I think it depends on the maturity level more than the age -
Posted By: Amanda on 2008-12-29
In Reply to: Latchkey kids - Silly Girl
My daughter started going home by herself for 30 minutes in the afternoon in 1st grade. We lived in a rural community and only 1/2 mile from my parents home.
However, I did not trust my son to stay at home by himself even when he was 12. It was too dangerous even with careful instructions on what he could and could not do, becuase he would always manage to find something he should not do that was not covered in the could not do's!
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In my opinion, it all depends on maturity. (sm)
With the little minds sometimes maturing faster than the bladder muscles, potty training can be very difficult. The little one can tell you when they are "wet," but just cannot control the bladder.
Our grandsons were almost 3 years old (as was our son) before completely potty trained. Our granddaughter (and daughter) was potty trained at 2 years of age. So, the "old saying" may be correct -- little girls mature faster than little boys.
No excuse for this level of entitlement no matter what your stres level or financial situation is!
We need to stop making excuses for people feeling the need to be ahead of everyone else. It is called being RUDE. Just my two cents.
In addition to considering the maturity,
I would also consider whether or not there is someone next door (maybe the bus driver you mentioned) that would be willing to "keep an eye" on him and that he could go to in case of emergencies.
I was a latchkey kid at about the age of 11 or 12; however, my older brother was 14 or 15 at the time and my grandma lived across the street from us.
My oldest son is now in fifth grade, 11 years old, and I have only been allowing him some "home alone" time in the last year. I really wasn't comfortable with doing that until he was 10, but each child is different.
I would also caution you to write down some ground rules and maybe just start out by leaving him alone for 1/2 hour here and there to see how he does. If you're not comfortable with him being home alone, you won't get much work done during that last hour of the day anyway. Good luck!
All this has to do with the maturity of the people
involved. I had actually met the guy I am married to a guy I first met at age 30, 29 years later and married now. Married almost 10 years now and a perfect fit. We enjoy each other and he is definitely my best friend and I his.
Having a tantrum while hiding behind a nickname is not a sign of maturity. nm
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We are at Level I
Now it's freezing rain. I could do without that, but I like the snow!
Yeah he is; my DH is too, but on a different level than yours - sm
Your husband hides it, that is a big sign of being an alcoholic. He drinks alcohol daily. These are 2 major signs; Google for the signs and I am sure you will find more. He is a functioning alcoholic; as is my DH. My DH does not hide it though; though he does hide the number of beers he drinks from the kids (for which I am happy) and from his parents when they visit. He runs off to drink in the bathroom when they are here. My DH know he is an alcoholic though I don't think he still quite believes it. He does not get really drunk though; or his body is so used to it he handles it well. I can only tell when he either gets really really talkative and won't leave me alone, or goes the other extreme and picks a big fight. Mine only drinks light beer which in his twisted mind he thinks that makes it okay because it is less alcohol, by what 1%? So he will down anywhere from 9-12 beers a night; has been doing this for the 12 years I have known him and at least 10 years before that. Yes, it causes problems. I get po'd because he forgets conversations we had, picks horrible fights and then "forgets" all about it and wonders why I am so upset, doesn't believe me when I tell him what he did/said---I think he remembers some of it just choses to act dumb because he knows he was such a jerk the night before. There is an organization for spouses/family of alcoholic, forget the name but it is connected to AA, maybe they can help. I've thought about it myself and may go one of these days once I find a meeting in my area. But they may be able to help you see things more clearly. You probably knew just did not want to admit it, it is easy to ignore and just hope he stops but that is not going to happen believe me.
We are at PANDEMIC LEVEL 5.
Look out! We might get a lot of working coming in. I suspect when the this flu hits secondary stage which is about 87 days we will be at full blown flu mode. Lucky you are at home. Beware, schools might be closing because of this threat of the flu.
Now that takes constipation to a whole new level! - nm
Okay, girls, I need some insight here on a personal level. (sm)
I have not had a man in my life for the past 3.5 years. I have tried dating and get asked out all the time, but just no interest in the ones doing the asking I guess. I have a very comfortable life and truly am in no need for a man to take care of me. However, I have known this one particular man for over a year and just very recently our friendship seems to be heading to a different level and for the first time I am very attracted to him. So, the other day he e-mailed me and both of us came clean on our feelings. The problem is that he has had his present girlfriend for the past 7 years...they do not live together and really spend little time together, as their lives are significantly different and when asked why he simply states "it just isn't working out and that he could make more time to see her, but he doesn't"
Okay, so now I know I am going to get flamed, but where do you think it goes from here? Both him and I have a seminar to attend with another man in 2 weeks and will also be staying at the same hotel, etc. and I am just so confused as to how I go about keeping my distance but still wanting him. What to do, what to do......this has been on my mind all day and so has he and I am so not use to these feelings at all....like high school all over again.
Blizzard-like conditions here in Indiana. Level II. SM
Level II means no cars on road unless absolutely necessary. My son was sent home from work. Calling for 8-10 inches of snow. It's the blowing snow that is dangerous.
Wait, there would be professional sports, just not at the level we see now, you know what I mean? nm
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On my own personal level, I am sick and tired of the caveman, and
most of the time look away and/or mute when he comes on. Secondly, the gecko bird reminds me of an old 'friend' who turned out to be as cold blooded as a reptile, nasty tail included. Thus, I would like both removed from advertising forever....honestly.
i agree. I thought the knowledge level was very poor
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Is fireplace on same floor you want to heat? The heat will rise up from a lower level unless you
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The WHO raised it to a phase/level 4 now. A phase
5 is pandemic. SARS never made it to a level 4, so it's getting scary now.
well....it depends on how you look at it.
I think your Halloween decorations sound great!! Pretty spooky, IMO. It depends on how you look at the situation. Halloween, in reality, is not just a fun holiday. It actually stands for All Hallow's Eve and if you are into pagan religion this is your favorite night of the whole year...it is the Devil's New Year. We have been celebrating this holiday forever, but just for fun and tricks, BUT...at the same time pagans have been celebrating "the new year."
The preacher as well as God's people come with responsibilities and duties to fulfill--a preacher just has a tougher role (leadership)to fill. Not my rule, God's rule.
At the same time, he is not supposed to totally interfere with your life. He should not judge you (10 commandments say "Thou shalt not judge") and if he has said everything you have told here, then he has placed a judgement on you, which he will be held accountable for. Sometimes Christians (regardless if Baptist, etc)can get themselves in major trouble just by the way they word something. In reality, what he should have done was just prayed to God for your family (not saying anything bad about you--just what he or any Christian who feels offended in some way should do)and asked God for His help in dealing with his feelings towards your decorations.
Hope this helps!! Have a great day!!
Depends where she gets them. sm
We were in California, and she bought from some costume firm in Chicago. Usuall ran anywhere from $60 to $90 for costume for each recital.
$54 for six weeks is a decent price. Sorry you can't watch. We were always allowed to stay for the session, and show up at the end and watch. That seems strange to me.
It depends.
I have one on right now but some days the girls breathe
It depends on the kid (SM)
I have 3 girls. They are all so different that they cannot be grouped by behavior based on their gender alone. The oldest has so much 'tude and is quite difficult. The second is a breeze. The third, well, she's 1, so I don't know too much yet, but she seems to be the easiest of them all.
Depends
My newphew is on it and has lost almost all his weight. He had tried several things, including So. Beach, but nothing worked. He had gained weight after knee surgery, etc. - needed to get it off because his work is teaching martial arts!
He says the food is good. It is costly, however.
I can't afford it, so I'm just counting calories and keeping a food diary. I just write down the time, the food and the # of calories I eat throughout the day. Putting it on paper keeps me honest and I like trying to keep it at 1200 or less calories a day.
depends on what you are looking for
and how old kids are. Cape Cod, White Mountains/Conway NH, Maine seacoast, Olde Orchard Beach, Boston, Lake Winnepesaukie (sp) in New Hampshire.
That depends... Here is a tip
Contributions can either go to a general fund which goes toward regular expenses, i.e. lights, cleaning, etc. You may also designate that contribution to a special program, i.e. youth department, sound system, etc. All contributions that are designated can not be spent on anything else except for that particular program. As for the cards, that is a personal decision. Generally, a card to the family addressed to the spouse is sufficient. My suggestion would be to mark a date on your calendar a month from now and do a follow up call. See how the family is doing and check for any specific needs. Often times they just need to talk.... so be available.
I not sure but I believe it depends
on the risk level. There is a sex offender living directly behind us. He was a high school coach and had an affair with a student. She was 16 or 17. Her mother found a ton of revealing love letters between them and she gave him warning once if it did not stop, she is going to turn him in. It did not stop so she turned him in. The gal was willing but still he was the adult in the situation and he should not have taken advantage of her. Anyway, I have seen him exercising in the park. I don't think I have seen him at ballgames though.
I think it depends on the kid...sm
I have 3 and of course they all have different personalties. My oldest DS started about the age of 2 and he was a snap. Then my DD came along and she was, and still is, so stubborn and strong-willed. She was probably almost 3 before she was potty trained. Then youngest DS was probably 3 1/2 before he was out of diapers. Never thought I would get through those days, and now they are 20, 17, and 15.
Depends . . . . sm
Is it just you? If so,I'd wait and draw full plus work. If you don't need the $$,go ahead and retire. I'd probably wait anyway because I don't know what I'd do with all that free time!
Depends -- they may not
Insurance laws have changed but when I worked for an insurance company you had to be covered by that insurance company nine months for the birth to be covered. Otherwise everyone would go out and get insurance during their ninth month. But since they have that new law with continuous coverage and if it is a group plan, it might be different. You have to be upfront about it, cannot hide it so might as well call your new insurance and ask them but be sure you get a manager or someone who knows what they are talking about, see something in writing about what is covered on your new plan, etc. It should be in there. But do not be shocked if it is not covered because like I said, they sometimes do require nine months of coverage or else they call it a pre-existing condition. Also lots of times they will not cover the pre-delivery testing either. Again, get some information from your new company so you can decide if you need to COBRA over or not. Good luck, let us know what you find out.
It depends
I think it really depends on who the boys are and how well you know them. When I was a kid, I only had guy friends so there were no real sleepovers with the girls and my guy friends would never have dreamed of doing anything rude or anything to me to be afraid of. I am only 30, so it wasn't that long ago. I think it would depend on the girl and if I knew the boys she hung around with. Obviously, you wouldn't want her to do that with boys she didn't know or couldn't be trusted, but I never had friends like that I was close to. I know a 19-year-old who is the same way and is the daughter of one of my good friends. She has a several best friends who are boys and my friend never had to worry about them sleeping over or camping or going out of town. I wouldn't say no if you know them and you know your daughter. it would be different maybe if she was going camping with her boyfriend or with strangers.... then I might have to think about whether or not that was really okay with me as a mother in your situation.
It depends on the day.
School mornings are crazy so its usually a granola bar, pop tart, piece of fruit or something of the like and then maybe a mid morning bowl of cereal, oatmeal, or cream of wheat.
On weekends my hubs is usually the one up early so he usually makes a traditional-type breakfast with eggs, hashbrowns, bacon, etc. or pancakes, french toast, or waffles.
During the summer I went through a homemade egg mcmuffin sandwich phase. Those were quick and easy but not quick enough for school mornings.
Funny, we had breakfast for dinner last night. Scrambled eggs with cheese, hash browns, toast, bacon, and OJ. It's been a long time since I have done that and I told my hubs this should be a once a week dinner. Its so simple, easy, and healthier than a lot of other stuff. Besides kids love it! :)
Just this morning I was thinking I need some new ideas for quick mornings but i hate buying prepackaged stuff like poptarts.
Depends. How old is he? sm
Will you incur penalties? Can you roll it over into something guaranteed? Depends on your situation.
QVC...depends
Well, the sets I saw are "cheaper", but not the "same" set you find from American Girl directly. I.e. The Molly doll came with a cuople of outfits, a stand, a couple of books, and I think her pet, which not the exact same set. So it is more than just the doll and one book, but less expensive to get all of that stuff it comes with separately. The doll and book alone from american girl is less $$ but does not include the extra outfit, etc. I didn't watch when it was on in Sept., so maybe they have other accessories or furniture on the show too. I am guessing they sell out fast! Also, if you have not done this, check out the American Girl website for the sales and monthly specials. Over the summer, I got a $40 toboggan for $20 - of course you do have the shipping charge but still cheaper. So they do have some good deals there too, just that there may or may not be an item to go with the doll you have or are looking for...
It depends on what you buy.
My in-laws lose power all the time so they invested in a whole house generator that is built in so all they have to do is flip a switch and their power is back on. They run everything and you can't tell any difference. It cost them thousands to do this but they saved to have it done before retirement.
Prior to that they had the generators you buy at the hardware store and it only ran the refridgerator and heat. You could add the lights for a short period of time but they were very dim. Those they had to fill with gas every couple hours and it was a lot of work.
That reminds me to charge up my other computer and cell phones too.
I'm somewhere in PA, depends what
TV news you listen to; i.e., Wilkes-Barre/Scranton (3 stations), Phila., Lancaster, etc.. LOL
I'm closer to the Berks/Lancaster area and nobody ever heard of vinegar on scrapple. I grew up that way. It does give a bit of zing to the scrapple yet doesn't hide the true flavor.
We grew our tomatoes in 5 gallon buckets this year. They did really good. You could do it too. We experiment every year with 1 or 2 plants to try to get fresh tomatoes through the winter. Did it 1 year a long time ago, but failed to write down what we did, so we've been testing and testing..
Depends on their age and I think I would
let them ask. My ex told my daughter about some stuff that she didn't ask about, which I really did not appreciate. If they ask I wouldn't lie, but I would not volunteer anything.
I think a lot depends on what
others did for you. Did they call and offer their condolences? Did they see you in person and express their sympathy. In this cyber age, cards seem to be a thing of the past.
My neighbor (friend and hair stylist) recently lost her father-in-law very suddenly. I have been friends with their family for years, including the widow. I didn't realize it until just now, but I never sent either of them a sympathy card. I did, however, make 2 trays of stuffed shells and pumpkin pie (it was in the fall) for both families. The items were very much appreciated.
I would try not to take it personally, especially if some of these people acknowledged your loss personally. As far as not giving cards, that's up to you, but I do what I do because it makes me feel good -- not because I expect something in return. I certainly don't mean that to sound harsh or offensive, it's just how I feel.
I'm very sorry for the loss of your mother. I can't imagine how painful that must be. I'm sure she loved you very much!
Well now...that depends
MC and Visa can still be accepted if you refuse to show id and the card is signed. Of course, if you haven't signed the back, it could probably be refused as tender because of the disclaimer "not valid unless signed" on the back of your card.
Other cards, other rules.
In several states you can be asked for id, but it is illegal to write any of the info on the receipt or make a copy. That is a big no-no. There are, of course, exceptions if you are using the cc for things like security deposit and so on.
As a note, my nationwide company does not require us to check id if the card is signed and the signatures match. If it is unsigned, we are supposed to ask for id--going back to the "valid card" issue.
Also, if you are really that upset about having to show id I would suggest using cash. It's awfully difficult to commit id fraud with that :)
It depends
The first sentence would be a fact (if it's assumed that the person saying it is sincere).
The second could be an opinion since it is speaking of someone else's preferences. Does the person making the statement know for sure the mom feels that way (fact) or just his/her perception (opinion)?
Funny how almost anything can get confusing when dissected.
well, that all depends on the kid, I think
I'll try not to make this too long, but my son is borderline autistic/asperger's which we did not recognize until he was into his 20s.
Incredibly intelligent kid, self-taught. For all intents and purposes, and I shan't go into detail, he dropped out of school in the 8th grade. He got his GED when he was 19 in the top 90th percentile.
But he still did nothing with his life.
I'm a single mother so I know I over-compensated due to guilt and didn't force him to do things, but he was such a loner, never causing any problems or even causing a stress on finances. Just food. He had his computer. That was his life.
He found a GF through the internet. A college student in our community. His sister, younger, followed the natural course of things and began going to college. So... he had 2 girls in the house in school, great achievers, his GF w/4.0 and his sister with 3.8 and both LOVING school (sister now is away at college, a senior).
He entered college 2 years ago with intentions of becoming a teacher. He has come out of his shell. He is still short of terrified of social situations, but I can't help but think what would have happened if he was forced into any situation that he wasn't ready for or comfortable with.
Your have to listen and know your child. If they are using your home as a shelter to do nothing, and you know they have the ability to do otherwise, maybe you should give them other guidelinen besides following the rules... or if you think they need that shelter emotionally for any reason, you should listen to that too.
In my heart, I knew my son's intentions were not to mooch off me for the rest of my life, but I just didn't have what it takes to push him into doing what I knew he was capable of doing. I just knew somehow he would.
Now he's right up there with the girls. After 2 years, he's at a 4.0 too and pretty much loving school.
Yeah, my kids are welcome here as long as they need to be, but if the circumstances were different, my answer would be too.
Depends...
Is the account verbatim where no matter how ridiculous it may sound, unless it's simply a 'right/left' or 'he/she' change, the MT is supposed to mindlessly transcribe whatever is dictated? You do indicate that is precisely what is dictated.
Hard to find fault when MTs have it driven into their heads to not use their brains and transcribe whatever the clinician says.
IMHO, can't ding her AT ALL FOR TRANSCRIBING WHAT WAS DICTATED.
C'est fait.
Depends
Used to be every year, now it's every 2. I get the written prescription & then get my contacts online. MUCH cheaper. Don't let the optometrist tell you they can't write you an rx just because they don't want to lose out on their enormous markup.
depends where you have it sm
There's "bridal bingo" where you make up a puzzle with bridal stuff crosswords, and the first one to fill the card wins a prize.
I thought it was tacky but at tables of 6-8 each table had two rolls of toilet tissue which to me was disgusting until they said "dress only one person at the table as a bride" and it was really funny, they had a lineup of the "brides" with 1st and 2nd prizes, some were quite crafty, although these were crafty fashion people. It wasn't as tasteless as it looked, it was just that I never saw rolls of toilet tissue placed on the table before. I would have liked a roll of tape on the table, it was difficult to make knots. I did a "veil".
Another idea is to pass out the envelopes to thank you cards, have each guest write their snail male address as they "address" the envelope and then pull for a prize or prizes. This way the bride has everyone's address and all she has to do is write the thank you note afterwards.
For me it depends....sm
For me it depends on who the friend/relative is. If its someone I'm very close to who has the room and is cool with us coming in and out then I don't mind staying with family/friends. But, if its someone I'm not all that close with (like some of my cousins or aunts/uncles), then I prefer to stay in a hotel. For me it also depends on my length of stay on vacation too. :) But, here in the last few years, I couldn't afford to travel without the staying at relatives thing, so I made sure I was absolutely no inconvenience, but I still had a great travel time and a token of my appreciation to my relative who let us stay with them for a week. :)
Depends on how low you want to go
Keeping in mind the average kid taste buds, pastas are always a good cheap choice- a can of cheap sauce, a pound of ground beef (or meat of your choice), and a loaf of bread, and you've got a meal for under $10 and most kids like spaghetti. Mine were fans of stroganoff, which isn't too pricey- 1 pound of cheap meat (you can even use stew meat if you cook it slow), sour cream, and beef broth, served with noodles or rice. Stir frys are meals that stretch pretty far- a couple of cut up chicken breasts or beef, a bag of frozen vegetables, and some rice. Kids seem to like tacos, but usually you can't make them too spicy; I used to get a whole chicken, throw it in a crock pot with a packet of mild taco seasoning, cook it until very well done, and then pick the bones (which is a task that the kids can help with, although you risk losing half the meat). Tuna noodle is also doable, but in making that exciting enough for an adult palate, you risk the kids turning up their nose.
Or you can go Ramen noodles for everyone, with an exciting new flavor every night of the visit!!
This depends
I live in a smaller place and we get a few channels from a larger city about 2 hours away. They broadcast in all digital and the signals come down here and are rebroadcast through our towers as analog. Our switch won't actually happen until 2012. My mom bought the converter box and a new antenna right after the switch was supposed to happen for everyone. When it wouldn't work, we called our local news station and were told the above. Big waste of money for her.
Depends on the age of the child
:)
depends on how you feel
I had 2 attacks prior to surgery, the first was bad, went to ER (had no clue what the problem could be) and had no ins; doc said I may have no more problems; 3 months later I had another attack, much worse, went to ER and then consulted a surgeon and 5 days later was in surgery. between the consult and surgery I was on a strict diet and had no attack in those 5 days, but was more than happy to HAVE the surgery and prevent ANY future attacks! (the 2nd was a doozy!). I had lap. surgery but had a "very sick" gallbladder and the surgery ended up taking much longer than "normal"; surgeon said he thought he would have to open me up, but finally finsihed the job! I did have 2 "attacks" of the horrid gas pains about a week after surgery, sincerely thought I was going to DIE! All is well now...
Depends on where you live and
the racial diversity around that community. I have no problem with it. Better a happy relationship then an abusive or dysfunctional one.
I think it depends on the person....
xx
It depends on the grade of the oil
If you use high grade oil you can go a little longer, about 4000 or 5000 miles.
depends on the sport - but they are
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Depends how advanced it is, but
soaking the foot is a first step. Then the skin may be soft enough to push down to see if there is a spike of nail growing into the skin. I think they call these spicules. They are hard to see, but using a metal nail file and pressing the skin down, they can often be detected and removed. File it off if possible, attempting not to cut the skin.
I once had one when I was a child that I had to see the pediatrician for. I think it had to be drained and everything, which didn't cause much pain since it itched a lot. But I had to elevate my foot and got to stay home from school. Loved it.
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