I think you have reached your boiling point and
Posted By: Janet on 2007-02-02
In Reply to: Maybe it is time to cut your losses and move on? - bitsy
want to just let her go as a friend. If it really bothers you this much, then do it. I am so glad to see these other posts. My Aunt gets terribly upset with her friend and recently the aunt tells me the friend's family trying to get her to a physician's office because of such bad memory. I tell my aunt this is not something her friend is trying to do (as well as my dear aunt's niece, myself) but she does not understand. I am so thankful at 86 years her mind is as good as it is, very thankful. The aunt also speaks of her sister (she is 88) and this sister has short-term memory loss and again the clear-thinking aunt just don't get it. You probably won't be able to change her misfortunate not to be able to recall things so don't get out of sorts, just move on.
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And oil nearly reached $120.00
a barrel yesterday.
We went out to eat last night and the restaurant which is normally a busy place was like a ghosttown saloon.
People are cutting corners. They are not eating out as much. Thank goodness these thankless MT jobs don't rely on tips. Just #(Q!& line counts. LOL.
The fact that she reached out to you
...is a very good sign. It means that she hasn't entirely given up hope yet. But she needs all the support she can get. I don't know what resources are available in your area or what she has already tried, but she needs to get into therapy immediately and she needs to find a way to obtain her medications and start taking them again. There are agencies which can help with problems like these - you can help her search for them and help her do whatever is required (filling out applications, etc.) to get her going - because of her depression, she may not have the energy to do all of this on her own right now.
The most important thing you can do is to let her know that you are there for her, that she is important to you, and that ALL problems are solvable - maybe not in exactly the manner we would prefer (it is possible she may lose her house) but sometimes a situation that seems so dire at the time may end up having an unexpected, positive affect on our lives. Believe me, I speak from personal experience.
Kudos to you for being so caring and concerned about your coworker.
Have reached the end of my rope!
Ok, I posted some time ago about a furniture company I paid money to last year, 04/2006 and never got any furniture, no money returned and had to go through court. I had thought they would maybe show in court - they never did, although commanded to do so or at least pay what I am owed before their cut-off date. It has not happened. This coming Tuesday I have police meeting me at their furniture company- I have rented a truck- and have the order of the courts to go in and load up on their furniture (with enough to recoup what they owe along with any extra costs such as paying for my rental truck and the court costs) and it will be sold in a bundle on the court house steps. I work such hours that I have had the time to go to the courts (open between 9 and 3) and cannot believe that a company would do this. I guess they do not run into a lot of people like me but believe me, it has gotten down to what is right and what is wrong and the way I see it, these people are definitely in the wrong for thinking they could mess over me, ain't happening. Oh, the guy in court said lots of times when a big truck pulls up in front like this to load up, somehow or 'nother the company starts digging in their pocket- either way, the money or the furniture!! Steam is coming from my ears!!!
I am truly glad that you reached this child; however, sm
scouts in our area is a joke. On top of that it is more mothers than father teaching the scouts. Well, lets just say, the boys don't respect it. I can't respect it. The mothers CANNOT take them camping. It is not safe. (They really just don't want to miss Dancing with the Stars or something like that). Our group did photograph album. No did not enjoy doing it. They could not light a campfire as they "might get burned." Scouts are really a joke in some places. So glad yours is not one of them!
Now that I've reached the bottom of the bottle but...
thanks for the info. I love this product and so did my mom. The funeral director asked what my mom used on her skin as it was in such good shape and she was a beach goer. Oh well, back to Vaseline! Any other brand name this goes by? I have used the CVS brand also thinking it is Olay with a private label of CVS.
Now that I've reached the bottom of the bottle but...
thanks for the info. I love this product and so did my mom. The funeral director asked what my mom used on her skin as it was in such good shape and she was a beach goer. Oh well, back to Vaseline! Any other brand name this goes by? I have used the CVS brand also thinking it is Olay with a private label of CVS.
So what you are saying is we've reached our limit? That we don't deserve any more kindness?
That's how you operate in life? You just deem people unworthy of your time, your kindness?
You know, curious girl, isn't asking you for money or a place to live or anything except for a few kind words on a freaking screen!!! How difficult is that?!!?!?! You act like she's knocking on your blasted door and begging you to help her. She's not asking you to do anything but LISTEN!!
My God! You people are incredibly callus. I feel sorry for you.
When my arms no longer reached the keyboard, I was suspicious.
I then lapsed into a coma and didn't wake up until there was a strange person with spiked orange hair in my kitchen, demanding the keys to my car. It was either a burglar or my child - I don't know. They've never come back with the car, but that's not proof of anything so I haven't filed a police report yet.
and yer point? - many MTs are 55+...in the USA....
However, to the Jean Stapleton responder, Jean isn't Jewish *lol*
E-Bay will never help at this point. Way too
soon. Most sellers do not write and let you know its shipped - the old days, perhaps, but not now. E-Bay and Paypal both use 10 days out, I believe, as the earliest you should start to fret at all - its only up to the seller to ship immediately and/or let the buyer know. I've been dealing with E-Bay since its inception, and we are also Power Sellers - unless the seller has a lot of negatives, I would just chill. If they did have negatives, you should not have dealt with them. I am assuming the seller didn't have negatives, and just is not going to be rushed. Its really lost the personal touch of the old days, and you are nothing more than an invisible entity buying something thru the mail. Not the way we do business, but the way most business is done now on E-Bay. Good luck!
And your point would be??
Any drug company whether Merck or another making the drug would, duh, naturally make a profit. I think that is why pharmaceutical companies are in the business or am I missing something here?
I think his point was that
for things like STD's or perhaps a vaccine for boys to keep them from giving girls STD's in the first place, MAYBE keep them from getting prostate cancer. He just wondered if the drug companies are working as hard on these things for young boys or if, once again, they are putting the burden on females.
She's got a point though!
You cannot hold a job down and have a child on one knee. You need both hands to type. Time and time again, these posters get on here and ask how to do it? I don't think Minnie is too way off track here. I mean, you have to set boundaries. You can't expect to coddle a toddler or infant all day and type at the same time. She'll have to make some changes if she's not getting the support from her hubby. Not everyone has family to fall back on for babysitting needs, but the OP sounds like she'd be better off getting a job on-site and taking her children to daycare as they may receive better treatment. Sounds like a lot of hostility in that household, which cannot be very good for the children. Some changes need to be made and quick before it escalates into something worse. It is not fair to the children.
I think you do have a point, but sm
the same goes for married people. When I got married my coworkers wanted to know when we planned to start a "family". So once we started the "family" they wanted to know if we planned on having an only child or having more children? It never ends. Some people are, well. "nosey". They like to know everyone's business. It gives them something to fill the voids in their lives I would guess. I wouldn't worry to much about mixing with this crowd too much. Sometimes I wonder if being single isn't more "hip" now than it was in the past. Have fun and enjoy. Life is too short!
my point exactly--sm
by the way this person keeps pushing this stuff about koreans teaching anti-americanism, it makes you think that this was the reason this kid did this, which is just not the case. I'm glad to know there are others that feel the way I do!
my point exactly! nm
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You have to look at it from their point of
If you loan out money/credit and someone promises to pay, and this happens with several borrowers, you cannot afford to give much in the way of leniency.
They are in the business to make money.
I feel for you. Unfortunately, too many people live check to check or beyond their means and it only takes 1 foul up to do this to them.
Your best bet is to work hard to put yourself into a place where you don't have to worry about it.
My point exactly!
It is the craziest thing- I will never understand it. Do they not realize that they are not only encouraging people to declare bankruptcy but in a sense actually rewarding them for it?!?
But you know, I think it comes back to what I was saying earlier- they just write it all off so they really don't care if the money comes from you or not. They always get their money one way or another. Grrrrrr!!!
What is your point? nm
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yep, my point exactly (OP)
Teaching them in life they will always be rewarded for something...NOT! I think an award should genuinely be earned and I'm sorry if all the kids don't get one...they just need to work harder and earn it...
That's my point (sm)
If it's backwoodsy, so what? This is the gab board. People chat. You don't think asking if somebody's young and calling her dearie is being the grammar police or a little hateful first thing in the morning? She *was* referring to a childhood event, and yeah, children itch their itches sometimes where I'm from.
Odd turns of phrase are still to be found in all parts of the country and on a board like this are going to turn up in "casual conversation." Some of us still have our "work vocabulary" and our "casual vocabulary," and they're not always the same.
Did you have to point it out to her? - LOL
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Cat gets his point across
A cat has needs and he won't be denied. See link.
you have a point....
I was just under the assumption that they didn't have children together and thought the "what ifs" might be getting to her. But if she does have children with him, hopefully he is the kind of father who will include his children in all aspects of his life and not try to hide them from his "new" family. It is just a really tough situation when kids are involved. It is so sad in my own circumstance. But I totally see this side of things now.
YES I HAVE, and that was exactly my point. sm
I KNEW what i was talking about. HE had no clue, SHE had no clue, I was being REALISTIC. She didn't want to accept that maybe just maybe he had gotten himself into something more than he could handle. Did ANYBODY read her original post??????
I have it. Your point?
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You do have a point
I really do not want to work outside of the home now and there just aren't many options where I live anyway but maybe I can find something with a little more responsibility and use other skills I have like leadership, etc. I actually got spark there inside when I thought about it.  Thanks!
Point taken....
however, you can be retired and taking care of yourself and still not think of your kids as burdens. They are grown with lives of their own. That is great, but when you get annoyed by their phone call to the point where you consider having the answering machine pick up and maybe even disconnecting the phone.......that is just extreme. She really needs to stand back and count her blessings and enjoy her retirement as well as her kids.
What point...that they don't have to put up
with insults and lies from people like you.
You contracticted yourself so many times...i used to post good about the moderators then later say this is the first and last post I'll ever do...ya ya, troll elsewhere.
Mod, just want to point out it is not me with the
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Exactly my point !
I'm sick of the negativity about this job - if you don't like it,don't come here to p*ss and moan, go somewhere else.
Exactly my point
If you don't like it, you don't have to come here and read it either!
You aren't going to change the way the hundreds of posters are here...you'd be better off changing what you do rather than complaining about others.
Looks like you are just asking for an argument, I won't be providing it any further.
Point
Who pi__ed in your Wheaties this morning? Geez. Someone was just venting, something we all have been doing. There is a difference between moaning and actually fearing the loss of a job and the loss of income we have all experienced with ASR.
my point...
And MY POINT IS that it doesn't matter what the breed of the dog is! Could've happened regardless of the breed of the dog. And just about ANY dog would growl, bark, nip, bite if it was abused.... wouldn't you if you were the dog being abused??? And who leaves an elderly frail person with 3 large dogs??? That's like leaving a toddler with 3 large dogs REGARLESS OF THE BREED! We have always had large dogs, but when my grandfather got elderly we had to watch the dogs around him cuz they would get caught up playing and trip him & he would fall to the ground and hurt himself, so leaving an elderly person by themselves is not a good idea with 3 large dogs, and that's my point also!
Well you do have a point there...
I'd love to be waited on, pampered, spending their money...yeah! But I'd probably be the one on the other end who gets the crappy, nasty family. couldn't handle that...
The point I see here...sm
If her son won the Wii, he is the one who still should receive something for "winning" a prize in the first place. Am I missing something here? 
but my point was...
that a locked door does not keep people out of the house. My dog does, though...
To get to this point...sm
flylady.net if you are interested.
took me about 4 months...keeping in mind that I was no longer a clutterbug, thanks to flylady years ago. I have been redoing a house for about 2-1/2 years and had finally completed the master bedroom and bath, making it easier to start getting onto other things (I only have kitchen counter and floor to do, and a bathroom facelift).
Mostly I have found that flylady is a mindset and if you can't get into the mindset, you are not ready just yet. It is a dedication to all the other things in your life and working very hard at minimizing housework to have more time for the far more important things in your life. You have to be ready to tackle your problem areas 15 minutes at a time, lessen the clutter in your life and let go of old habits. Clutter breeds depression and depression breeds more clutter. It is about opening up your heart and mind to abundance, because it is the feelings of lack and shortage that keep you tied to the junk you don't use, don't love and don't need. It will improve your entire life, not just your house.
I think the point is . . . .
If you're using your credit card to purchase stuff because you don't have the cash, then you can't really afford it. You're planning on paying it off/down when this new deal comes in May and you'll be making more income. What if that doesn't happen? Where will you be then?
A poster above said what she learned from her father was the best. If you can't pay cash, then you can't afford it. I learned that lesson the HARD way.
Why not? That's the point, Who was
named as beneficiaries on the insurance policy? In every policy there must be a beneficiary named. I guess, most probably his wife and his 2 children, NOT the sister!
As the state could not find them, very mysterious!!! and the sister did not help, she (username: Interesting!), the sister, took all the money!
Strange, strange!!!
Well you see the whole point was that
I didn't expect it, so I was trying to let people know, because $50 might be a significant part of, say, a grocery budget, for those of us who are struggling.
It all adds up. I'm not exaggerating about the college tuition. Poof - the equivalent of that is now being deducted.
Here's another point to consider
I have found that my 16yo son will stay in much better contact with me with texting. He is more apt to tell me when and where he is going if he moves from one place to another. I figure this saves face for him in front of his friends--no one has to know he is talking to his "mommy" (he can also discretely let me know who he is with when I ask). Our rule is if you always answer your phone/text messages when you are out and about, you earn much more freedom.
Point taken
I love and use slang as much as the next guy, but don't try to pass it off as the Queen's English. But you are correct; I allowed boredom to get the better of me and continued it well past the point where I should have gone into ignore mode.
myself at one point (sm)
When my stepson was 9, he decided that he could not longer live with his mother, who was extremely emotionally abusive to him, which is a long heartbreaking story on it's own, but he insisted he lived with us. Well, we lived in a 1-bedroom apartment and both worked. When he came home from school, he came into the apartment, locked the door and waited for me to come home at about 4:30, so he were there for an hour by himself. I would have quit my job to be home, but we just could not afford to do that. One day SS came knocking before I came home from work and he would not let them in. He was under strict instructions not to open the door. He called me and I came right home. They came in and looked around and asked a few questions. Their only conclusion was that we needed a bigger place, which we were already in the process of looking for. We were not planning on having him live with us and they understood the situation. They were very kind and respectful to us and were impressed that he would not let them in. We moved a few weeks later. The sad part was his mother called not because she was fearing for his safety, but because she wanted to make our lives miserable. She really could not have cared less about him. Now he is 20, a senior in college and doing extremely well. He would not give a hill of beans for his "mother." Your kids will understand and you might be able to make some headway in a custody case with all of his nonsense. When we went to court for custody of him, all of her harrassment and calling the cops and SS and such really looked bad for her. She lost hands down. We did not even have an attorney. It was really cut and dry. When they come, be honest and encourage your children to be honest as well. It sounds like you have nothing to worry about. I was also just absolutely mortified when they came though, but it all worked out. 
what exactly is your point? nm
Exactly my point.
I liked both Dom Deluise and Bea Arthur too. Barely a mention. As a matter of fact, didn't even know either of them had died until now.
Was MJ ever convicted of child molestation, or was that first case settled out of court? Regardless, he was accused of it at least twice. Whether or not he did it, he was a grown man and a celebrity no less and should have known better. He could very well be a sex offender and he's getting a statement from the White House! (rolling eyes). Sure, he had a rough childhood. So did I. I'm an *adult* now and not out having affairs or little boys in my bed.
Regardless, he was a very trouble person. Nobody alters their appearance that much for no reason. I think he would have benefitted from a lot of psychotherapy.
good point...sm
except, in my opinion, the only thing they, organized religeon i.e., churches, are trying to *convert* is money out of our pockets and into theirs. I have felt for a long time that the word of God is free and that a lot of these *churches* feel they need to charge for their *services*, and I feel I can attain spirituality by my own studying and researching, rather than having to *conform* to what someone elses idea of God's word is. again, just my opinion. I don't open the door to these people either.
Good point. Thank you for the
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just trying to point out that the OP mentioned--sm
specifically that the franchise she was talking about began with the letter D and the above poster said "if you are talking about Pizza Hut..." shows how much they read these posts. lol.
I agree with the others to a point, BUT
there is a chance for you to make this happen. The only way I see it happening is if he leaves his girlfriend and is by himself for a bit. This way you are not hurting anyone and you know he can be by himself. Don't give in because it isn't the right thing to do unless you don't care about what is right and wrong or who gets hurts. If it is meant to be, then he can leave her, get his life straightened out, and then you can develop a healthy relationship.
Just my 2 cents...
It's not the fact that she maybe has a point
in that post, but the fact that she takes every opportunity to jump on any person here who works at home with children and makes broad generalizations about how we do our job and how we don't.
Me, personally, I did this to stay home. I however did not work full time when my kids were babies. There is no way I feel like I could have. I am working full time now that they are out of the house in school. Yet, I was accused of being one of those "unprofessionals."
I agree the OP needs to find another solution, because the one she has isn't working.
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