I think you should go to the viewing.

If certain family members don't believe your story, they might think their beliefs are confirmed by you avoiding the viewing.  I would go, but if things get ugly....simply leave.

You were kind enough to give them the deed to those plots.  It isn't like plots are cheap.  If they wanted your mom moved, they should have told you yes straight up when you mentioned it or they could have done it themselves and maybe gone halfsies on it since you gave them the deed to the plots.

Maybe John is simply grieving and not thinking straight, but I think you would regret not going if you didn't.

• I have an upsetting problem and need some advice by this afternoon - Backwards typist
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  • I would think it might be cheaper - Rosie
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  • I think you should go to the viewing. - Trigger Happy
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If certain family members don't believe your story, they might think their beliefs are confirmed by you avoiding the viewing.  I would go, but if things get ugly....simply leave.

You were kind enough to give them the deed to those plots.  It isn't like plots are cheap.  If they wanted your mom moved, they should have told you yes straight up when you mentioned it or they could have done it themselves and maybe gone halfsies on it since you gave them the deed to the plots.

Maybe John is simply grieving and not thinking straight, but I think you would regret not going if you didn't.

I tried to uphold her wishes but her one sister did not have "closure" without some sort of pomp, so five months after mom died (was cremated), I held a small service  at the cemetery (didn't want to, but wanted the aunt to have her "closure." She never showed up!

Both hubby and I are not going to have a viewing or funeral and the kids know it. I'm getting cremated, while he wants to be buried the regular way 'cuz he hates being hot. LOL

You can have closure without the above. In fact, in my case, it just brought all the sadness back to the surface and it took me another couple months to get back to normal again. Think of it this way, as mom used to say: "I want people to remember me as I was, not as I am."

Hope this helps.