I think I will probably stay here until that day comes. I hate moving. nm
Posted By: Another KSMT on 2007-08-16
In Reply to: Do you think you'll move at least 1 more time or - are you in your final resting place? :) nm Wonderi
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We are moving...
In May after our DD graduates from HS. She's a senior and we don't want to pull her out of her HS that she's been in for 4 years now. We're putting the house on the market probably in Jan-Feb. If it sells, (yeah, right) we'll just rent an apartment or something until May.
why is he moving out?
If he does not like your rules or is a troublemaker, I am surprised his sister would want to take him on as it seems from your posts she is a responsible person. Are you a miserable person to live with? I ask because my mother was a misery to live with, and none of us kids could wait to get away from her.
All we ever heard was == All I do for you kids, no appreciation, etc. Believe me, we were not bad kids. She just resented the hard work of being a mother and blamed us for her misery. Hello, don't have kids if you don't want the responsibility, headaches, etc.
Also you keep referring to MY house. That sounds just like my mother. In my family, we call it OUR house.
you should have put that $500 towards moving
You really need to just get out of there.
I am too. I have tried moving to our
but the kids moved their computer by me. Seems whereever I go they follow. I had no big windows in there so I went back to the family room, which is now called the office. But it is more like the kids room with mommy trying to work and bothering them. They play classroom in here, webkinz, toontown, do homework, etc. I used to have it in the bedroom, for years, but got depressed because I literally never left the room except to take care of the kids and do chores. I got depressed and the doc said I had to take the computer out of my bedroom, because even when not working, in bed, I'd think about work or see it constantly.
I once had an office with walls, but the kids took up camp in there too. They are all 11 and under so I can't wait until they want mommy less and are teenagers for example. Maybe then, they'd spend time by themselves and only come to me for money. LOL. I love them, but the noise and clutter that come withs them well just not exactly a good environment for a doc who speaks no English and eats chips at the same time.
moving
I am moving 1,000 miles from where I live right now. The move is taking place on 03/19/2009. Since living in Ohio, I have been through so much sorrow and stressful things. I want to move on and go back where my sons live. The only thing I will regret is leaving my granddaughter's grave site. It is only a couple of minutes from here, and I can go any time I want. I know when I leave, I will not be back, and I will miss visiting her.
moving
I moved 21 years ago all by myself about 450 miles away. That way I got visited way less by family and no more surprise visits.
If you stay put, it implies that you are happy where you are, not that you are too scared to do something else.
He said he was moving, so I would say ok to that!
When you lump all husbands together you are not talking everyone. My husband wants me to be happy, not just him. When I first started reading your post I was thinking divorce in the works. Only married 2 years, do you really think it is worth 2 more? Why in the world do you have to do what HE wants? Does not sound like much of a mutual marriage to me. He sounds very immature. The marriage is in for a lot of trouble.
Very moving. Thanks for sharing. nm
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A friend is moving there. I just SM
always imagined it as a tourist town. I suppose it really is a lovely city. He is specifically moving to North Myrtle Beach, SC.
I guess it seemed strange to me, because the person moving there is my rabbi. I'm sorry, I'm laughing! Anyway, Myrtle Beach will be getting a wonderful member of the community.
He will be missed deeply here in Pembroke Pines, Fl.
Hope you won't think I'm completely crazy. It just seemed strange a rabbi would be moving to Myrtle Beach.
If I have offended anyone, of any religion, living or not living in Myrtle Beach, I'm sorry. :)
Very moving - see comment
Very moving, touching, sad, proud, thankful, greatful. There are not enough words to thank all the soldiers fighting for us. I was in the miliary some years ago and this brings back so many memories of why I joined. I can't thank enough these people who fight for our freedom and for freedom for others. I still have a lump in my throat from watching this video. What a wonderful tribute to the soldiers this 15-year-old did in making this.
moving out of state
Check your divorce laws in your states. Many states will not let you or your (ex) spouse move out of state without permission of the other. Some even have a mileage radius. I think it's to keep both parents close to the kids and not having one parent run far away so the other can't ever see the kids again. My kids were 5 and 1 when I was in the process of getting divorced, and I moved out of state before I realized this. Fortunately my ex realized and understood the need for me and the kids to be close to my family for support, so it was written in the papers that it was okay for me to move out of state and he signed it.
moving things around
I would just rearrange the whole _____ house until he feels better! I think he is trying to tell you something!
Hey, X, no wonder he is moving around alot!!.....nm
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I'd be moving that bunch out of state!
What's the lowest-populated state?
Either that or I'd change the trim to iron somehow. Wouldn't that be funny to see them run up and try to chomp on iron? Attitude adjustment!
I wonder if it is some dental condition.
My dad's squirrels insist on stealing branches from his variagated hydrangea. He actually has to cover the bush with netting to foil them.
It's not as if they even use all the branches for their nests. They leave some scattered around the yard, the dorks.
I'm moving in 2 weeks - where do I start?
I'm not a novice to moving. Between 1996 and 2005, I moved 9 times, always with a U-Haul and hiring day workers to load and unload, except for the last move when I hired professional movers and it was smooth. I will be using professional movers again this time. Expensive but only 4 hours down time and in the MT business, time is money.
Here is my problem. When I moved in here 2 years ago, it was with my now 25 yo son. He has since moved out and now I am raising my 4 yo granddaughter. I've never moved wtih a preschooler underfoot (I'm single). I also thought I would be here a very, very long time, so I started making this a *home* again by buying nick nacks, restocking a respectable kitchen, hanging pictures, etc. I've gained a lot of weight and only have a drawer full of clothes to pack, but the 4 yo, oy, she has clothes and stuff animals and little bitty tiny things that seem to move around the house while I'm sleeping at night.
I decided to finally get rid of things I've been hauling around since 1996 (french lead crystal, a really nice Mardi Gras collection of dolls, faces, beads), shoes, clothes I now realized I am NOT going to be getting back into within the next year. Basically, I decided if I haven't touched it since I moved in here, I'm going to get rid of it. It is all going to the thrift store or dumpster. But, I'm finding that I am spending so much time organizing the getting rid of stuff or just throwing unusable stuff away, I'm not packing! I don't feel organized at all and I'm the type that NEEDS to be organized. And now I'm starting to feel panic that I won't be ready on the 28th when the truck pulls up. Of course, every time I organize one area, the 4 yo comes along with her stuff and I can't walk across the room without stepping on her stuff, so that sets me back. I've scheduled a service to come in 2 days after everything is moved out so I don't have to worry about cleaning, thank goodness.
What do I do? Am I doing this backwards? Should I go ahead and pack the stuff I want to take and THEN deal with the stuff I'm not going to take? I am limited to 50 boxes. I have so many collections of breakables now and the company won't let me pack them in the dresser drawers. I can only put cloth items in my drawers. It would be so much easier to pad the breakables in linens and clothing in the drawers, but I can't.
I wish I could just send the 4 yo to someone for the next 2 weeks, but that isn't going to happen. On top of that, I scheduled myself for a really heavy work load these 2 weeks because I'll need extra money for rent on the 1st. The new place is $300/month more than where I live now. I'm moving because the school district rezoned the street where I live and it's not a good district and little one starts school in August. I'm moving to a much better district. The daycare across the street will be $200/month less than the one I use now, so that will help offset the cost of the new place, but I won't feel it in my pocket until the middle of next month.
Please give me some tips and maybe a Valium!
What's her reason for moving out of dad's house?
I think that is a big factor. Is this something she does from time to time because she doesn't like the rules or gets in an argument? Or do you think she just misses you and wants to spend time with you? Do you think she plans on getting her own place at 18, going away to college, or staying on for awhile? I think that matters too.
If this is habitual or temporary, she can tough it out (as long as it's not an abusive situation). Life isn't easy as an adult and she will be finding that out very soon either way. You aren't a bad parent because you want her to be independent and not think everything is owed to her. The sooner she learns that, the better off she will be.
Suggestions for moving across country?
So I am from California, my little sister has been in North Carolina where her husband is stationed at the Marine Corps for two years. They just had their first baby (the first extended family member) and I flew back there for the birth
08-18-08 8 pounds, 3 ounces 19 inches long
And now that I'm back home (only got to spend a week of her life with her) I am missing her tremendously! The rest of my family is here on the west coast, but I'm feeling like I want to be closer to my niece. My mom thinks it is because I am at the age of wanting babies, but I don't want my own yet! Is this a crazy idea? I mean, most people are not able to take their work where they go, and I don't want to pass the opportunity up. I wouldn't live in Jacksonville, NC where they are, I was thinking more along the lines of Myrtle Beach SC... two hours away so they still have their privacy and I live somewhere where I think I would love (but have no idea really, I visited there one time)... I just don't know how you go about making plans to make such a huge move...
Any thoughts, suggestions, advice?
Obviously this is a quick assessment of my lifestyle, but I am willing to do it, but is it crazy to think i want to be around my niece enough that I would move 3,000 miles away from my home?
Thanks for the input
and i attached a pic cause i can't help showing her off! :)
This is Allyson Ayn!
It is supposed to be moving to Lifetime sm
but as far as when it will air, I really don't know as there have been some issues with the transfer between the producers and Bravo. There is an injunction against Lifetime from Bravo to where they cannot air the show until the legal mess gets sorted out, even though the season has been filmed, except for the finale.
I do like Top Chef on Bravo but it comes on the same time as Life on Mars, so I have to catch it on reruns.
Moving/packing tips???
My husband and I are moving to another state on FRIDAY!!! I can't believe how quickly the moving date has come around. We still have well over half of our packing to do. Do you guys have any tips or motivation techniques to get my butt in gear? I do NOT want to have to be up until 2:00 in the morning Thursday night, but that's what it is starting to look like. HELP!!!
Globes of my eyes moving- anyone else
Do not say should see neurologist, just did that yesterday for another unrelated matter and I did mention the eyes. I noticed this Friday. I thought at first it was the eyelids but no, got a mirror, checked closely and the right eye first was shaking in a vertical direction, a while later the left eye did the same, thank goodness not at the same time, might not could work. Has anyone had something similar and if so what was the end result?
Need opinions. moving from situation
Hi, I am looking for a little advice. I am moving from my apartment after 3-1/2 years. I am asthmatic and the lady under me is a very heavy smoker and the smoke infiltrates my apartment so badly that I have often thought of going to a hotel for the night. That is really not my issue. This lady has her rights and it is just time to move to a healthier apartment for me and my severe asthma. Here is the big question:
My landlord has been asked on several occasions to try to find where the smoke is getting through to my place. I have never made this a personal issue with the smoke, just a structural issue that might be resolved. Everything they tried to do never really worked. However, for the last 1-1/2 years, this landlord has been promising to put my DH and myself in another two bedroom apartment in the same complex. The time kept passing and it never happened. Finally, I had enough and decided to ask to break my lease (with a doc's note). The landlord THEN said to me "there will never be another 2 bedroom apartment because if another smoker moves under you, you will have the same situation." Probably this is not the case, as the buildings are 40+ years old and the particular building I am in has "settled" leaving cracks in ceilings, etc. Some of the other buildings do not have this problem. SO, my question.... Keeping me signing a new lease in the hopes of getting a new apt and then telling me no, is that not DESCRIMINATION against my asthma? I have been very patient and kind to everyone involved, and find that I am just getting kicked in the butt. I know that smoking is a brittle issue with a lot of people, especially smokers who have been kicked out of just about everywhere and made to stand outside. I understand that and I have not made this a "smoking war". I have tried to find a structural way to solve it and if it cant be done, then I am just moving out . Easy as that. Still, I can't help but feel bitter at the landlord who promised me another apartment and didn't deliver, saying I would have the same issues. I have lived in apartments all my life and never had an issue like this, probably because this lady is an extremely heavy smoker (4 packs a day) and she does not open her windows. The problem was inevitable. This is not a normal "smoker" issue. Any comments on where I could stand legally would help. I know this is a "constructive eviction" which means the apt. was not habitable for me because of my asthma and I moved due to that. any help is appreciated. tks in advance. Sorry so long.
thanks for your replies..i am moving next week to
a townhouse. No more upstairs/downstairs issues. People along the sides, but pure wall with no obvious way for smoke. This should be better. I will have two floors and nobody under I live in PA and there are no clauses in my lease for non-smoking so it is time to smell my own fresh air. It's a shame the LL didn't afford me the same rights as the smoker. Sure, my neighbor has the right to smoke in her own home, but I have the right also to not breathe her smoke in MY home. I know in some cases this is called trespass, but I am just too tired to fight it anymore. Next weekend I will be free free free! Thanksagain for your comments. I can always trust this site to give me a little support and lift my spirits.
was thinking of moving to central FLA from Miami
still praying for all those folks who got hit in the 40-mile range that this tornado went through......
Yeah CJ, so glad he is moving in the right direction - sm
Prayers will continue of course. Thanks for keeping us updated, I was wondering.
Went to see one in Mt. Juliet, TN. She was fantastic, told me I was moving (no plans at that time),
marriage would last--missed that 1 by 2 years, but pretty close. She hit my girlfriend exactly - initials of BF, etc.
I disagree. Women have gotten killed by not moving or changing their phone numbers.
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Normally, this would be something I would try to stay out of, but (sm)
I would think if you called CPS and explained things just the way you did here, they might be able to do something to keep the aunt away, and parenting classes for the parents wouldn't hurt either. I agree with the other poster who said if parents (or you) act first, anything the aunt did at a later time would be considered retaliation. Handicapped parents many times can be the best parents, but it sounds like they do need some help with setting boundaries.
I think I would stay put if I were you. He knows where the
door is and can use it if he chooses. Your first concern has to be your children and you should not have to find a place to live if he is the one who has the problem with you. If there is no adultery involved here, don't rush into divorce. Divorce is painful and can get nasty. Sometimes just being away from each other can "calm the waters" and allow you to make a more objective decision. I speak from experience. My husband and I divorced very hastily when we were very young after less than 2 years of marriage and then remarried, had 2 children, divorced very hastily again and then remarried again. Had I just been a little less in a hurry I could have saved myself a hiney-load of money and a lot of heartache by just being away for a while and then making an objective decision. Instead, I rushed into divorce and paid dearly.
Stay away from CC....
If you have been having problems meeting the minimum payment on any CC, by all means don't go opening another credit card. Your credit report will be an absolute mess. I know it's 0% interest for one year, but read the fine print - there is usually a fee of some type, plus, can you pay it off in one year before the interest starts up? You never know what will happen in life and you may not be able to make the payments, the rate goes up, and you are in deep doo-doo.
Sallie Mae is high interest, your 401K is better. With 401K you are paying yourself back with interest. It's a no-brainer. No one gets your money but you. Is it possible to borrow again from a 401K if you already have a loan out? Having the money deducted automatically from your paycheck and put back into your 401K is the safest and smartest bet...as long as you have a job.
If you ABSOLUTELY have to have this other loan for $7,000 then the 401K should be your only choice. Can you do without the $7,000 and get back on track before getting deeper into debt - or at least until you pay off the existing credit card?
Why would you want to stay...
with someone who is, as you say, mean? If you are not happy, LEAVE! When you stay you are condoning his behavior. Some women want to be martyrs, others want to live a great life. There are great men out there; wallowing in self-pity does not get you one though.
Well, obviously we don't want to stay
somewhere where there's still a lot of damage. That's why I'm asking for personal experiences, and hopefully recently. We don't want to book a beach house and when we get there find out it's in the middle of a big mess.
stay vs go
First, I am so sorry for your situation...that being said, the kids will definitely pick up on the negative vibes between you and your husband. As far as your question goes, I think only you and your husband can know the answer to that one. Just be very aware of your kids and behavior changes, emotional lability, etc. Trust me when I say, they are not dumb...they will pick up on what's going on, no matter how hard you try to hide it (yes, I'm speaking from experience...). Good luck!
You definitely need to stay on top of this...
The kids who you think are least likely to commit suicide are the ones that actually do...that is not meant to scare you by any means...most kids find it easier to write down their feelings than actually expressing them face to face so the fact that he wrote this means something is bothering him...I think you should both talk to your pastor..good luck...(((HUGS)))...
I think you should just stay out of it.
It is just humiliating for kids when their parents act up or cause a scene.
The name of the game is fun. Your going into the game wanting your son's team to beat the other team because of YOUR issues with another parent is very immature and selfish.
Trust me, we've watched parents like you've described yourself (and others, in fairness) acting out and it is so unsportsman-like and completely immature.
Embarrassing for everyone.
To Done: STAY !
No husband is perfect, we are all human. Your husband has a lot of good qualities. Think of your children! I think you are spoiled and unthankful. Maybe he is right and is better than you. He loves you, why don't you; I think you are just bored.
If I don't have anywhere to go, I stay
in my jammies. I usually get up and take the kids to school in jeans and my jammy shirt. Then come home and put the jammy pants back on. If I don't have anywhere to go, I don't get dressed until mid afternoon when I break for lunch. I usually put something in the oven and hop in the shower. Sometimes I just put clean jammies on, sometimes I get fully dressed. Either way, my contacts go in and my hair gets done. My husband likes me either way, as long as I'm clean. I find I wear my jammies more in the winter and am more likely to get dressed in the summer, probably because kids are always coming and going in the summer.
At any rate, I tend to be more productive when I'm dressed, so I should probably try to do that every morning, but I'm just not a morning person. Every year for Christmas, my mom gets me "work clothes" (jammies)!!!
Where we stay in NYC.
We stay at the Embassy Suites on North End Avenue right in the financial district. It is walking distance to to the Village, China Town, Mulberry Street, etc. It overlooks the Harbor and you can see the all the helicopters coming in and out. My husband always goes to Battery Park to watch the helicopters. It is not too inexpensive, but you do get free breakfast and there is a happy hour at 5:00 p.m. if you like to have a few drinks, which will really cost you in the city. There is also a fantastic deli 1 block away that we always hit for a late night snack. We go at least once per year, sometimes twice or 3 times. We love it.
You really have to stay on top of the cards
I do a lot of card flipping with balance transfers but also calling and trying to negotiate new deals. I just switched one with a balance transfer at 3.9 for the life of balance and then talked them down to a purchase rate of 8.9 (it had been up in the high teens). I also talked a card I've had a while into a 2.9 for the life of a balance transfer instead of the 12 month offer they were having because there was a delay in the electronic transfer to the other company causing me a bit of inconvenience. That transfer was actually for a loan I had at a pretty high interest rate, so some loans can be put on cards too which I never knew. I find websites that list ALL the latest offers for all or most card companies and I'm always checking. Sometimes I call my cards and tell them I am thinking about switching unless they can give me a similar/better rate or deal. Often they will so as not to lose the business. I have saved a ton of money doing this - it is sort of like consolidating on your own. I can post the site if anyone is interested, don't have it handy right now. Oh..I also have automatic electronic payment setup to pay a certain amount each month from my checking so the payment is NEVER late. You are so right about that, that's where they get you! I just thought maybe some of this info may help someone, I hope so. My credit is very good now but had been a mess in the past.
Remind me to stay
 away from that doctor!!!
Did he marry her so he could stay in the U.S.? nm
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I go there frequently and would not stay in
the Flamingo. It is right downtown but a very old place, the smoke when you go into the casino is terrible, not as classy as I like. It might be cheap but then you get what you pay for. I love the Mirage, stayed at Treasure Island, very nice also, favorite though is the Bellagio, more expensive than most on the strip. Love the buffet at the Luxor. MGM might be alright and at the end of most of the strip but I would think ok as far as a place to stay.
To make it stay that way
If you want everything on your computer bigger: right mouse click on your desktop background. A little box should pop up. Click on 'properties'. Then click on the settings tab. There should be a little sliding scale with the screen resolution. Move it to less resolution (left). Then click 'apply'. Your screen may black out for a second, but when it comes back, everything should be bigger. Certainly saved my eyeballs!!
Also if you stay away you are letting him win(sm)
As that seems to be his goal -I would not let him keep me from seeing the rest of my family. However, I also would not want my children exposed to his mouth, so if you cannot stay in a hotel,I would go and visit without your children, which I do sometimes as well. I see my family about twice a year, usually once by myself and once with the kids, at which time we stay in a hotel.
Its wise to stay away
I had a C-section and had planned to stay at my mom's for a week or so to recuperate. As soon as I got there, I put the baby in the cradle in the living room and started to put some things away in the bedroom. I could hear my step-dad saying "get 'im, get 'im" to his dog....I went out there and he was actually encouraging his schnauzer to mess with the baby! I came real close to braining him with a can of tomatoes over it. I left and refused to bring the baby to their house as long as he was in it. My mom, too, chose the step-dad over her kids. Now he's dead and her relationship with her kids is rocky, and she regrets it.
Need help with a dog that will NOT stay off furniture (sm)
We have a black lab in the house - had him since he was a puppy. He was/is not allowed to be on the couch and other furniture but....he considers it a challenge. If I am in my office, he will get on the couch and jumps down as soon as he hears me walking into the family room. I don't know how to make him stay off. He is a very smart dog and we challenge him in other ways with training. One of my kids will be home for the holidays and has allergies. The dog hair on everything is getting to me real quick! He is 2 years old now. Forget the dog bed - he looks at it and laughs!! 
Can help you on this, we stay at the Bellagio
and hear that is higher up on the scale of rates.
Do NOT stay just because of the age of your kids.
Being unhappy does affect your kids, whether you are abused or not.
3 yrs and 3 months. Stay over every other
xx
I'd try to stay calm, but (sm)
One thing I told my now-husband years ago was that I had to have honesty enough to know if he needed something from me that I was not giving, that he was not to go looking elsewhere for something without asking for it at home.
In this day and age, with STDs being they are, there is no excuse for adultery. It's not just thoughtless and hurtful, it's irresponsible with someone's life.
As far as being calm, I'm just not sure temper or tears works in a situation like that. I think many men "turn you off" when you get in that situation and nothing gets heard or accomplished, and something needs to get resolved with you guys PDQ.
Stay together for the children - yes or no? (sm)
Husband and I have been on the verge of divorce for years, trying to stay for kids. But now we can't seem to stop arguing for more than a week at a time. He is including me in none of the decision making and acts as though we are already divorced. I am worried about the effects divorce would have on my children, emotionally, financially. But part of me is ready to just plunge into the unknown. I almost feel like I don't have a choice. Would appreciate opinions and viewpoints either way.
me either. I'll stay right where i am!
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