I think I'm living with your husband's brother
Posted By: AnuddaMT on 2008-02-24
In Reply to: hubby probs - angelmt
I've got a very similar issue going on right now, too, so I'm very interested in hearing the responses. I don't know how old you are, but one of the biggest problems for me is that at 49, my body image is more comfortable having sex with wild abandon under the cover of darkness and that morning light (not to mention the sheet wrinkles, morning mouth, etc.) just don't let me feel relaxed enough for great sex (I might add that we've only been together about six months, and while being comfortable enough to ignore one's own body flaws may come, I'm not there yet). In our case, he does at least seem interested in the sex, with days full of flirtatious innuendo (he owns a ranch, so we see each other a good deal during the day), but somehow, he cannot drag himself to bed before 3:00 a.m. (and gets up at around 11-12) about an hour after I've finally given up waiting and gone upstairs (I'm an 8-9 riser).
This is a hard one not to take too personally, but if your husband has always been like this, it doesn't seem like it could suddenly be you. And, for what it's worth, there are many women who fall into the size 4 category (although I ain't one of them) who have the same issue, so it's not that weight loss/starvation will be this magical cure-all. As noted, I look forward to hearing from those who have gone through the same thing (and sorry for all the parentheses).
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i could have had his brother - nm
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Well, at least not as bad as his gay brother
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Through my brother...
and have only been apart when truly necessary!
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smoking some sausage, ribs, etc., for dinner and we are making potato salad and beans and trimmings to go along with it. He doesn't do this too often, so we are looking forward to a different Easter dinner this year!
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Have a great day! It's the last day of my pay period and I am soooo behind!! Gotta work! See ya!
Chickadee
Every living breathing male does if they can.
Only most don't codemn it. THAT is what I would have a problem with. :)
Try living downstairs from them sometime..... Gaaaaa!
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I am living it presently, so I go by what they have done and told me.
nm
All living in my house have curfews.
My youngest is 19 and lives at home. He has a curfew. He tried the now-that-I'm-18-I-don't-gotta-do-what-you-say stuff but I packed a WalMart bag with his deodorant and his stinky tennis shoes and took my house and car keys off his key ring and told him he couldn't live here if he didn't respect the rules.
He wandered around with friends for a couple of hours then very apologetically came back and we haven't had any trouble since.
You are not too hard. If she wants to make her own rules, she needs to support herself. Adult decisions should be made by adults - that means supporting herself.
This is why I am perfectly content living
I love them, but I don't have to deal with them on a day-to-day basis.
How cute! She is definitely living her dreams
in that picture, Ha!
...appetites. Living composters! nm
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Keys - Son - Living with Daughter
However, why post if you were wrong and then defend yourself to the opinions that were posted???? I don't get it. My parents had an open door policy. No matter what, they stuck by my decisions. I moved out twice and moved back in before getting married when apartment life did not work out for whatever reason. I did not move out when I was 16 though as my parents were responsible for me until I was 18. Once I turned 18, they still let me move in and out and I also always had a key. I had a key to the house they lived in, and then I had a key to my Mom's independent living apartment after she sold our family home when our Dad passed away.
I think there are more issues here than you want to admit. I think if you tried counseling instead of arguing with your son about a key, then you may get to the root of the problem. The fact that you won't allow him access to your home symbolizes that you don't want him around unless you are home. You are now telling him that his home is no longer his home by taking the key away.
I think that it is just understood that once one moves out on their own that the original home is not their home, but they are still welcome. I don't think you want to welcome him into what you are calling your home.
When we bought our first home and had children, we became a team. We are a family and even though my husband and I pay the bills, we do tell our children that this is "our" home. They help with chores and that's the best they can do.
I don't want to go on and on, and I'm not bashing you here. I just think you may want to consider some help from something other than this board. You may want to try a church or a counselor to help you with your teenager. I'm sure none of us here are saints by no means and we need to support one another here.
My Mom used to say "You are born, but you're not dead yet." In other words, anyone here can state their opinions on the rearing of their own children, but not until you die can you say "that never happened to me"! My Mom would say this when I would give judgemental remarks of others. This was to open my eyes to the fact that the very same thing I am talking about could happen to me!
Lots of luck and love to you! I certainly hope there is a way to keep an even ground with your son. Blood is thicker than water...
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