I need to do the same thing, my house is - sm
Posted By: on 2009-01-25
In Reply to: I remember your original post and found the - Silly Girl
a wreak. Granted a lot of it is clutter which does not help the situation. I went as far as to try to start, first step was a clean kitchen sink for a few days, that is as far as I got, and sad to say I did not keep up. Maybe I will try again, would love to have a cleaner house than presently. It is not a sty but certainly can use some work.
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Same thing in my house
We just have to look at the good side of this. At least we know who our kids are hanging out with and what they are doing. They have even got me hooked on Dance Dance Revolution. Sigh, maybe I will lose some weight.
Another thing about the house I sold,
I had moved, rented it out and like I said above, got an interest only loan on it, had borrowed some money and that loan looked really good until the payment started creeping up and up and up and I was sweating it trying to unload (after I decided not to rent anymore) that I probably would have taken less. I am really, really glad I sold when I did. I could have had new house, old house note with the old house steadily climbing and been in as bad shape as some I read about in foreclosure.
Hanging out at your house is a good thing
as long as you are there. My house became the hang out house, and it was hard, especially when I was trying to get my work done. But I knew where they were and could step in and keep things under control when necessary. I don't have any daughters, and from what I can tell, it seems that I got the easier job in raising boys rather than girls. I had a "rule of 16" which meant my sons could not date until they were 16 years old. Boys don't really seem to fight this so much. My oldest didn't have a steady girlfriend until he was 18. My youngest was 17 when he first started dating. I also had problems with some of their friends being just plain rude. They'd swear, never say please or thank you, and just generally act like snotty brats at times. That wasn't a problem for me. I corrected them and taught them manners. I used humor, which again boys seem to respond to. Usually, when we had girls over who acted that way, the boys were quick to correct them, and I didn't have to step in myself.
As far as going out, my boys did go out to hang at the local pizza parlor in mixed groups when they were 13. I never had a problem, but they were held to time limits.
I think it's nice that the boys are having lunch at your house with your daughter. It costs a little more to feed your daughter's friends, but you have them there in the house. Be friendly and relaxed, but insist on polite behavior in your home. Surprisingly, most kids will actually gravitate to the house with that sort of atmosphere. Your daughter may give you some grief about not being allowed to do what everyone else is doing, but that's ok. Your job isn't to have her agree with all of your decisions. Your job is to do what is best for her. I think having the boys over while you are at home was a very good compromise. If it happens again, you can always say, "You know, I'm pretty hungry, too. How 'bout I have some pizza delivered. I can order extra and you can invite some other friends over, too." Good luck!
Need help with ideas for remodeling house and decorating. We bought a house
in fair condition about 10 years ago, got into some medical problems, and have just now paid off the mortgage. Hubby and I agreed we would do nothing to the house for remodeling because we wanted to pay it off first, then the medical bills. I need to know of some websites/magazines/books to start researching for how to go about this. These will be major repairs - roof, septic, basement, windows, pretty much everything except wiring. Where do we start? Maybe hire a general contractor just to do an evaluation and give us recommendations? Hubby is a handyman but cant seem to get a handle on where to begin. We would like to do as much of the work ourselves as possible - labor of love and all that...
Thanks for any and all kind suggestions!
Happiness is a heart thing; pleasure is a head thing.nm
We have a house and
who want a dog. I'm not a cat fan and we can't have an outside dog b/c we live in a development (and I don't want a dog inside). Rabbits are quiet and cute. Thanks for the insight!!!
Get a job in house
Again you knew what you were getting into when you signed on. Also some MT's in our hospitals do have to work holidays. Some of it is covered by those that chose to "work at home" but again they knew this when they took the job with being able to "work at home."
Well, not in my house!
lol
House. nm
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Do they have a dog house?
I definitely agree that she should take the dog inside, but if she absolutely refuses maybe you could buy her a well-insulated doghouse so at least the animal will have some protection from the cold. Animals have survived cold temperatures for years, but they need a place that shelters them from the cold, and she needs to provide that for them!!
I feel for you - vegetarian here :) One of the big reasons I lost respect for my ex-best friend was the way she treated her animals. She was always buying dogs and cats and then leaving them at the pound or pawning them off on people. It really made me think less of her, because what kind of person does that! She also won't admit she did anything wrong! arrrrgh! It drives me crazy when people don't take proper care of their animals. They are a big responsibility - not just a cute puppy to show off when it's convenient. I hope your daughter straightens up, but again, if she doesn't I highly recommend purchasing a good doghouse for the poor dog!
i want to eat at your house
I have a cookbook from LA Leche League - Whole Foods for the Whole Family. many good recipes. don't know if still available, bought 12 years ago. Many ethnic recipes on-line to try.
Get him out of the house
This kid is angry at you. He is going behind you undoing everything you do. He wants your attention, even if it is negative.
He needs kids his own age - he may be a number to the day care people, but he'll be a real kid to the other kids and will make friends.
Get him into something you can afford, even if it is just the 2-hr a day program. It will work wonders for him and for you.
Good luck - let us know how it goes for you.
S/L you are carrying a huge load. Home schooling sounds great, but when you're working another job as well, it can break your back. Maybe you and the husband need to reassess how you are doing things. Do the home school classes when the DH is there to help out, or whatever takes the stress out of it for you.
Your cat looks like it ate the house!
Beautiful!
have them to your house? or -
talk to all about it, best policy. bet they understand - haven't they been there? they all might settle for a drive by later for coffee and desert for t-giving...or some other type of compromise.
That's every day at my house :)
...
the dog house - sm
Girls, has your hubby ever gotten you a "practical" gift that you did not appreciate? This video will put a smile on your face! Enjoy the lighthearted fun. 
http://bewareofthedoghouse.com/video.aspx
You just described my house
I chuckled reading your post. I have 9 - yes 9 - cats, three of whom are kittens in the range of 7 months old. I got them all about a week apart and they're each about a month apart in age. They are refugees from the neighbors really bad decisions.
Nothing in the house is safe any more. All of my bigger plants are now in hooks on the ceiling - the smaller plants were already there. It looks silly, but it works. There is nothing left on any flat surface. It cracks me up when they get going and chasing each other. My house is very cat friendly at this point. I made the choice to put the good furniture in storage for now and I have washable furniture. There are cat beds everywhere. My office shelving unit is more cat bed than it is storage and I have 2 beds on the desk beside my computer.
Yes, I am the crazy cat lady.
This is always a hit at my house
Rotel tomatos
Velveeta cheese
taco-seasoned ground beef
Brown ground beef and add taco seasoning (as in making tacos). Melt Velveeta and Rotel in microwave; add meat mixture. I transfer to a crockpot to keep it hot. Serve with corn chips. This recipe is made with 1 lb ground beef, 1 packet taco seasoning, 1 small can Rotel, and half of a big block of Velveeta. Of course, you can vary it to the amount you need to serve.
House
Love the show, but I missed it...what happened?????
Dr. House would say to see a
However, the suggestion to check out the truck/car for carbon monoxide exhaust is really intriguing. Does he get a headache while the wavy-thing is happening? CO poisoning also causes a killer-headache, I've heard.
I'd also look at what he's having for breakfast and what time he's eating it, in case there's possibly a blood sugar connection. When my blood sugar drops, all sorts of crazy symptoms start happening. Doing a glucometer, I'm always below 80 when that happens.
I really think the beer intake the night before is not relevant at all. Amusing though!
Dr. House would say to see a
However, the suggestion to check out the truck/car for carbon monoxide exhaust is really intriguing. Does he get a headache while the wavy-thing is happening? CO poisoning also causes a killer-headache, I've heard.
I'd also look at what he's having for breakfast and what time he's eating it, in case there's possibly a blood sugar connection. When my blood sugar drops, all sorts of crazy symptoms start happening. Doing a glucometer, I'm always below 80 when that happens.
I really think the beer intake the night before is not relevant at all. Amusing though!
Did I mention that my
license to practice medicine
without a license
was revoked for malpractice!
*giggle*
House
Ya gotta love him though!
I have Karndean throughout my house. It looks just
like wood, I mean REALLY looks like wood, but it's not. It's not a vinyl either. You just have to see it. See the website below.
When we moved into our house..sm
the people who lived here before us had a rabbit that got out of the hutch and they couldn't get it back in, so it lived in our yard. One nice warm evening I took our house cat out with me while I was outside. I looked away for a minute and in the blink of an eye, the male rabbit was...um...having nonconsensual relations with my poor, terrified female cat. I could not believe my eyes. Needless to say, my cat stayed in the house after that.
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We just moved into a new house
and the last owners left some of the nails in the wall where they had things hanging and I guess thinking we might want to hang something there as well.
Well, we had this little sign my mom had give me with 2 turtles on it with some saying on it, about family or something. Every time I turned around, my hubby had that thing hanging somewhere. I would take it down and put it away and the next day it would be hanging somewhere else.
I told him to leave the decorating to me, haha! ;)
We just reached our 7th year being married. I hope that in 21 years we have that same relationship. So far, so good.
Cute story, thanks for sharing. :)
Sounds like what we just went through at my house
My 16-year-old daughter was also smoking on and off since last summer. When her dad actually caught her red-handed, she was grounded indefinitely - no phone or computer and no friends. She had exercise-induced asthma as a child and I thought I had drilled it into her from little on up how stoopid (censor wouldn't let me spell it right) smoking would be. Not to mention that my parents both smoked and mom has severe asthma and dad has the start of emphysema as well as many other health problems.
Anyway, she started again and finally, I went through her purse and found 2 packs of cigarettes, which I took and she was grounded from seeing the boyfriend, which was far worse than the phone, I think. She threw a fit because her older brother also smoked in high school, but he was already 18, so not much we could really do about it. She's only 17. Plus the fact that she just started oral contraceptives and her doctor told her right to her face no smoking.
But, I think we are on the right track at the moment. Good luck to you because this sure isn't fun.
House Warming
My husband and I are going to be throwing a housewarming party once we get situated and moved in to our condo in a few weeks.
Is it appropriate to register for gifts and pass out the registry cards to those that ask for them, or should we just not register at all?
I'm not gift grubbing, but a lot of people have asked if we're registering, and what they should get us. I don't want to be rude and put the registry card in the invites, but I don't want to not hand them out and no one knows what to get us, if they do decide to bring a gift.
Your house your rules. I would not even
open that door to letting them sleep together at your place because then it will only get worse - trust me - with kids 30, 28, 24 and 17 - I've seen and heard a lot. Stick by your guns - you will be happier and the kids know where you stand.... you are not a prude and don't think for a second you are!! Best of luck!!
buying house with BF
Bear with me. I am not judging here as I do not know the circumstances other than you stated you and BF want to buy a house. I am assuming you are young, which to me, anyone under the age of 40 falls into that category! If and when buying a house comes to be, consider hiring an attorney to protect your interest, and your BF should do the same. Buying a home with a BF/GF is VERY scary. Will both names be on the mortgage? If so, what if one dies, becomes disabled, flees to Tibet to do lunch with the Dali Lama? The other is left holding the bag with all the financial responsibilities. The same things can happen if you're married too, but it's harder to legally resolve such issues if you are not married.
I don't mean to rain on your parade here! Just want you to think. Buying a house is so exciting but it's the biggest financial commitment you will ever make. You don't want it to come back and bite you in the butt years down the road.
To save, keep only one credit card and pay it off each month. That saying 'pay yourself first' is tried and true. Open an account and have 5-10% of every paycheck auto-deposited in it. If you don't have it, you won't miss it. Open short-term CDs with your savings. They are risk-free, you can access your money if you truly need it, and you'll get more interest than a savings acct. Do your research, stay away from adjustable rate mortgages,and buy beneath your means. Think of every worst case scenario you can and talk them over with your BF BEFORE you buy. This is your financial future you are about to change. You will be committed to a house/mortgage, but not to each other - legally.
OK - my doom and gloom post is done! Regardless, all the best to you!
Lake House!!!
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Oh is she on house arrest?
Interesting- a stay at her mansion would be like a dream spa vacation to any of us. She is probably laughing her butt off that she got out of this.
It's like kids today being 'grounded' for doing something wrong and they are up there in their bedrooms with big screen TVs, Ipods, computers w/webcams, cellphones, blackberrys, you name it. Gee if I had had a room like that growing up I would have never left it- I would have had to be banned from my room for punishment instead, lol.
buying a house
Wow, this is great info as I am buying a house too. I am wondering about one point though - my realtor did recommend an inspector that I set up an appointment with - is it absolutely necessary to find my own inspector?
Has anybody painted their house with
vinyl paint? Did you do it yourself? Is Evercote the brand you used? How is it holding up, and how did cost compare to regular paint?
https://www.evercote.com/evc/faq.php#item4
You would be foolish not the have the house - sm
inspected. A competent inspector looks for potential problems and for current problems. When we sold our house the buyers inspector found mold under our house, which we did not know about, we had no railing on our steps into the garage either. There were various other little things too, which in their hands (or yours) becomes a bargining chip to squeeze a little more out of the seller. We had the mold sprayed and installed a railing, fixed the back plate of the fireplace which had a crack in it (potential carbon monoxide problem), and gave them a window allowance for a couple of windows with broken seals. So we had 3 serious issues, the railing, the mold and the fireplace; which if they had not had an inspector they would have never found out. We were able to compromise on what to take care of on their list of "problems", about 13 things, most of which were insignificant and not an issue. But if the buyer uncovers a big problem, like a cracked foundation, or rusting plumbing or leaks, etc. It gives them bargining power, or at good legitimate reason to pull out of the deal w/o losing their deposit. It is not a lot of money to spend, ours was $300, and it is worth it if you have a good inspector. They look at things you would generally not think twice about but could in the long run cause costly repairs and problems.
Bring the dog to my house
I would go get the dog and bring the dog to my house and take care of it.
When's the best time to buy a house?
I'm new in CA and we're just renting a room for a year now. We found a house that's brand new, price range is $400-500k with all the upgrades in there. Furniture, appliances are inclusive. My wife's earning around 4k monthly and I'm earning around 2k monthly. I'm working in a hospital as a Transcriptionist and I'm not yet regular there. We really love the house and it's perfect for us since my wife and I are having a baby soon. My question is, is it time to buy the house? Need advice on this. Thanks in advance!
Too much house for you on your income...
especially with a new baby and all that requires...take into consideration if you have car payments, credit card payments, student loans, plus utilities, etc. Talk to a mortgage lender, what is your mortgage rate going to be, how much can you put down on the house, see what the lender says. Don't get in over your head...some people want it all right away, instant gratification. Take your time. Good luck
House poor
I would not buy this home, and I'm not sure the bank would allow you to buy it anyway at your current incomes. Banks used to use the 28/36 formula (no more than 28% of income for house payment and 36% total for car loans, credit cards, etc.). Nowadays, they've relaxed those guidelines which could explain the skyrocketing foreclosure rate right now. As someone else posted below, babies and children in general cost lots of money, even for their most basic needs. I would try to find a smaller, older home instead.
best time to buy a house
Or, if you could, move to South Texas. $200K will purchase a lot of house.....RNs & physical therapists can work anywhere........unless you need to be near family. Cost of living in Texas is much less than East/West Coasts or Pacific NW......Course, you would need flood insurance but that is no big deal & its cheap at only $240.00 to 260.00 per year. Lots of the southern states have cheaper cost of living & you would be amazed at the housing market here......Just for comparison go to big builder websites (Perry Homes, Trendmaker, others) & check out the square footage & costs. Outlying Houston has lots of land, good schools, good work opportunities........Would need a vehicle though. Good luck with the new baby.
I need to get my house organized
before I can worry about that.
I have a lot of trouble planning ahead for things like that.
The Closer, House
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My mother in law had a bat in her house sm
flying around on her porch last year. Had no idea how it got in. My 21 year old went over there and caught it in a fishing net. She was scared out of her wits. We had to scour the house from top to bottom to see if there were any more. So she says "I guess I really do have bats in my belfry"...... I guess I had to agree......
omg do u live in my house?
I am having that same problem. My kids because they are with me more, he worked evening shift from 4-12 or so, ask me questions every 2 seconds, and he is sitting right here. I get criticized because the house is semi-messy after i have done several things after i get off work. he is tired when he gets off, and so am i. but i do think that they think because we are at home that i should find a way to get the house spotless, take care of the kids and dogs, cook supper, and keep up with who used what towel, and then be ready to "play" when he gets home at 2, what the heck? im tired of writing this, its depressing. hope yall have a great day.
My dream house ....
would have more than 1 bathroom and more than 2 closets. We live in the old farmhouse my DH grew up in. It has 4 bedrooms, which is great, but only 2 closets and 1 bathroom for 5 people. So my dream house would have at least 2 bathrooms and I would love a huge walk-in closet like I had when I was a kid. It would also have a library with lots of shelves for my books and a big stone fireplace with great furniture to curl up in and read. And if this wonderful house could be situated by the beach, I would be in heaven.
house too quiet for me
usually have internet radio on.
Also, because he is married to me, not the house (nm)
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There is no place in my house
where these would fit in. I am no where into the shabby chic thing, have had these in a cabinet and going thru all my stuff for the last day before the sale next weekend found these and hey, since I am not using, am gonna try to sell selling. I have some things of my hubby (who is a pack rat) and just hope he does not find what I have gotten of his. Ekk...I have everything but the kitchen sink, carpets, vintage jewelry, floor lamps, table and chairs, etc. I can hardly wait.
grandma's house
No, I would not make them go - Not all people are meant to be the Norman Rockwell grandma. Why should you subject your children to that? Let her take them for an afternoon or even a whole day if she has something fun planned, then get them before bedtime. I have two grown sons, 31 and 33 years. My older son used to love to go to grandma's house. My younger son hated it. All kids are different. Let them choose. JMHO.
For those of you who have paid help with the house ..
What I am wanting from someone is an hour each morning (M-F) to do:
1) Make 2 beds (changing sheets 2 times a week)
2) Vacuum 1000 sqft (with about 300 of it not carpet - sweep)
3) Unload dishes from dishwasher/load any dirty ones
4) Swish the toilet down and wipe down the bathroom sink/mirror
5) Drop any trash at the trash bin as they leave
My questions:
1) Do you think this is reasonable to be done in an hour?
2) I am thinking of offering $15 an hour...Too much? Too little?
Thanks
I had a house cleaner...
That charged 15 bucks an hour and she did everything I mean everything from dishes, to toilets, showers, tubs, garbage, no laundry though, windows, vacuum, sweep and more that I can't remember for only 15 bucks
So yes I think you can find someone that will take $15 for that!!
My little girl is never getting out of the house!...sm
I have a 13 yr daughter, 14 and 16 yr boys. I'm terrified to let her out of the house. Already she goes to the movies with girlfriends and skating and things but I'm dreading her becoming 16. For 2 reasons. The main reason is that I remember myself at 16 and in no way, shape or form do I want her doing ANYTHING I did then! I'm going to probably have to be on some major Xanax or something! lol. I know she's a good girl and everything but so was I....or so everyone thought. The number 2 reason is because of all the freaks that are out there these days. Yeah they were there when I was growing up but now a days you can't turn on the tv, read the newspaper, open a magazine or anything without hearing about some young girl being kidnapped, raped, murdered, etc...It freakin terrifies me to death!
On the other hand, I have some relief because her older brother is very protective and he watches her like a hawk. It's kind of funny in a way, cuz he'll even tell her she has to go change if she's wearing shorts or skirt that are too short and such. Boys are afraid to go out with her because of him! lol. He's not a bully. He just won't take anyone hurting his little sister. His freinds are even protective of her. Not too mention her dad. He's a big boy with a loud mouth and her friends are afraid of him. He's not mean or anything. He just lets them know from the git go not to be messin with her! And she has a step-dad who's protective too. Poor thing. She's never going to get married!
Anyways, back to the curfew (sorry I got off the subject! lol). As of right now, her curfew at 16 is going to be 11 pm with exceptions depending on the situation. Things like school dances, football games, etc. structured events, she'll have to come home as soon as they are over. But things like going out with freinds just for the heck of it.....11 pm. Unless, of course, her brother is with her! It's just that at that age is when things start, drinking, sex, smoking, etc. You can say they won't, you raised them right, and all that but....there's just so much temptation and curiosity and peer pressure. And I partied with all types of kids at that age. The popular kids, nerds, stoners, jocks, you name it. They all partied. (some of the best parties were at the homes of kids from the catholic school!) I'm not saying that I don't/won't trust her.....cuz I do but....I don't know....I just know how it is and I worry.
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