I read that for the younger kids, this is a good time
Posted By: trose on 2008-01-07
In Reply to: It was hard to explain to my 7 year old - HolidayMT
to explain to them that the characters they love on TV are just that "characters pretending" and they should look to parents, teachers, scout leaders, etc as role models. I am not saying you haven't done that, but I thought it was good advice for the young ones that are disappointed and don't understand.
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I cry every time I read that - for pets I have had to say good-bye to.
thanks for posting. I know when I go, they will be the first "people" I look for - (fur people).
Wish I had read this when I was younger!
Everything you said was on the mark. Thanks for a great post!
When my kids were a bit younger
I would always walk up to school at the end of the day and walk them home. One of my daughter's friends would walk with us and nearly every day ask if she could come over to play after school. I would nearly always say, oh, I don't care. She thought that was so cool - her mom always cared and it was always NO! I say, it's their house too, they can have anyone over if we are going to be home. If they aren't embarassed at the mess, I'm not either.
Anyone go through a divorce w/younger kids? sm
I've been married almost 12 years and have an 11 y/o and 7 y/o. My husband and I have been fighting almost constantly for the past several months, mostly about him drinking. He had a problem with pot and other substances for about 5 years and finally went back to work a little over a year ago. Ever since then, he has been drinking at least 1/3 of a large bottle of vodka every night but doesn't consider himself an alcoholic because he still goes to work every day. Any time we fight, he threatens to end the marriage because "it just isn't going to work out anyway," while I have always felt you don't throw around the word divorce unless you mean it. Well, I mean it now. I gave him an ultimatum - straighten himself out or I leave with the kids. I am not going to go through 5 years of this again. It is affecting the kids, and my son is acting out to the point of saying he wishes he had never been born. I am giving my husband until after Christmas to decide what he is going to do, and if he does not value our marriage more than his alcohol, I am moving out of state. This is not to keep him away from the kids but because my parents (divorced also) are in a different state than I am and I have no family at all here.
Has anyone had to make a decision like this? I don't want to do this, but I feel I have no other options. He refuses to go to counseling or to see a doctor about what I am positive is depression. Any tips or suggestions? Sorry to dump on everyone like this, thanks for reading.
My hubby gets that, too. He was younger than yours the first time.
He passed out one night at 2:00 a.m. after getting up to go to the bathroom. Scared the cr@p out of me when I heard a big crash as his head hit the countertop and then the floor. I couldn't get the bathroom door open because he had crumpled against it. I finally got the door open but he was disoriented and even his lips had gone pale. I called the ambulance and we went to the ER in the middle of the night. His blood pressure and head CT were fine. They even tested him for drugs and alcohol because they didn't believe us that we don't do those things.All of his tests came back fine, so the doc diagnosed micturition syncope. The doctor told him to sit down when he urinates at night, and also to get more rest and stay hydrated. Yeah, those were some expensive medical bills for just fainting while he went potty.
Funny, one of my kids brought that up the other day. They vaguely remember being scared at having the fire truck and ambulance at the house, and then Dad being taken to the hospital. They just didn't know why.
This is not the first time I have read this about
Obama and also not the first time that many people said it was misinfomration, and not just necessarily Obama fans.
I just read for probably the 4th time
Rebecca by Daphne DuMaurier. Next up I want to read the the new Odd Thomas book by Dean Koontz. 
I used to read, now I have no time
I bowl every Thursday night, and I spend time with my family and friends on the weekends.
Did you read the figures of boys to girls amongst the kids? sm
There must be about 15 or 20 female children for every male child. There is NO WAY that is NOT scewed by something. Are they murdering male children? Are they casting them out of the sect? Are they forcing adoptions of male children born to the sect, outside of the sect? Is it that they "need" more females so that they can grow up to be polygamist wives?
SOMETHING is going on there.
No, don't think so, I believe you read it correctly the first time.
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THank You! I am glad I read this in time to watch
while I am not a big Oprah fan, I will definitely TIVO and watch....menopause sucks!
my kids know the reason for the season. believe me the first time one of them said "who do you lo
more? santa or jesus..."...well thats all it took. they do get carried away with it., but they know the story of jesus. we are christians. its just so controversal, but yes she should have kept her mouth shut. she goes to a church where they are told not to practice the santa tradition. i know her church. that is fine with me. to each their own. btu there is a time and a place, teh classroom isnt it.
we did tell teh principal, he giggled and said "so what do we do now?'...adn he neve even spoke to her about it. believe me we gave him suggestions of what he can do...but nothing is happening. im just still batteling as to whether this is worth the trouble...or not. i still have a kindergartener that might get her as a teacher.
my kids know the reason for the season. believe me the first time one of them said "who do you lo
more? santa or jesus..."...well thats all it took. they do get carried away with it., but they know the story of Jesus. We are Christians. its just so controversial, but yes she should have kept her mouth shut. She goes to a church where they are told not to practice the Santa tradition. I know her church. That is fine with me. To each their own, but there is a time and a place, the classroom isn't it.
We did tell the principal, he giggled and said, "so what do we do now?'...and he never even spoke to her about it. Believe me we gave him suggestions of what he can do...but nothing is happening. I'm just still battling as to whether this is worth the trouble...or not. I still have a kindergartner that might get her as a teacher.
I am not a teacher but I call kids that kind of stuff all the time (sm)
I call my kids little names, their friends whatever name pops into my mind at the time, my Brownie girl scouts names. Sweetie, honey, sweetie-sweet, squirrel, pumpkin-lumpkin, sweet potato, little sweeties, etc. To me it just signals that I am the adult and they are the kids and I like them, they are important to me. I think it makes them feel at home and comfortable. My children used to think kids were called "little sweeties" when they were younger. My daughter or son would say, "is that her little sweetie?" meaning is that her little boy or little girl. My son had a horrible 2nd grade teacher who yelled at the kids all day. My daughter had a wonderful second grade teacher who hugged them and called them endearing names. Why is it wrong to treat a child like a child? They are sweet and innocent and we are adults, parents and parent-like figures to them. I don't get it.
One time our neighbor's kids fed our German shepherd candy corn while she was out on her run.
I was out in the driveway washing our car at the time, and I saw them playing with her, but then saw what they were feeding her. She then came inside and threw up yellow and orange all over our beige carpet. Thankfully we own a really good carpet steam cleaner!
Good for you! To read your posts, it really sounds - (sm)
like something has happened with her, since this is a change of character for her. You said she was an awesome friend for many years, and she probably was. But something happened to change that. It could be any one of many reasons, too: Drug habit, early dementia/Alzheimer's, schizophrenia, even a brain tumor. The latter sounds very possible. I wonder what her husband thinks about all this. He seems like a pretty decent guy. Depending on how you view his friendship, you may or may not want to discuss the problem with him. Maybe he needs to get her to a doctor.
I think you were lucky when he offered to do the work on your house for a low price, and DIDN'T screw it up. So many times, you hear horror stories about such things. So the fact that he did the work, and it turned out well, sounds like you have an asset in his continued friendship. BUT, you of course want nothing more to do with the wife.
The easiest thing would probably be to just cut all ties with them both, but I still have this feeling the husband is a good guy. He could be caught in the middle of all this. Or in denial that the lady has a serious mental problem going on. It would also be interesting to know WHY she lost her job. The mental issue could very likely be the reason.
Anyway, I think you were very wise to change the locks! ;D
Looking for small dog good with kids..sm
My husband and I are dog hunting and have decided to get a small dog (no bigger than a spaniel) that is good with kids (we don't have any children yet) and is not yappy or really hyper. Any ideas?
Thx
Absolutely, but I shake myself out of it quickly to make it a happy time for my kids and hubby. nm
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My favorite time of night is when kids and hubby are asleep and the house is quiet...
Usmoms need some quiet time too...don't feel bad for feeling that way...I am sure we have all imagined what it would be like not having kids or a husband...but then that thought goes away and someone yells "Mommy" or "Honey"...LOL...
Received this today. If you want a good laugh, please read....sm
 Why God made moms answers given by elementary school age children
>>> to the following questions:
>>>
>>> Why did God make mothers?
>>> 1. She's the only one who knows where the scotch tape is.
>>> 2. Mostly to clean the house.
>>> 3. To help us out of there when we were getting born.
>>>
>>> How did God make mothers?
>>> 1. He used dirt, just like for the rest of us.
>>> 2. Magic plus super powers and a lot of stirring.
>>> 3. God made my Mom just the same like he made me. He just
>>> used bigger parts.
>>>
>>> What ingredients are mothers made of?
>>> 1. God makes mothers out of clouds and angel hair and
>>> everything nice in the world and one dab of mean.
>>> 2. They had to get their start from men's bones. Then they
>>> mostly use string, I think.
>>>
>>> Why did God give you your mother and not some other Mom?
>>> 1. We're related.
>>> 2. God knew she likes me a lot more than other people's
>>> moms like me.
>>>
>>> What kind of little girl was your Mom?
>>> 1. My M om has always been my Mom and none of that other stuff.
>>> 2. I don't know because I wasn't there, but my guess would be pretty
>>> bossy.
>>> 3. They say she used to be nice.
>>>
>>> What did Mom need to know about dad before she married him?
>>> 1. His last name.
>>> 2. She had to know his background. Like is he a crook?
>>> Does he get drunk on beer?
>>> 3. Does he make at least $800 a year? Did he say NO to drugs and YES
>>> to chores?
>>>
>>> Why did your Mom marry your dad?
>>> 1. My dad makes the best spaghetti in the world. And my Mom eats a
>>> lot.
>>> 2. She got too old to do anything else with him.
>>> 3. My grandma says that Mom didn't have her thinking cap on.
>>>
>>> Who's the boss at your house?
>>> 1. Mom doesn't want to be boss, but she has to because
>>> dad's such a goof ball.
>>> 2. Mom. You can tell by room inspection. She sees the stuff
>>> under the bed.
>>> 3. I guess Mom is, but only because she has a lot more to
>>> do than dad.
>>>
>>> What's the difference between moms and dads?
>>> 1. Moms work at work & work at home, & dads just go to work at work.
>>> 2. Moms know how to talk to teachers without scaring them.
>>> 3. Dads are taller & stronger, but moms have all the real
>>> power 'cause that's who you got to ask if you want to sleep over at
>>> your friend's. Moms have magic, they make you feel better without
>>> medicine.
>>>
>>> What does your Mom do in her spare time?
>>> 1. Mothers don't do spare time.
>>> 2. To hear her tell it, she pays bills all day long.
>>>
>>> What would it take to make your Mom perfect?
>>> 1. On the inside she's already perfect. Outside, I think some kind of
>>> plastic surgery.
>>> 2. Diet. You know, her hair. I'd diet, maybe blue.
>>>
>>> If you could change one thing about your Mom, what would it be?
>>> 1. She has this weird thing about me keeping my room clean. I'd get
>>> rid of that.
>>> 2. I'd make my Mom smarter. Then she would know it was my
>>> sister who did it and not me.
>>> 3. I would like for her to get rid of those invisible eyes on her
>>> back.
Read the book Good Credit Is S*xy by Welsh (nm)
Read really good news on reverse this morning
including FHA which is for only over age 62 and which is insured. With anything people need to check these out. There are really good ones out there and thanks for bringing this up again.
more advice - you'll be no good to those kids if
I was there - for 12 years - and my sanity was going - married to a passive-aggressive (oh and there are female passive-aggressives out there too *hint hint - his MIL*).....and I couldn't take it - when my child was 7.....and by 9, I cared more at that moment about what I was feeling (brink of possible loss of sanity/stability in myself) - and I chose to save myself - I, once again in life, became my own hero (I did the same at 17-18 when I chose to leave a shaky home)....I knew that I'd be an even BETTER mom if I didn't have him draining on me - and so it became!! My offspring is nearly 27 and turned out great (no thanks to the DH and my D there isn't for DEAR but lots of other D's).....
Save yourself or your children will NOT be getting your absolute BEST.....
best of luck to you sincerely!!!
Signed: Better to raise kids in a happy divorced family/house than a miserably married one......
I think this commentator spoke it best. Good read. I agree with him wholeheartedly! sm
This whole push to remove Christ from the Christmas season has gotten so ridiculous that it's pathetic.
Because of all the politically correct idiots, we are being encouraged to stop saying "Merry Christmas" for the more palatable "Happy Holidays." What the heck are "Seasons Greetings"? Can someone tell me what season we are greeting folks about? A Christmas tree? Oh, no! It's now a holiday tree. Any Christmas song that even remotely mentions Christ or has a religious undertone is being axed for being overtly religious. And I'm sorry, forget X-M-A-S. Malcolm X? Yes. X replacing Christ? No.
Don't get me wrong; I'm very respectful of other religions. I don't want anyone to be afraid of discussing the Jewish faith when we address Hanukkah. And we shouldn't dismiss Muslims when the annual pilgrimage to Mecca is held during December. In fact, Americans are so ignorant of other faiths that we can all learn from one another.
But this seeming backlash against Christianity is bordering on the absurd, and we should continue to remember that Jesus is the reason for the season.
I know that may sound strident, but it's true. We spend an inordinate amount of time focused on shopping and buying gifts, but really, what does any of this have to do with the birth of Jesus? We have families all over the nation killing themselves to buy a tree they can't afford, running up their credit to buy toys and other gifts, all in an effort to make someone else happy.
What if families decided to forgo gifts, and instead, used their shopping days giving back to those in need? What if more of us went into our closets, grabbed old toys and clothes, repackaged them, and provided them as gifts to those without? Instead of gorging on food, what if we used some of the dough to feed those who are in need? What if we blew off those gift cards to electronic retailers and signed up with Networkforgood.org, and gave someone a gift card to their favorite charity?
Sure, I know I sound like a reincarnation of a flower child, but really, do we have to be so crass during the Christmas season?
Parents, don't be so consumed with the notion that your children will have a terrible Christmas because the tree isn't overflowing with gifts. The true love that you show them is more important than anything else.
America might be the king of capitalism, but secularism must never become so prevalent that our religious traditions are discarded.
Roland S. Martin is a nationally award-winning journalist and CNN contributor.
This is a REALLY good time to buy
if you can get a no-money-down deal, if you have no money down. Is he a vet? you could do no-down with a vet loan.
It is a buyer's market right now and you can find really good deals. Talk to a mtg broker and see what is possible for you. Even if you have to pay mtg insurance, it may be worthwhile for you. Figure the cost versus benefit ratio!
sounds like you have a good time together
that is so funny!! I love stories like that
Sanjaya was not good either .The only time I have
actually enjoyed him was last night. I usually think Chris is okay. I don't necessarily want him to be the one to go, I just have a feeling it will be.
THank you for taking the time to see that my intentions were good ones...I
appreciate your comment too and I hope that you have a wonderful evening as well.
Thanks again for seeing the blue sky amidst all the gray!
Glad you had a good time. You deserve
xx
you mis-assumed again, not bad, just a waste of good time
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Congrats on your demotion! Now you can have a good time!
Glad you guys had a good time
My boys are probably too young to have been at a Crowes performance anyway, but I did think about how cool they would have been at school the next day. Goin' in all groggy-eyed and wearing their "tour shirts" that he was insisting on, which was the other reason we didn't go . . . LOL!!!
Maybe in a few years 
Hello..You could have written my post. The jelaousy bug..Gets the good ones all the time!!! nm
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Land's End is good for suits. Don't know if you can access their swimwear at this time of year
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younger men
My husband is 5 years younger, no problem with age here. My kids get a kick out of it and tell dad that Mom's the boss, because she's older!!
Younger Men
Age is only an indication of how long we have been on this earth. It does not determine our level of intellect, experience, class or style. As long as he is an adult and meets your standards and expectations, that is all that matters. I have seen older me that are a mess and younger ones that are a mess. It is a very individual thing. My husband is 8 years younger and we have a wonderful marriage.
when i was younger
had to move from our home because the owner wanted to remodel. we had been there 5 years.
I'm 7 yrs younger.
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Although I'm several years younger than you (47) I would
say that you are already working at your marriage. You keep the little spats from becoming big arguments, you have a good relationship with your husband, you trust each other, you enjoy his company and he enjoys yours. All of these things are what I consider working at marriage. Those who don't "work" on these things often end up divorced or miserable. Just thank God that you have a wonderful husband and a good marriage. I wouldn't worry too much about "working" on your marriage. Sounds like you're doing a good job of that already.
Why she might be interested in younger men . . .
It sounds like your mother was devastated when your father died. Wow! Nearly 50 years together! If they had a happy marriage, she probably misses that closeness and wants to experience that again. And, maybe she's looking for younger men, because someone much younger is not likely to die before her. That means, she wouldn't have to experience the pain of being widowed again.
My uncle died just recently. He had been married to his second wife for just two years. His first wife died of cancer five years ago. And his second wife was widowed seven years earlier. When I spoke to his wife after the funeral, she talked about how horrible it was to be widowed twice, and that she didn't want to go through that ever again. But, she also talked about how lucky she was to have experienced two wonderful marriages.
Maybe your mother is looking for the same.... she wants another wonderful love in her life, but she's afraid of being a widow again. That would be reasonable, I think. However, she definitely sounds gullible, and she's looking for love in the wrong place! Has she had any grief counseling? Maybe you can talk to her about what it is she's really looking for. People do things because they are trying to fulfill needs. They repeat behaviors because there's some sort of payoff for what they're doing. She's getting something like a "sugar rush" when she meets these men online. Briefly, her fantasy is fulfilled. But, when the truth is revealed, she's devastated again. I know I'm sounding like a Psych 101 graduate, but that's really what it sounds like to me. She keeps doing this, because she likes that sugar rush. There has to be a way to break that, and to really find a way for her to be comfortable with herself.
I'm so sorry for her pain. She must be so sad after having lost her husband.
yes, she did have talent when much younger.....
She had talent when she was still a good girl........when she still had morals and ethics before choosing her so-many-wrong-paths.
just my opinion.......
Yep - love those younger men *lol*
 And I wouldn't have it any other way.....
I'm with man 4 yrs younger. Nothing wrong with it.
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I love younger men
they seem happier and more spontaneous! I dated one 3 years younger (no big deal), I also dated one 5 years younger. Go for it, if that is why you are asking.
I am 50! You are younger than me. How is that for positive??? nm
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Younger smartmouth
My stepson is only 5 years old and he is so disrespectful about backtalking. But God forbid if I say anything about it because my husband will jump down my throat. He lets that child get away with murder. He never punishes him by time out or anything. I just feel like by the time he gets 11 years old, he will be horrible. So I am pretty sure that this kid's parents just do not do anything about his smart mouth just like my husband does nothing about his kid's smart mouth. I just dont' get it.
In my younger days
I did a lot of drugs.
24.... 10 years younger!!! nm
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I LOVE younger men. Seems like all the ones I like,
Glad to be a cougar!
How many years younger?
Mine is 10 and the best thing I have run across.
13 years younger and....
FABULOUS. I never thought I'd have so much in common with someone so much younger but he's turned out to be a definite keeper.
I think younger guys are the best thing around...They're definitely the best angi-aging remedy around, lol!!!
GO COUGARS!!! :)
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