I think you post is HIGHLY unlikely to happen because (sm)

• latest update on 16-year-old daughter. - need advice desperately
  • Don't give up on her. PLEASE don't give in to her. - So Sad
    • I was also wondering how she had $$ or if - So Sad
  • I think what you are experiencing is all normal teen behavior. sm - kids -- GOTTA LOVE EM
    • no it's not - nm
    • not the ones who end up being killed or prostitutes - sm -
      • Oh for gosh sakes, stop inflating the situation; it's already - at the pont of spontaneous combustion.
      • I think you post is HIGHLY unlikely to happen because (sm) - Your post only made the mom feel worse.
  • We have decided to seek professional help. - need advice desperately
    • I would like to suggest one thing to you, OP...SM - M
    • Great! - CG
    • I think that is a wise choice. So glad - linda
  • You did the right thing - MTinNC
    • good for you! Your only pledge of - linda
      • Teen Troubles - Marie

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that this guy is capable of change. And the best thing you can possibly do is think about your girls and what you want for them, how you want their childhood to be, and how you can avoid further trauma to their psyche. This type of dysfuction is devastating to them and will, if left unchecked, eventually lead to them seeking out dysfunctional relationships in the future. Children learn what they live and have no reason to believe that this family dynamic is not normal. It certainly is not healthy for them. As you filter through advice that you are given and make decisions about how you will deal with this, ALWAYS make your girls the first and foremost consideration and make all decisions with their best interest in mind.

Exhausted, I wish you and your girls the best. I also have a 16 MO daughter and cannot imagine my DH acting this way. Sure, he doesn't LIKE to change poopy diapers, nobody does, but he will do it if she needs it. He will do anything for her.

As their mother, you are their most important role model. If you continue to be his doormat, you can be sure that they will just the same later in life.  You have to show them that this type of life is unacceptable and that you always consider their needs and emotional health to be your first priority, always.

HUGS!

Please, everyone with a pet of any kind, consider it.  It can be a lifesaver (literally!), and I personally like the peace of mind it gives me, whether I ever need to file a claim or not.  Try Veterinary Pet Insurance:  http://www.petinsurance.com/ 

There are other companies too, but this is the only one we've used.  It saved us a small fortune when our Rottie got bone cancer in his front leg at just 4-1/2 years old.  After the diagnosis, we got a CT scan (same machine they use for people - $$$) to make sure it hadn't spread.  It hadn't, so we went ahead and amputated the leg (also not so inexpensive).  He felt great, was out of pain, adapted easily to 3 legs and was his old, happy self.  But just 6 months later the cancer was back, and we had to let him go.  Poor baby.  It all ended up costing about $2000.00, and we were reimbursed about $1200.00 from the insurance, so it was a big help. 

I think we just had their basic policy too, not the more expensive one (that would've reimbursed more), but I don't remember.  I think we paid around $300.00 a year for him (including an optional $99 routine care coverage addition to the policy).  The cost depends on the age and breed of the animal, and you can make monthly payments or pay all at once.  They insure all kinds of animals too, not just dogs and cats. 

We have VPI for our 2 youngest dogs (2 y/o Rottie and 5 y/o husky mix).  Personally, we will never be w/o it again on any of our dogs.  It's just such a relief to know you have it.  VPI also has a routine care plan you can add on to the policy (or not) that reimburses part of your yearly costs for shots, spay/neuter, teeth cleaning, flea/tick products, and heart worm meds, and we like having that. 

My oldest dog, my baby, is Wiley, a 12 y/o Siberian Husky.  Much to my regret, I didn't get insurance for him when he was younger.  Now it's too expensive (and they don't cover preexisting conditions).  Same with my senior Siberian, Alexx, who died earlier this year - I didn't have insurance for her because it's too expensive when they're seniors (if they'll even cover you then).  So I'll be paying off credit card bills for Alexx (who was very healthy until the last year or so) and Wiley (mostly Wiley) for yeeeeeaaarrrs to come. 

Wiley's had health problems since he was 5 yrs old, starting with his teeth (enamel hypoplasia, meaning lots dental x-rays, cleanings, extractions - root canals!), then a tumor (spindle cell sarcoma), then a recurrance of the tumor 3 yrs later (the biggest expense by far, due to the extensive nature of the surgery, need for a scan first, a specialist...), and now... immune-mediated joint disease.  If I'd had insurance for him, I would've save myself, literally, *thousands* of dollars (assuming they didn't cancel the policy! LOL) 

We're like you, Hayseed.  Our dogs might as well be our children, and we take care of them accordingly.  ;o) 

JLo and Antonio Banderas.  You will be moved and inspired to act.  HIGHLY recommend. 

GOP-democratic ongoing battle will make it political, but if WE can resist all that.....it would be good.

Just as an aside, us older MTs...are really going to be the largest senior group ever.......in the USA - something like 70+ million - and we, politically, are a HUGE voice (in numbers)....so I still believe WE CAN change the world.......that we CAN make the difference.

just as I believed 40 years ago too.......

perhaps I'm deluded.....*winks*

sure hope not......

p.s.  please don't burst my bubble....

where you disconnected from someone because of something petty (shower) and then when you really had time to look back on it and put it into perspective, along with putting yourself in her situation, you realize that you miss your friend and try to reconnect.

When you do, you find out she actually died a year before.  Think about that before you make a decision to end the friendship.  I wish I had.

A few years back I had an ink cartridge that I wanted to return because I had grabbed the wrong one.  The Walmart wouldn't take it back.  For that store anyways, it was their policy not to accept ink cartridges in return for that very reason.  They told me that I wouldn't even believe how many they get back and are actually empty.  I was told that I needed to send it back to the company for whatever brand it was. 

I believed what they said because at that time my husband was a manager there. 

When they do inventory it takes them like a month to do it, and you wouldn't believe sometimes how much money and merchandise is unaccounted for, not just easily concealable things either.   No way to know how much of it was really stolen, but I would bet a good portion of it. 

I'm sure they'll take back your cartridge.  If you can't find your receipt, they will probably just give you a gift card figuring that if by chance you didn't get that cartridge there, at least they know you have to spend that gift card at a Walmart.

Just my 2 cents.

As my allergies have gotten worse over the years, I have been pulling up the carpet throughout my house and yuck, nasty!  I would love to put wood floors throughout, but cannot afford it.  In the fall, my sinuses are even worse.  I can't dust or vacuum, make the kids or DH do it. 

To get rid of the drainage, you have to dry up your sinuses.  I personally use Zyrtec and it works very well for me.  I also have a personal steamer that I use a few times a day to try and steam things out.  I've heard of the neti pot (not sure if that is spelled right) and that is supposed to work really, really good. 

I keep a few peppermints with me in case I'm in public and the nausea gets too bad, it helps dry things up for a few minutes at least.

Good luck!