I think what a passive/aggressive manipulative jerk!.
Posted By: Why do you let him do this. Tell him to get a job! on 2008-04-17
In Reply to: What do you think - Ms. Guilt trip
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only IF the passive aggressive wants help.........
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you *sound* like a passive-aggressive
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Passive-aggressive people -
Does anyone have to deal with passive-aggressive people in their lives, and how do you do it? Quick example of my sister:
Sister calls many times a day with histrionics asking for advice.
I give my advice, sister does the opposite.
Things do not work out.
Sister blames me for things not working out as I was not supportive enough.
That is my vicious circle that I deal with all the time and want to stop. Am thinking of "breaking up" with my sister, but that seems extreme. Any ideas?
That's a lil too passive-aggressive in this case
Seems like the 2 of you have a great friendship and enjoy one another's company. I'm more inclined with Robin's advice. I'm so flipping busy. Between working 10-14 hours a day, spending time with my husband, trying to find 'me' time to relax and unwind, I'm a total slacker when it comes to returning calls or initiating get-togethers. I'm pretty decent about checking my email, but only because I spend so much time in front of the computer working anyway. I always kind of figure everyone I care about who cares about me know where I am and how to reach me. I realize this probably makes me a total social retard but I just seriously rarely think to pick up the phone and call someone.
I'd keep going with things as they are. Maybe when it's just the two of you having lunch or something, you can talk to her more about the situation and make sure you don't feel like you're intruding on her time or anything.
You don't have clue what passive-aggressive even means...
although I feel certain you should know what nutjob means. I should have known you can't talk to someone who uses words like "ur" and "u" rather than taking the time to use words. How old are you? 12? Cya. I am going where I can have conversations with adults or at least mature 12-year-olds.
Research passive-aggressive behavior. (sm)
Do you feel you are always at emotional crossroads and everything you decide to do together is handled like warring nations, not like loving partners?
Living with a passive-aggressive behavior spouse creates a daily emotional roller coaster. One is "stressed on an almost constant basis" and feel as if caring for an unresponsible teenager.
The passive-aggressive personality pretend not to listen, "forget on purpose," and purposefully do not complete tasks they agree to accomplish. Sullenness is also a characteristic of the behavior. The passsive-aggressive behavior can "rob" another one from a beautiful relationship. They cannot always see themselves and have a tendency to blame others (especially spouse) for their behavior. They sometimes display "revenge."
To rule out other serious medical conditions, encourage your husband to schedule an appointment with his primary care physician for "preventive care" only, letting him think nothing is wrong. The physician should order lab testing, and ask for thyroid function studies, etc.
Wishing you the best!!
How would you handle a manipulative person who threatens
suicide every time you say you're leaving? I have been married, for a VERY long time, to a man who has refused to hold down any kind of job, who is an alcoholic, and who is also bipolar.
He refuses to help himself, take his meds, quit drinking, go to AA, etc. Over this past year, I have decided enough is enough and I want out. I have to think of the kids. I have tried to help him to no avail. Every time we have the conversation about us separating, he gets drunk and then threatens to kill himself. The first time he took some pills, claiming he took a whole bottle, when the truth was he took like four. He freaked out and rushed him to the ER. This scenario replayed again with him shoving a handful of mystery pills into his mouth the next time when I refused to take him seriously. Again, he was taken to the ER by the police that time and then was allowed to leave the ER AMA. Next, time he cut his wrists superficially and that incident landed him in a psychiatric facility for four days and then they let him out. Which brings us to today when I noticed he had been drinking again and still hasn't looked for a job and so I have bought him a one-way plane ticket to go be with his father. He is now drunk, asleep in his truck, and took a bottle of pills with him threatening suicide. I have checked on him and he is breathing and I don't think he's taken any of the pills.
And quite frankly I almost don't care if he has. I'm so tired of this game and it really angers me that he continually tries to manipulate me with this crap! I want him gone. I don't want my kids to see this anymore. I want peace. I want quiet. I want to sit down at my computer and just work without having to deal with all this drama!
So, now I'm wondering do I let him just lay out there in his truck or do I call the police to go check on him and perhaps take him to the hospital? One thing I know for sure, I am done going to the ER and filling out papers and watching him act like a complete lunatic to the nurses and doctors and watching them having to put on the soft restraints because he's a drunken fool! If I call the police, I want to be left out of the loop. I want them to take care of getting him to where he needs to go. Is that realistic or do the police have to talk to me because he's legally my husband and I made the call?
And what do you do with a crazy person who refuses to leave your home? He's not threatening me or the kids. He hasn't hit me or done anything like that. He's just a complete crazy man claiming he's going to hurt himself!
I feel like I'm on the verge of exploding! I want to scream! I want to just punch him in the face! God I'm miserable!
I just wanted to vent for a little bit. It sort of helps me to just pour it all out. Defuses my temper a bit. Thanks
Passive-aggressives
As with good sound advice that gets no one in trouble, is to tell her she needs to empower herself. She and she alone is the director of her life, and must take responsibility for decisions she makes. Treating yourself well means weighing out options, considering the repercussions of your decisions, and taking RESPONSILBITY for your decisions. There's real power in that. No one is responsible but ourselves for our decisions, and their results.
she may have a passive personality, is all.
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What got into you? Why so aggressive? Watch your language...nm
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The passive aggression on here is mind boggling. nm
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it was allowed because its passive (unlike alcohol) and
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How About "I'm not a jerk."
Then, it turns out he is the biggest jerk you've been out with so far??
I miss being married. Dating just sucks!
What a jerk! sm
You give yourself a treat with a new do, pedicure, manicure, and get right back out there.
Be active in your community, join a hobby group, volunteer, whatever... you will meet someone and it will be someone that is WORTH YOUR ATTENTION! This jerk is not worth getting upset over.
Ugly is on the inside and he is F-UGLY! Good thing you won't be seeing him again.
Jerk.
That's all I have to say about that.
Well, my significant other and I went away today and I was driving. Now he is a very aggressive
driver and I am much more cautious so it did not go well. I just dont pass everything in site with one foot on the gas and one on the brake. What a pain to have a passenger like that in the car telling you this and that and I would have been way up there by nowetc. Not much fun. I dont like to drive by the seat of my pants.
Actually, was thinkin with aggressive scratching wood ones
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Dear Owners of Aggressive Pit Bull:
I've already called animal control on you once and reported him for cornering, and then trying to bite me.
Well guess what. I bought mace. Not the wimpy dog-park spray, either. This is law-enforcement grade. It's the real deal.
The next time that sorry, un-neutered son-of-a-biotch comes anywhere near me, he's getting not just a warning squirt, he's getting the entire bottle in his face, maybe enough to close up his throat and kill him. I sure hope it does.
The Aggressive Black Shoe for Spring
The description tickled me! 
Jerk doctor
Even with the shot you can still get chickenpox. Hopefully he gets through it okay without any complications. *hugs*
My stepfather is a big jerk too (sm)
When I go visit my family we stay in a hotel and visit back and forth with them. That way I don't care if I feel unwelcome and I still get to see my mother and other relatives, and if he starts acting jerky, I have somewhere else to go.
The store is being a jerk.
They said that they could have charged me 1000 and are being nice. I'm talking with the probation officer today to see what he knows about this.
he sounds like a jerk to me
Sounds like he should've married Bree VanDecamp-Hodge from Desperate Housewives--a fictional character!
I wouldn't stick around to find out what's he doing on the road. I would, however, check that cell phone bill, etc., to see what he's doing, then prepare yourself. If you don't stay with him (not sure why you'd want to), just get all your paperwork ready (keep it anywhere but in that house), and start thinking about YOUR future. Not being mean, just being honest. Life isn't sugar-coated, and from what I read, neither is he.
Gook luck to ya.
What a jerk, Crankybeach!
Well, I'm sure that's a decision (marrying him) she'll live to regret. If he did it once......
That's a good idea - something productively aggressive LOL - My stressor is (sm)
My "dad" is being sent home from the hospital to live with me. He has nowhere else to go. He is actually my stepdad. I think highly enough of him to help him out when he needs it, not let him live on the street or do without anything, but now it seems I am going to have to take care of im physically for several months while we are on a waiting list for an assisted living facility. He can barely walk and cannot tend to his lower hygiene needs. He and my mother were married from the time I was 3 until 8. He was very mean to us during that time. My mom divorced him, but he had adopted us and given us his last name. He got visitation rights once a month, and was very nice during that time, paid child support for a while but then in my teen years stopped paying it. Later I heard from him about once a year from the time I was about 21 to 39. He lived with my brother (his biological son) for a while when he was healthy. Now that he is ill they have shipped him three states up to me. I have two little children at home, a marriage that is on the rocks, and I work full-time. I also have some health problems of my own. Right now I am having extremely bad PMS and tomorrow morning I have to bring him home to my house. In addition, he curses all the time and is very loud and annoying, and I don't have a bedroom for him, so one of my kids is going to have to give up their room. Whew!! I feel better just spitting it all out!!
I guess Walter is pretty passive compared to your guy! Gets you going though, doesn't it? nm
Jerk doctor, I agree
That was inconsiderate and unprofessional of the doctor's office not to call and remind you of the appointment, as 6 month appointments in advance are hard to remember. And the doctor was a jerk in treating you like that by being sarcastic.
It's weird, doctors raise a fit if our transcription isn't perfect and turn around and scold you about how you raise your kid.
I have had scarlet fever as a child as well as chickenpox and I'm still here and healthy so don't despair. Husbands just don't understand, just b/c we're at home all day doesn't mean we're not working. Hang in there.
What is a 'suck jerk'? Am I missing something?
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happy gilmore, all of me, and the JERK
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Hubby's friend is a jerk - period!
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God bless you,. what a jerk doctor with Kelcie...nm
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Darn nice guy! Unless it was his girlfriend, then a jerk:) Good for you! nm
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"selfish jerk", as you call him, AGREED to help, DESPITE his plans.
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Don't be a jerk. Most of us were lucky enough to be born into English speaking families.
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