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Posted By: this guy is using you doll !!!! nm on 2008-06-25
In Reply to: Would you think someone was lying if they said this? (sm) - Gullible?MT
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My granddaughter's birthday in June, hope to get some favors, etc. I hate to jump on the bandwagon as I don't like all this stuff of kids growing up too soon. I hate to see them get out of princess and Cinderella. Oh well, any ideas on how to get ahead of the game - only the 1 and 2 grades invited, I find it sad that they don't have good old fashioned values but guess I'm history. PS: They do go to church, etc., for those who are ready to attack with other ideations. Peer pressure, sick of it all. Nice girls, pure and simple but getting into the bogus world of peer pressure. Confused!!
LOL to both those posters. I wish I were
clever enough to think of something... but more gullible, I would be the recipient of such a trick. This is why I work at home. :)
I'm not referring to the posters...sm
who disagree as being busybodies, but people who make a stink about this issue in general...Never said it was the disagreeing posters who are the busybodies...read carefully....
You know, I don't know, but I would tend to believe the other posters have hit
the nail on the head that it is a comfort zone and perhaps he cannot or will not be without a woman. He is not terribly outgoing, so I do suspect he has esteem issues of his own. In any case, I think I will follow the advice here and wait and see what life brings and not try to settle for less than.
Agree with other posters, plus...
She was punished in school. Unless something really, really bad (which thankfully never happened), I would let school behavior be dealt with at school and home behavior dealt with at home. However, I let my kids know that in no uncertain terms, the teacher had my blessing in dealing with them in the appropriate manner (pretty scary lol).
But I have to say, and please do not take offense, but she wanted a book... not a toy... for some reason that just breaks my heart. I guess because my daughter loves books and they are her world (now an English major with college professor aspirations).
Anyhow, no one is perfect, kids nor parents.
I was one of the posters in the dicsussion below
and I said that I asked my 14yr old DD how many girls she knew that were pregnant. She said 0. She just finished middle school and will start high school with my DS this fall. Picked him up from Washington DC yesterday and told him about the discussion. He will be a junior this fall. Asked him how many girls were preggers and he said if it is not a rumor, then 13. I was shocked. Guess I was being fooled by many. But once again, I do know some really good girls, my DD included.
So I will apologize to both posters
the one who called me looney and the other who called me juvenile. Sorry if I offended you both...I find this board to be both a comfort and a place I can vent and hopefully help those who ask for advice or help with terminology. I don't want to come off as rude...I was just feeling a little hurt, as I would never call someone here a negative name, as I feel we are commrades...Hope that makes sense....I will shut up now and let this go...Just feeling sad that my good intentions turned sour. No hard feelings? None here.
I'd have to agree with the other posters.
He sounds very controlling. I was married to that and it took me 13 years to get away from the mental abuse and longer to "regroup." My situation was extreme. I grew up in a household in the days where "the man was the boss and you did what they said." So, when I married young, I viewed my husband as my "boss" or "master" and I was supposed to do as he said and NEVER talk back. I was allowed no friends, could not socialize or work outside of the home because other men may be at the place I might work. I was timed when I went to the grocery store and one time I took too long and he locked me it of the house..it was my son's birthday.. He also watched our house from his work with binoculars so he would know when and if I left the house and if any men came over. Well, after finally getting a job, getting out in the "real" world, I found out that people didn't live that way. The women I worked with actually had friends, could have lunch with them etc.. I remember them all inviting me out to lunch while at work, and I remember being terrified that he'd "catch" me out somewhere other than work and I would get in trouble. Once, I figured out this treatment was wrong, I decided to fight back, and the first time I talked back, he went nuts..threatening to cut off all my hair so no one would want me if I left him etc..This insanity continued until God came me the strength to leave. The first thing I did was enroll in college at age 27, having never even finished high school, but I was ready for college and I knew I had to do it if I ever wanted to get out of there and support myself. He made my life so miserable while I went to school and most days I just wanted to quit and give up, but I didn't. I just kept going and thank goodness. Long story short. I started my life over at 30 and have never looked back. I was single for 8 years before I got married again. It took me that long to fix myself so that I would never again put up with that crap. So, NOW, I'm the boss and it's my way or I'll slap his beak off LOL. On a serious note, I don't mean to pass judgment but your husband sounds too controlling and it's time to stand up now or forever hold your peace. I remember being called a fat a#$#$@# when I weighed 120 lb. I was scared to eat and get fat because he berated me. Mind you, this man got to 325 lb but I was the fat a#$#$#@.. Yes, life is good now. I'm my own person and married to the man of my dreams and who worships the ground I walk on..the way it should be...LOL Best wishes to you. No one deserves to be treated less than equal.
Yeah they do need posters over there
I've already got in trouble for posting that it was boring over there and got an e-mail that was rather defensive because I even said it and I did say it nicely.
There are no job ads; same ole Diskriter, Focus...
Same posters all the time... blah, blah 
I've tried several times to seem interested, but it's just the same ole boring stuff.. This board is much more exciting and informative.
I agree with the posters below.
You need to move closer to family and see a doctor. You can also find the local social services department and they will provide free medications for 6 months. you will have to see one of their doctors but and fill out some paperwork but that's the only catch.
Depression is higher around the holidays. The weather, finances, family, on top of every day stresses can be overwhelming. Being in this antisocial job doesn't help either. I have often thought of getting something a few days a week just to get out of the house. I think it would do anyone good.
Know that things could always be worse and they will get better. Your grandson is young, he doesn't understand but will some day. Even if he had 30 presents, he would still think "where's the rest" as this is a common occurrence in kids. I thought it was only my child but since have found many others are the same.
Keep your head up and do what you can. It's ok to cry and vent to others. Don't keep it all bottled up inside. You will be surprised to find who your true friends and family are when you open up and really need them.
I agree with the other posters.
Definitely go up atleast 1 size.
I am pregnant now. I haven't even had a shower yet and everyone is giving me newborn stuff. I guess it is what everyone likes to give but forget that they are not in them very long.
If anyone else gave her diapers for her shower or just to be nice when they come to see the baby, odds are they will give her newborns. I have also heard that some hospitals allow you to take home with you what newborn diapers are left in the room on discharge so she may have those too. I'm sure it is not a lot but it all adds up.
I agree with most of the other posters.
I have an 11yo stepson. At his biomom's house he stays home alone for about an hour by himself after school and rides the bus home. He has been doing it since 3rd grade and he is still scared out of his mind when he does. We have talked about safety and all the rest with him to make sure he can make the best decision possible when home alone because it is out of our control. We do not leave him alone during our parenting time. He is a great kid but this doesn't have as much to do with him as with other people. You can't trust anyone. When it comes down to it, a kid will be a kid and when people get scared they forget things. He does have 3 teachers from his school that live on the same street and the walk from the bus is not far but things can happen very quickly and you don't know who you can trust these days.
I agree with most of the posters below, but I would
also like to add that it sounds like he needs a job or some form of exercise and male companionship. If he's not currently working, I take it that financially it's not hurting you. Therefore, it doesn't matter if he takes a minimum wage job -- clerking at a hardware store, etc. This will give him some self-worth, get him out of your hair and hopefully give him an outlet to talk about some of these world topics.
If he doesn't want to take a job, he should consider joining a gym. Exercise releases endorphins which makes you feel happy. It would also help with his figure. Maybe you could get a couples rate and go together. My hubs and I just joined our local gym. So far, we haven't gotten to go together because of the kids, but we both go separately with a friend.
I know what you mean about living in a small town. We live in a very small town -- population about 7000, 1 grocery store, 1 hardware store, 2 convenience stores, 2 dollar stores and a couple pizza/sandwich shops. But if you really want something, you'll find it. Maybe he just needs a gentle push.
If all else fails, you could give a call to his doctor and let him know about how he's been acting. His doctor could then discuss things with him (without letting him know that you've talked to him) and maybe prescribe some medication or run some tests that could find a medical cause for his negativity.
Good luck -- and as I said, I agree with what the other posters have said about changing yourself. My dad was the same way after he retired, but then he got a part-time job delivering furniture locally and joined the gym. He's a lot better now and my mom's grateful that he "talks" with his coworkers about some of the stuff he was bugging her with.
To the 2 posters who gave me info on WW ...
The Points system is the best. I'm joined the online program and keep my points tracker open all day.
Thanks for giving the information you did.
I agree with you; don't understand all these other posters
It's not like he is 4 or 5; he is 10.
True. Look at posters to this board who take bad
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If this is so boring - why bother? they need posters over there can't you tell
by this thread?
Well, he WAS a prophet. Shame on cruel posters.
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Yeah, and it's always the ever-so-resentful posters who can't STAND sm
the fact that we are work-at-home MOMs!
I am so sick and tired of reading all of these negatives posts from those supermom's or those who abhor children, who sit on their high-horse and can't believe that we work at home with our children here. My children are very well behaved, very intelligent, LOVE ME BEING HERE, and I work doing MT and have been for about 8 years now.
Never, and I mean never, have I seen children with work-at-home parents kill someone, kill themself, become a drug addict, etc. Never. The ones that I see with all the issues are those parents who are A-B-S-E-N-T. Yes, I am yelling. I am just so sick and tired of all the backlash and negativity against us stay-at-home moms.
I think you are guiding your anger towards the wrong people. I don't know if your parents dropped you off somewhere when you were little, but you definitely have a problem to be so against us - and go so far as to call us inprofessional to be working from home. I have an idea. Why don't you NOT worry about us stay-at-home, work-at-home moms because your arguments carry absolutely no merit whatsoever. None.
As moms or dads, we are here. With them. And it does matter. They are thriving. I wouldn't have it any other way.
Before you start printing up posters and plastering
them all over town, campus, et cetera... remember there IS a little girl involved here with very tender feelings.
How long ago was his conviction or was it an accusation? What is the history behind the charges?
I beg you to PLEASE check with authorities and possibly a grief counselor for advice BEFORE you destroy a little girl who may have absolutely no idea of her father's past.
Posters here are giving great advice
I would definitely stash the savings before she got her hands on it. AND, I do believe she needs some help. Overspending can be a sign of a chemical imbalance. At the least, she needs budget counseling. You have to think past the moment, to the years ahead when you are both old and could possibly be broke.
We live in a double-wide trailer, older, but it is nice, and we are fixing it up room by room. Our mortgage is smaller than what rent would be. This is a conscious choice for us, knowing that if you choose the big fancy house, the big fancy payment comes with it. If you are already struggling, please stay where you are. I think you knew your answer before you asked us, just wanted affirmation, and all of the posters are wise on their advice. Best of luck to you.
Are you harsh posters cops or parents?
A little late to post, but here's my idea as a mom of 5. Get her out of the house, some place public, Starbucks or the bookstore - a place where she won't storm off and you'll both be civil to each other at least for a few minutes. Tell her you love her, be understanding and really talk to her. Ask her what is going on in her life, is she stressed about something in particular? Don't alienate her. There is a lot of life ahead for you both and this is not a permanent condition for her. If ALL you do is punish you risk sending her off in a bad direction. At the end of the conversation it may seem you got nowhere, but she'll think about things and hopefully be a bit less impulsive. Please post back and let us know how things go.
Posters are correct, child support diff from visitation
Just because a parent is behind on child support does NOT mean you lost your visitation rights, even if you went to court and tried making restitution. What the courts might do is GARNISH your salary (if employed) with some going towards back child support. I am not sure if all states are the same, but I would think they are on this subject, but again, I'm not sure. Florida works this way though, this I can assure you.
Picture -- I got it!
Are we there yet???? Woof
She took a picture of him NM
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Picture?
Test. Made Avatar that picture. If it does not show still would someone explain how to do that please
Here is the picture.
Finally. I was forgetting to put in the profile ID.
The big picture is what happens to the cat (sm)
or any other pet for that matter, when we move them onto someone else. Is there a guarantee they will find a good home--or a home that gives them as much TLC as you do?
I had a young cat that went right through my screen windows...I mean RIGHT THROUGH the darned screens to get outside and then used them to get back in! Ruined at least 5 of them. I thought about a cat door, but there are other critters out in these parts I do not want coming into the house to sneak a snack, so nixed that idea. I tried to see if he'd like being a barn cat and staying outsite 24/7 with a nice warm barn to sleep and nope, he wanted in (hence the crashing through the screens). He also shredded the rubber seals around both my doors.
I could just pawn him off on a shelter in an area where feral cats are up the wazoo knowing there was a good chance he would be euthanized if not adopted within the 14-day limit, or give him away to some unknown person (tales of cats being used for coyote bait do exist up here), or put up with the destruction for however long he lived.
My little niece came up to visit from out of state one summer and fell in love with this PIA of a cat. They were inseparable. She asked her parents if they could take him home and they said yes. I packed up his little kitty carrier with all his toys, some food, health records, and kissed him goodbye. She sends me pictures and is always updating me with his antics. He doesn't crash through their windows and follows my niece around like a puppydog. It's been 3 years now and thankfully it all worked out beautifully.
If I were in your shoes, love him, and could guarantee a lifetime indoor home for him, I'd have him declawed. The alternative could be much, much worse.
This definitely not my picture
The grandchildren on son's side only grandchildren I have. I have a daughter that I possibly see every 3 or 4 months- no shopping trips, occasional lunch out. When my grandson born (older than the GD) I asked if before going to the maternal GMs house after delivery if they would stop by the house for a minute so I could hold- had never even held the child (after being asked to not visit in the hospital 1 night, mother tired and then told next day G-aunt and maternal GM both there the previous night, held and diapered!) and told no, I could come over later to hold the G-son. Waited, waited, called and told to wait longer as others (including aunts, cousins, etc.) still holding. This started right from the get go. I always from the day my son married knew and expected for his wife to come first, before me, no question there- the only thing is I would have thought I could have at least shared some of the g-children. Before my last marriage I was charged for any and all things done at my home by my son, grands and the like- not the other side. Why would I be treated any different? This family on DIL's side have no outside friends- they are their own friends and socalize all together. I have always been last and I just finally accepted. Oh, by the way, did not tell about my DIL stealing money from me- I never ever mentioned that to my son nor others- I would certainly not be believed. She also hurt my credit for 7 years- allowed her to use 1 of my cards- she bought things for her G-mom and g-mom paid but DIL kept that money instead of paying the bill. This again I never said anything about, always just thinking well if I say anything, not believed and could keep the kids away always, now just threw in that ole towel!
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Why would we laugh? I love the cheetah print - I'm such a diva at times or was in my younger, much thinner years! You are a very pretty woman with a few years of maturity behind you. I wouldn't want to be in my 20's or 30's again for all the tea in China. Great picture. Thanks
My dad took a picture of my new car.
I got my Yaris a couple of weeks ago, and he took this picture for me last Sunday. If you are looking for an excellent little car that gets great gas mileage, you might like one of these too.
Another picture
Here is another picture of Santahoe
They should take another picture
using their hands to sign the L on the forehead (as in LOSER) and send that to the police dept and the school administration. Maybe that would get a message across.
see picture
(I know this should probably be on the main board, but could not see how to upload the image.)
THIS IS WHERE YOU CALL WHEN YOU HAVE TECHNICAL PROBLEMS.
THIS IS INDIA......
the big picture
They have lower prices because they do not pay their employees a living wage, do not provide benefits, etc., etc., etc. They are what is wrong with this country today. They did to retail what MTSOs are doing to us. And people are eating it up. They go into a town and drive all the other businesses out. People have no choice but to work there. Then they pay them crappy wages with no benefits so they can keep costs low. you are supporting an industry that does to its people what we are complain about in ours. Americans should boycott WalMart and force them to pay their employees decently and force them to provide benefits. WalMart was named time after time as the biggest offender in this regard. About 80% of their employees have no insurance because they keep them working "part time" (32 to 36 hours) and then don't have to give them benefits or when they offer the benefits they price them so the people can't afford to pay for them. Do some research on them. you may not like what you find. And try to find American made products there. Why do people not see that sometimes saving a buck costs $10 in the end. Cut off your nose to spite your face, as my mom would have said.
Let's see if I can do this - pug picture
This is Maggie. She is so sweet!!
I also had a picture up with me 35 pounds
heavier. it was not pretty. That was my motivation. by the way, I will walk 2 miles a day and have been doing so for 8 years to keep the poundage off.
here is her picture - her name is Gracie
http://abcnews.go.com/US/wireStory?id=3018035
I've had 2 dobies, both with ears down, 1 with a tail, devoted and loving. I cannot get past this. There is a way to make sure this human waste never does this again....
How about a picture frame that your
I know you can also find stuffed animals that record messages. I'm sure a sediment directly from your son using his "voice" would surely make her smile and know that she has done her job. If I were a speech therapist, the sweetest thing to my ears would be your son's voice. JMO.
Oh--an AVATAR picture! Well, that I can help with!
The key there is SIZE of the picture--has to be 100x100 pixels. If you need help, you are welcome to e-mail me your picture and I will re-size it for you and send it back. Just click on my name to send it to me. If you already have it resized and ready to go, just go into your profile (which for some reason you can only edit when you post a message) and upload it directly from your computer.
Posting Picture.
Instead of posting a Quick Reply. Click the Button after follow ups "Post Reply to This Message", see the form there and you will find a box at the bottom -> Image:, where you can directly put your http:// link to image.
I saw a picture of a man from Albania...
Inside the huge cage, was a big pig (animal) and the man's wife sitting/squatting right next to the pig......
THIS is HOW THESE types of men treat their women..........
Everyday I'm glad I was born and raised in the USA and believe me I thank GOD DAILY for that....
From the picture you paint, it is SM
hopeless. No man wants to get divorced. This may sound funny, but they don't. Even if they hate the woman they are married to. I should know. I was a perfect housekeeper, but everything you said in your note applied to me. May have been married to the same man!
If you have been to counseling four times, I would say you gave it your best shot.
However, how old are your children? It is very hard raising kids alone. Can you stay there until they are older? High school? I was a long suffering woman, until my daughter graduated from high school. I am much older and we were taught to stay for the sake of the children.
Believe me, I know it is not easy to leave; but it does get a LOT easier once the children are grown.
You have a lot to think about and my heart goes out to you, because I was once where you are.
How to post a picture
First, the picture has to be on the internet. There are a lot of photosharing sites like Photobucket (that's the one I use), Flickr, Webshots, etc.
The photo sharing site will give you a link you can use to post the picture. You have to use the "Post Reply to this Message!" instead of "Post QUICK Reply."
At the bottom, you will see three boxes:
URL/Link:
Link Title:
Image Link:
To post a picture, copy and paste the link for your picture in the "Image Link" box.
If you want to post a clickable link for a website, copy and paste the link in the "URL/Link" box, and you can put the name of the website in the "Link Title" box.
Hope this helps. 
Hmmm.... you and Jan have exactly the same picture and
scripture at the bottom of each page. Let me see- are you the same???
I don't know how to post a picture.
If I e-mail a picture, does anybody know how to put the picture in so everybody can see it? Or do I have to have it in a website (which I don't have).
**PICTURE of ER-MTs dog Chance**
I want his life!
**Picture of ER-MTs cat Nala!**
What is it with cats and Christmas trees?! Such a riot--she looks tweeked that you caught her doing that!
Great picture and
a beautiful baby to be proud of.
What a beautiful picture!!!
Looks like a wonderful place, what beautiful scenery! Thanks for sharing.
Here is a better picture of my baby! - sm
with his long tongue hanging out!
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