She really sang great last night, like she does just about every time.
Boy was I just told - NOT - sm
I just got a call from the mother of this girl who comes over now and then telling me that I am a horrible hostest and how dare I make her daughter feel uncomfortable.
OH PUH-LEEEEEEZ!
I'm laughing, hoping this means we won't see this brat OR her nasty witch of a mother darken our doorstep again.
So this is what happened. The girl comes over to "hang out". I was up from my desk moving a load of laundry from washer to dryer and when I walked back into my office, there she is, typing away on MSN messenger talking to friends.
It is a well known rule in this house by EVERYONE, including the kids that come over, that they do NOT even look in the direction of my computer because it is a company computer and my income depends on it. There are TWO other computers that are for family use. STAY OUT! Clear enough? Apparently not to this little brat.
I came back into my office and told her she needed to get away from my desk, telling her for the millionth time that it is my work desk only. I was nice at this point but not happy.
She then tells me "Just a second, I'm talking." That's when I blew a gasket!
I said, "Get out. Go home. Now." Very firm but not yelling and screaming like I would have loved to do. She turns around and makes this face at me, then pushes my chair back really hard as she is getting up and it bounces off my bookshelf, giving it a good rattle. So as she was walking out the door I simply told her, do not come back. You are not welcome.
Then her witchy mother called. I couldn't care less what the hag was yelling about so I just interrupted her and said, "HEY! She's 15. She should know better than to act like that in someone's home and if YOU don't teach her that BEFORE she does that somewhere else, this will NOT be the last time she gets the boot!" And hung up on her.
My kids were hiding in the hall giggling as all this took place. They never had the guts to tell her to get lost.
Before anyone tries putting a guilt trip on me... this kid is FAR from neglected, comes from a nice home, parents are well off, just SPOILED beyond belief and she believes that everyone should jump when she says jump. I AM NOT PLAYING ALONG!
I told her she should have said
They wouldn't like you either!
What nerve, what stupidity on his part, what ignorance. I am going to address how I feel about cats personally in a separate post and comment on some of the responses I have received. I am very appreciative of the responses and the dialogue back and forth. It is in some way healing, at least to me, and I hope to others.
tell her exactly what you told us
and she needs to be aware of the STDs out there..They think it will never happen to them, but it can...that is why talking with a GYN or nurse practitioner would be a good thing to give her pamphlets and brochures and also keep the lines of communication open between the two of you.
I was always told not to mix
your alcohols (wine coolers, beer, cocktails, etc), but more importantly don't break the seal or you'll be in the ladies' room all night.
Have Fun!!!
Perhaps I should have told the
whole story, but just wanted thoughts based on the information I did provide and the assumption that it did happen. What would you do if it were your child and you were certain that this is what was said?
Thanks to those who have responded. I look forward to seeing what others have to say as well.
Told her that already.
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What I told
I have three - told them the truth. It worked for my daughters, worked some for my son. One of the big issues was "parties" and I just said no. They asked why. I told them that I knew them and did not think they would find it especially fun to watch their friends and themselves drink and ralph on other people's shoes. I actually described a few parties I had been to and all the graphic details. They believed me and decided not to go to parties until they were old enough to leave on their own power whenever they wanted. I just told all of them the graphic truth (my mother did not tell me and let me learn everything on my own - that was not such a good idea either in my opinion and she could have saved me a lot of grief if she had only spoken up. My son did drink when he was 18, but only at someone's home and says he did not drive. I believe him because he is now 37 and has no reason not to tell me the truth anymore. So, tell what you feel comfortable with. I think parents can have a big impact on their children when they are honest.
Have you told them what you told us?
I'd lay it right out to them like you just did here. Maybe they truly have no clue as to how it makes you feel.
He just told you
that he's looking for other options. He was being honest with you - he looked and hasn't found anything YET. Get a lawyer, get out of the marriage, and get on with your life.
My ex-MIL told the ex that she would
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When my MIL first told me.....
I told her that my SIL was lying. MIL said she thought so too until the doctor said she was pregnant. Still....no ultrasound or anything performed. Still holding out for this to be a false positive.
I have been told that once a dog sm
tastes blood the urge will never stop. I have no idea if this is true, but it seems to make sense in some cases.
I was told that
in the morning is the best time because the pregnancy hormone is most concentrated during that time.
Told ya so! About getting a cat, I mean
I remember when you posted about your mouse problem a few weeks ago. Good for you. I have a cat who is a mousing champion! He would rather catch mice than eat or sleep. I know it's gross, but I don't have any mice.
My DH has never hit me, told him before- sm
we married that if he ever did I would divorce him in two seconds flat (that and cheat on me). I will never put up with any man physically abusing me.
Ok, did what the vet told me to do
this morning, well tried to do it lets say. I was supposed to feed my big kitty separate from the other 2 so all 3 each had their own bowl, water and I took my big boy in my work room, set him and the food down and you would think I was punishing him! He went and crouched under a chair. I just gave up on that idea but what I did do was put all their food down, allowed them x amount of minutes and then took everything up, dried and wet food. Instead of several times a day treats now will only get 2 each at night (very small bits of treats) so hopefully can make it thru the day- might be like trying to get an addict to come off their drugs. Wish me luck.
This is what I was told
by H&R block. I owe big last year because even though I payed estimated I did not pay enough (like I only paid half of what I should have paid, so I owe a lot from last year), plus now my taxes have doubled this year, so what she told me to do is pay the quarterly on time and each month send whatever I can in to the IRS, but make sure I do it every month on a consistent basis so they see you are making good with trying to pay it off. I'll have to explain to them that there is only one income, my taxes doubled this year and I will be paying every month until last years bill is paid off. She said if you call them and set up a payment plan they charge you a $25 fee for setting it up, plus interest for not paying it on time. She said this way you'll still be charged the interest, just not the set up fee. I have worked with the IRS in the past and they really aren't as bad as everyone makes them out to be. They have always worked with me in the past and I never got any hassles. But you know...this just sucks big time. I was barely making it last year. Now this year I work 2 weeks every month just to pay taxes. That only gives me 2 weeks a month to pay the rest of my bills. Which means I will be working 7 days a week as many hours as I can fit in a day for the remainder of my life. Will this madness ever end?
What my vet told me
I know some of this is no good since she's already got parvo, but my vet told me this about parvo prevention:
Spray the yard with bleach water wherever the puppy will be going out until they have completed there shots.
NEVER let your dog walk into the vet clinic before they are done with there shots. I had to carry my boxer pup in yesterday and he's 20 pounds now at 12 weeks!
Things could change very rapidly. My mom had a puppy that was fine when she went to bed and dead when she got up in the morning from parvo. It takes over quick.
My mom and I have brought a whole litter back minus one from parvo before, but it required around the clock attention and we both work with horses and have both worked in a vets office where we knew how to give IVs, etc. It was a very long week for us, but after about five days they were back to eating on their own and drinking well and playing.
I wish you luck. I've become very attached to my puppy and if something happened to him I'd be devastated. We are both praying for your puppies good health!
She might have told him (sm)
People often know when they're are going to die. She might have told him it was going to happen and when.
It sounds like he might have been there when she died though, too. It's hard to say. That poor husband...
someone told me....
that I should get checked for vitamin D deficiency. I just started working midnights from home at my new MT job first of March, and the weather here has been stormy a lot, my step-mom I believe thinks I'm starting to have vitamin D deficiency because I've been complaining of body aches here the last few weeks to a month and am constantly tired and I've been feeling depressed in a way. I thought the tiredness was just from lack of sleep trying to get adjusted to this new schedule...I hope its not deficiency, but I wondered how long it takes for symptoms to show up since its only been a few months, I don't think that's it...
ESL kids have a label =$$$. When the illiterate kids get a label slapped on them - they will get a
Most public schools do not teach children to read with intensive phonics. It has nothing to do with class size IMHO. The method of reading instruction is what determines if the kids will learn to read or not.
Consider homeschooling her.
Each child represents a $ amount to public school administration. As long as the child attends they get their $. They still get X amount of $ for each year they teach or do not teach a kid to read.
Their compensation is not reduced when they produce illiterate adults.
I told everyone at 6 weeks...
then waited to tell son when we had first ultrasound...
She already told me she called and they said SM
she can't until March because they already had a claim. They would be cancelled if they claimed it. It does cover it, though.
My opinion, she should not have told them
Definitely should be up to the parents. All kids are going to hear the truth from peers at school . . . no way around that, but the teacher should have enough sense to realize that some parents would be upset with an adult spilling the beans. I know my older son (middle school now) was told a few times by friends at school. I finally told him in 5th grade (my parents never told me, and Santa still visits me). At the time, I was struggling with some religious issues dealing with extended family, and I really wanted him to understand that God is real (at least to those who believe), and did not want him thinking the same way about that when he learned the truth about Santa. My younger son is in 5th grade now, the autistic 10-year-old mentioned in the punishment thread. He has been told, and I just have not had the heart to confirm it with him.
By the way, the older son was told that as long as he kept quiet "Santa" would still bring presents.
I told the physician
I had them, have typed on this so long knew what they were and sure enough, have. What I am asking is there anyone out there who has had any sort of treatment for them or is this just a bothersome thing that continues. TIA
I think your gut has already told you what your head
knows - avoid this change at all costs. I won't go into all the reasons I would avoid because you know them in your heart - best of luck!
You sorta told her what she really needs to know, that being
you said MTs getting out of the business by the hundreds. If I read this, then I would think,hmmmmm wonder why? There must be a reason for this, after all I can work and still stay home, must be a dream job. To say she can do MTing and be home with her family, sorta of an oxymoron now days, don't you think? I think she would do good to read over a lot of the posts and see exactly how the people are feeling today about their work, lack of, pay and again lack of and then find out if she wants to chance this. Lots of MTs not only on the fence about their jobs but lots questioning what other jobs they could get into. So much unrest in this business now. I would never tell a person to start here. Posts all the time about not thinking it is going to be around with outsourcing, VR and the like. Being a stay at home mother is 1 thing but trying to provide and stay home, this is a chancy risk at this time.
someone just emailed me from here and I told her
I just told someone who read my post and emailed me that most MDs push Rogaine for Women or for Men. Problem with Rogaine is that 60% of it is alcohol and women in menopause, dry skinned, etc., do not need MORE alcohol on their heads. As it is, most of us dye our hair and are getting plenty of alcohol that way. Also, a local doctor where I live discovered Rogaine so my community has been pushing Rogaine for 20+ years and now Rogaine for Women.
Fermodyl #7 has no alcohol as I know it....it's just a leave-in hair conditioner/treatment. I wish doctors were much better informed about what's out there for us in many areas. Now we have to stay on top of all of it ourselves and then give our advice to other women whether we know them or not!! I'm glad to help other women!!
My housekeeper just told me
my plant probably needed a new Potainer..... Guess she meant a container?? She is from Atlanta by the way.
put up a fake owl......someone just told
He told the MD that's what I thought,
but she won't refer him for a sleep study until his insurance changes. It's not me holding it up.
:) I agree! He told me he wants to do SM
"detasseling" this summer...I'm not quite sure what that is, but it has something to do with pulling off "stuff" on the corn stalks out in the fields...hot, yucky, tiresome work. He says he wants to use the money to help buy his school clothes. Yea Andy! ;)
Chickadee
If possible, their parents should be told..
that their boys are insulting and ridiculing adult women on the street. Having raised 3 sons, they were encouraged to be kids and have fun but they were CERTAINLY taught respect for adults and that it's wrong to insult anybody ''for fun'' (particularly adults). Unbelievable that the poster below called this ''minute''. There is nothing ''minute'' about ridicule and nasty remarks--particularly directed at a perfect stranger just going about her own business!
The courts have already told me
if it comes down to not paying me by the set date, they set it up to meet me there at the store with the police, I bring a truck (hubby has 1 but just regular size so am gonna rent a MUCH bigger one) and then it is sold on the court house steps. What I bought in the first place was lovely dinet set but get this, plan on if they push me to courthouse steps, to have BIL there to bid on a similar dinet set for me so guess what, don’t see that I will come out on the little end of the horn any way it goes. Not just about the money anymore as the court, whatever comes in, takes a cut out of that but that is ok too.
How do you know they haven't been told already?
Maybe the parent's already told them and the kids or parents are saying anything to anybody about it. Anyhow, it is not your place to tell them.
The kicker is, just told my
elderly aunt of 80+ in a conversation just this past year. Talking about the rubber being uncomfortable for her, told her no more for me and she was really surprised. Didn’t like them in the first place but with those periods- oh well you get the idea....
LOL! That's what I told my daughter, but
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