I say, 'Let it grow!' And under no circumstances -
Posted By: Longhair Person on 2008-02-19
In Reply to: Hair length and age input appreciated sm - No kid
should you (or anyone else) grow old 'gracefully'. Fight it every inch of the way. If the 'cats' are making remarks about your hair, it's probably because they're jealous.
I'm 58, and like yours, mine is still mostly light brown, and I occasionally highlight it, too, but only when I feel like it. I had it cut shoulder-length a few years ago and hated it -- they ironed it straight and turned in under, and made me look like every soccer mom in my neighborhood, which I am totally NOT. Some people make good short-hair people, and some people don't. And I'm one of 'em.
I have a friend a little younger than me, and her hair is waist-length, VERY thick and beautiful, and salt-and-pepper, with a lot more salt than pepper. I've gone back to growing mine out, and now have a long ponytail. It should hit waist-length in the next year or so, and that's right where I want it. I'll probably still have a long ponytail when I'm 80, too. And if I don't like the gray hairs, then maybe I'll dye them purple.
So let the catty neighbors all walk around looking like dowdy old clones, and in the meantime you'll be happy being your normal, beautiful-haired self.
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No it is not, under any circumstances
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Considering my circumstances I am looking - sm
forward to the holidays. I'm the one with the mega debt who confessed to her DH a month ago, etc. We will have his debts paid off in full in about 10 days. I still have quite a mess though. We sold back 2 weeks of his vacation time (lucky for us his work allows you to do this) and half of that is paying for Christmas, the rest is being banked in our savings account which needs restoking (used to have $5K in it but only $200 now). We are taking a night and going to the beach to see the lights (free hotel stay due to his travel points) and a nice dinner-- all of this is his idea too--, and he suggested I go up (with the kids of course) and spend New Years with my friends/family up in PA so I am surprised about that. He is going to try to come too for a day or two to have a late Christmas with my family as well. Things are all roses, but considering everything I am looking forward to seeing my dad and one of my brothers, the other is in England and his family is going there to spend Christmas with him in Ireland with his wife's family there. But DH is trying really hard, he even bought me a dozen roses on my birthday a couple days ago and a really nice card, I couldn't have been more surprised....normally I get nada, not even a card. Granted my daughter told him to get me flowers, but still, he went over the top. But I digress as usual....everyone just needs to stay within what they can afford, we are cutting back some of course, but I have a bit more wiggle room now that I have that vacation money coming. Do it every year and it is a lifesaver.
I don't know the circumstances around
you wanting to leave your husband, but there is NO painless way. Children are ALWAYS the ones hurt most by a divorce. My parents were divorced, and I was divorced...no one wins. That's the only advice I can give you. The grass is not always greener on the other side.
Extenuating circumstances?
If the child is in custody of a parent, that parent puts that child first and provides.
However, the parent that does not have custody has options and only pays a MINIMUM of support. Then, if things get tight, etc., the CS is what gets left off.
I'm telling you that before you put food in your own mouth, pay your own bills, put a roof over your head, put clothes on your own back, or even pay taxes - you should be paying that child support.
It matters not if the NCP is a male or female. It doesn't matter if they are employed or not. GET A JOB - there are thousands. PAY THAT SUPPORT.
same situation different circumstances
we aren't legally married but my SO and I have been together for 8+ years. We were young, smoked weed, went out all hours of the night, drank and I loved being with somebody that is a lead singer in a band.
Fast forward to today. We have kids. He still does all of the above and I don't. I think he's silly and childish for still doing all that and not growing up enough to stop it. He still works for his mother in another town in her convienence store making $6 an hour and there is no way we will ever be able to get a house. he refuses to get a real job or carreer because he thinks he has going to make it big one day. Plus when he does come home all he does is yell and complain. Part of me loves him, but honestly I love his mom more than him and him helping with the bills. Plus he does do all the "man" stuff like moving furniture and fixing things.
I said all that to say I know how it feels to be torn. Sometimes I just wish he would get amnesia so I could just train him all over again LOL
Used to work in a bank, under some circumstances...
they will waive the fees, as another poster said, call them and explain the situation. I would do this occasionally after looking over the person' s account and taking a few things into consideration. Overdraft protection, as stated before, is a great idea too. I keep a $400 to $500 cushion in my account; as far as I am concerned, when I only have that much in there I consider it $0. BTW, how can you not know when DH gets paid? Is he on commission or something? Good luck, call the bank, they should be able to help you.
under normal circumstances, absolutely sm
not! The government has no business telling folks how to raise their kids, etc. etc. Government has too much control as it is.
ON THE OTHER HAND-I read where this 13-year-old boy cannot read! This all came out when they were saying he agreed with his mother and all this kind of stuff. If the boy can't read, what is this mother doing with this kid? Has he not been in school, etc. etc? I am wondering what else is really going on in that household.
I am neutral on this but will say those circumstances where you were intimate were not terribly sexy
I don't see medical care in any way similar to sexy people dancing against each other in sexy ways ;-)
grow up
Yes, did grow up in NYC but
from the way she spoke, you would have thought she was born and raised here.
Oh, grow UP, Jan! sm
They grow up ................sm
when we are not looking, whether we like it or not. While I don't think 10-yo boys should be coddled to the point of being sissies, I do still believe they are still children and need to be guided in an age-appropriate way. The ripe old age of 10 is a difficult time for most kids. They realize they have added a digit to their age and they are entering an emotionally scary and hormonally charged time in their lives when everything they knew is changing....their bodies, their relationships, their whole world. Our jobs as parents are to guide them, not drag them kicking and screaming, along the path that will eventually lead to adulthood. If we do our jobs properly, then we will have young men and women of honor who will someday do the same for their children, but if we screw it up, heaven help the next generation.
I think you both need to grow up! sm
With all the horrible things going on in the world, this kind of stuff sounds absolutely petty to me for two grown adults to end a relationship over. You both sound like spoiled brats to me.
Let them grow up
even if they rant and rave. What would they do if you were dead? That's what I used to tell my 3 grown children and my daughter has worked 2 jobs to raise her son single-handed. Our children would NEVER move back in with us for any reason. You have to cut the strings. Sometimes it hurts but everyone is better off in the long run.
Maybe if you wanted it to grow sm
I'll fight Hayseed over it any day. LOL.
I never ever wanna grow up
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Did you grow up in 1 town or move...sm
and if you moved, how often and are you glad you moved? As for me, we moved every other year due to my father's occupation. There were 2 places I was very glad that we moved from and 2 places I would have loved to have stayed, the others were OK. When people ask me where I was raised I tell them "everywhere" because that best summarizes it.
What about you? Do you have a home town?
:) I feel that way, too. Cranberries don't grow down here!
To me, true dressing has only cornbread in it, too. No white bread. :)
so then the kids you had didn't grow up
in you care...they went back to who? Family? Wow, the odds of every single child you cared for going back to their parents/family is well, just remarkable or what a coincidence for the sake of these posts. NONE of them were split up? You never claimed to be an angel, but you must be one heck of a FC parent to have lucked out like that considering the politics and social issues involved. I never said having siblings in short-term FC is unacceptable, just harder to come by anymore than it used to be...and the states now have federal laws to follow that were not in place 10 years ago.
I will restate that sending siblings to a GROUP HOME (read: Not a FC setting) is less desirable than several relatives maintaining close contact in short-term situations.
Yea, Budda likes it when I write about something I'm passionate about.
I know, but backbones don't grow overnight.
I also realize that I 'lived' before my kids came into this word.
And I know I made bad decisions that turned me into a single mom.
I'm not saying I hate my life. I'm just tired. I probably wouldn't know how to live at this point anyhow.
You are 100% right and I'm not making excuses, but it didn't get like this overnight and it won't change overnight.
I know I will miss them terribly when they grow up - but sm
somehow I don't think that's the part I'll miss ;-)
I think I'll miss them needing me to help with things, miss tucking them in at night, watching them learn. I don't think I'll miss having to fuss at them - but you never know...lol
Do boys go through hormonal changes as they grow up? sm
I have two boys, one is 6 and the other will be 10 in a few weeks. my almost 10 y/o has been such a good kid through his life. BUT i notice sometimes when he stays with my inlaws, especially my 11 y/o nephew, he comes back home with an attitude. my two boys usually get a long really well. but my 10 y/o spent three nights with my inlaws (two included my nephew) and he has been so cranky with me and his little brother. i didn't know of boys have hormonal changes like girls do.
She won't grow to fit her tank, she will just keep growing....
But eventually she has to stop growing some time. I really think she has probably grown as much as she is going to. If she has to go to a bigger tank yet, we may have to see if our local zoo will take her. The tanks are the biggest outlay. I get all her rocks free from our local monument maker and a quarry. I buy a bottle of the stuff to kill the chlorine and use our city water.
Cleaning her tank is not too bad as we have a gravel vacuum. We don't fill the tank all the way up, only about 2/3 full. They need at least the width of their shell for the depth of the water in case they flip over on their back. Otherwise they can't flip themselves over. We do a partial tank change. Just enough to suck up the "poop" and food scraps. Then we replace it.
Other than her lights burning out once in a while, she is pretty low mainatenance. And fun to watch. Especially when she chases the goldfish. LOL
Tomatoes are not hard to grow........sm
You can start the plants inside and plant them in large containers on the patio or porch if that is the only space you have. Nothing much better than a big, fresh, juicy ripe garden tomato!!
It would grow old real fast for me - sm
so I can understand you being annoyed, and no it is not heartless. Is he short on cash? Can he afford to feed himself? Obviously is money is an issue then it is a different story. Were you very close before the divorce or is this new behavior? I presume the GF does not want him there for dinner presuming it is a loneliness issue for him. But as you said he is probably keeping an eye on your mom since he asks about her every day, I would presume the divorce was her idea? Or is he having buyers remorse? I would set some ground rules for dad and tell him as much as you enjoy seeing him, etc, that you need some nights to yourself, and to limit it to maybe 3 days a week, MWF or something like that. So he still gets to see you (and stalk your mom) but not monopolize every evening. Or else starting making things you know your dad dislikes!
WHAT? Children who kill animals grow up
to kill people, they are sociopoaths and have no conscious. I would lock them away for life.
Didn't she grow up in New York City?
What does she know about the South?
Oh my. You sound so young. You'll grow up one day. nm
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Do they ever grow out of this?? My once precious and sweet 3 year old son has sm
turned into a holy terror. Wow. For the past 2 weeks he has been completely nonsensical and out of control. Any little thing throws him off and he begins destroying the house, kicking, yelling, screaming, etc. This morning I woke up to him crying on the couch without any clothes on, so I told him to go put something on (it's freezing in here!), to which he told me NO! Of course he received a spanking for that (what a way to wake up, huh?). Well, he's been pitching a fit for almost 2 hours now since I refused to cook him pancakes. I told him if he would behave I would make them. Well, he doesn't want to do anything but scream and throw fits, so I won't make them. He has said the word pancake at least 200 times since early this morning. I cannot reward bad behavior, so now I'm just ignoring him which is what my pediatrician told me to do the other day. If I deal with him, I may regret it later. Yes, can you tell I am completely frustruated?
I know they say different things work for different children, but NOTHING works with him. I never, ever spanked before. But the chair became a joke as he would just jump right back down out of his chair and run out the room screaming. He refused to sit down. So then I had to begin spanking him and of course that just makes him angrier, meaner, and he won't listen to a word I say. As soon as I begin talking to him and explaining what I am doing he screams to "override" my voice.
I cried all day Sat. because my husband took my older soon to a ball game and my 3 year old was really bad that morning. I just wanted a little peace, but he refused. So we battled all morning until lunch. It has been every single day like this. Yesterday was bad, but not too bad. Today is really bad, but not as bad as Saturday. I wonder what is going on? He is so unreasonable. The thing is, my husband says, "he's 3. How can you not handle a 3 year old?" Like just now, as I'm typing this, he just said to me, "mommy's STUPID!!" I haven't heard that one all morning, so let me go take care of it. Please say a prayer for me...and him too.
every time you stretch, you grow an inch. NM
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Sounds like a great way to grow a nice new head
of hair. I'm sure she'll come up with something to give her a fresh start. She could always wear a wig. I'm sure the hair extensions did some damage to her lovely locks. 
I decided to grow tomatoes for my 10 year old who loves them! sm
I planted 2 plants and they grew up so tall - totally pesticide free with no bugs on them all year! We had so many that I would give them to a neighbor. One batch was picked up by a woman who drove 30 miles for our tomatoes! I don't like them.....They were no big deal planting - just put them in the ground and watered every day.
LOL! I was told it made your hair shiny and grow faster!
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You can grow tomato plants upside down from hanging pots, too.
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Buy a bike, grow a garden, get rid of cable, take a second part time job
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I feel so lucky to grow up in the ྂs-80s. Ditto all thoughts.nm
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