I think you'll have a hard time finding someone who will (sm)
Posted By: NCMT on 2007-11-30
In Reply to: For those of you who have paid help with the house .. - Please advise me here (sm)
come for one hour every day. As wonderful as that would be!! I think they could do that in an hour. But finding someone will be tough. Most housekeepers around here make $75 to clean a house and that takes them 2 or 3 hours. They make more than we do sometimes!!
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Ya'll are just too kind and sweet. I am having a hard time thinking "I'm the better person&
all of this. Thank you for your support. You are exactly right. She doesn't want to "make nice" with me. She is feeding on my vulnerabilities. I can't believe she can live with herself like that. Poor thing. My husband and I got into the biggest fight yesterday because I refused dto go to his mothers house. I went and she was not there! Thank God! It worked out well and I had a very nice time. My husband does not understand my pain and not wanting to be around her.....
I "feed" on positivity and niceness. I love nice, sweet people and can't, for a second, be around meanness. A lot of it has to do with my upbringing...
Ya'll are great and I appreciate you so much. Thanks!
and try finding time to workout between children and work...
I wish I had the energy of my 8 year old....
We had a very hard time with my SIL
married to my younger brother. She was a total gold digger. Sucked up to our family until they were married and then nothing. She would walk into my parent's house and if she saw something new like a stero, she would say we will take the old one, etc. She is now gone. We really like his new wife. Defintely loves my baby bro. My other brother is divorced. My ex-SIL and her new boyfriend travel with our family all the time. My brother works for my hubby but has basically dropped out of out lives.
I'm sorry, but I have a hard time
She made a conscious choice to do drugs, drink, have baby after baby...that's not mental illness. She (like the other poster stated) puts herself in the path of the photogs...going out 5, 6, 7 times for fast food...come on now. Flashing her no-underwear-wearing behind...yeah, she's mental alright...just not mentally disabled. She needs to grow up, live up to her responsibilities, and take care of her kids, plain and simple. And her mom needs a good a$$ kicking, IMHO of course. 
I am with ya. Having a hard time doing t his anymore.
I could not put a word to it but "fruity" describes it perfectly. My brain is just fried after 26 years. I cannot see myself doing this until I am 65, 14 more years. Holy Cow. No way. Gotta look into something else. Have to wake up my brain. Good luck with the billing job.
I'm having a hard time understanding having a baby for selfish reasons...
My older sister feels the same way and doesn't want kids.
As I pointed out above, I'm being selfish by wanting my alone time and doing my own thing and not having to care for someone else.
but watching my little sister be a mother, it is one of the most SELFLESS acts I've ever seen.
So I guess I'm confused at how come you point out that it is selfish... just because you love babies doesn't make you selfish to have them. and of course it's "necessary" or we as a human race would be over ;)
I just feel like being a mother is the toughest job in the world... so I don't know how to combine selfish with that. I do see your point in a way that we want something to love, but I just look at it as being a family... I want a family. I know there are people who are content on their own... but I guess your point would be "WHY" do i want that family? I can't answer that in specific terms.
I guess it's to share the love that me and him have with a child or children some day... to expand our happiness. well i guess that is selfish. ha.
I'm glad you are such a good mom. I don't know what I'd do without mine.
I'm having a hard time too - Charlie Brown's Christmas music has helped some (sm)
It hasn't been very cold around here...parade yesterday we were sweating. One thing that has helped me is I got the music CD from Charlie Brown's Christmas and have been listening to that and watched the little cartoon. That has always been one of my favorites. But I'm just not feeling it much either this year! I think the fact that the stores put the Christmas stuff out right after Halloween and sometimes before just makes it all seem like another day! And for me these days it just seems like a time of year where I have to spend money. Anyway, you're not alone :-)
Bwahahahaha! I'll have to look next time just to keep from
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Do you think you'll move at least 1 more time or
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I'll have to stop in and say Hi next time
we go up there. LOL. Yes, lots to do too. What part of the NJ shore?
I also love the ocean but do not get to go there much. Just too much traffic for me to handle. I like Point Pleasant. That is about 1-1/2 to 2 hour drive, depending on that darn traffic on the lovely Garden State Parkway. Love Cape May too but way too far.
Does anyone know if we'll be changing time?? sm
I thought it would've been this past weekend. Every Halloween it's dark by about 5 pm. I haven't heard or seen anything about time change.
Aah, she'll get over it the first time she needs a babysitter. ;)
Seriously, I wouldn't worry to much what she thinks or says. She is a teenage girl and God knows they are pretty much all little snots! Factor in that she is pregnant with those hormones swimming around, and geez I can only imagine how horrifying she truly is.
I guess by the time anyone reads this, they'll be up! Silly question! nm
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I think they'll FINALLY send Sanjaya home. Bout time. He should have
think they'll send Haley home.
Let me say, after finding someone again
I wished I had stayed alone. I am not getting divorced again at least not until the kids are grown, so I have made my own space. But let me tell you I believe living on one's own is preferable to living with the wrong person, quite preferable. At least you don't have someone controlling every single move you make!
You just finding that out?
I have 3 cats now but my older cat who died last year was a fabulous mouser at my previous home. She moved most of the time (due to age) slow until she caught a glimpse of a mouse and talk about going into third gear! She killed at least 3, that being 3 less than I had to try to jump up on a table from. I now have 3 younger cats and they might run from a mouse as they have never seen. I have cats who live next door who wander thru my yard (althought not supposed to let animals roam in my neighborhood) and my husband could care less- knows they keep the mouse population down.
Finding classmates
I have been successful at finding classmates by putting up a myspace profile at myspace.com. This is free and there are more of us (from the 70s) on their than you might think. It is primarily a social internet space for younger people, but I have located and reunited with several former classmates - it's great. There is also a section for high schools - so we are able to post about the good ole' days. It's fun being able to see pictures of old friends now, as well as their children and grandchildren. The best part is that there are no fees involved.
Where are you finding pants with
inseams of 33 inches? The usual is more like 30 to 32 inches where I shop, unless they are talls.
I was on three meds before finding the right one (sm)
Zoloft made me too sleepy, Effexor didn't do much but gave me strange buzzing sensations when stopping it. Prozac, low dose (10 mg a day) has helped a lot. I take it in the a.m. so it doesn't keep me up at night. But by the end of the day it helps me sleep. (I also take melatonin for sleep). At first you may have some palpitations when your body is getting used to the Prozac, not sure about the other meds with that symptom. I definitely think Prozac is the best.
Yes, and I'm finding it very depressing.
I find myself having to make lots of pasta dishes because pasta is so cheap. I am single but 16 yo son lives with me and you can imagine how much he eats. It's really discouraging to be on such a strict food budget. Just seems like money doesn't go far at all these days. :(
I was one who wrote below about finding SM
love after divorce. I believe there are good men out there, but they are hard to find, especially the older one gets. I think the key is letting him find you, but it doesn't mean you can't put yourself out there.
OK. What I think about problem men have in marriages. I'm speaking about my own here. I was the only girl he ever dated. He asked me to marry him and I said yes. He knew it was mistake, but was devout Catholic and just stayed married, but decided he would still like to be single, so he began cheating on me. As for me, I loved him for a long, long time. When I see him at family events, I wonder why! LOL!!!!
Have you tried finding a copy? Think a new
copy would be nice, not a used one.
Tried finding out myself what happened
I did not particularly care for her. She could not stop crying long enough to sing and besides that she messed up everytime she got up on stage, flubbed her lines. Simon had said if that happened automatically out and yet they passed her on through.
She might be better finding a new career
I hate to sound harsh or rude, really, but if you cannot do the Indian accents, it might be wise to take your unemployment benefits and transition to a new career. There are few jobs out there that don't come with a goodly number of ESL dictators, and the transcriptionists that have jobs typing just the "good" dictators aren't crazy enough to give them up.
So keep telling unemployment you're looking for work, but do your stress level a favor and look for it in a different field.
Was just thinking, finding a boy-toy would be the way around it....
:)
Not that yours is a boy-toy in his 40s... but you know what I mean. :)
finding a new mortgage company...sm
Is at the top of my agenda for this year, but it was the plan all along to refinance this year anyway, so...thanks for the support y'all!
Anyone else finding the net slow today? Must be all
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I am so depressed about them finding James Kim dead. I am having a really sm
hard time grasping this that I can't imagine what his poor wife and family must be going through. I can't even move and want to read everything about them finding him, etc. if he only stayed in the car with them - He left Saturday morning to look for help and the found his wife and girls on Monday. And he was found dead today miles from where the car was found.
I guess I could thank God that his wife and 2 children are still alive. I am happy they are alive, but it just makes me unbelievably sad what he must have gone through. He had such a great will to live and yet he died out there.
I don't know if anyone out there reading this who lives in Oregon, but I certainly have zero desire to EVER venture out into the Oregon wilderness, now more so than ever. I've heard horror stories about one-lane, winding, extremely hazardous roads and I don't understand why the state won't fix that? This isn't the first family to go through something like this because a lot of maps are contradicting.
This should serve as a warning to anyone who wants to travel the Oregon mountains, especially in the wintertime - DON'T DO IT.
How tragic and sad. 
Glad Roxy is better - finding that web site
When I went to that web site to copy the link for you, I went into the breeder section and out popped a picture of a dear friend from my bird breeding days. I've known here for 16 years, but we have been out of touch for the last 5. I called her and she happens to be coming to my city over Labor Day weekend, so we are going to be able to have a reunion and I'll be able to see her and all the cute little cudly birdies I used to raise - I've missed both my friend and the birds very much!
Finding myself watching the wierdest TV shows
Deadiest Catch was my first crazy addiction - who would have thunk? Now Ace of Cakes. Anybody else have some weird ones?
Incidental finding of a cat colony, what this means now.
I had an early morning appointment today and as I started off saw first 1 cat and living really close by decided to come home, get some food and go back to feed it. When I returned 2 more of its friends close by and so I fed them the 3 cans that I had. I hated to see this because of my love for animals which means now I have to go buy them food (in addition to my 3 indoor ones) and go to feed them most days. I am sure they are feral but just breaks my heart to see them having to fend for themselves.
F11 didnt work and I am finding nothing under View on my toolbar. sm
Thanks for your suggestions. Does anyone know how to make that darn paragraph symbol go away? I have those and a bunch of arrows all over my document!
any Dancing with Stars fans finding this bunch -
difficult to get into or is it just me?
Incidental finding, polycystic kidney disease
Not something that I would have liked to hear but being as older, told the doctor maybe can outlive the cysts, i.e. having to be on dialysis and/or dying because of them. I had an MRI of another region and those picked up, told someone in my family had to have and know of no one. The cysts I have can go anywhere in your body so they will watch them every few months, no abnormal lab tests or the like, found those about 2 years ago. The kidney cysts are the only ones I know of.
thanks! :) I'll see if he'll ask some female friends SM
Thank you everyone! It has been great reading all of your responses! Goodnight!! "See" you all tomorrow!
Hugs,
Chickadee
My college-age kids love finding stuff at the Goodwill Thrift Store. Go figure! They like their
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No! That sounds too desperate. TIME. Just give it TIME. If it is real, then sm
something will definitely evolve. If you like him, flirt back! Don't act desperate because if he DOES like you, then the suspense will just make him want to get to know you more. Trust me on this.
I worked in the medical records department of a hospital when I was single and dated a few co-workers in my early 30s. It was fun. Nothing serious came about any of the relationships.
This sounds like fun - the beginning of maybe something to come....Keep us informed.
Totally agree, get these from time to time since teens...sm
It's a neuro condition, it does not mean there is anything at all wrong with you, it is actually related to narcolepsy, hypnagogic (sp? I just got up!) hallucinations, etc. And I HATE when I get these, it is always freaky, my siblings get this too, at times. I can "go away" for years and years before you get another episodes, so don't worry! I heard that when you are under a lot of stress or are very busy with things that this happens more??? Take care!!
It's time to stop when you or the kid(s) feel it is time, and no sooner. sm
My grandmother (who passed away at the young age of 107 back in the mid 1990s) was STILL celebrating every little holiday for all of her many kids and grandkids, and she would STILL give me a chocolate bunny every Easter, as she had since I was a toddler and even though I was 40ish at the time (and I still delighted in biting its head off in front of her, as I had also done since I was a toddler, which always met with mock disapproval from her).
Don't let anyone dampen your joy in celebrating your traditions.
The very 1st time he talked about killing you, was the time
The guy sounds like a psycho.
Rachael Ray has a segment from time to time
on using the bottom of the bottle receipes (i.e. bar-be-q sauce, peanut butter, maple syrup) and I have used many of her ideas and been amazed at how far you can stretch a dollar that way. Go to her website, it will give you many ideas.
Oh Amy, surely there was a man who "kept" you from time to time..
or you were at least married and had access to money!
It was a great time - I just hate the time we are in now
I liked your post. Thanks for replying It's nice to know other people were raised like me. We seem to appreciate the things we have. Oh I should've also said we didn't have A/C growing up. My parents idea of A/C was having my sister and I wave a piece of cardboard in front of them. HA HA HA.
I just couldn't stand the 90s and 2000s are even worse. I hate all the politics going on today, the world events, the bleak future. The degenerates running around, listening to kids talk back to their parents, girls gone wild, etc, etc. I'm grateful my grandparents and mom are not alive anymore to have to go through this with us.
I love watching old movies and the music of the 40s/50s. If I was alive back then I would've been doing the jitterbug and all those other fun dances. Life seemed simpler and cleaner (even though I've got a mouth like a sailer - guess I got that from my Army days).
I wouldn't mind the turn of the century either. I love the clothing and the simple life. Those are the times when the husband took care of the wife. If I could be transported back to the 1800s I surely would in a second.
I know how hard it is......sm
I understand what you're saying. God didn't give us the ability to forget, just the strength to get through it. Have you talked with your husband. Does he seem happy to have this child or has he ever said he was sorry for ever wanting that now that the child is here? Maybe if you could hear him say he was sorry for ever wanting that and couldn't imagine your child not being here, maybe that would help. Seeing true remorse in a person goes a long way in helping you deal with this.
Hard to say
If I had it to do over again, I probably would not have married my husband. He and I are not very well suited to each other at all. But then I wouldn't have my wonderful son, so I can't say I entirely regret it. And after 27 years of marriage, my husband and I finally have a great relationship, with the help of an excellent marriage counselor. What's that saying - I've been happily married for 8 years, but we were married 27 years ago. 
I'm sorry - I know it must be hard for you (sm)
I don't have experience with it, but at lesat she is making the decision and you don't have to make it. There are also assisted living facilities that are not so much a nursing home, if you think that would be an option for her. Best wishes to you.
i know it is hard to believe
but I didn't see a pay phone in the dorm. You can get a room phone installed but it is expensive. I guess that is a thought though.
Even if I could contact AIM, I don't think I would. He is 18 and really I can't tell them not to let him use his free account. He's an adult (at least in terms of the law) even if he isn't acting very mature. The way it is now, I can see if he is online and talk to him. If I did something like that he would jsut make up a new screen name that I wouldn't have at all. I just don't think that is a good idea.
This is so hard
Your dog is beautiful. I know how attached you get and how much love these little guys give us.
We just had to go through much the same thing with our 9-year-old lab, Murphy. He got pancreatitis and was very sick, started to get better, but then really took a turn for the worse. He was unable to get up and walk and just cried and cried. After a couple of days, we all decided it was best to have him euthanized. It was the hardest decision I ever had to make, but none of us could stand to watch him suffer any more. He has had this look in his eyes like he was saying let me go.
Not saying that that is the right decision for you. I think you will know in your heart when it is time. Just try to keep him as comfortable and happy as possible.
My heart goes out to you and Fox.
re: having a hard day/NC MT
It depends on where your degree is from, and where you plan to go to school. If your college credit is from a community college, it should most certainly transfer. You really have to check with a counselor from the school you wish to attend. Good luck!
I'm so sorry...I know it must be so hard (sm)
at least it has only been 8 months though...so you two have no children together, right? No having to beg for sex when you are a newlywed is not normal. I have a lot of marital issues myself thought not similar...please e-mail me if you want to talk!
7 is a hard age sm
Had a 2nd grader who was after much angst by all, diagnosed as gifted. I was able to put him in private school, quieter, excelled at everything, is now an entrepeneur and doctoral candidate. It was not easy to pay the bills, but worked harder than ever. The school had me thinking it was my parenting skills, or lack of them, his behavior, his needing more male positive image, etc., etc. If I had istened to them he would have been put in a special class with those with learning difficulties. All in all, I was crying every day. Took a lot of time and energy. Looking back, his teacher was at fault for mislabeling him and not appreciating his talent. I think he was smarter than she was. We shudder at even the mention of her name. Some don't deserve to be teaching. Don't let her be mislabeled. Thank goodness, I knew someone in the field who tested as I was transcribing his work. It's a very hard road you have in front of you. Don't be discouraged, please. Good luck with it, it's very difficult. Keep examining the whole picture. God bless you.
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