I think you are very thoughtful. -sm

Posted By: independent on 2008-12-23
In Reply to: see above post, it kind of addressed what you said too! - Emily Ayn

It seems you really do love and care about his feelings, but are honest about your own concerns that things wont work. I have been married for 13 years. My husband is much more social by nature than I am. We deal with it by compromising. I give him the freedom to go out with friends. I have girlfriends too that I have dinner with. As long as you are BOTH secure in your relationship with each other, you should not feel guilty just because you are different as individuals. However, he will need to compromise too and understand that there are times where friends and neighbors might come over for a barbecue... and...gee, that is not asking much from him if he truly loves you. Just talk privately with him. That is what we do. We communicate about everything. You can work out any of this if you love each other enough. Many times opposites attract and find they bring out the best in one another. Sorry if I sound like 'Dear Abby' or something. Anyway, talking about this with him should not have to lead to bickering. Make it clear to him that you want to discuss these things because you love him and want BOTH of you to be happy. It is better to be totally honest with him now about your own feelings... Good luck and best wishes.

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If you truly "love" someone, do you give up your own happiness for them? - Emily Ayn
- My secret to happiness what something my grandma - They said what
- No. It is not good to sacrifice or marter yourself -sm -
- The other side of the coin (sm) - anon
- What you see is what you'll get. - Margo
- DH and I are polar opposites and married for 24 years. - Lllls
- It's likely going to cause friction - Misha
- hanging out with other - couples
  - He doesn't like going out... - Emily Ayn
    - think about down the road - sj
    - harsh - couples
      - Wow - I don't think you understand personalities. - Misha
        thanks for your understanding - Emily Ayn
      - how did i even imply it was his fault? - Emily Ayn
        mom - couples
        Sterile at the age of 30!! - Emily Ayn
        live and let live - couples
- It you are truly in love with the other - jd
  - see above post, it kind of addressed what you said too! - Emily Ayn
    - I think you are very thoughtful. -sm - independent

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