I think we've become a disposable society
Posted By: AnnieD on 2009-01-18
In Reply to: I'm noticing a trend with younger women.. - MTinMT
Perhaps it comes from having too much.
People used to get by with just a few clothes, that had to last. Now, many people need more than 1 walk in closet to house all their clothes. Something tears, ach, chuck it out, there's plenty more to wear. Even shoes aren't made sturdy, anymore. Used to be you got shoes repaired, re-soled, re-heeled, re-tipped. You don't see many shoe repair shops any more. We used to have one in about every mall.
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I have used disposable pans and made pies before. Went over VERY well. nm
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Unfortunately society has already
taken Christ out of Christmas. It has been said that many children today do not even know the true meaning of Christmas and only that Santa Claus is coming.
society does not get it
I am just going to have to vent on this one...
My husband and I got married when my stepdaughter was 7. She was in the wedding, etc. I adored her. We paid for her child support on time, bought her first car and anything she wanted, she came for summers, we went on trips together, and she grew up.
But her mother told her to choose which family she really belonged to and she chose her mother's family and that is the end of it.
It had nothing to do with me, even though it felt personal. Her mother asked her to choose and she was a good daughter and a bad stepdaughter.
I am allowed to move on with my life. Not every story has a happy ending. She will never love us or thank us for anything, and yes I took her to shop for her wedding dress.
I will be so glad when people stop romantizing divorce.
society does not get it
Here again, we are talking about the CHILDREN choosing someone to love. This is not even remotely about the adults choosing who to love.
Maybe you can console yourself by saying the other parent or grandparent is bad is bad or you are so much better. Even intact families sometimes compete for the affection of their grandkids, but a lot of times....they are not going to choose to love you for any reason, especially not to be better than the dead, missing or drug addicted.
I figure she will use the new baby against you, just like the old baby. You DIL is the issue, not her child.
society does not get it
Here again, we are talking about the CHILDREN choosing someone to love. This is not even remotely about the adults choosing who to love.
Maybe you can console yourself by saying the other parent or grandparent is bad is bad or you are so much better. Even intact families sometimes compete for the affection of their grandkids, but a lot of times....they are not going to choose to love you for any reason, especially not to be better than the dead, missing or drug addicted.
I figure she will use the new baby against you, just like the old baby. You DIL is the issue, not her child.
society does not get it
Being a stepmom is not like being an adoptive parent. It is like being a parenting team member. There is no recognition of you, except when you drop the ball.
Has society become this bad and why
I saw the post down below about the Wal-Mart worker. Here is a new article that just came out (link below). The police are now looking at video surveillance to see who trampled this poor worker to death. Personally I hope they find all responsible and prosecute them to the fullest. It doesn't matter that it was Wal-Mart. I like their store just fine, it is what society is doing to people that nobody even bothered to stop and help this person. I grew up in the 60s/70s in a small town in New England. Maybe I'm old fashioned but my parents/grandparents taught me better than this.
I just can't believe people would do this. And for what? Getting a Christimas item? This is one of many reasons why I do my Christmas shopping (what very little I do) online and gift cards.
I think the "traditions" of the "big" shopping day the day after Thanksgiving should go away. I really don't know what the solution would be to try to get the people to "love thy neighbor", not trample, bite, and spit at them so you can grab that item. (BTW - you can shop online at Walmart too).
I think to myself that I thought the spirit of Christmas was supposed to celebrate Christ. Oh yeah, I'm sure he is so proud of people like those who harm others and cause death so they can get what they want.
I hope those guilty are sitting at home worrying about whether or not their face is going to show up on the video camera.
http://apnews.myway.com/article/20081129/D94OJ4NG0.html
When I got my dog from the Humane Society
a while back, they gave me a free veterinary visit to almost any vet office in the city. She also developed kennel cough, but about five days after I brought her home. They say it can take up to ten days for them to get the symptoms. They said a large majority of dogs from any shelter will end up getting it. The vet can also tell by looking at their teeth about how old they are. Maybe you are right, she may have some kind of infection going on.
I think it's great you are committed to keeping the dog even with these problems. A lot of people would take it back and trade it like it's a car.
Society is getting too tolerant!
I suppose you are one of those people who thinks she can do anything she wants because she isn't "hurting anyone". It is poor manners to take an animal into a public shopping area. I feel sorry for you if you do not see anything wrong with this type of thinking. I suppose you also drive with your dog on your lap, too!!
Unfortunately you're right about society and
it's very sad. I'm average, not thin or overweight and fluctuate a few pounds a lot. So when I lose 5-10 lbs or so, I often hear from others about how great I look. Gee, thanks...? How bad did I look before that 5 or 10 lbs? It's a warped society but that doesn't mean we should try to conform to it. Turn off the TV and throw away the magazines for a while. And, heck, if your boyfriend doesn't like you the way you are, throw him away too :)
that's the problem with society
the poster definitely got to people. You need to get involved, for the sake of every innocent child and animal, and put these sick humans ouf of every child's and animal's misery. It's because of attiudes like the couple who posted here, oh, why post this, I did not want to read this, so just go on with your life and ignore what's going on around you, and that's why it continues to happen, because you do not want to hear about it, much less do anything about it.
National Honor Society
Have been asked by a friend to write a letter of recommendation for her daughter for National Honor Society, unfortunately I stink at letter writing, any suggestions?
I am so grateful the dreges of society
are not able to go on welfare and live anymore. I do not mean this for disabled, the elderly and the like. If you have a child, you did this and should not in any way receive welfare. This was what you wanted, not something taxpayers should have to pay for. If you had no money to have a child, well maybe waiting until you did have some might have been a good idea. If you cannot make it on your own, DO NOT have children. Simple. Do the math. I give only to people who come under a heading of some kind of misfortunate they did not bring onto themselves happening or to animal shelters, etc. To a drug place, alcohol or unwed mother place, never....
I agree about society and options, etc. (as
You don't have to have an eating disorder to be thin. Not everyone who is thin has an eating disorder.
Don't wish that horrible fate upon yourself.
If you want to lose weight, just set your mind to do it. Decide before every meal, snack, or drink you have, if what you're eating is undermining your desire to look better and be more healthy, and decide if instant gratification is more imporant that this.
Oh, and by the way, just because you are thinner, does not mean people will give you more attention. Believe it or not, it is what's inside that counts to the people who really love and know you. Yeah, you might turn more heads, but you are still the same person inside.
Having said all that, I do agree that society does judge people on their appearance.... beauty, body, blah blah blah... I could go on about my philosophy of that, but I'll save it for another time :-)
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Function of society at large (sm)
I think you are right to some extent. I personally try hard to keep my word and when I can't, I feel bad about it! I call as soon as I know it's not going to work and I apologize. I try hard not to say I can do something if I am not sure I can. I don't make other plans for that timeframe that I have already committed to see someone during. How is that so hard? If someone is "iffy" about something, they need to say "I don't know, can I get back with you?" Not just say yes and then forget about it. I know a lot of people these days who seem to plan several things for the same time period and then whichever one they feel like doing at the moment gets priority - regardless of who else is inconvenienced or whose time is wasted by it. (I know I'm ranting here...making me feel better...haha.) Then they don't even understand why you are angry or why it is offensive...as though you are being unreasonably demanding to think that someone is going to try to do what they said they would do. Whew.....ok, I'm done. Think I will look at my navel now...lol
Call the Humane Society or Emergency Vet
Tell them what happened, that the owners are not home, and you are afraid the dog is critically injured. They will then send someone to check on the dog and do what needs to be done.
As far as your neighbors being mad at you for hitting their dog, it is their responsibility to make sure their animals are safely confined. NOT taking a nap in the road.
Don't let the poor beastie suffer for their ignorance. Please call to see if the dog can be helped.
The lesser known (and least respected) Black Hat Society.
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Ditto, no desire, not in today's society/world!
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That is ABUSE Humane society or ASPCA should be called
Dogs dont just bark for no reason. In my opinion a person who puts there dog out and the dog is distressed and barking and the person does nothing to work with the dog and leaves to avoid the barking is abusing that animal. That is like locking a child out. If you really do love dogs like you say anonymously call the ASPCA or Humane sociey and let them explain it to the owner.
The local humane society allows people to stop by
and visit the pets. For example, if you like Kittens you can come by anytime they are open and just sit and play with kittens and or pet and keep them company. Also if you are a dog person, you can do same. Any day, any time. You might want to call your local pet shelter if you like pets. I hear that the pets and people get a lot out of it. Of course, I planned to do this a year ago, and still have not made it out of the house, but I do think about it sometimes! Good luck and have fun what ever you do.
As a civilized society, life in prison without parole
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Isn't it refreshing to know you are not a tool of the consumer "buy buy" society? sm
I can't tell you how empowering it is to know that I have 50K in savings and liquidity, as well as a 401K, my cars paid off, my house paid off (although it is old and not fancy). If I need something, I can pay cash for it. What a relief, when the economy is crashing to know that I will be fine (God willing) with what I have!
Definitely call Animal Shelter or Humane Society
Ours runs a once a month clinic where they will give rabies shots and spay or neuter for only $20.00. Tell them she's a stray, hopefully they can help you. LOL, she has chosen you and your family. She brought her babies in the house cause she feels they'll be safe there. Congratulations on being adopted!
The poster meant breastfeeding is primative in PUBLIC in our society today.
I agree with her. I don't have a problem with someone breastfeeding their baby, and I mean BABY, not toddler, but discretion should be used. That woman knew full well that she was going to be on a plane. She could have bottled her breast milk for her TODDLER instead of making others uncomfortable around her. It's the 20th century, not the dark ages, and not Ethiopia. And, this lawsuit crap only makes the mother look even more like a beatnik dingbat.
St. Vincent De Paul Society is good. Volunteers administer the program.
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No, Blondie, give the dogs back or call the Humane Society.....s/m
who can take care of 10 (t e n ) dogs? This is CRAZY!
Your husband is a coward. He should protect you. God knows what a 'deal' he made with this 'friend'.
If you've got one, you've got bunches!
How do ya feel about cats? That's what I'd do...get a cat...but I love cats and love it when they bring me 'presents' of dead varmints.
If that's not an option, and you're not comfortable with baiting, glue traps, or that sort of thing, it'd be worth it to hire a professional 'cridder ridder' or exterminator. Those things will chew up your walls and floorboards like you have no idea and cause incredible amounts of damage. Good luck in your jihad!
I've done this 12 yrs and I've had to take breaks sm
Took a break and worked at my kids preschool one year, worked at a hospital one year, took a couple months off once. It does burn you out because it takes all of your concentration. When I worked at the hospital as a secretary I could not believe how easy the job was ;-) I was sooo used to just getting paid for actual work that when I had a conversation with a coworker or a phone call or took lunch, I felt like I was getting away with a lot! I hope your break works out!! I wish you lived close-by, we could take turns watching each others kids ;-)
I've been using...
Zicam severe congestion. It gives me temporary relief and I've been taking Singulair, but originally nasal discharge was clear, this morning it was yellow (don't mean to gross anybody out). Could it have turned into a sinus infection? And if so, is it time to see the doctor??
I've tried that...
I've done that along with changing my diet but still no relief. I just received an e-mail saying to try vitamin E which is what I am going to try next.
Thanks a bunch.....
I will try that too, I've had enough of this...sm
where to I go to do this, remove IE7 and reinstall IE6.
TIA
oh yea, we've been through that one . . SM
My husband is the type of person that avoids conflict, does not want to face it, because if you pretend it's not there, it isn't, right???? Yea. He was in counseling for a while, but never went back after a few times. He really felt like last night was a punch in the face, like it's a game or something . . . like if you look the part, you ARE the part.
I've been there...
Hang in there...
I have one, but I've only had it for a day
I definitely can't do more than a minute on it, as it REALLY targets my inner thighs. I can really feel it working already, but I don't know what the benefit is going to be to everything it states, i.e. thighs, abs, back. I did a lot of research before I bought it and the only negatives I found were about ordering it through the company's website. So, I ordered it through QVC and saved a lot of money. Plus I received it only 3 days after I ordered it with no extra shipping charge.
A few I've seen....
The Wedding Date
Must Love Dogs
In Her Shoes
The Family Stone
In Good Company
What's the most you've ever won? sm
How did you win it?
I've with you on that! --nm
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LOL, I've seen some of those!
 I admit it, I must be a pervert 'cause I think it's hysterical.
I've been on it
now going on 3 weeks and love it. I never use up my points and am always full. Best thing is you can still eat the foods you love. I only purchased the starter kit and did not join. I feel better and have lost weight and best of all I'm never hungry. But, like everything else, 1 diet doesn't fit all. I've tried Nutrisystem, Adkins,Right Size Smoothies, and Medifast and they didn't work for me. So far WW has worked. Also, you don't have to give up the "cool ones" on this plan.
me too - I've been doing this for over 9 (sm)
Same problem, and it doesn't go away overnight. Mostly my right (pedal) foot. Is yours?
I think I've seen something like this
But can't remember which one...a bride having her bridesmaids sign a contract, yeah right...I'd tell her exactly where she could put all her demands...geez!
We've actually done that (sm)
There is, unfortunately, an "out", meaning that if they have ever been invited to call (We refi'd our house and had been calling mortgage brokers, etc) they are exempt from the list, at least in New York. So it could be a brokerage or something trying to drum up business (not my problem)but all I have is an 866 number to go by, no name on the caller-ID. I wonder if you can get them back on the list after your business is finished.
I've been there
I understand. For 17 years I dealt with this, always feeling like I was never doing enough, if only I could do more then maybe.... I became very ill myself because of it. I had no life of my own, -- I lived for the next crisis, just like you -- and no one could understand, not even my doctor. I didn't find peace until I took the burden off my shoulders and put it on His--until I realized I had a responsibililty to God for my own life and I was losing my life, my freedom to find His Will for me and do it, to someone else's addiction. In this case, it was my mothers's. She was there night and day as well, no escaping. I gave up my outside job and worked from home too. I finally had to move in order to remain sane and THEN other family members had to start doing their share of helping out while I tried to regain some sense of self. It wasn't until then that she even got a clue that I had a right to my own life.
Your daughter, loved though she be, is robbing you of your life. That is not right. But I don't know of a stronger bond than that between a mother and a daughter no matter what problem may arise. One can never really walk away, forget it, etc. like so many will tell you to do. Inside, that bond lives strong. All you can do is find a way to deal with it, a way that is fair to you, healthy for you, a way that will keep you strong or else she will take you down with her.
For me, it was distancing myself physically and praying for her. I realized for all my love of her, only He could make the changes in her, and He did once I acknowledged how true the words are, "Without Me, you can do nothing." Now I pray for and expect miracles if it so be His Will when I have problems I cannot resolve. It brings great peace and strength -- and HOPE because I've seen first-hand how prayer made with faith truly does bring them and I don't feel like I am carrying the burden all by myself anymore and then I accept whatever He lets happen, realizing He in His wisdom knows more than I.
Talk to a therapist -- tell them what you've just written here. Again, they might have access to resources you don't know about. If their advice sounds harsh, and it probably will, listen anyway. Consider it. Your life DOES matter too. But don't ever lose hope in God. Ask for the strength and courage to do what must be done for the sake of the both of you and grace for her to change. Nothing is impossible for Him to do. Nothing.
Have you read the books by Melodie Beattie? They help. Feel free to e-mail me if you wish.
Oh thank God. I've been following this sm
and have been just sickened by the whole thing. What a pretty little girl. Such a terrible thing to happen to an innocent child.
N/T - That's what I've been doing
I've been watching a lot of episodes, or at least bits and pieces of them online to get caught up. Some things still confuse me. The new season looks really good.
I don't think I've met one since
I was a kid. You're right - it is a very alert breed. It could run very fast and bark, definitely running a tight ship, even if it was on dry land.
They are very beautiful dogs, and live longer than any breed, which sounds really good to me.
Yes I've had it (sm)
and it is very annoying, but it did go away. I just tried to get my exercise and sleep and do some facial stretching exercises where I stretch and relax my jaw and other facial muscles. I try to pretend the twitch isn't there, and pretty soon it isn't.
Hope it quits soon.
Yes I've had one
I had one a few years ago...not that bad, just uncomfortable. It only takes a few minutes. It's like a large needle that they insert through a small incision over the area in question. It suctions a bit of tissue out and that's it. Mine was benign. Good luck to you!
Thank you....I've done it...sm
4 times and my sons have done it once...They went through blazes in the south in high school with their long, patterned braided hair (they learned to braid themselves bkz I could never get it tight enough to suit them). But, when ridiculed by their coaches, school administration and teaching staff they replied, "Cause we want to donate to Locks of Love like mom, and it's hard to get a good grade of black hair...It's not just white kids that get cancer".  Cat
I've got to say
 That sex scene with the old girlfriend amputee was quite something! I'll never be the same!
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