I still think it should be the parents who teach the child these things, not the school's place.

• Field trip to see lesbian wedding - educational or not?
  • My child would not be attending...sm - blondie_1147
  • Let's look at it this way - Old part-timer
    • Wrong. And why do you think a same-sex marriage - is going to be any different than -sm
      • OMG - Old P-T was NOT stating the ceremonies were different - get a grip
        • She claims a wedding "isn't educational material". - For a 1st-grader, everything is educational!
          • Well, this is one educational moment they - don't need for their future... MSMT
          • "open-mindedness will not get them a job - later in life
            • Bet me! - SF
  • Oh please. I live in SF, and the kids are going to see their - TEACHER get married... -sm
    • The question was not are you for/against gay marriages - -sm
      • In a city with a large gay/lesbian population, gay -sm - SF
        • For example, I have a lot of opinions and beliefs....do you want to send your child (or another chil - MeMT
          • This is just a simple wedding. Nothing more, - nothing less.
            • Then why did you just say it would teach tolerance? Apparently there was a goal. sm - MeMT
              • Today's children are tomorrow's leaders and - lawmakers. Would you rather - sm
                • Of course I would want to be equally valued. Why can't that be taught at home? nm - MeMT
                  • It can't because most parents (read this board!) are NOT - tolerant nor open-minded. - nm
        • I still think it should be the parents who teach the child these things, not the school's place. - MeMT
          • In too many cases, that would just perpetuate - the myths, fears, and hatred.
            • But this is not a school-wide accepted teaching practice, it is individual (nm) - MeMT
              • Maybe not in the midwest, but in San Francisco, - tolerance is taught in our schools.
                • Last time I was in SF, there was NAKED biking group parading down the road. Now THAT was educational - MeMT
                  • So what? It's a minor blip in everyday city life. - .
                    • Do you have kids? Do you want them seeing some stranger's penis or vagina? nm - MeMT - last post - aren't you glad?
                      • haha - I've seen a penis or two in town, but golly - - never taking the time to see a vagina!
                • No, in the MW our kids go to school to get an acutal - education - how silly of us nm
                  • If intolerance is part of the MW curriculum, then - I'm glad my kid lives in SF.
                    • Everyone belongs somewhere; it sounds like you are in the right place....see msg - nm
                      • That's it exactly. And you're welcome to come - visit this beautiful city any time!
  • And this is why our country is going to h@ll in a - a handbasket........nm
  • I'd be all over that school with an attorney for it. - Ridiculous
  • So did they do this on school time? - -sm
    • It's not on school time. - nm
  • If this was MY child??? sm - MT and worn out
    • If it were MY child, I'd buy her a pretty dress to wear - and tell her to have a good time.
      • If wanting to teach my son our own family values makes me a bigot..then so be it. sm - MT and worn out
        • Pretty sad to stunt a child's intellectual growth. - .
        • What a bunch of kooks - NM
    • Unfortunately, the schools stick their nose in many things that should be the parents job (sm) - MeMT
      • Any parent who choses to has the option of - keeping their kid home.
  • Not educational. This is something that should be the parents job to teach, not the school. sm - MeMT
    • Chances are, this is an outdoor, nondominational - wedding. There are likely school district -

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It may very well be that it is just a little kid is mad and one of those things that are very normal for kids this age to do.  You know, my dad's gonna beat up your dad kind of thing.  However, the parents need to know that their daughter is threatening violence towards your daughter and using dad as her back up.  He may not even own a gun, who knows?  I would just politely explain the situation to them and let them know you wanted to work with them so it wouldn't get blown out of proportion at school.  If she is just acting in the typical manner, the school still won't see it that way because of so many shootings, and this may cause even more trouble for your family and Maya's.  Don't know if you have this in your area, but our schools have the safe schools act, and it is a zero tolerance policy.  Statements like that here have gotten kids expelled from school, and they were not allowed back into the public system until an extensive interview with the school administration and psychiatrist and a lot of paper work.  Then the discipline is all on their record, even infractions that ended up as no threat.   

1.  What ages are your kids?

2.  Do they have their own cell phone?

3.  Do they have their own TV and or computer in their room?  If so, are there set hours they're allowed to use these:

4. Do they receive an allowance?  If so, are they required to do chores to receive this?

As for our house, here's the answers.  Kids are 15 and 8.  15-year-old has a cell phone and pays her bill.  15-year-old has a TV.  The kids share 1 PC that is where we can see what they're doing on it, and they're limited to no more than an hour a day on it if it's a school day.  We do have parental controls in place.  They don't receive an allowance but they are aware of a special chores list that they can choose to do extra things around the house to make money.  They are required to keep their rooms and bathrooms cleaned, as well as alternate cleaning up the kitchen after dinner.

I need some opinions from other moms.  My little 5-year old dd got in trouble at school and was put in time-out.  First, she was talking to her other friends during a movie that they were watching, then she was talking and playing during nap time.  She did not get to go skating or get ice cream like we usually do on Saturday nights.  We went to Lowes to get some things for the house and she found a book that she wanted, I told her no because she acted up in school.  That has been her punishment so far. I am thinking about having her go apologize to the teacher Monday for acting so ugly Friday or would that be too much?

She has been in daycare since 1 year of age and last September she went to Pre-K.  This is the first time anyone has mentioned having any problems with her.  The night before my 15 month old kept us up all night and I know with my 5 year old doesn’t get enough sleep she does act up and I feel that was the real problem, she was tired.

If so, how did you go about figuring out how to teach them? 

Our daughter was in public school but we moved her to a private school at the first of the year because she was very behind in the public school and they refused to give her extra services.  Since moving her to the private school we have found out that she does have learning disabilities, which means that she would need to return to the public school since the private school doesn't have special education services available.  She has learned a lot while in the private school because of the small class size and a teacher that spends a lot of time with her and we know that she has learned much more than she would have if she had stayed in the public school.

Now the public school is wanting her to repeat the grade when she returns there in the fall.  Yes, the very same public school that refused to help us before and actually blew off my questioning if she had learning disabilities now only has a "repeat the grade" attitude.  The problem I have with that is that she has proven on testing done at Sylvan learning center that she is academically half way into her current grade, so if she repeats the grade she will be bored for half of the year because she knows that material.

Therefore we're considering home schooling but don't know how effective this might be with her learning disabilities.  Does anyone else do this?  How did you find out about the techniques you needed to teach your child so that they could learn?  We know that she has an average IQ so that's not a problem - it's just getting her brain to process the information correctly.

Thank you.

First, the facts.  My child has retinitis pigmentosa.  His vision is 20/200 without glasses and his best corrected vision is 20/70.  I have taken him to the specialists at the University of Michigan and the prognosis is not promising.  He is only 8 years old and I don't feel he needs to know the true extent of what his future might hold.  He inherited this through me, as my parents were both blind, and this is a congenital defect. 

He came home from school yesterday and informed me they were all tested by the Health Department with an eye exam, which, of course, he failed miserably.  He informed the technician that he could not see the chart, so she told him "just guess."  Then he was asked if his glasses were old, that he might need new ones, and he informed me that she would be sending me a letter stating he needs an official eye exam and new glasses.   

So, before I blew my top, I went to the school office this morning.  I asked to see my child's emergency contact sheet, which includes a section regarding existing medical conditions.  There it was, plain as day, stating all of his ophthamologic conditions.  I feel this information should have been checked by their staff before they administered and unnecessary test on my child.  I informed the principal that I did not want him subjected to any more visual testing (which they plan to repeat in two years).  They didn't seem to understand why I would not want this free testing.  I asked them if they would perform a hearing test on a child with a hearing aid -- then they finally got my point.  I think permission slips before testing might be appropriate. 

Here is it is.... January 30th and since January 1st I've been asked by my 16-year-old for:

$90 for a graphing calculator for the calculus class

$85 for school yearbook  (and price goes up 2/1 by $15..she didn't tell me any of this until now)

$30 for hoodie for yearbook club

$15  for drama t-shirt for spring production... which she has exactly 2 lines in and will not be on the stage any other time.

Total:  $220.

I bought the calculator as it was necessary and I know she'll use it again in college.  I've offered to pay half of the yearbook if she'll raise the other half.  For the shirts I've told her to raise the money herself.  The drama team is also looking to possibly go to New York for a few days to take in shows in May and gosh only knows what that would cost... if it gets approved.

She doesn't work and says if she gets a part-time job then she can't do the drama production as they practice 3 days a week until 8 p.m. .... well hello she has only 2 lines in it and isn't even in any other scenes.

I told her to get a job or start offering to babysit for money.  I'm tired of being nickel-and-dimed to death for fru-fru non-essential expenses.... especially since we just spent $700 on car repairs and $250 for surgery on the dog (abscess on foot - she stepped on something at some point and messed herself up) and medical bills are coming in from my husband's numerous medical tests he had in November.    I'm not going to pay for her to go to New York either when that would probably take out entire family vacation money for the summer. Once those numbers come in we'll offer to pay a portion of the cost but that's it.

She also insists she wants to go to college out of state, and her dad and I have also told her she has to figure out how to pay for that because we're not going in debt for that when she can get a free education from the lottery in our state by going to a state school.  She doesn't do any volunteer work, play sports or have any special talents that would qualify her for scholarships. 

I told her that it's time to grow up and realize there is no money tree in our back yard, and I'm not going to bust my butt working extra jobs to buy these things for her. 

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