I read it, but I simply refuse to believe it
Posted By: sm on 2009-03-13
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One in seven people believe it is acceptable in some circumstances for a man to hit his wife or girlfriend if she is dressed in “sexy or revealing clothes in public”, according to the findings of a survey released today.
A similar number believed that it was all right for a man to slap his wife or girlfriend if she is “nagging or constantly moaning at him”.
The findings of the poll, conducted for the Home Office, also disclosed about a quarter of people believe that wearing sexy or revealing clothing should lead to a woman being held partly responsible for being raped or sexually assaulted.
Although a majority of 1,065 people over 18 questioned last month believe that it is never acceptable to hit or slap a woman, the poll found that those aged 25-39 were more likely to consider that there were circumstances in which it was acceptable to hit or slap a woman.
Men and women over 65 and those in the lower social class groups D and E are more likely to believe that woman should be held partly responsible for being raped or sexually assaulted, Ipsos Mori telephone poll found.
Jacqui Smith, the Home Secretary, said: “Violence against women and girls is unacceptable in any form no matter what the circumstances are.”
Ms Smith said that more needed to be done to challenge attitudes that condoned violence against women and girls.
She was speaking as she launched a police lead review of whether new laws are needed to tackle serial domestic violence abuses and whether there is a link between the early sexualisation of young girls and violent abuse.
One idea being considered is to allow women to ask police if a new partner has a record of domestic violence. A pilot scheme that allows women to request information on whether a new partner has a history of child sex abuse is currently underway in four police force areas of England and Wales.
But MS Smith was confronted at a working breakfast at which she launched the campaign by a veteran domestic violence campaigner.
Sandra Horley, chief executive of Refuge, accused Ms Smith over breakfast at the Cinnamon Club in Westminster of using “gimmicks” and “spin”.
She said that government action so far had been “piecemeal” and condemned plans for a database of serial domestic abusers.
Ms Horley said: “We have had enough talking – we need action. As for the perpetrators’ register, it is a gimmick and doesn’t address the root problem.
“The majority of violent men don’t come to the attention of police and it won’t keep women safe.
“Police can’t be expected to monitor relationships and love lives of offenders.”
She went on: ”The Government is hoping to get away with useless initiatives like this register and it is hypocritical to sound tough and do little.”
She said that the cases of Sabina Akhtar and Katie Summers showed that not enough was being done.
Ms Smith tried to interrupt the tirade but was shouted down before Vera Baird, the solicitor general, stepped in to argue the Government’s case.
LINK/URL: http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/crime/article5875108.ece
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that's right, they have the right to refuse
this is NOT race related, it is strictly O.J. Simpson-related......nothing to do with his race, rather his history and makes perfect sense to me, another business owner.
You can refuse the PA/NP
I had a doctor who did that for a while and finally refused to see them.
i refuse...
to yell. granted you have 2 and i only have but we have a policy in our home not to yell, among other things. my 10 year old has come to appreciate (but used to HATE) "discussions." I used this term because it was a large word for him and could stick out as being meaningful (good or bad, i don't care). when he cries or gets mad (which on occasion still acts that way) at me for something he is simply and rationally sent to his bedroom for some quiet time and told when he has calmed down to find me so we can "discuss." Sometimes its 5 minutes, sometimes its 30, its all up to him. When he has had the opportunity to calm down we start the conversation by how he felt, how he thinks he made me feel, how I did feel, and finally why i asked him to do what i did and what "family" means...certainly not that i am "mom" so i do all the "work." i am not saying this was a quick thing and i have done this for several years now but he caught on very quickly that yelling and crying is just not something that will be done in this house.
like you, i am the primary caregiver and patience run thin at times so i understand your frustration, just not 2-fold. that has got to be tough. thought maybe this suggestion might help...but who knows. just have to find what works for your family.
I refuse to get old
but somehow I think that, eventually, I will lose the battle.
As for worrying about our care, we have already budgeted for long-term care insurance so we will be able to have whatever help we may require. 40-ish years from now.
I refuse to go to KFC - see msg
http://www.kentuckyfriedcruelty.com/
They can refuse service to anyone at will.
Even Wal-Mart can throw you out for any reason they want.
I'm glad he did it. I went to Jeff Ruby's Louisville website and sent him a support e-mail!
Thank goodness business owners can still decide WHO they want to serve and do business with!!!!
It's not difficult either to refuse to consume
garbage posing as information.
Your choice.
I too refuse to go hungry or eat what I don't wnat...
Started exercising around Sept. Didn't see any measurable weight loss for about a month. I am so grossly overweight, though, that I can't exercise long. Used to be skinny. Wore a size 1 to 3 until developed thyroid condition, then packed on 50 lbs in just over a month that I never lost, but gradually added to over the years.
It does work, but it's much slower that if you diet, too. My measurable loss was 1/2 lb. I'm down about 1, but I feel much better, which is what counts.
Her insurance didn't refuse to pay
I'm not assuming anything. I asked very pointed questions, to which she either snapped at me or evaded answering. I said this before, but I think it bears repeating - an $800 hospital bill doesn't amount to much more than some antiseptic wash, a band-aid and some Tylenol. The bite wasn't that severe, probably no more than a superficial skin tear. I'm betting that's why the dog wasn't impounded. I think the OP is trying to make a mountain of a mole hill to make a few bucks. That's why she wanted the poster just to pay her the $800, not so she could turn it over to her insurance (which she should legally, or else it is fraud), but so that she could pocket that money. Now, here's where I assume something: I also think she knows she probably wouldn't get much in court, if anything, because the bite wasn't that severe.
It's easier to take the $800 bucks, than to try to fight it out in court and possibly end up with nothing. If her daughter was so traumatized by it all, why hasn't she seeked counseling for her yet? She was more concerned about setting up a college fund with the money she would win in court. The counseling was only an afterthought.
If she wants to sue, by all means sue - after all, it is the American way. But don't lie about the reason for it. It all comes down to money. Read my other posts and her replies. I just happen to believe in calling something what it is, not sugarcoating it or beating around the bush. This poster knows what she's trying to do, she just wanted some reassurance from others that it was okay. Sorry, can't do that here.
i REFUSE to let mine eat in the cafeteria
I don't pack fruits and veggies per se, but I do give them sandwiches and low calorie snacks. I gained weight during my tween years and I suspect it had something to do with school lunches as my grandmother worked in the cafeteria and frequently brought home left overs. She used to bring home TUBS of pb and J mixtures and we would literally eat it out of the tub with a spoon. I believe my kids eathing whole wheat sandwiches and chips are more nutritious than the slop they serve!!
This is the reason I refuse to carry a debit card....sm
Most retailers do not require you to use a PIN and there is no security on these things. I've heard of many people like your daughter getting stuck without money for a few days while waiting for the bank to credit them back. Another problem that happens sometimes, including happening to my husband when we were dating was that when we ate out the waiter made an error on the charges to the debit card - charging $440.00 instead of $44.00. The waiter immediately ran the credit and the manager apologized, but the bank still took out the $440 until they received the written confirmation from the restaurant's bank of the error. Fortunately he had the money in his account to cover this error but other people would bounce checks over it. The same thing happened to my mom - an error was made and she was without as much as she should have had for the 3 business days it took to credit her back.
Your daughter should immediately talk to the police department about the fraud and the bank. Good luck straightening it out!
Simply tell them this -
I do think it is rude of them to ask such a personal question. If they ask, tell them the opportunity has not presented itself yet and leave it at that and smile sweetly. :-)
To simply
I am not denying access to my house...my son is not banned from my house....I just do not see the need for anyone who is not living fulltime in a residence.....my house, your house, sister's house or whatever....People on here keep saying I'm yelling and screaming because I capitalized a couple of words.....
I simply wash most of them in the
I turn them upsidedown and swish them in a couple of inches of water. Let the water out of the tub and just let them lay there and drain OR set them outside in the sun to dry. Be careful if it is windy!
This is simply too funny!
Thanks for the confession!
I'm not bashing that - simply asking sm
if it were your biological child doing the bad things, would you have the same response? Hypothetically, if your daughter was selling drugs or making good money without being generous, would you still be having the dilemma about giving gifts? I am not implying that your daughter is a bad person, just that if the shoe were on the other foot, would it be handled the same way.
I know you are right. That is what scares me now. I simply SM
don't care about myself at all anymore. I have been lost in the process of just trying to keep afloat. Thank you so much for sharing your experience with me.
My point was simply....
don't judge someone else when you have walked in their shoes. Your posts about the daughter you don't want in your life are pretty nasty and sounds like you are regretting that one. Yes using abortion as birth control is dysfunctional. Quit being so hateful!!!!!!
Simply don't let the other dog eat the others food. sm
I have a pup (2 years) and a senior (15 years). Obviously the pup eats a lot quicker and has the appetite to sharf his down. You need to start off letting your dog know that rewards come from proper behavior. They sit politely for their food and eat when you release them. They absolutely do not eat from the other dogs bowl EVER. Eventually they learn, this is mine and I eat this and not the other. The other dog learns the same. YOU have control over all of the dogs resources and stick with it. If you haven't been training then start with some basics like leave it and release for their own food and leave it for the other dogs food. Look up NILIF on Google and it really helps with harmony in any household with dogs, especially with multi-dog households. NILIF does not have to be harsh and can be used to have lots of fun. Believe me, my dogs are as spoiled as any, but they follow the rules and have fun doing it.
Simply don't let the other dog eat the others food. sm
I have a pup (2 years) and a senior (15 years). Obviously the pup eats a lot quicker and has the appetite to sharf his down. You need to start off letting your dog know that rewards come from proper behavior. They sit politely for their food and eat when you release them. They absolutely do not eat from the other dogs bowl EVER. Eventually they learn, this is mine and I eat this and not the other. The other dog learns the same. YOU have control over all of the dogs resources and stick with it. If you haven't been training then start with some basics like leave it and release for their own food and leave it for the other dogs food. Look up NILIF on Google and it really helps with harmony in any household with dogs, especially with multi-dog households. NILIF does not have to be harsh and can be used to have lots of fun. Believe me, my dogs are as spoiled as any, but they follow the rules and have fun doing it.
He gave it a good try and simply does not like it. ALso, SM
the thought of the bugs and spiders makes my skin crawl, and I am not a young child. I say encourage the other avenues of his interest and don't force him to do something that brings him to tears after he has given it a reasonable amount of time.
I was simply answering the above post
which said they thought a person who only paid taxes should get a refund. I don't have a grudge against a person getting a refund. This is not what the post was about. My aunt has not worked in years and years and I know she does not pay taxes, has not for years and she got a refund. Goody for her! Oh, as far as getting lots back on SS. When I start mine later on in Sept I will be getting almost 2000 a month so that is not too bad. Oh, another thing, my aunt has lived on her SS for a long time now. It really depends on where you live, your lifestyle, how you spend but she did and hers is nothing like what I will draw.
I was simply stating what my sweet addiction is and what
my not sweet addiction is. 
Crates are simply a housebreaking tool that becomes the
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I just wanted to tell you if you never got the Love and Theft CD you simply sm
must. I literally played this for months on end and could not listen to anything else. It is wonderful. One song he states he was in a hotel that was so crappy he called room service and ordered a room! Typical Dylan. Give a listen if you have never heard it. 
I offered up no excuses, simply said that ALL toddlers..
misbehave at some point in time. They are people like you and I and have bad days, like you and I.
simply explain that for several years KFC has had many side options
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The family practitioner I worked for simply snipped...
skin tags off without local, as the injections caused just as much pain, if not more, than the quick snip. These were small skin tags though and the scissors were super sharp surgical scissors, not like the kind found in a kitchen junk drawer ;-)
Depends on your pain threshold and how squeamish you are about things like these I guess. Couldn't hurt to numb the area with ice or even Anbesol first.
simply make up an excuse of having other plans and override her boldness
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My sister opened my eyes the other week and simply stated SM
that most of the people pulling this country down have children, sometimes lots of them. These kids have no guidance and only know what they see. Unfortunately, a lot of them grow up like mom and dad, thinking they don't have to work, they can take what they want from others, and they can just generally be an annoyance to everyone around them. Thank God for school teachers who are there to provide guidance and structure for a lot of these kids. Sometimes it is the only place they find it.
This was simply an honest post/poll made by a regular poster.
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On the HGTV shows, they paint over the stones and redo the mantle simply if you need
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A product called 'Fruit Fresh' or simply lemon juice
Drizzled over the fruit that browns will keep it from browning...or at least I think anyway. Never take cooking advice someone who messes up hard boiled eggs.
If I don't read before I go to sleep I can't fall asleep. I will read sm
until I begin to fall asleep. They say reading relaxes you fully and it works wonders for me.
I used to suffer from insomnia, but not since I've been doing this - about 5 years now.
Plus, I've grown so much and have gained wisdom by doing so. I enjoy Christian books and reading the Bible.
Has anyone read
I read it last week and just wondering if anyone else has. I thought it jumped around a bit but it was interesting to get to know more about her and I enjoyed hearing about Dr. Phil. They seem genuine.
I just read, it's $360................
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read again
You were so quick to respond and try to tell me my daughter WILL have bad behavior that will make her in danger for STDs that you didn't even read, I said he told me the NEXT day. Just because some people have no control doesn't mean we all don't. There are still virgins on their wedding day out there....even though that may be a SHOCK.
I have read and re-read --sm
my posts and I seriously wonder how you ever got that I thought surgery was the only way to go when all I said was that some of these reports were *created* by insurance companies who do not want to pay for ANY care concerning carpal tunnel if it was an over use issue. But whatever...that is not what I meant. All I meant was than insurance companies tend to manipulate reports to THEIR benefit, not the patient's. Surgery or no surgery...that is the individual's choice and not my concern. Sorry you did not UNDERSTAND what I was saying.
you believe everything you read????
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I have read all of them...sm
and there was one person who said many times that they believe he did this because he was taught anti-americanisms while he was in school in korea (kindergarten, first, and second grades) or had been taught it by his korean parents. Hate has no nationality. That's all I am trying to say.
Sorry, should read
do that....
I read this in SOD, but (sm)
I thought they only tape about a week ahead, so I thought since it's been a week, he might show up today. Oh, well, I can wait.
Did not read below but if you have an outside - sm
box on your house, anyone can creep into your yard and plug in a computer and go to town. You can put a lock on it, ours looks like a small gray box attached to the house about 8 x 8 inches or so, open it up and you will see phone jacks, it is how the repairmen check the lines, etc. w/o coming inside. Anyone could just run a long line and sit in a car nearby and do it too, but depending on where you live I think this would be noticed. If it happens consistently still check it out, see if some kid/night owl is hacking in this way by getting up in the hours it happens and see if someone is doing this, if so problem solved (call the police obviously if you see this happening); if this is not the case, then maybe take your phone off the hook at night, I would think then they would not be able to hack into it w/o a dial tone. I hope you get this resolved quickly.
Also read...
that Maine has the highest consumption of Allen's in the 48 contiguous states.
Never heard about Allen's and milk, but I'm from away, too. I learn new things all the time up heyah.
Lobstah, blueberries, pahtatahs and Maine's champagne: Allen's. Gives new meaning to "The Way Life Should Be"!
Can you read
any words like Budweiser or beer? There is certainly nothing wrong with the draft horses working with a cart, and your kids really aren't going to think "beer" when the look at it. If people are going to be over and might think about it, or if it bothers your husband, maybe there is a wood filling product that could fill in any words that refer to beer or pictures of beer bottles, etc. Maybe you could then use stain or a rosemaling (painting technique) design over it, or whatever would complement the style. It sounds really cute to me.
EVERYONE PLEASE READ - SM
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Goldbird
Is it something you would read again?
I was just thinking that I could just go to the library, but sometimes I like to read books over again - after waiting a sufficient amount of time so that I forget all the details! Is the series something you would go back and read again?
Yes, I will probably read them again
Loved the books better than the movies, but the movies were okay.
OK, read it again and again, still don't get it...
Must be me...oh well!
I read that to mean
there should be no drinking age like in Europe. Not that there should be no drinking. My two high school kids went on a school trip to Italy and Greece in April. They said the only teenagers getting obnoxiously drunk were the Americans and the Canadians teens were drinking but not to excess. Also all the Canadian kids smoked cigarettes too.
I just read about that!
All sorts of elements when combined or heated will cause noxious fumes and those symptoms. Even some welders have to wear respirators and breath canned oxygen when working with some metals. Can't wait to hear more about it though!
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