I think you hit the nail on the head.
Posted By: Best Friends Forever? on 2008-11-25
In Reply to: First off, you're pregnant - growing apart
I have also had a few more days to think about what the other posters said too. Whether I want to admit it or not, hormones do make the moment seem worse and make me want to snap into all or nothing.
You have some great ideas. I agree that she didn't need to get me a gift if she wasn't coming to the shower, and probably would have preferred that rather than get me a gift of the wrong gender. At any rate, I will send her a nice thank you and call her to see how her wedding went since I was not able to be there for the big day. I will also make mention to her that evening before I leave that I would still like to see her, if even for a few minutes. It's a male/female shower at a sports bar so if nothing else I would like to get to know her husband better.
I don't want this to ruin the small bit of friendship we still have left or my shower but she was honestly the only person I was really looking forward to being at my shower. but I must get over that and be greatful that we are still friends in some way.
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Wow. You SO hit the nail on the head with this one--sm
It seriously sounds like you have been there before and found your way out of it somehow. I so applaud your way of helping this poor exhausted woman, and I feel badly for her, because I have been there too. My ex was ALOT like this, controlling, passive-aggressive, and had a very abusive anger problem, as well. She did not state how long she has been with this man, but if things don't change, I fear abuse may be the next step. In my experience, people like this do not change. You do. Sometimes the only way to change the situation is to leave it, entirely. forever. I am also sorry to say that when I left my ex after 13 years of abusive control, he moved on to the next one...she took her own life after 14 years due to the same treatment. He married again after that, with the roles reversed and his wife controlling him...he took his own life last year. The ones who suffer? the children. MY children, his children, who will never be the same because of all of this. Think about all of this *exhausted*. It is only meant to help you open your eyes, see your options, and ACT on them...for your sake, and your children. Hugs to you, as well. Your post brought back some very unpleasant memories for me. Good luck to you!!!
you hit the nail on the head! Thank you for saying better than me. sm
He did not offer to pay for the car. When you are in marching band in high school you don't always have the luxury of working. He taught music lessons. That was enough for spending money not car payments. He has a scholarship but other than that I pay for everything.
We had a good talk this afternoon. I told him that there would come a time in the not too distant future when that trip would be allowed. However, I want a phone call before he leaves and one when he gets there. I want to know he made it safely. Honestly, I told him I was not mad about this and I understood that he wanted to see her, but lying is wrong. End of story. When I asked him if he was there I wouldn't have been near as upset if he had told me the truth but he kept digging his hole deeper and deeper.
I don't know what my husband is going to decide to do about the car. I asked him to consider leaving it. I told him I don't think my son will do it again. I told him that it is important that the girlfriend's parents like him and pulling crap like this is not going to endear them to him.
I put the idea in my husband's mind that maybe he could take a picture of the speedometer when he gets there tonight so that we know the milage. He is going to talk to him tonight. If he did that, he will still have local use of his car. I don't know. Everyone is pretty upset right now. Me, my husband, my son, his girlfriend, her parents.
I actually think that maybe he understand where I am coming from. I reminded him what if I got a phone call saying he was in an accident and severely hurt or worse and I think he is safe at school.
Wow - you hit the nail on the head - for me (sm)
"...hung onto the relationshipeve afer it was obviously not good for us. I think we just had to prove that we were good enough to be loved." That is exactly how I ended up in this marriage and exactly why I have been in it for so long. I was so determined to prove that I was good enough to be loved. Unfortunately, now there are children involved and I have to figure out what is best for them.
OMG! - you have hit the nail on the head!
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Very well-put. You hit the nail on the head.
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You hit the nail on the head....sm
Everyone be thankful that you do not have anyone in your life doing this to you. You can say well don't answer the phone, don't answer the door, call the police. But when you do all those things and it still does not do any good you don't know where to turn. He has literally knocked on my door 4 times in 1 hour tonight. That is just one hour not the rest of the day. You would think after you don't answer it the first 5 times he would take a hint. Nope. I am friends with a deputy around here. My husbands uncle is also a deputy. They cannot do anything about it. He is on his own land. All I can do is move and looks like that is what I am going to have to do now. It definitely is not fair, but life isn't fair.
I think you hit the proverbial nail on the head! sm
I attribute the lack of sexual morality among young people today, both boys and girls, to the lack of a strong father figure such as you had. (And I am not discounting the role of a loving mother in a child's life; however, they play an entirely different role.) I'm not talking about a tyrannical overbearing father but rather one who not only loves his daughter but also his wife and demonstrates the way a girl/woman should be treated. Skyrocketing divorce rates as well as otherwise absent workaholic fathers today have removed a very important piece of the machanics of raising moral children who have more self-respect for themselves than to go on rampant sexual escapades in search of a way to fit in with their peers.
You hit the nail on the head, so to speak
When I read your first line, I was going to post about the swollen/sore breasts. That was definitely what clued me in. I think it actually started before the first missed period with me.
Good luck! I really hope it's your time!
I think you hit the nail on the head as far as comparing
Adam to Steven Tyler. In the early days of Aerosmith, I LOVED them, but after he developed his 'signature scream' and did it in every single song to the point of sounding stupid, it got so monotonous that I can't stand him anymore. I still like the early stuff though. Adam is like Steven Tyler now that he's not good anymore.
you hit the nail on the head; the only way they were able to "prove" his age was by school rec
my mom also works at a prison and she says about 75% of them are illegals so we not only foot their education, we foot to take care of them after they come here and commit their crime for life.
Oh! Head in the SAND! I thought you said head in the CAN!
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You have hit the nail on the
head. This is exactly what I am talking about but never knew the words for them. I will show to my hubby. The ones I have read off the list are cute and I know so many of those. Thanks!
Usually with a nail.
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They come off when the nail sheds. Then you
Still a better option than declawing or getting rid of the cat. ALSO... many shelters in our area consider declaws 'un-adoptable', and often euthanize right off the bat, since many have behavior and/or litter box issues, and frequently get returned to the shelter after adoption. My declawed kitty had been taken to a shelter by her original owners, and the only reason she wasn't euthanized right away was she was a purebred Persian, and the Persian rescue I got her from pulled her from the shelter.
nail polish remover
i used nail polish remover
didn't remove color from couch either, also have tan leather and 2yo got a black marker left by 16yo brother
How about nail polish remover?
NM
did ya try acetone or nail polish remover?..nm
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Anyone know of a trick to get dark nail polish off a light rug? Help!
nm
I use finger nail polish remover. It stinks though.
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I agree with the nail polish remover, just make sure sm
you have the type with acetone in it. The acetone-free stuff won't work. My son got super glue-a big, think chunk-on his eyeglasses and nail polish remover got it off.
Acetone is nail polish remover, already said that earlier
NM
Anyone know a good way to remove nail polish from carpet? - sm
My daughter spilled nail polish on the carpet in her room, so now I have a long line of pink nail polish on the carpet. Tried with nail polish remover, but not much help. Any ideas? Thanks.
Change the locks on your doors, nail the windows shut
and fill out a restraining order against him.
Thanks for the head up!
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I think you hit it on the head with that one. NM
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It sure looks like we could head toward ...sm
a great depression. Well about the questions. My mom is queen of stocking up. I do some too. But not like her. I need to do it more. But the things you stock up on are like mostly things that will stay good a while like can items and flour and corn meal and cooking oil and cereals. Just look at the dates and see when it expires so you can see how long it will stay good. Canned items you have a few years usually. Stock up on drinks, tea, coffee, sugar. My mom puts sugar, flour, and corn meal and rice and things like that in stock piles in her freezer. It will keep a long time in there. What my mom does and me too is look in the sale paper at the grocery store and when something goes on sale and is a good deal buy plenty. Like one time they put hamburger helper on sale for $1 a box and my mom bought 10 of them. Just look for good cheap deals and stock up. Toilet paper too. Paper towels. Soap. Whatever. Just when you catch sales get a little here and there and put it up. Don't go spend a fortune in one day.
As far as shortages of food I have no idea.
$4 a head?!?!
Wow. Plotzing right next to you. jeez.
I put up a greenhouse last year, which I love. It's still being tweaked so I haven't completely maximized its use yet, but all my plants made it through its first winter. We even planned ahead and my handyman ran electric and water into it, so it's pretty self contained.
I love growing things, but don't necessarily like to be outside for the growing of them. Weird, I know. Plus, the greenhouse lets me stay away from my creepy neighbor who makes passes at me while his ailing/dying wife is inside. 
The other thing that I've started doing to try to cut costs is hanging the clothes out on a line. I've seen a lot of comments about that lately, too. I'm really curious to see how much of a difference that makes on the old electric bill.
I think your gut has already told you what your head
knows - avoid this change at all costs. I won't go into all the reasons I would avoid because you know them in your heart - best of luck!
The coroner's head . . .
What's with Anna Nicole's coroner's head. Has anyone else noticed this? The left side of his head is just out of wack. Do you think he has craniosynostosis?
his head IS very very bizarre
I also noticed this. I have never seen anything like it in my life! It almost looks like part of his skull is gone. I kept staring yet didn't want to look, if you know what I mean!
Did you hit your head before or after fainting?
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When I got this flu, I did have a touch of the tummy trouble, but no fainting. But both sides of my neck were very sore to the touch. Must have been nodes, but weird that it was such large areas. I took Tamiflu, and the neck soreness went away, but I still had chills and exhaustion for 2 weeks.
my mom said same thing about wet head...
it's like if you spill the salt, it's bad luck....these are old *wives tales* perpetuated WAY_BACK_WHEN....a.k.a. superstitions for some of them...
don't walk under a ladder
don't let a black cat cross your path
swallow a watermelon pit and you grow a watermelon in tummy
swallow a piece of gum and it stays in your system for 7 years or clogs you up
(Most of them are ridiculous and a waste of time)....I have owned black cat(s), purposefully walked under ladders, spilled salt and think nothing of it, swallowed gum and/or small pits of fruits, and I'M STILL KICKIN.......and getting OLDER THAN DIRT *L*
My mom always held my car over my head....
and it honestly just encouraged me to lie to her. My kids are younger, so God only knows what I'll do when they are teenagers, as I know that is a very hard time, but your son is in college now, and I think it is reasonable for him to want to drive to see his girlfriend on weekends. I was always a pretty honest kid with my mom, but losing my car was a big deal, so I did lie to her from time to time, because even though I felt bad lying it didn't feel as bad as losing my car would have!
Is your son maintaining good grades? If so, I wouldn't worry about his texting or how much he is talking to his girlfriend, because I honestly think that is his business and he will have to learn some hard lessons by messing up - not by having his mom tell him how life is all the time. Sometimes you have to learn that you can fall and pick yourself back up. If he is getting really bad grades, however, then of course you should step in because you don't want him messing up that scholarship! I'm already afraid for when my boys go off to college because I know how much many college kids drink and party and am afraid they will drink too much or something and get hurt, but if your son is just wanting to see his girlfriend then that might actually keep him from partying as much as other college kids. Are you just worried that he will get hurt on the drive to see her or something? Does he have a safe car?
I would say just be careful. If this girlfriend is really nice and he feels like you "messed up" his relationship with her in any way he might try to get back at you by dating a "lesser quality" girl or something. Good luck to you. I'm sure this is a difficult situation, but it's great he got a scholarship and is a good kid overall.
I eat different from hubs because I'm the veg head & he
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Like a head-on collision?
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Oh, I see a halo over the head
NM
Head or Heart
I followed my head, wish I would have followed my heart.
Get your head out of the sand! nm
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shower head
 I'm looking for a shower head that will help me get all the shampoo & conditioner out of my hair. I have one that allows me to adjust the settings and that helps. I think the problem is that I am so short that even with the high pressure it doesn't completely remove all the shampoo since I am so much farther down than the shower head. I want to get one of the removable ones but before I went and spent the money I was hoping for suggestions. Whenever I go to my hairstylist, my hair always feels so much better for a week or two after she rinses it with that high-pressure sprayer so close to my head. I'm sure her shampoo makes some diffference too, although I'm pretty sure it is just not being able to completely rinse my hair out that is causing me the frizzies. Thanks for any suggestions on a reasonablly priced shower head.
Where is John's head? (sm)
It's in his crotch.
Help me get that song out of my head! (sm)
Help! I can't get the song "Help Me Rhonda" out of my head now!! Too funny!! That may actually have to be one of the worst songs! LOL!
I wish it had been drilled into my head
I went to spend the night with a friend (this was about 30 years ago) and I was molested by her father. It took me 2 years to tell my parents. Trust me, I had many talks with my kids when they were younger.
*Shakes head*
Dictated: Patient presented to the ER with complaints of shortness of breath and nausea. Patient denies shortness of breath. Patient describes shortness of breath as moderate.
Argh.
Yeah, $4 a head. sm
That's the highest I've seen it, though (it's currently something like $1.59/head, which I still think is a bit much, even here in the sticks in the winter).
I've taken to growing sprouts, instead; there's certainly a lot more nutrition in them, as iceberg lettuce has nil, really.
I've also just purchased one of those Aerogardens (yes, the thing from the infomercials) just so I can have some fresh greens in the wintertime. It's not a cheap way to grow, to be sure, but it's convenient.
You'd think that living out in the country that produce would be cheap and plentiful (at least in season), but most of what's grown around here is feed corn, soybeans, or sugar beets ... not exactly your usual road-stand fare.
Should state when he was hit on the head
that was inside the airplane from falling debris as the plane landed hard on the runway. Should have explained a little better.
If you hit your head, get it checked out
I think chances are good we'll find that Billy had a hemorrhage, much like Natasha Richardson. I just lost an older cousin to this very same syndrome last weekend. He fell and hit his head, but refused to go the doctor and died two days later.
Head injuries are nothing to mess around with, even if they seem benign at first.
Drat, where's the ax-in-the-head icon when you need it?
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I probably would've lost my head...
because I'm the jealous type. I HATE IT with a passion!
You did the right thing by getting feedback from others before you reacted emotionally and I admire you that.
It's much better to stay calm and not let DH know that deep inside you're going berserk. How do you keep the poker face that's much needed in these types of situations?
I'm glad I saw your post and the responses from others to see how they would handle such a situation. I don't like thinking/running my life with my emotions, which always gets me in so much trouble and makes the situation at hand much worse for me and the person on the receiving end of my emotional outbursts, who is usually innocent.
Thanks for posting!
Thanks everyone. You told me exactly what my head already knew (sm)
and I was just letting that logic go right out the door. I would never be the **cheatee** either, because it just seems so dirty and indignant and also because I would never want that done to me, so I try to treat people the way I would weant to be treated.
You know, I am so glad I have a reasonable bunch of women here and wish one day we could all get together for coffee.
Thanks for keeping me in line.
lol, about the head lice comment
never thought of that, and would not be surprised if that was it, she's pretty filthy. Dollars to donuts that was why she shaved the other *hair* LOL!
yep, yep *nods head* that *different drummer*
Sound of the different drummer, so to speak, Just always kept me from being a follower/conformist. I certainly did it *MY WAY*.....
*singing My Way*....
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