I think fussing over a name is silly.
Posted By: rose is a rose on 2007-12-10
In Reply to: No respect for new name... - Judith
I grew up in a family where everyone had about five or six nicknames each. We answered to anything anyone called us. In fact, it was a great compliment to be "tagged" with a special name that was only used between two people. My dad called me "Abraham" all of my life. I have no idea why he'd call his only daughter Abraham. Never questioned him on it, but it was a special tag he and he alone had for me.
So, if your friend has changed his name, and for the past 10 years other people have called him by the new name, that's great. But between he and his family, his name is his name. They might even feel a bit rejected since he changed the name he was known by within his family. Their feelings are just as valid as his.
I don't understand the way the word "respect" is tossed around these days. His family does not "respect" his new name? Must people agree with everything another person does in order to respect him? Respect and agree are two different things. Maybe his family think that he does not respect them since he wanted to throw off the name he was known by in his family?
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