I thought in most states kids had to be 12 or at least 10 -sm
Posted By: on 2008-09-21
In Reply to: Sibling abuse - Need Advice
to be left alone w/o an adult. So even if your state is 10 they are in the wrong for having an 8-1/2-y/o look after a 6-y/o. CPS or whoever should put a stop to that right away I would think. I would report them and also apply for formal visitation via grandparent rights and get it on the records in court. If things escalate with the abuse maybe try for temporary custody of the child (with the aim of getting full custody in the future). I am guilty of sleeping in until 8 or even 9 sometimes but my DH is up at 7 or earlier with the kids and they are 8 and 10 and I don't have to worry too much about them doing stuff they shouldn't. Plus I am usually awake, just lying in bed trying to go back to sleep which never happens!
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CASA, etc in many states have been known to threaten kids...
Without seeing the tapes, etc, I can't blame the kid, especially not knowing the age. Mine, at 7, was chastised by the court-appointed social worker and GAL (guardial ad litem)about not wanting to be with her dad, even though the social worker had learned and verified that her dad had molested another child and attempted to molest an animal (not to mention all his porn they found). Courts and court-appointeds were determined she would "learn to like" her dad,and it was all my fault that she didn't. According to them, he was only trying to help her relax when he had her hand up her nightgown. I have the only appeals court record in the country that I know of (has been cited in several court analyses nationwide) where they specifically stated it is "normal male behavior" for a 50-YO man to be looking at pix of girls believed to be 12 to 15 years old. She is back home with me finally and recovering from the nightmare, but it was not done with any help from the family courts. The Titleman case is the only one to actually be accepted by the US Supreme Court for review.
Same here, I actually thought they were kids' books
What is so great about them? I do love to read so I am just curious what could possibly be happening in those books! My 13-year-old niece had her nose buried in the new one all day today she barely looked at us. lol. If they are that good I may be borrowing hers :)
In most states...sm
From my own personal experience, in some states child support is until the age of 18 UNLESS the child is going to college full time, in which case it runs until 21 or the time the child is no longer a full time college student. That's how it was when my sister and I were covered under child support from my father, and that's what it is here in a different state for my ex-husband to pay for his son. :)
In the credits it states that some of the
eliminations are discussed with the producers.
Going to the source and this is what the CDC states about
HPV in men.
http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/STDFact-HPV-and-men.htm#cancer
No, actually one of the lowest COL states in the U.S.
Oklahoma.
I have a friend who works cleaning houses (we decided it would be too weird for her to clean my house) and she charges $30/hour. It works out to about the same thing - it takes between 2-3 hours to clean my house.
Not true in MOST states
I believe Idaho is the only state where the age of consent is 18, most states are 16. And even then, the perp usually has to be at least 4 years older. Even if this was true, this would of course be the absolute worst thing to do. She's 17 and it sounds like he's only a year older. This would definitely ruin your relationship with your daughter. If she just lost her virginity at 17, that's not bad nowadays anyway. I know it's hard to hear that your baby is growing up, but just make sure she's completely educated on everything that goes with having sex and hope that she'll make safe decisions.
just so you know, many states have laws
against any corporeal punishment now, especially for "kinship" care (relatives raising kin children). For example, in many states I cannot even give push ups or running laps as punishment, forget about spanking! And throwing cold water on a child would get the child taken away from me. There are laws you can't withhold food as punishment or send a child to be early. There are over 5 million children being raised by relatives and just under 600,000 in state foster care. Things ARE much different now.
there's a states forum here, hit TX once there..NM
Go for it. Most states cannot even get decent
immigration reform laws passed because of the business lobby. How about we take all the out of work American and have the states and feds hire them as immigration officers? Then they could have decent benefits and there might be enough manpower to hunt down all the hundreds of thousands illegal immigrants and immigrants who do not speak English (what is that threshold going to be because I know some teenagers who are deficient in this area) and then we can process them all (more jobs for OOW Americans) back to their countries of origin. Of course, we would have to raise everyone's taxes to pay for all the salaries and benefits of all the new government employees, the holding facilities, the transportation and court costs. And of course, prices would go up across the board for goods and services that previously used cheap labor, and all those signs in Spanish and Vietnamese and Portuguese and whatever else can be repainted or reprinted in good ole American English, which our kids won't even be able to read because of the rotten public school systems where we had to pull even more money out of to pay for all the additional immigration reform costs. Then we can write all new, mega-restrictive immigration laws and create new testing centers and monitoring laws and now all the immigrant rounder-uppers can become babysitters, or maybe we could just section off part of the country, say....North Dakota...as a holding area for potential immigrants to stay for an allotted period of time until they are able to pass all the benchmarks for citizenship within the designated time frame. We can implant RFID chips in each one so we can easily track them down if they escape. If they cannot meet the requirements and don't freeze to death or get trampled by a buffalo herd, then they are sent back to their home country to try again in 10 years or never. We can then tear down the Statue of Liberty and return it to France.
Some States will allow you to transfer
your kids to a public school in a different town/district but you have to pay A LOT of money to do so. Many times it' just as cost effective to send them to a local private school rather than a public school in a different district.
eBay policy states.....sm
that the sender has 30 days to send the product. If they don't or can't prove they sent it then you can file a complaint with eBay, and they'll check with the seller who will have to either prove they sent the item (i.e. provide postal information with confirmation #s, insurance information, etc) or the seller will have to refund the money. They do tell you that if the seller has "disappeared" that they may not be able to get the money back; however, at the same time they will block them from selling again. My husband & I have bought a lot of stuff on ebay as well as sold a lot. We always ship within 72 hours and most items we've won we've received with a week. I did have one purchase that the seller kept coming up with excuses for not sending it until the 30 days came and eBay contacted her to ship it or else and she finally sent it... but she did refund my shipping fees because of the aggravation and she wasn't asked to do that.
I just heard on Friday that one of the states out
west is considering paying the mother $500 to carry her child to term rather than have an abortion!!! They feel the mother will want the money and carry the child. When will this madness end?
I have bought 4 homes in 4 different states
with my husband and I am an IC. I have never been asked to get a letter from a service stating I would have work for a period of time. Anyone you contract with, would probably not do that. They cannot promise you anything. WE know that.
BUT what I am asked is how long I have been in the business. That seems to matter the most, as it should. And when I say *over 32 years*, then there is no problem.
If you are happy with you mortgage company and have good rates, then just explain to the loan officer how your job works and emphasize that you have been in the business for 6 years.
As an aside - the last mortgage officer knew I was self employed but when we went in with our W-2s and 1099s, he was shocked at my earnings. He said, *Most of the time, self-employed means no income and a lot of deductions." Make sure your mortgage company knows you make money at this and are not using it as a tax write off.
Good luck to you! and congratulations on your new house! 
I heard that in some states you can bill the MD
I heard this quite a few years ago, never tried it....but our time is as valuable as anybody else's time (outside of emergencies/extenuating circumstances) and I worked for an MD who kept the patients waiting for 5 hours in his waiting room....the elderly were the victims in this case....it was 20+ years ago. And don't you just hate waiting in the waiting room for over an hour and then waiting in that examining room for any length of time beyond 10-15 minutes?!?! Usually a 30-45 minute wait and I don't like that either....
Most of us have places to go, people to see, things to do.....all as important as anybody else.....they are not gods....far from it, actually.
Yeah, they pay our bills/mortgage/rent but doesn't mean we have to like 'em....*l*
thanks for the place to vent...
I think different states may differ in rules...
but the answer was yes in my case. He "quit claim" deeded the house to me, but the mortgage was still in both names. No way is a bank or mortgage company going to let one off the hook in case the other defaults.
Hope this helps.
Same here - retire, hop in an RV, travel the states!
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if he states he thinks he may be an alcoholic, he is asking for help
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Wal-Mart corporate policy states....sm
that if you ask the person at the kiosk overseeing the self-check out lines to check you out they have to. Wal-Mart has gotten a bad reputation for not hiring people and then claiming their lack of check out lines being manned by humans is due to not having enough staff. Bull crap - if you pay well you can get good employees. I NEVER check myself out and provide free labor. I rarely go there but when I do, if there's more than 4 people in line ahead of me then I go to the self-check out lines and have the person overseeing them check them out. A couple of times they gave me flack about it and I requested the store manager be called... and then the store manager made them ring me up because the manager knew it was corporate policy.
My husband has asked the manager why they even have 20 checkout lines when he's never seen more than 2 cashiers working at any time of the day. Good question I say!
Of course not - The United States show some dignity?
So typical of our so-called institutions of higher education taking cheap shots at an INVITED speaker.
As to cruel and petty dictator, you have to look no further than the Whitehouse...
some of these states make home visits
monthly to monitor, speaking with the children in private, so ya, it could happen. Educate yourself on the laws of your state and then give yourself a break.
Schools' hands are tied in many states....
My daughter teaches third grade. This year, she had a child from Yemen, an Arabic country. His dad, who barely speaks English, bought a convenience store and ran that. His mother speaks NO English. His older brother of two years understands a little more English and can speak it better though. But my daughter's student can't even read the instructions, read English, take a test, nothing. WHat is more frustrating, she is still expected to teach him like the other children (they have no special teachers for ESL students), even though she can't communicate with him. His father is very considerate if he is absent and writes her a note (very badly written at that) but that's all. Now get this....he can't understand anything in class, my daughter is expected to just give him F's or whatever and just keep going, BUT when standardized testing is going on, she is REQUIRED to count his grade in her overall classroom score, which brings the overall score DOWN. Now how dumb is that? This was going on all year but she went in last week, no child, no explanation. She gets a call from the office asking to look in his desk to check for any books he may have left. Come to find out, she was told he and his family had been put on the next plane OUT of the country and back to where they came from. We believe they were here illegally BUT how did they get here, buy a store, and go about their business? Our government allowed their being here....they should be required to explain why that family was here in the first place and why they suddenly disappeared. Our government is so busy trying to cater to everyone, they are screwing the rest of us.
Some states require a Doing Business As license if you work
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Smokers inflict cancer causing agents to people every day, but there are states that
public places anymore and I say, hurray, it's about time! The state of Arizona passed a law overwhelmingly to ban smoking in public places and now it's in effect. If you're caught smoking in a public place you'll either be told to put it out, leave, or be arrested.
Speaking of walking through smoke when going in or leaving a store, I know exactly what that poster means, the only thing is I had to bring my child into that store with me. Prior to the new law, I told the manager how awful that was for me and my child and they had the trashcan/ashtray units moved further away. Still, it amazed me that people would still stand right there at the door and puff away with no regard for anyone else. Well, now, they really have it, but good. It's ILLEGAL to smoke anywhere near a public location, ie grocery stores, malls, library, hospital, any other stores and they can't smoke outside the doors or even on the property itself.
It didn't work out due to combining of kids and step kids. nm
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LEA, S-team, M-team can be virtually translated to different states...
the LEA is your local education area (school district) and a universal term. The M-team is "multidisciplinary team" consisting of various teachers, parent, and minimum of the school psychologist. That's what we had (gifted being considered special ed, too, but not funded in all states). S-team is a "specialist focused team" consisting of the M-team and at least 1 specialist in the disability. This should be what you have. The rules surrounding an IEP are federal. Individual states can only add to who qualifies for one, and the LEA just has to follow the rules.
You can request a new IEP meeting at any time. Do it in writing, setting forth (including documentation if you have any) specifics of the issues that have been apparent since the last plan was put in place. Request that the new IEP meeting include an autism (should also include Asperger's, though I'm not well-versed on the condition) specialist furnished by the LEA if your team does not already include one. They are required to convene the meeting within 30 days of your written request. Once the plan is signed, it is considered an agreement and cannot be challenged, so you can't challenge the one he's on now. That's why you want a new IEP meeting to formulate a new plan. If you get no relief from the new plan, DON'T SIGN IT. In the signature line, write "DO NOT AGREE". Find a specialist or psychologist in your area (this will be your expense) to support your position, and file the appropriate paperwork. If they refuse to convene the IEP meeting, contact your special ed liason at the state board of education. They should help you navigate the paperwork further from there because the paper trail will flow differently from state to state.
Nope, no kids with him, all of our kids are 20 and over.
I would think that some of the $12,000 A YEAR he paid in support for over 9 years should have been enough to save some for college. He paid his dues so to speak, always paid the support on time, had insurance for them, etc. He told them straight up to pay for their own college. Is there something wrong with that?
ESL kids have a label =$$$. When the illiterate kids get a label slapped on them - they will get a
Most public schools do not teach children to read with intensive phonics. It has nothing to do with class size IMHO. The method of reading instruction is what determines if the kids will learn to read or not.
Consider homeschooling her.
Each child represents a $ amount to public school administration. As long as the child attends they get their $. They still get X amount of $ for each year they teach or do not teach a kid to read.
Their compensation is not reduced when they produce illiterate adults.
wish I'd thought of that...
EXCELLENT POST! By far the most intelligent one of the whole thread... to you and MERRY CHRISTMAS!
Just a thought sm
www.tasteofhome.com has recipes for the category "cooking for a crowd". There are some wonderful recipes there. They are tested by these wonderful cooks before printed in their magazine. Their site is pretty user friendly, colorful, and fun. I love to cook (as well as type) lol!
That is what I thought
also but some people throw things out, like I just saw this on a television show as the truth and I am saying, hold on.... This is something I have heard for years and I mean years, much longer than most efflux of drug users around now days. Thanks for the information.
Just a thought..............sm
A vet of ours down in Florida suggested this to anyone having this problem. She said to wipe the dog OR cat down with a damp cloth.....now there are wipes in the pet section for this. She said the dander on their hair is causing the reaction and if this is done daily, it will keep them from shedding dander that is causing the allergy. There was a spray you could buy in the pet section to damper their coat and then wipe it down, but the wipes have the lanolin stuff on them now. I buy those and wipe down our cat of 18 years, who my daughter said was NOT causing her stuffy nose......he slept on her bed every night. I didn't find the wipes until a few years ago, but she had moved away to college by then....all stuffiness disappeared.
I thought about that too, but
family court records are sealed and it is in another city with the plantiff listed as the State. Hey, if they want to come get me, it would be another interesting war story and another reason to ask for back child support from the dud to help me get out of jail. huh! Gotta find something to laugh about :)
another thought
Babies for adoption instead.. great but remember there are millions of children in the world who need a family Maybe not a baby but a child nonetheless.
Could you look one of these children in the eye and tell them you don't want them, you want a baby?
Here's a thought for you ....sm
make a donation to a charity in their honor. Most charities will not reveal the amount you donated but will send them a card stating a donation was made. You can give what you're comfortable with... $5, $10, whatever.
When we got married last summer we elected to not receive gifts as we were giving away and selling items that were surplus from merging our 2 separate homes. We did advise that family and friends who desired to do something for us could make a donation to a local children's home and many of them did. We talked to the children's home ahead of time so they'd know what we were doing and they were very appreciative of the generosity that people extended. They sent us a list of who contributed money so we would know who to send thank you cards to (they did this also) but never divulged the amounts given which we didn't want to know anyway. This allowed people who desired to give something to do this and we weren't stuck with extra stuff we didn't need around the house.
LOL - another thought.
All my animal children understand "HEY" and "uh oh" and my favorite "Ok now you're in trouble."
Of course they don't understand English, but they sure remember TONE.
My cats destroyed my leather sofa, too - and yes those late night attacks are hard to prevent. Suggestion: If you can afford it, get an inexsensive couch cover that you can cover the couch with whenever... if anything gets destroyed it will be the cheap cover
Oh, thought you mean like I have done now
with my maiden name and the married ones that is a total of 5 now. Last one, I promise.
lol thought for a sec you were my ex! That's
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I thought...
It was overall good, made me tear up some when Victor spoke. Didn't really expect any excitement, think it's too early for Nick to return. I feel for Phyllis (I know... )...but I can't help it...can't wait til next week.....
Another thought!
Back in high school girls like here were likely to get a "swirly." There was one friend (right) who decided that my boyfriend (now my husband for a very long time) was just what she needed - he was older, had a new car, money, took me on nice dates. She did the same stuff and he "fell for it" and we argued and broke up for a couple of days or so over her. She made a bad mistake and taunted me with it at school. She didn't realize that his brother (she didn't know him) and his other brother's girlfriend were listening. They ratted her out. She got mad and tried to intimidate me. She even slapped me! That did it, faster than I could think, I grabbed her hair, dragged her into the girl's bathroom, stuck her head in and FLUSHED. She never bothered anyone else with her boyfriend stealing ways for the rest of high school, although I don't know if that continued on. So, if you have to, go ahead and FLUSH! My grown up daughter is sitting here laughing because she can't believe I would do such a thing. I have become more human to her! I have fond memories of the look on that girl's overly made up Barbie-face with melting mascara and her overly sprayed hairdo clumped up on her head!!
I thought that too but.....
I also thought with this house the city would be more forgiving of Dh farm stuff parked around then they would in the nicer neighborhoods.
Another question is, in my neighborhood there have been some nice new brick homes pop up during the 8 years we have lived here. Directly behind us someone is building a huge Victorian. It is going to be beautiful. Would that make our property value go up as well?
That is exactly what I thought of. Sorry.
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Just a thought
Adorable boy he is!
Before you invest in the rug, if it is not necessary, you might consider puppy shoes or boots. They do make some with rubber bottoms if you are creative you might try making some out of the rubber matting, spongey stuff they line cabinet and drawers with, almost like the rubber matting to keep rubs from sliding. Or you could even get a pair of booties with the anti-skid stuff like they issue at hospitals and make them. The attached URL has fleece in this but you can get them without.
My friend...mommy of my grandpuppies...had this same issue with thier dogs. She put little booties on hers and it worked for them.
I thought so too, but
last time I posted the site it must have looked like an ad or something, because it was removed. But it's not my site and I'm not advertising for them; I just think it's really cool that they have a thing where you click boxes with the conditions of your site and it will suggest groundcovers that might work! And then just all the pictures can give you great ideas. My MIL is near the beach, so her soil is sandy and it's very expensive to try to keep grass going. Ones like thyme and some others use almost no water and abolutely no chemicals. Cheap to keep!
Another thought on IBS sm
Do you take a lot of ibuprofen? My IBS was pinpointed to ibuprofen intake for arthritis. Took about 7 years and 2 colonoscopies to figure that out. I have other medical issues as well, so they didn't really look into ibuprofen at first. Finally, after I had changed jobs, going from inhouse to home transcription due to the stress inhouse, I kept a log of everything I took in for 3 weeks, including meds. I found I had the severe diarrhea bouts (up to 10+ times per day) on the days I took the ibuprofen. My doctor switched me to Relafen for inflammation and darvocet for pain and I probably only have 4 bouts of IBS a year now.
Just a thought...
but if you have been fortunate enough to strike up a more personal relationship with another poster, why not take it to e-mail or phone calls, which would be infinitely more personal and, I would think, much less of a hassle, for both of you. I think it's great that you've found a lot in common, like your animals, but why set yourselves up for harrassment if you don't have to?
I thought I was the only one......!
This happened to me a few years ago, I would just nod out while driving. Fortunately a slight bump in the road or going up a curb :( would wake me. I had to stop driving for a while of course. It turned out it was a side effect from Prozac I was tried on for situational anxiety/depression. Hope your daughter's friend gets to the bottom of it. It's a very scary feeling.
I always thought...
It wasn't proper to take gifts to the wedding, think I read this in Ms. Manners or something like that. It's a wedding, not a shower or a party, so no gifts...I think anyway! I'm in the same boat though, having missed the shower and invited to the wedding too. Also have another wedding a week later, then yet another at the end of September...which I am sure all will have some sort of shower. 
Just a thought
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I'm not sure what state you are in, but there are some great folks on there that will let you know what the laws are in your area and will let you know pretty quick. Usually you can call anonimously but in some states you can get in trouble for actually going and stepping in. As an animal lover I commend you, some people just don't care.
that's a thought but
i don't want to be worrying about head lice. that would be a horrible mess.
I thought about doing it that way too (sm)
Do you keep a chore chart to keep track of payments?
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