I picked out my ring and absolutely regret it!
Posted By: sm on 2007-02-27
In Reply to: what do you think about choosing your own ring - ???
I really wish I would have had him do it all and we would have just slowed down. I love my husband to pieces, but it would have been nice to have a proposal and a surprise to see my ring for the first time. We kind of just agreed to get married and then went ring shopping together, but now I wish there had been more romance involved. Just let the boy pick it out - If he knows you well enough like he should if you plan on marrying him, then he'll surely pick out something you like.
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There were the 3 I had picked. Absolutely
love Adam. Yes, there will be 3 wildcards. The judges will bring back those they think need a second chance; hoewver, I don't know if the public picks the last 3 or if the judges do.
Do regret any of the following
marriage (or not)
divorce
kids (or not)
I had one 29 years ago and DO NOT REGRET IT AT ALL. SM
Never have had a second thought. Zero guilt. It was the right decision for my life and my family at the time. I am a good citizen now, good job, loving spouse and family. To those of you saying it is wrong under any circumstance - you have no right to judge me; that's between me and my God.
but do you honestly regret...
Having them? That's harsh, IMHO...of course! I'm sorry you don't have a good adult relationship with your children...that's gotta be my worst fear (well, one of them anyway)...God bless
Not all regret their first encounter
I started early at 15 and I don’t regret it, only regretted probably not more with the same guy. I was in 10th and finished school without another encounter but I would disagree with a psychological impact- just does not apply to all.
Only regret was not doing it sooner
Thrilled with the results. I continue to have periods every month, but they are so much more manageable.
I don't regret leaving either...
Been gone since last August and couldn't ask for a better company to work for now. I owe MQ a lot as they did hire me right after I graduated my MT course and I did learn a lot while I was there, but having said that, I haven't looked back once since leaving.
I regret mine too
I had horrible teeth, as well, from a young age and went through many procedures to have a better orthodontic benefit. after having gotten the dentures though, I experienced also that they were too big and looked worse than they felt, leaving me looking like Bugs Bunny. I am on my third set of dentures since 1994, and I am still not satisfied with how they look or feel. I rarely wear them when I am at home alone. I have a difficult time eating anything with them and usually eat (at home) without them. I am sure this is causing some digestive problems, as well, but when they hurt to wear them, what can you do? I have thought seriously about implants, but these are so expensive and for those of us with NO insurance, much less very poor dental insurance, I cannot afford those either. Think long and hard about dentures. I understand your plight and dentures may seem like a good option, but they are not always what they are stated to be, either. I hope you find a good solution. I would take my horrible teeth back in a second, to at least be able to eat. good luck to you.
You'll never regret see inside
being home with your children. They will grow and will become more independent, and then you can work you life away on-site. That is the avenue I am currently taking, and boy is it a nice feeling to be home with them. Good luck to you, and I know it is a tough decision. 
he picked Jen.............
x
Oh. Been there done that. Picked myself up.
Babying someone and telling them to sit in a corner and cry is doing them NO good at all.
You are an enabler and not helping.
Regret not running off with my present husband who used to be my
friend. Yes, my friend and my late husbands friend. We started dating after the other died and if I had known what he was like then, would have left the husband and the kids behind. Never have known such happiness in my life. I wasted years and would like to have those over again- life goes too fast to waste time.
I had a similar problem, had the surgery, and only regret
Abdominal surgery is no walk in the park, but it improved my life 1,000% to get rid of all that unnecessary 'equipment'. (Never wanted kids, anyway.) I was only 34 when I had the surgery - wish I could've had it at age 14!
I picked thru their hair...
Took small section by section and picked thru and took each nit and pulled them out several times a day until I found no more nits. I had to go thru mine too since I got it too.
I would have picked different parents
My 16 and 18-year-old hippy selfish, self-centered, neglectful parents are now plastic surgery seeking, anti-depressant popping nightmares, and they are still whiny babies.
I have been single again as long as I was married and there is not a day I don't regret leaving s
BUT it was still the right thing to do. I have been happier since and I am fine on my own, but it was extremely tough as he didn't pay child support and I could not find a way to make him (not for lack of trying though and a social worker whose job it was to collect his arrears kept telling me no, I didn't really need it!). Financially it was terrible, but the relief of his absence was enormous.
He was critical. He was always rude. My friends would only come to visit when he was on the road. The kids would pick up their messes, but he made more than they ever did, never helped and constantly criticized me for not being a perfect housekeeper like his mom...who didn't work, had a housekeeper and spent her days at the mall shopping. I had more kids than she did, worked always and ended up being too exhausted for him. He is a homophobic homosexual and going out on "mommy and daddy" dates was always humiliating because he spent the evening looking at other men's behinds.
I got out and suffice it to say, at quite a price financially and emotionally. I have not remarried, have only had one relationship in 15 years and feel too damaged to ever try again, but I am FREE from all of that.
My kids were pleased when he left and were all too anxious to help him to leave the house!
Glad you picked TyneLyn!
That is what I call her most of the time! I cover my hands and play peek-a-boo with her when she is on my lap. I open my hands really fast and she puts that pointy little nose in to lick me. We keep this up until I can't stop laughing. She ALWAYS WINS!
I think you are right. . Cupid and TyneLyn are not that terribly couragious, but they sure brighten up our lives! I will go downstairs now, to WHAT? I will email tomorrow on the Gab Board and tell you how she liked the party!
See who I picked in my message on first post.
xx
I still haven't picked my jaw up off my desk. (sm)
I just got off a quick break and decided to watch this video that I was told would floor me. It certainly did. I knew our political system was corrupt, but I honesly had no idea "they" were this blatant about it.
This is well worth the several minutes or so it takes to watch. I didn't post this under either political board, because it transcends both the conservative and liberal spectrums. Maybe this should go under the prayer request board now that I think of it.
If it's happening there, it's happening everywhere. These "voices of the people" totally need a good smackin.
Just click on the link hopefully shown below. If it doesn't work, cut and paste this into your browser: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eG6X-xtVask
The fact that the 2 you picked up even mentioned
A long, long time ago, when I had just started working at a new job, a cute-looking guy who worked down stairs would always pass me on the stairs as I was going on my break. He seemed shy, we always just said hello. This went on for months. I liked him, but never talked to him for more than a few moments on the stairs.
Then, one morning, out of the blue, something really weird happened. As we passed each other, I said 'Hi!' as usual. After I was just past him, from behind, he said, 'Watch out, I might just rape you.'
????? Whaaaat.....???? Where on earth did THAT come from? I never spoke to him again.
Well, at about that time, there was a serial rapist in the area who over a period of time raped a lot of women in the nearby hills a popular hiking/jogging spot that I went to often, as well. He'd pick someone tired, offer to show them shortcut, and attack them in the wooded area he led them through.
Well, long story short, the guy I'd been saying hi to every morning at work, turned out to be that serial rapist! A late-20s-ish guy who was drop-dead cute, with an innocent-looking baby face. Boy, were my instincts ever NOT functioning with him, until he made that odd comment to me on the stairway! Before he made that comment, if I had bumped into him out at the hiking trail, I most surely would've gone along with him when he offered a short-cut, and become yet another statistic.
yep, regret marriage. been in it way too long to be unhappy and wasting life. nm
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I picked the olives off trees in Greece
and was I surprised. Tasted nothing like what I was used to. I love Milk Duds also. I think they are really good when you go to the movies along with your popcorn and cola. I hardly buy them if not at the movies, wonder why?
I once called in a pizza order to be picked up
and the guy on the phone said off-handedly....I don't need to charge you the extra dollar since it is not being delivered. I asked if that dollar went to the delivery person and he sheepishly said no. Really ticked me off.
The judges picked awful songs all the
way around last night, I thought. None of them were suited for the songs chosen for them & they were bad songs... And speaking of judges, I hope Cara or Kara is GONE next season. She gets on my last nerve.
Looks like I picked the wrong week to quit drinking.
Looks like I picked the wrong week to quit smoking.
Looks like I picked the wrong week to quit sniffing glue.
Looks like I picked the wrong week to quit amphetamines
I do not even have to have a ring but
when my hubby and I married in Las Vegas in 2000 (I had been married before, he hadn't), I had to let him know the minister would ask for a ring and therefore on the way to get married he and I stop in a shop and got a simple gold band for me (I didn't want him to feel embarrased at not having anything when asked) and you know what, I would not take anything for the marriage I have. We have been married 7 years now and I adore him. If you love him enough to marry him, you could care less really about a ring to impress. That is what your post sounds like to me. So many important things about a marriage and a ring is not high up there.
We picked out ours together. They were matching nugget bands with 4 diamonds at angle. However....
last year was our 19th anniversary. I had lost my ring about 2 weeks before my anniversary (or so I thought anyway).
For my anniversary, he had bought me a 1 carat marquis diamond. He had hid my band and then miraculously the day I tell him about losing it, he says "Oh, I found it and put it in your ring box." He goes and gets my box and yes my band is in there but also my new ring as well. It has been 19 years (now getting close to 20), I still love him to death simply because I know he really listens to me (and of course the fact that he is a sweetie!)
Sounds like YOU picked a real loser to sleep around with and have kids with.
You have no one to blame but yourself.
Wedding Ring ?
Do you have more than one? I have a wedding and engagment ring that DH gave me that I used to wear all the time, along with a diamond band my mom gave me years ago. Last summer my mom gave me her engagment ring that she really never wears anymore. Since then, I haven't been wearing the engagment ring DH gave me, I wear the plain gold band I got married in, along with my mom's two rings that she gave me.
DH says he doesn't mind as long as I wear the wedding band that we got married in. I guess it's a superstition thing with him. He understands that I miss my parents (especially my mom), since they live in Florida and we are in New York.
How do your SO's feel about stuff like this? Do they even have an opinion about what rings you wear or don't wear?
Yes he is - and he deserves a ring!
I am a New Englander and now very well liked right now as I was rooting for Peyton (hate greedy people - LOL)!
anyway - what a great game - glad I'm still alive after cheering for Peyton!
what do you think about choosing your own ring
My boyfriend who wants to eventually get married hates the fact that I want to choose my own ring. I also don't want a proposal like finding it in my baked potato or something. I'd like to be able to say this is the ring I want, buy it and when ready give it to me at a dinner with our parents or something like that. he is having a fit. and trying to make me feel like I'm nuts. Anything wrong with being able to choose your ring?
ring advice
My hubbie to be took me to a nice jeweler locally to have me sized (my finger that is) and I took the opportunity to talk to him about the rings that were displayed and why I like or disliked them. I like very simple (but elegant) jewelry. My hubbie listened and when my ring was presented to me I was shocked and elated as well as surprised. He had taken the info I had given him and had designed a ring for me that was practical yet gorgeous and I LOVED it.
So given him a litte guidance and let him do it his way you may be pleasantly surprised.
Note: I became pregnant with my first child and took my beautiful ring off and put it in my wallet and it somehow got lost. I still to this day weep whenever I think of my ring and he is working on replacing my ring and as much as I look forward to having a ring on my finger again however no ring will ever replace that ring in my heart or on my hand.
Give your hubbie a chance if you cann't trust him with picking out a ring can you trust him with your heart?????
Maybe get the ring stretched and
then coat the inside with clear nail polish.
Definitely Ring My Bell.....
it just goes on and on and on
Does this story ring true for you?
Talked to the mom of one of my daughter's friends on the way home from work yesterday. She told me her husband is going to federal prison for 8 years because he recieved some child porn via e-mail (didn't say who/where from) and reported the e-mails to his ISP. She says the ISP reported it to the FBI, and the FBI never tried to trace the e-mails back to the originator but arrested and prosecuted her husband for them being in his possession.
I've decided not to let my daughter go to their house again. The little girl is welcome at my house, but even if the story above is mostly true, what prompted him to be getting those type of e-mails and why is he even opening them? Would like to know if other moms agree or I am going overboard?
No, But I Only Wear an Engagement Ring....
It's not the biggest diamond in the world so it doesn't bother me. The whole "bare wrists" is another story, however.
The ring is symbolic of a union.
If you can't even agree on who should pick out the ring, you may want to rethink your union with this gent. There are going to be so many issues that will arise in your marriage that will need you to come together and make a decision. It starts now though. Some food for thought. I would rethink the whole reason for wanting to "get the ring". I would not focus too much on who picks it out. You may want to see a marriage counselor beforehand to see if you two are the "right fit". It doesn't sound too good starting out a union in this manner. JMO. Good luck.
Some questions for you--it may ring a bell
Do you get headaches when this happens? How long do these sweats last for and how often do you get them? What's your BP normally?
I have a reason for asking, I promise.
Another possibility is ring worm. (nm)
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And didn't propose but gave a ring...nm
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Ginger Quince here..kinda has a ring to it!
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It shouldn't be about wearing a ring, but more...see message
the way he acted toward you. My husband doesn't wear his wedding ring, just cos he doesn't feel like it, and I don't wear mine either. No big deal, but sounds like this guy was flirting with you and that's what I think was wrong.
A wedding ring doesn't matter. Either
the guy is true to his wife and family or not, wearing a ring does not make a difference.
I wear only my wedding band and engagement ring...sm
No other jewelry is on my fingers or wrists when I type.
A mother ring with my 3 children's birth stones:-)..nm
 - My husband is good to me!
I agree with that along with loud obnoxious ring tones.
Does "thou shalt not kill" ring any bells?
God created marriage for sex to be a blessing that would bring people together and create families, not sex outside of marriage so that babies could be optional.
My husband doesn't wear his wedding ring
or any jewelry for that matter. He's allergic to gold and can't even wear a watch. I suppose he could wear silver, but to me it's no big deal. He will wear it on special occasions but his hands swell up. I also know some men who don't wear it when they're at work if they run machinery, ect where it could get caught and get their fingers ripped off.
I don't wear my wedding band or my engagement ring. I took them off six years ago because...SM
My DH and I were having marital difficulties and he never and I mean NEVER wore his wedding from day one of marriage. He works on cars and stuff and claimed it got in his way, WHATEVER! Back then he was going out his buddies every once and while and still didn't put his ring on.
So we had a huge fight and I took my rings off and said until you put yours on, I'm not wearing mine. Well, we got marriage counseling and saved our marriage and now everything is fab, but he still doesn't wear his ring because in all the years he didn't wear it, he lost it! I wanted to buy him a new one, but cheapo that he is, he doesn't want us to spend the money. So I haven't put mine rings back on and I won't. It drives him nuts. He makes comments every now and then about men flirting with me cause I'm not wearing my rings. I just shrug and say "it's just a ring, you know I love only you," which is the line he used to give me.
I'm going to break him down one of these days and we'll go ring shopping! We have a great marriage now, but there's just this one little battle. He knows I'll win eventually. We're both just really stubborn.
Long story short, men act like things like wearing our wedding rings and engagement rings aren't a big deal to them, but really it is.
I disagree. I still have my class ring (class of 1985). It's tucked away in my jewelry...
box. My fingers are too fat to wear it now, but it has sentimental value. Mine was just a metal ring as well and it still looks great.
I gave my class ring to a boyfriend back in the day and it wore it on his pinky. Then he lost it on the beach at the local lake. We ended up breaking up not too long after that and I thought I would never see my ring again. Then one day I'm reading the local paper and there's an add that said "LORI -- did you lose your class ring at city lake? Call... and describe the ring." I called the number and described the ring and it was mine. Thankfully I had had my full name inscribed inside the band of my class ring! The guy that found it was this little old man who had a one of those metal detectors and he spent his retirement days scanning beaches, parks, etc for change and what other treasures he could find. I couldn't thank him enough! He wouldn't take any kind of reward for finding it.
Just thought I'd share my class ring story. I feel that class rings, class keys (Do they still do that?), and yearbooks are such an important part of the high school years, but that's just me.
ABSOLUTELY . . .
If children find out on their own, they think they have figured out the great mystery of life, if someone tells them (especially an adult), they are taking away a precious, magical childhood time. My daughter believed up until she was 11 . . . and now that she and my almost 11-year-old son have figured it out, they think THEY have uncovered a great mystery!!! They think it's funny, actually. My 7-year-old still believes and he will until he is at least 10, if I have anything to say about it. That's like talking to them about faith in my opinion. That's the parents' responsibility
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