I think you are taking this out of context...I originally asked about my in-laws basically coming ov
Posted By: MtMom30 on 2007-10-31
In Reply to: My news is on here, just sounds like you and where you live - La lander
and then the issue of locking doors and security gets brought up...why is it you can't post something on these boards without it being blown out of proportion???
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Just FYI on in-laws dog taking aspirin
My mother-in-law has been giving the dog one aspirin every day for about a year now. It is a bigger size dog, probably about 45 to 50 pounds. The dog definitely has something wrong with its brain because of the way it acts. I worry he will turn on them one day. Anyway, apparently aspirin doesn't kill dogs, at least this one anyway.
I don't know current laws or laws in your state but sm
I was told they had to have 3 complaints before they paid a visit so just relax now that you did your cleaning and are prepared. Always best to prepare for the worst! Good luck to you with the divorce. I could have said your story!
context is everything
I also stand by what I said.
If the girl we are talking about is African American, then great. It puts her somewhat more in that context but not entirely. You don't know anything about this girl, including whether or not she has any other symptoms, like Tanner 4. The original poster did not mention this.
& I hate to punch a hole in what you learned at the health food store about normal bodily functions, but large breasts on a very young girl WOULD be a symptom. (Like I said, context is everything.) I'm not saying she has this, I'm saying I don't know enough about the situation, & possibly neither do the people closest to her (& certainly you don't, & apparently you wouldn't want to, so thank heaven you are not her mother), to make a diagnosis that absolutely nothing is wrong.
"Only someone who knows zilch about a young girl..."
I WAS a young girl. Now I'm a woman in an allied health profession who is extremely well read, not only because I'm an MT but because I have a master's degree in a health-related field. I don't do most of my research on MTStars or on Google.
"...and listen you sounds like a school marm."
Like I said, I hope this is also the sign a hangover, for the sake of your account.
Were it my daughter, I would sacrifice my reputation as a non school marm to make sure everything is okay. If I assume nothing is wrong & do nothing & nothing actually is wrong, then everything is fine. If I assume nothing is wrong & do nothing & something actually is wrong, I'm (or actually, she's) the one who will suffer. That's a risk I wouldn't be willing to take. Small action, possibly enormous consequence. The original poster, her grandmother, didn't post for nothing. She knows her family & has a feeling something is not right, & if information will assuage this, I think she's right to investigate via whatever means she has at her disposal.
I also think that something about what I said really pushed a button of yours, because your response seems way out of proportion. What on earth are you projecting?
context is everything
I also stand by what I said.
If this is an African-American girl we are talking about, then great. It puts her somewhat more in that context but not entirely. You don't know anything about this girl, including whether or not she has any other symptoms, like breasts that are large for her age or body hair or whatever. The original poster did not mention any of this.
& I hate to punch a hole in what you learned at the health food store about normal bodily functions, but large breasts on a very young girl WOULD be a symptom. (Like I said, context is everything.) I'm not saying she has this, I'm saying I don't know enough about the situation, & possibly neither do the people closest to her (& certainly you don't, & apparently you wouldn't want to, so thank heaven you are not her mother), to make a diagnosis that absolutely nothing is wrong.
"Only someone who knows zilch about a young girl..."
I WAS a young girl. Now I'm a woman in an allied health profession who is extremely well read, not only because I'm an MT but because I have a master's degree in a health-related field. I don't do most of my research on MTStars or on Google.
"...and listen you sounds like a school marm."
I hope this is also the sign of a hangover, for the sake of your account.
Were it my daughter, I would sacrifice my reputation as a non school marm to make sure everything is okay. If I assume nothing is wrong & do nothing & nothing actually is wrong, then everything is fine. If I assume nothing is wrong & do nothing & something actually is wrong, she's the one who will suffer. That's a risk I wouldn't be willing to take. Small action, possibly enormous consequence. The original poster, her grandmother, didn't post for nothing. She knows her family & has a feeling something is not right, & if information will assuage this, I think she's right to investigate via whatever means she has at her disposal.
I also think that something about what I said really pushed a button of yours, because your response seems way out of proportion. What on earth are you projecting?
You took what I said out of context
I am not angry about the past life. I was answering about being spoiled now after those years and said it was time I was spoiled, only time in my life and late in the game but still good. She was not around then, had nothing to do with that, don’t hold her responsible in any way. I am not even angry anymore about the person who was responsible. I hold no grudges again anyone. I was merely answering the person who was saying I was spoiled. Now do you get it?
I think those things do matter -- it's context
If it were a teacher calling a 16 or 17-year-old student that, then I would be concerned. However, as I said, my son's kindergarten teacher calls him that all the time. She's pushing 60 and he's 6 -- big difference. She's also had my other 2 children and done the same. I'm 34 and when I visit the class, I call the kids the same thing, mainly because I can't remember all their names.
I'd have to guess that if it upsets you, there's probably another reason that it upsets you -- maybe a roving eye or longer-than-you'd-like pats on the back by the teacher? If you have a bad vibe, you should definitely pursue it! Maternal instinct is usually right.
laughing out loud or lots of love depending on the context.
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Hi again...I'm originally from NYC...sm
but family lived in S. FL since the late 1960s....I came in 1980...I believe you that you never ate organ meats! 4 million is a big big city in my mind though.....but I know NYC and S. FL are melting pots, so to speak, and have the most diversity (culturally speaking). My child (now grown) born and raised in S. FL and would never touch liver or any other organ meat for that matter...but then again won't try *new* things either.
I get it about loving beef/pork but lightening up on them today - we learned so much over 30-40 years (raised on beef) that just are not seemingly healthful today.....I eat meat rarely though I will eat it but now when I go out occasionally to a restaurant, I'm choosing fish....mahi mahi for that matter of late and also cooking fish at home now (talapia only so far). Yummmmmmmmm, that mahi mahi was like eating a steak!! *laughs*
Have a GREAT Thanksgiving!! 
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Yes, they are basically against everyone but themselves I think (nm)
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Basically the same as we always have
Swimming in our pool, visiting friends, eating outside on our deck. We go out to dinner every Saturday with friends to get a break from the kids, and this weekend we're going to our local Balloonfest so not much driving involved. Luckily everything is pretty close by and we usually only spend approximately $80 a week on gas for two cars.
I'm originally from WV too and I now live in VA!!...sm
I was born and raised in a little town called Williamson, WV. I moved to Salem, VA in 1985 and still call that home. I am not far from Bluefield. I am actually going to Williamson this weekend to see my parents. Small world.
Originally seen in Pt. Pleasant WV I think
I'm really embarrassed that I know that, but I was born in Morgantown. Plus, everyone always asks me about it when they hear where I'm from.
Originally, you said that if your child...
cannot behave in a restaurant, you should not bring him. Believe me, my child has misbehaved in a restaurant a few times and it is embarassing enough without someone like you looking down her nose. I do not take my children to movies, but in line with your (leave them at home) attitude, you could always rent one. Nobody goes to a restaurant or store or anywhere else expecting her child to throw a fit, but sometimes, it does happen.
This is basically what I have been doing the last few years (sm)
But I don't think he is just going to go away...he has a good job, 401K, and we have a lot of equity in our home...in other words, I would cost to much for him to leave. Even if he has another woman that he is all excited about, the money is very important to him. But basically I have started doing my own thing, not calling him, etc. He has been upset saying that I don't even miss him when he has been gone..he takes all these trips and then we are supposed to have a big party for him every time he comes home. Well, we've been married 14 years - he leaves because he wants to be gone, so I am not going to throw a big party for him every time he comes home.
Well put? It was basically unintelligible...
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Basically you are saying you are not trusting him
now, even before he moves in permanently, otherwise you would not be, as you state, paranoid about his cell phone. Trust is upmost important in a relationship. If you don't have that, it is really doomed from the start. Been married almost 10 years now and never have checked a cellphone, email, nothing that pertains to my husband. I think women sometimes have an extra sense so to say and they know when something is up. Maybe that is what is happening with you. In my case, I have never had 1 minute of worrying about him. In another relationship I knew before I saw or heard. Called women's intuition.
no, scrapple originally came from Germany....
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Scrapple
I am originally from Iowa so I know whatcha mean.
My sister lives there now and is actually Wiccan. Can you imagine how well THAT goes over? LOL!
Originally it was for crate-training - (sm)
one of my cats who is averse to using her litterbox. In the meantime, my other cat decided this would do very nicely as her own, personal little 'condo', so she took it over. She likes it because everything is right there: Food, bed, water, & litterbox. Not to mention a great view of my birdbath outside! ;)
No when I originally wrote the check
The check was a voided check to Wal-Mart and the Loan company, CNH Capital, knew that and cashed it anyway. I thought it was illegal for someone cash a check that did not belong to them.
Originally from south and you have ate 2 more times than me
as I have never even tried them.
originally Michigan now living in the sm
south. you brought up the other things I was thinking when I posted about Vernors. Saunders hot fudge, Faygo, Stroh's ice cream (use to have a Stroh's ice cream shop by the house back in the 70s when in high school) and those wonderful Better Made potato chips!!!!!!!! Hubby was just in Michigan two weeks ago and brought back a bag. Nothing like em!!!!!!
What part of MI are you from? I am from the Pontiac Waterford area, born and raised!
She has basically admitted that the swats
are no punishment, so if you don't make her do the suspension for the 5 tardies, she will have no punishment for it at all, and thus it will probably continue. She'll just take the swats each time. You'll have to sign the paper for it this time and then they'll have it on file and won't ask you about it for further incidents. (BTW, I've got nothing against spanking, but only by a parent in this day and age, and certainly not a 14-year-old.) If she is really concerned about her grade, she'll get to class on time after this suspension.
Basically just lost my son when he married into
my DIL's family. Just sucked him clear in. No time for our side of the family after that, not his g'parents, his maternal side, aunts, uncles, cousins, no one. It was all her side that mattered. I got charged for any work around the home I needed done by my son, he did her family's for free. I tried to be there but never barged into their lives and now not in their lives at all. I do not worry about things anymore, no use in it and just try to work and live my life to my liking. His marriage just kicked me to the curb and it used to hurt but not anymore. I have accepted I do not play a part in my son's life nor his childrens.
I was the originally poster about silly string
what I can remember from the news report was that the silly string is an aerosol can and she was not able to ship it out, but finally someone offered to to help her ship it. I am sure it will be on the news as this just happened within the past few days.
I'm originally from NJ, and I've endured a lot of comments.
If one more person asks me, "Which exit?" I might run him/her over!
And yes, when I was growing up, it was indeed the Garden State. I grew up running through tomato fields and along corn rows. It was wonderful!
I'm originally from Binghamton, but I live in Texas now.
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Friends of our set up their registry at Honeymoonwishes.com. Basically asking everyone to pay for h
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I have some health issues that basically prohibit
a lot of the things I mentioned, bending, stooping, cleaning, etc. and I can afford to have someone and why should I not? Oh, by the way there is a lot of time she watches television, I do not mind and I pay her per hour more than I make an hour so I think for 4 hours here is a good pay. The thing was I only had 1 pair of panties (I felt should wear to an appointment this morning, knew exactly where I put them and they were not there.) If you knew how much I gave her, not only money but have bought her grandkids things at Christmas, given her clothing, lots of things when she asked, then you would understand about why I am upset she stole something from me. I buy clothing and then do not like and give her brand new things with the tags still on them so I have a right to be upset about someone stealing.
I was disappointed in the group last night basically
No one really grabbed me like I would like them to. Adam was okay but I am just not into him as well. The group overall had none of the zing felt with the first group. Oh, well, I think there is a brand new group next week, isn't that so and how many more groups are there?
Not originally from the south, so imagine my surprise when I saw them selling - sm
Cracklin at a roadside stand! It was cooking in a huge pot of grease. I thought I might faint from the smell - beyond description. Then I noticed it being sold packaged in grocery stores with all kinds of flavorings added. I cannot recall seeing cracklin sold in the other parts of the country I have lived, but maybe I just never noticed. All I know is I cannot even stand to look at the bags while waiting to check out at the register. YUCK!!
My SIL makes it this way and the meat basically falls off of the bone.
I know that once she gets the pork seasoned, she puts in a small roasting pan and then sets it in a "bano maria" at 250 degrees like for 10-12 hours depending on the size. I will see if I can get the recipe from her. As far as the seasoning, it all depends which way you want it, for Cuban style mojo seasoning, it can be bought already made in a bottle at the grocery's store in the international food section, probably Goya brand. Then, there is the other seasoning with the oregano, salt, vinegar, garlic, black pepper, and olive oil.
He basically tackled another player and just held him down...and then punched him in the gut a few t
stupid on his part but he got a 15-yard penalty for it...he won't get fined
I live in TN but originally from Rochester, NY we can't get Zweigles Red or White hotdogs, sm
Genesee Beer, or Grandma Brown's Baked Beans.
In TN they have Moon Pies, Country Ham (WAAAAYYYYYY too salty), and all their vegetables mixed with cheese and covered with breadcrumbs, and fried okra, but the BEST barbecue you could ever taste.
Basically stick to a schedule. Laundry is only "housework" while I"m working. Keep calls sh
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I did a lot of research! Basically, I scoured the public notices in the local paper. SM
You know, the ads that say a certain property will be auctioned off on the courthouse steps on a certain day at a certain time. Well, I learned quickly that just because you've read the public notice does not mean the property will actually get sold when advertised. Like the person said below, a lot of times the owners rehab and pay back payments right at the last second. The trustee selling the property is usually an attorney hired by the bank or mortgage company that hold the loan on the property. You can call the attorneys and find out if a propert is still being auctioned off which I did a number of times. Once you find out who holds the mortgage, you can contact the bank or mortgage company directly and make an offer.
For my particular house, it was a waiting game. They actually listed it with a real estate agent and wanted $80,000 when they first listed it. I called the real estate agent they listed with after it had been on the market for about three months. They were asking $60,000 at the time I looked at it. I thought they were crazy cause it was a 2 bedroom that needed a lot of work. Just so happened that at the time I walked through it I was stilling bickering with the insurance company over my settlement, so I wasn't quite ready. Then, three months later I'm at the grocery store (I live in a small town and it is wonderful!) and someone was telling the cashier about a little blue house that had been for sale for a long time and nobody was interested in it because the basement was a cinder block basement which scared people off. Anyway, long story short, the person said they were now asking $45,000 for the house. I had just settled with the insurance company and thought nows my chance to get a great deal!
I called the mortgage company and offered them $36,000. I low-balled because I was prepared to negotiate. They countered with the full asking price. So I countered with a $40,000 cash offer. I said they would be crazy not to take it because I was a cash buyer, didn't have to wait for financing, and didn't require a mechanical inspection. My brother-in-law waterproofs and pours basements for a living. I had him look at the basement and told me that it was a dry basement and he would get a bobcat from work and dig out the dirt around the foundation of the house and waterproof it from the outside and that should make it solid. I have cousings who are trim carpenters and roofers, although the roof was in good shape, no leaks. So I felt safe not having a mechanical inspection especially because I have all this help should something go bad.
The mortgage company decided to sweat me out and didn't give me an answer for two weeks. What they didn't realize is I wasn't sweating because I thought they'd be crazy to pass me up. My waiting paid off. They called the Monday after the 4th of July holiday and said it's yours if you still want and I said "I do."
I bought the house As-Is. Also this was a foreclosed property which means the owners that were foreclosed on cannot rehab the loan and take back the property. It's mine once we close.
So that's how I did it and I can't believe I did do it because I actually felt like I didn't know anything when I started. I just prayed a lot and feel like I had some divine intervention for sure!
Yeah, the True Blood series is basically like soft porn...
definitely not advisable for a 14 year old!!!
Meatus, labia, mucous membrane...basically all genitalia related words...
make me throw up a little in my mouth. LOL
ex in-laws
Thank you for your well thought-out reply. I plan on discussing this with him and at the same time will try to remain respectful of the fact that he loves his aunt. He is of course home for Christmas (and other holidays) and will be back here permanently around April. There are too many details of this situation to put on this board but I thank you again for your advice.
The in-laws
Hey, I am not sure if they are freaky, or not. I was raised in that church when I was young and switched as an adult. Since Matthew Winkler's father is also a COC minister it would be doubtful if he even knew about any of his son's warped proclivities (if he had them) since church members rarely, if ever, talk about things of that nature). It makes me sad to see that those grandparents are being labeled as warped just because of their religious beliefs. I must tell you that I have never met a member of that church who was a "bad person" and I have had exposure to lots of them. I have to wait and see the show. I am very interested in what she has to say. I would also like to see the in-laws go on the show to present their concerns. I think it would help everyone, including the children when they would be old enough to see it. So many times things like this go on with women and men we know and I think it is important to understand any signs to watch for so as to prevent what happened with their family from happening to anyone else. If, however, Mary is really guilty and just wanted a way out (which is a possibility) I believe the children belong with the grandparents and that Mary should relinquish her parental rights. It would be nice too if she would admit if she was truly an abused woman, or not. They can't try her twice.
Where do you think laws come from?
Most of man's laws are based on the Bible, the 10 Commandments usually.
I am not comparing gay people to criminals. Based on your statement that God expects us to be happy, regardless of what form that happiness might take, I am asking the question that, if it is okay with God for a person to be gay if it makes them happy, is it okay with him for a person to steal, commit adultery or murder if it makes them happy.
You changed the context of the subject, not me. And for what it is worth, there are still states in which sodomy is a crime, therefore gay sex is a crime. There is even a state where adultery and fornication are a crime. http://www.sodomy.org/laws/
I get this too...especially my in-laws...
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In-laws
I guess I lucked out with in-laws. When we married, I referred to his parents as "mom" and "dad" from that point on. When my SIL had kids, we *both* became aunts and uncles to them and DH is uncle to my sister's 2 kids. I don't think you're being sensitive and good for you for teaching your kids differently!
My in-laws have a dog who has seizures...
This dog seems to being having grand mal seizures because it urinates on itself and they last a least a minute. The dog has had this several times but they haven't taken him to the vet because of the cost involved. My mother-in-law gives him an aspirin and puts "cold packs" on him when he is seizing. I'm not sure why but she is a little strange. I would take the dog to a vet. They can probably do test to see if she is indeed having seizures. Good luck!
The smoking might have to be done outside if the laws there say
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This goes along with sweet in-laws...
My son was born in September 1994. We found out 8 weeks later he had pyloric stenosis after changing formula, etc. I worked in Radiology as an MT at the time and had the GI study done there. The radiologist was so nice, but informed me that our son was severely dehydrated and would need urgent surgery.
The surgery took place the night before Thanksgiving. My in-laws brought my husband and I a plate of their meal with utensils and all. Thankfully, our son (first born) came through with flying colors and is in perfect health now.
My parents were supportive on the phone, but my Dad had just been diagnosed with cancer and was too weak to make it in to see us.
So, I guess it was the worst and the best Thanksgiving ever and one that I will surely never forget for a very long time. ![Leaf](http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/16/16_4_40.gif")
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I have the same problems with my in-laws
Last year we got them a gift certificate to the local grocery store that they always go so and we decided to do the same again this year. Everyone has to eat. They live in a small condo and have all the money in the world to buy what they want and they're at an age where they don't need anything.
just so you know, many states have laws
against any corporeal punishment now, especially for "kinship" care (relatives raising kin children). For example, in many states I cannot even give push ups or running laps as punishment, forget about spanking! And throwing cold water on a child would get the child taken away from me. There are laws you can't withhold food as punishment or send a child to be early. There are over 5 million children being raised by relatives and just under 600,000 in state foster care. Things ARE much different now.
I understand some of these laws but
not being able to send a child to be early. Who gets to decide what is "early"?
What about lesh laws?
If you have a pet running around in this town you will be fined up to $500 whether the dog did anything while running about or not.
I do hope the little girl gets past her fear of dogs someday. I have a 6-year-old that has that same fear but she has never gotten bit so I don't know why she has that fear. She has turned now many playdates because of those tiny, barking house dogs. One friend in particular wanted dd to come over and play so bad but dd refused because of the dog and I explained that to the mother. I suggested that the litlte girl is welcome to come play here, after consulting with dd first and she agreed. ( I wanted to make sure it really was the dog not the other girl). So they come over, with their little barking, jumping dog and turned it loose in our house and dd started screaming and crying and very rudely ran them both off. I felt bad because dd bluntly told them to leave but I did not get on to her too much about it because it did not make sense to me. I had just explained that dd was very scared of the dog so why did they bring it to my house and turn it loose in my living room.  The dog was not mean, just very very hyper.
MIL shares that same fear and does not know why. She quit visiting a friend because their hyper little dog kept jumping on her and the owners would not do anything to control it. I guess dd and MIL are 2 peas in a pod when it comes ot that.
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